PhoenixRising
@PhoenixRising
13 Years10,000+ Posts
Comments: 19 · Posts: 19733 · Topics: 48
Mental Asylum of Utter Madness- 24/7 Stinger Home! (Page 58)
You are on page out of 78 | Reverse Order
Is "logical" the new it word on DXP?...
Posted by tizianiPosted by Ellygant
I'm in a piss poor mood today. Gotta find a way to resolve my anger that doesn't involve bitching bloodthirstily at people.
- Paintballing
- Revenge sex
- Make a new bitter philosophy thread on an internet forum about inter-gender relations, start a cult off of it.click to expand
All three options results in scars.
Posted by tiziani
Maybe I have, I'm not sure lol
Definitely don't remember scars.
Picture this if you will:
A very braggadocious and agile Scorp, we'll call her Phoenician Rebel, is kicking a** and taking names at a very competitive, ruthless annual paintball game. East vs West. Losers must sing the winners' praise and cook (US) Thanksgiving dinner. Phoenician gets separated from her team, a strategy used to take the Westenders from both sides. The strategy wins the game. As Phoenician leaves her hiding spot, excited about the win she doesn't notice a dead spot in the grass. Her foot sinks in, her ankle turns and in an effort to brace her fall, she put out her hand and hit a small piece of metal slicing her hand and breaks her finger.
Posted by ScorpioStarGazer
Things are moving way too fast with the Pisces. I barely have time to breathe. I've also already caught him in a couple of lies. My gut is not feeling very good about this. I so wish I had left a better impression on the Scorp. He seemed more my style . ?
I thought you were talking about the Scorp this whole time...😕.
As of the moment, my current team.
Sensitive Crabette with a Virgin Moon
Two Bullettes (a huge contrast of characters between the two of them, one with a princess entitlement syndrome and the other who is too blunt for her own good)
Two 'far too serious' Goats (one who despises me, and another who does not)
Standalone but amiable Libran
Leonine Fireball
Sensitive Crabette with a Virgin Moon
Two Bullettes (a huge contrast of characters between the two of them, one with a princess entitlement syndrome and the other who is too blunt for her own good)
Two 'far too serious' Goats (one who despises me, and another who does not)
Standalone but amiable Libran
Leonine Fireball
"The user who posted this message has hidden it."
I was gonna respond to this Elly.
I was gonna respond to this Elly.
Posted by ScorpioStarGazerPosted by PhoenixRising
Posted by ScorpioStarGazer
Things are moving way too fast with the Pisces. I barely have time to breathe. I've also already caught him in a couple of lies. My gut is not feeling very good about this. I so wish I had left a better impression on the Scorp. He seemed more my style . ?
I thought you were talking about the Scorp this whole time...😕.
I'm sorry, I can barely keep up myself. The Scorp went kind of mia on me after our first date. He has been back in touch since, but very sporadic and I get the feeling he's pretty much lost interest. I've since met a Pisces and there is just something about him that keeps me intrigued, but a couple of lies...well not really sure you can call them lies, has me a little concerned. So I'm still on the fence about him, but he's in constant contact blowing up my phone so I don't have much time to think. Now this Leo has asked me out to dinner tonight. I am not cut out for this multi dating thing! Sorry for the confusion.
click to expand
No need to apologize. The Scorp back and forth thing is probably more about not know if you are truly interested vs losing interest. Otherwise, he's just disappear. What were the lies if you don't mind sharing? I find with Fish, their idea of being evasive is our idea of dishonesty. I have come to learn to try to see a little grey where they are concerned, especially if its nothing too serious.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioYour description of them tends to be my experience with these signs.
As of the moment, my current team.
Sensitive Crabette with a Virgin Moon
Two Bullettes (a huge contrast of characters between the two of them, one with a princess entitlement syndrome and the other who is too blunt for her own good)
Two 'far too serious' Goats (one who despises me, and another who does not)
Standalone but amiable Libran
Leonine Fireball
Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRising? Ok. I'll unhide it.
"The user who posted this message has hidden it."
I was gonna respond to this Elly.
I'm getting better though. Instead of emotionally deleting dxp I just hide my posts. Growth lol.click to expand
🙂 You didn't have to unhide it.
Anyway, I was just curious as to what "a little too much zeal" looked like.
Posted by ScorpioStarGazerMen lie. There are certain things we do and conceal that make it look way worse than it is. Part of that is understanding the why behind it. Sometimes the why is insightful and enlightening, other times it's stupid and unnecessary. I lie because I'm selfish, I want to keep things just for me. I lie politely to make you comfortable if I'm dating you, so bust out the rule of three where needed. I lie when it's awkward, because I need to make it not awkward rather than confront the awkwardness. You have to weigh the value of the lie on a scale for that person.
Well with the Scorp, ever since our date I have had to initiate communication. He responds, but does not initiate like he did before the date. As for the Pisces, I met him on the dating site as well. He had on his profile that he was 37 and has no kids. During one of our phone conversations he mentions something about being 40. I question him as to why he didn't put his real age on his profile. He claims he didn't know he had put 37. He also mentions during our phone convo that he had a 14 year old son and is divorced. Him being 40 does not bother me, nor does him being divorced and having a kid. It's the fact that he wasn't upfront with this information. Then again he did mention when he tells women he's divorced with a kid, that's the point where they leave. So maybe I'm being too critical and should just overlook these minute details. I've just been burnt so many times in the past and been lied to that I have my guard up and see every little thing as a red flag.
As for 37 vs 40, he probably got matched with 50+ women and in order to aim lower he needed to go lower to make better matches. Kids and divorced, seems like the potential match might think it's a small child, not a teenager and be like nope, not raising someone else's kids.
Posted by PhoenixRisingThe Libran has a Crabette Moon, therefore she is a shade emotional and sensitive though she tries to keep it under wraps.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYour description of them tends to be my experience with these signs.
As of the moment, my current team.
Sensitive Crabette with a Virgin Moon
Two Bullettes (a huge contrast of characters between the two of them, one with a princess entitlement syndrome and the other who is too blunt for her own good)
Two 'far too serious' Goats (one who despises me, and another who does not)
Standalone but amiable Libran
Leonine Fireballclick to expand
Since, this team of mine have finally gotten time to orientate with each other. The Crabette bits of both the Crabette and the Libran, have started to relax as they figured that I was not going to harm them in any way. They were uneasy as to how they should react around me because I am social but distant, because I prefer to stay as neutral as possible when pulling together a team. To have finally made them feel secure enough now, they truly let loose rather easily and are a great pleasure to work with.
Out of all of them, I find the entitled Bullette the hardest to deal with, the lack of responsibility, the laziness, and her temper tantrums which are completely out of place and I have had to speak with her about it. Wrong place, wrong time, and entirely inappropriate.
Although PR, do tell me more about your own experiences.
Posted by EllygantHmm Elly, I doubt I would ever be truly close with the Goats. They are uncannily comfortable around me, when they choose to let their hair and guard down. So far, as to share some vulnerable history about themselves with me, which I never asked for or about. However, they have this terrible habit of trying to work / control above their means or position. There always seems to be a power struggle with them.Posted by TheLadyScorpioI always think caps are too serious at work at first. After they get comfortable around me though they end up being my best buds.
As of the moment, my current team.
Sensitive Crabette with a Virgin Moon
Two Bullettes (a huge contrast of characters between the two of them, one with a princess entitlement syndrome and the other who is too blunt for her own good)
Two 'far too serious' Goats (one who despises me, and another who does not)
Standalone but amiable Libran
Leonine Fireball
One of my bffs is a crab with a Virgo moon. I always wonder how her coworkers see her. She's so sensitive yet cutthroat lol.click to expand
Bloody hell though, they nag like no other. Yet, they often call Virgins the nags. Hardly true at all, to say the least. Goats, will go on and on and on about a certain subject matter if they believe it to be correct, without even letting you interject a word in until you completely ignore them to keep the meeting / discussion flowing. They have this habit of trying to over ride others.
As for the Crabette, she is a wonder. She confessed to me that she keeps up a tough appearance but is often sensitive or hurt by the slightest things but leave it under wraps. Cutthroat and competitive she is, in the professional realm and I love it. She is quite an asset, a very hard worker too but knows how to play hard and relaxes when required.
She was very prickly in the beginning, until she recognised that I was not about to harm her in any way and I did my best to make her feel secure. Ever since then, she has shown a rather warm side, and she could still be uncannily sneaky but not as much on me. She would on any one she does not trust though.
After all, in what little conversations we had shared after hours. Pain, she is afraid of it which caused her to build up this thick shell of hers, a cutthroat demeanour because she believes most will harm her. By leading the way, showing her that people will be awful, if not downright dreadful at times, but you must get up and move on despite it. That somehow clicked, in her mind.
It saddens me a little because she does not see her own strength, or rather will not recognise it.
Posted by ScorpioStarGazerPosted by PhoenixRisingWell with the Scorp, ever since our date I have had to initiate communication. He responds, but does not initiate like he did before the date. As for the Pisces, I met him on the dating site as well. He had on his profile that he was 37 and has no kids. During one of our phone conversations he mentions something about being 40. I question him as to why he didn't put his real age on his profile. He claims he didn't know he had put 37. He also mentions during our phone convo that he had a 14 year old son and is divorced. Him being 40 does not bother me, nor does him being divorced and having a kid. It's the fact that he wasn't upfront with this information. Then again he did mention when he tells women he's divorced with a kid, that's the point where they leave. So maybe I'm being too critical and should just overlook these minute details. I've just been burnt so many times in the past and been lied to that I have my guard up and see every little thing as a red flag.Posted by ScorpioStarGazerPosted by PhoenixRising
Posted by ScorpioStarGazer
Things are moving way too fast with the Pisces. I barely have time to breathe. I've also already caught him in a couple of lies. My gut is not feeling very good about this. I so wish I had left a better impression on the Scorp. He seemed more my style . ?
I thought you were talking about the Scorp this whole time...😕.
I'm sorry, I can barely keep up myself. The Scorp went kind of mia on me after our first date. He has been back in touch since, but very sporadic and I get the feeling he's pretty much lost interest. I've since met a Pisces and there is just something about him that keeps me intrigued, but a couple of lies...well not really sure you can call them lies, has me a little concerned. So I'm still on the fence about him, but he's in constant contact blowing up my phone so I don't have much time to think. Now this Leo has asked me out to dinner tonight. I am not cut out for this multi dating thing! Sorry for the confusion.
No need to apologize. The Scorp back and forth thing is probably more about not know if you are truly interested vs losing interest. Otherwise, he's just disappear. What were the lies if you don't mind sharing? I find with Fish, their idea of being evasive is our idea of dishonesty. I have come to learn to try to see a little grey where they are concerned, especially if its nothing too serious.
click to expand
Naw hon that's water manipulation 101. Poor him, women leave when he's honest? Lol what? Whether that is true or not, he's trying to justify being dishonest to get what he wants. It's not a little thing. Trust your gut.
The Scorp, did you explain why you were behaving as you were? You're probably gonna have to initiate for a bit until he comes around again. Uncertainty with us leads to falling back a bit. At least for me.
Posted by exo
we're headed to dominican republic soon for our wedding ani! one year of marriage and i haven't killed sag. blessed. ♥ 😄
Nice!!!! Enjoy 🙂
Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRisingLol. Well to the guy that called me a bitch, I told him he could shut his fucking mouth and keep it shut around me for the rest of the night.Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRising? Ok. I'll unhide it.
"The user who posted this message has hidden it."
I was gonna respond to this Elly.
I'm getting better though. Instead of emotionally deleting dxp I just hide my posts. Growth lol.
🙂 You didn't have to unhide it.
Anyway, I was just curious as to what "a little too much zeal" looked like.
And when one guy started to argue with me about work I told him we could go outside to fight it out. He said why don't we fight it out between the sheets with accompanying hip thrust. So I I said is he wanted to be inappropriately sexual I'd make sure to draw as much blood as possible in the fight, that is been angry for all 12 hours of my shift and I'd love a reason to be violent.click to expand
I'm aroused.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Although PR, do tell me more about your own experiences.
I'll have to come back to to this. I'm at a cottage for our long weekend and I'm borrowing wifi to log on. I want to check out a naughty site a sexy Fish mentioned before I get kicked off 😈 lol.
First heat wave of the year is here and over, don't think two days qualifies as a heat wave though. Already people are being dumb, playing games by not answering their phones, calling back at their leisure when I'm on the clock trying to get to them. These games of control are really tedious, just pick up your good damned phone when it rings and answer like a normal person instead of letting it go to voice mail, me leave the voice mail, you call and clearly haven't listened to the voice mail and the first words out of your mouth are "I missed a call from this number". FOH.
Posted by EllygantStop fighting it and just give in.
Also, there's a shit ton of Virgos at my new job (aka 4) and I see a lot more now the Scorpio-Virgo dynamic people have talked about for years on the boards. Two are Scorp Moons, one is a sag moon and one is an Aries moon and they're all still terribly endearing in their own ways lol.
Yell at me more, give me a reason to leave. It's Sunday, I'm in the hood and I'm dying to go home.
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by PhoenixRisingAlthough PR, do tell me more about your own experiences.Posted by TheLadyScorpioYour description of them tends to be my experience with these signs.
As of the moment, my current team.
Sensitive Crabette with a Virgin Moon
Two Bullettes (a huge contrast of characters between the two of them, one with a princess entitlement syndrome and the other who is too blunt for her own good)
Two 'far too serious' Goats (one who despises me, and another who does not)
Standalone but amiable Libran
Leonine Fireball
click to expand
Ah, back to this #3MoonProblems
Well, I'm not sure if you recall one of my post in the Asylum about a crying Crab in my office. I find overall the ones I have interacted with are very sensitive to what they perceive as "unfair" treatment. Tend to personalize things. It can be challenging to help them see another way to a problem because then its "you just don't understand"...well f*ck, I didn't ask to hear your sob story in the first place. I guess its partly because I tend compartmentalize relationships. Crabs tend to blur lines.
I have one Bull friend that seems to possess both the traits you mentioned above. We always seem to kick off a LOT because I am the only one in our circle that will call her out on her bullsh*t. The other day my Crab friend asked me to reach out to her to get the Bull to come the table with a Fish and another Bull to hash out some old issues that has caused a rift in the group. I told her we should switch roles and let me reach out to the Fish. If I ask the Bull, it won't go well because I am 100% positive the conversation will end with me telling her she acting like a hypocrite or being selfish and then all hell will break loose. She has a Scorp Moon.
Caps....lol. If we can last 2 hours without me thinking he/she is an arrogant assh*le I would be surprised. I just avoid them. I tend to zone out when one is talking to be honest.
Leebs, I find their desire to play nice come off as disingenuous---not as in they are fake, simply their need keep things "nice" comes at their own detriment (or others in some cases) I have one supervisor that I truly wish could make a d*mn decision without needing a consensus aka need to be liked every time we have to do something. We would get a lot more done if we didn't have to meet to discuss a decision we have yet to make. Lacks efficiency.
I also have a colleague that b*tches to me, but plays nice. She often feels likes she is being taken for granted or work always falls on her. Well....I don't know you could speak up? But that wouldn't fit with the Leeb handbook. Something has happened the other day though because I found we switched roles lol. She was the one foaming the mouth yelling "F*ck her, and f*ck her, and f*ck her too!"...while I was the one, saying "...just find a way to finesse the situation and find common ground". Overall, they tend to let the need to play nice get them to the point where they blow lol. Its fun to watch though.
Leo....can be a little forceful in stating their opinion at times. I often find I have to remind myself to not get lost in the delivery. It's sad that it can be a challenge at times, because what they have to say is usually on point.
Posted by Ellygant
I really need to stop being lazy and find our music thread.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/song-of-the-state-of-your-heart-mind-body-soul-4092440/
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/songs-of-obsession-8488266/
I don't personally care either way if you post it here. Just helping out.
Posted by ScorpioStarGazer
Thanks! I apparently don't know how to tell someone I don't want to see them again properly. The Pisces didn't take it well. He kept saying things like "why are you being like this?" "Why are you being mean?" "Why don't you want to see me anymore?" "You haven't given us a chance to really get to know each other or even go on a proper date!" "I really like you." I mean it's true we haven't actually gone out. I went to his place once and he came to my place once. The extent of us hanging out were done between the sheets. Not that that's all I'm looking for. It just kind of happened. While the sexual chemistry is there, I don't feel the spark to want to get to know him on a deeper level or to desire a romantic relationship with. If that makes any sense? He did make a good point about me not giving us a chance to really get to know each other though (not that I think it's going to make a difference.)...and I caved. Sigh... So apparently we now have plans for a "proper" date when I get back from my vacation. FML. I can't even be firm with my decision. I guess I was just expecting him to say ok and that be that.
Okay, StarGazer I'm just gonna say it. You really need to learn to stop taking on other people's "stuff". The Fish's reaction to you is not a reflection of you not knowing how to tell someone it's over "properly" or you being too quick to end things. That was all about him trying to coerce you into a situation you weren't feeling by laying a guilt trip. How exactly is it your fault that you haven't gone on a "proper date"? This guy could have asked you out on a "proper" date and he chose not too. Instead he invited you to his place.
If I go to a job interview and bomb the interview do you think it would be reasonable for me to say
"why are you being like this?"
"Why are you being mean?"
"Why don't you want to hire me?"
"You haven't given us a chance to really get to work with each other or even let me tell you more about myself!"
"I really like this company."?
I would look like a d*mn lunatic. Why? Because I had the opportunity to put my best foot forward and didn't and now I want to complain about someone else not letting me continue to waste their time until I figure it out.
From the moment that guy used the "when I told women the truth about my age and having a kid they leave" line I knew you were gonna get more of the same "poor me, it's everyone else's fault" crap. "I lied because you wouldn't want me". "We should stay together because you didn't give me a fair shot". I don't believe it will get any better as he doesn't seem capable of owning his stuff and dealing with it properly.
Now the caving in....that's a whole different thing hon.
Posted by EllygantLearn to do the death stare. Screw their comfort, scare them to death.
Also why do fire moons always think I'm mad when I'm processing. Like chill, im not angry, just thinking. So weird.
Then of course I get mad because they keep pressing the issue trying to fix it. Which detracts from me workin through whatever it was I was originally sorting out. I just haven't found the right way to ease their worry and politely tell them I need to be left tf alone a second.
Posted by EllygantWell yes.Posted by DamnataOne of the Virguys came up and asked me why I was so moody, in a sincere and serious way. When I said I just was, his response wasPosted by EllygantThe Virgo mantra.
*pauses, cuts eyes sideways and lowers voice to mumbles*
'Oh. Ok. Well. So how do we fix it?' With total serious conviction on his face. LOL.click to expand
Have no fear, Virgo is here.
StarGazer
LoL if that happened I'd content myself with its just not meant to be but....
You could always walk in there and try to explain the situation to HR. It's a pretty good idea I think and it shows you actually do "show up".
Anyone who has applied multiple times to a company is going to be more appealing. Besides what have you got to lose? I mean how bad do you want it?
So this is where scorpios come to chat? I'm New and already like this place.
Posted by ScorpioStarGazerPosted by PhoenixRisingI agree with you. I haven't forgotten about his lies and it still bothers me. I don't like hurting people in general which is why I caved I guess. But deep down I know this isn't going to work no matter how many dates I go on and no matter how well I get to know him....Posted by ScorpioStarGazer
Thanks! I apparently don't know how to tell someone I don't want to see them again properly. The Pisces didn't take it well. He kept saying things like "why are you being like this?" "Why are you being mean?" "Why don't you want to see me anymore?" "You haven't given us a chance to really get to know each other or even go on a proper date!" "I really like you." I mean it's true we haven't actually gone out. I went to his place once and he came to my place once. The extent of us hanging out were done between the sheets. Not that that's all I'm looking for. It just kind of happened. While the sexual chemistry is there, I don't feel the spark to want to get to know him on a deeper level or to desire a romantic relationship with. If that makes any sense? He did make a good point about me not giving us a chance to really get to know each other though (not that I think it's going to make a difference.)...and I caved. Sigh... So apparently we now have plans for a "proper" date when I get back from my vacation. FML. I can't even be firm with my decision. I guess I was just expecting him to say ok and that be that.
Okay, StarGazer I'm just gonna say it. You really need to learn to stop taking on other people's "stuff". The Fish's reaction to you is not a reflection of you not knowing how to tell someone it's over "properly" or you being too quick to end things. That was all about him trying to coerce you into a situation you weren't feeling by laying a guilt trip. How exactly is it your fault that you haven't gone on a "proper date"? This guy could have asked you out on a "proper" date and he chose not too. Instead he invited you to his place.
If I go to a job interview and bomb the interview do you think it would be reasonable for me to say
"why are you being like this?"
"Why are you being mean?"
"Why don't you want to hire me?"
"You haven't given us a chance to really get to work with each other or even let me tell you more about myself!"
"I really like this company."?
I would look like a d*mn lunatic. Why? Because I had the opportunity to put my best foot forward and didn't and now I want to complain about someone else not letting me continue to waste their time until I figure it out.
From the moment that guy used the "when I told women the truth about my age and having a kid they leave" line I knew you were gonna get more of the same "poor me, it's everyone else's fault" crap. "I lied because you wouldn't want me". "We should stay together because you didn't give me a fair shot". I don't believe it will get any better as he doesn't seem capable of owning his stuff and dealing with it properly.
Now the caving in....that's a whole different thing hon.click to expand
Just honour your feelings.
Posted by Ellygant
Ugh. I have spent the last week drinking excessively and lashing out to avoid my problems and displace my anger.
My dad has cancer. He has surgery at the end of June. Hopefully that will fix it, but we can't be too sure till afterwards. Hopefully nothing goes wrong during it either, as he has a few conditions that complicate surgery.
Stuff like this scares me because it reminds me of when he almost died 8 years ago. He was in and out of the hospital, the hospital messed up and gave him a drug he was highly allergic to when I wasn't there and we almost lost him a couple of times. All that coming back to top of mind overwhelmed me.
I've snapped at multiple people this week, because my brain felt in a fog and listening to people talk about inane self absorbed stuff just seemed annoying. Normally I have infinite patience for caring about others and the smallest details of their lives. All my worry just eats up my patience though and I shut down.
But it's funny because my life was a wreck way back then too. While things have improved in the last six months, I'm still in a similar spot now to how I was then. Alone and a little lost, unsure of what I wanted to do next. That's a little spooky as well to me to be honest.
But I gotta get it together. Even believing he will be ok, my dad only has a finite amount of time left. I need to take advantage of that and cherish him while he is still here, even if it is a difficult thought to accept.
A lot of people seem to be worrying about a loved one. I hope everything works out well for your dad.
Posted by -elle-Dat uppity hooker bar crowd.
I swear to gawd.....geminis can turn something sweet and innocent into some sinister dog shit in record time....smh
My mother....
Her - your capricorn aunt is coming to visit me next week.
Me - I know, I heard. That's really nice. You guys will have fun.
Her - How did you hear that?
Me - She messaged me on Facebook and told me
Her - what did she say?
Me - that she was going to visit you and was excited.
Her - why did she message *you*—!!
Me - I don't know. I haven't talked to her in like three years. It was nice.
Her - well, you are uppity.
Me - what?
Her - you are really uppity. That's why a lot of people don't talk to you.
Me - okay, whatever that means.
Her - you are. Let me ask your brother
*asks taurus brother if he thinks his scorpio sister is uppity and holds the phone so I can hear*
Taurus brother - Yeah
Her - see?
Me - well, I don't know how we got here but you have a good time with your sister.
Her - I am so excited.
*sigh*
Posted by ScorpioStarGazer
I did, I told him Saturday I did not want more than friendship with him. He said he had enough friends and did not want anymore. Told me he wasn't going to block me, but wanted me to never contact him again. I told him I'd respect his wishes. We said our goodbyes and that was that. I do feel relieved now.
Lol. Oh geeze, you saved yourself a headache. Trust.
Does a Scorpio ascendant conj pluto, scorpio venus, scorpio true node, and an 8th house mars count? Im very plutonian for being a Virgo sun
Posted by EllygantYes.
Do other Scorpios have the same reaction to Pisces Suns/Moons as me?
I either think they are the wisest and chill-est down to earth human beings who have fascinating opinions that I want to hear endlessly.
Or I think 'dear god you are delusional bat shit O-M-G cray cray how have you survived life for so long with your insanely inaccurate spaced out view of others and the world please dear god shut your face before I slap you.'
Just passing thoughts I've had at multiple Pisces comments I saw on dxp today.
Posted by AndalusiaIt's usually with the moon's though, more so than the sun's. At least the ones I know irl.Posted by EllygantYes.
Do other Scorpios have the same reaction to Pisces Suns/Moons as me?
I either think they are the wisest and chill-est down to earth human beings who have fascinating opinions that I want to hear endlessly.
Or I think 'dear god you are delusional bat shit O-M-G cray cray how have you survived life for so long with your insanely inaccurate spaced out view of others and the world please dear god shut your face before I slap you.'
Just passing thoughts I've had at multiple Pisces comments I saw on dxp today.click to expand
Posted by ScorpioStarGazerAs a woman, you have the supreme benefit of the doubt if you're still looking to pursue the relationship. If it's a hissy fit, let him have his time and he'll come around. If it is anything more than that just be frank and honest, tell him you are sad if he doesn't want to see you but you were genuinely slammed with after vacay stuff. If he wants to be upset over scheduling issues then that's his problem. I would probably be disappointed if you cancelled but offering the next day isn't really stringing anyone along.
So I need some advice. The Leo has been patiently waiting to see me again once I got back from vacation. I wasn't able to see him last night because I got in late and frankly I was just exhausted. Today we made plans to meet after work, but I ended up having to stay late to catch up and then had something important come up that I had to do. (Family emergency type thing). When I told him today that I couldn't meet him I could tell he was upset. I tried to explain and offered getting together either tomorrow or Friday, but he didn't comment. I've texted him tonight and got no response. He's usually pretty quick to respond.
Have I totally screwed this up? I was so looking forward to seeing him. It's just been bad timing all the way around. I do understand how this must look, but I'm truly not stringing him along.
These are pretty straight forward issues that everyday people go through. He's going to have to deal with that you haven't given him a higher priority and find a way to elevate his status with you if he wants more you time on his watch.
Worked 146 hours in two weeks. Pretty much sure I don't want to do that again but I wouldn't know what to do with myself if I had the free time.
I should be watching Wonder Woman right now. I know it's gonna be sh*t, but I was willing to watch it for someone that just......is being a Gemini.
Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRisingFunnily enough, my dad is obsessed with seeing that movie. 😆
I should be watching Wonder Woman right now. I know it's gonna be sh*t, but I was willing to watch it for someone that just......is being a Gemini.
I'm sorry he's being a Gemini. 😢
Lol
Hopefully it settles and you see the movie and you both have a good time. 😄click to expand
I was speaking more about the flakiness, last minute change of plans but it isn't about me. It's his day, so it can be celebrated the way he wants.
I need to learn to ease up. I have difficulty changing gears when I make plans. That's all.
I like Wonder Woman, but I found the DC movies sucks salty balls, so I was gonna pass until it came of KODI lol. Marvel is much better on the big screen.
^^^^I think overall I just had a long day. I was rushing like crazy to locate this d*mn worm farm for my compost bin and a 26 min trip took 1 hour and 20 minutes. Then I was rushing back across town just for him to cancel.
Anywhoozies, (shout out to MzSag ) I finally got the little buggers and they're now in their new home 😄. I hope I don't kill them.
I have a garden to tend to. I think I may just do that for the day *turns off phone *.
Anywhoozies, (shout out to MzSag ) I finally got the little buggers and they're now in their new home 😄. I hope I don't kill them.
I have a garden to tend to. I think I may just do that for the day *turns off phone *.
Posted by Ellygant
It's understandably difficult since that phrase isn't in the Scorpio dictionary lol. Or not the one I got. 😆 That's what I have air and fire sign friends for, I can borrow their dictionaries when needed. 😛
Yeah, they definitely help.
Me: You're late
Air Sun/Fire Moon: But I've graced you with my presence now. So we all good 😄?
Me: *eye roll*
Me: You're late
Fire Sun/Air Moon: We had plans to meet at a certain time? *shrug....😄*
Me: *eye roll*
I've been in Survival mode for 7 months now. I've hit bottom several times, each time seems more painful and more raw than the last. It's almost like being drunk with despair, I feel it coming out of my pores except nobody else can see or smell it. I've been trying to describe a way it feels, the best I can come up with is that it's like being strangled by a shirt that's too tight in the neck. That's the way it feels at the top of the bottom, it's how I know I'm in trouble because the breathing gets shallower or I stop breathing as I'm collecting my thoughts.
About midway down I just want to cry, the tears are there, the pain is there, it's ready to overflow like an over filled bathtub. I'm reaching out to my support, I'm forgiving people for suffering my existence, I'm just barely keeping myself together. If I'm crying I'm probably doing it in the most composed way humanly possible because I've cried openly at a bar and nobody has noticed or bothered.
When I hit bottom I don't stay on the bottom. It's more like I'm dribbled like a basketball from midway to bottom over and over again. Bottom is a drowning pool of shame, self loathing and frustration. My brain is only pulling me up occasionally to the top to remember to barely breathe before shoving me face down crying into everything I hate about myself, just dunk after dunk. I won't kill myself, not because I'm willful or possess self worth that drags my sorry ass up and out. I won't do it because I can't. As painful as it is and as traumatic what my mind does to me, I still want redemption, I want resolution. It doesn't feel like it's mine, it's like someone is using me like a drug mule, loading me up with negativity until I burst.
It's a lot, an awful lot.
About midway down I just want to cry, the tears are there, the pain is there, it's ready to overflow like an over filled bathtub. I'm reaching out to my support, I'm forgiving people for suffering my existence, I'm just barely keeping myself together. If I'm crying I'm probably doing it in the most composed way humanly possible because I've cried openly at a bar and nobody has noticed or bothered.
When I hit bottom I don't stay on the bottom. It's more like I'm dribbled like a basketball from midway to bottom over and over again. Bottom is a drowning pool of shame, self loathing and frustration. My brain is only pulling me up occasionally to the top to remember to barely breathe before shoving me face down crying into everything I hate about myself, just dunk after dunk. I won't kill myself, not because I'm willful or possess self worth that drags my sorry ass up and out. I won't do it because I can't. As painful as it is and as traumatic what my mind does to me, I still want redemption, I want resolution. It doesn't feel like it's mine, it's like someone is using me like a drug mule, loading me up with negativity until I burst.
It's a lot, an awful lot.
Posted by EllygantKnow the higher you set your bar, the more you will have to fight the world for it. You can have it, you just need to take it and hold onto it for yourself. Embrace the fight too much and you'll be a sharper sword than you realize. At least that has been my experience.
*lights focus and patience candle, takes a deep breathe*
Time to go. No more setbacks, no playing around, no ego agendas. Just making a better life for myself and being a force of positivity to be reckoned with to whoever I meet.
A year ago and a half ago I clung to the idea that things would be better and different in a year. It's what got me through each day. And they are and they have been. But I set the bar low.
A year from now I will be shining. 🙂
Posted by EllygantPisces moon here — thank you!
Do other Scorpios have the same reaction to Pisces Suns/Moons as me?
I either think they are the wisest and chill-est down to earth human beings who have fascinating opinions that I want to hear endlessly.
Or I think 'dear god you are delusional bat shit O-M-G cray cray how have you survived life for so long with your insanely inaccurate spaced out view of others and the world please dear god shut your face before I slap you.'
Just passing thoughts I've had at multiple Pisces comments I saw on dxp today.
Posted by ScorpioStarGazerFWIW, I'd date you. Only because you'd seem fun to tease and make fun of. Too many serious things going on, not enough living and laughing.Posted by ScorpioStarGazer
I'm totally confused by the Leo. I stupidly open my mouth today and tell him I'm worried because I'm getting too attached to him. That I'm starting to like him too much. This is how the convo continues...
Him: Don't do that. Way too soon.
Me: I know. I'm trying not to.
Me: Maybe I just need to distance myself from you for a bit. At least until I can get over this feeling.
Him: What does that entail?
Me: I don't know. Maybe not seeing each other for awhile.
Him: Wow
Me: What do you suggest?
Him: I dunno. But if that's what you need I understand. Chances are you'll start communicating and I'm totally confused by the Leo. I stupidly open my mouth today and tell him I'm worried because I'm getting too attached to him. That I'm starting to like him too much. This is how the convo continues...
Him: Don't do that. Way too soon.
Me: I know. I'm trying not to.
Me: Maybe I just need to distance myself from you for a bit. At least until I can get over this feeling.
Him: What does that entail?
Me: I don't know. Maybe not seeing each other for awhile. others again.
Me: I'm just trying to figure out what to do. You said it's too soon for me to be liking you so much. I don't want to scare you away. I'm just trying to think of ways not to do that.
Him: it's true though. You will move on. So I understand if that's what you want to do. I'm not sure when that time will come that I will want a relationship.
Me: I don't want to move on and I'm not asking for a relationship.
Silence
Me: Look, I'm sorry I brought this up.
Silence
Haven't heard from him since. Me and my big fat mouth! I sure can ruin a good thing.
click to expand
Posted by OakI'm an accidental flirt. Sometimes the chemistry is there and it just happens. I don't try to flirt otherwise as it's very awkward for me but I do like to give compliments or make observations to break my own ice, which sometimes leads to flirting.
How do you flirt?
It feels like I have no idea how to give the right signals. I've been hit on a few times and this morning while i was shopping, the cashier was flirting with me. He was trying to make conversation with me before I left, but i kept it short because i panicked.
I've never been able to do sexy very well, but damn. I feel like i'm 15 again and afraid of men's advances.
Posted by Ellygant
Two of the guys crushing on me at work called me cold and the most unnuturing woman they knew the other day.
I'm sure I looked like a crazy person when I laughed and smiled real big in reply...
Thankfully they couldn't see me high fiving myself in my mind. That would have been SO embarrassing...
LOL. That's a better response than I would have given.
Them: "You're cold and the most unnuturing woman I know"
Me:
Posted by ScorpioStarGazerPosted by ScorpioStarGazer
I'm totally confused by the Leo. I stupidly open my mouth today and tell him I'm worried because I'm getting too attached to him. That I'm starting to like him too much. This is how the convo continues...
Him: Don't do that. Way too soon.
Me: I know. I'm trying not to.
Me: Maybe I just need to distance myself from you for a bit. At least until I can get over this feeling.
Him: What does that entail?
Me: I don't know. Maybe not seeing each other for awhile.
Him: Wow
Me: What do you suggest?
Him: I dunno. But if that's what you need I understand. Chances are you'll start communicating and I'm totally confused by the Leo. I stupidly open my mouth today and tell him I'm worried because I'm getting too attached to him. That I'm starting to like him too much. This is how the convo continues...
Him: Don't do that. Way too soon.
Me: I know. I'm trying not to.
Me: Maybe I just need to distance myself from you for a bit. At least until I can get over this feeling.
Him: What does that entail?
Me: I don't know. Maybe not seeing each other for awhile. others again.
Me: I'm just trying to figure out what to do. You said it's too soon for me to be liking you so much. I don't want to scare you away. I'm just trying to think of ways not to do that.
Him: it's true though. You will move on. So I understand if that's what you want to do. I'm not sure when that time will come that I will want a relationship.
Me: I don't want to move on and I'm not asking for a relationship.
Silence
Me: Look, I'm sorry I brought this up.
Silence
Haven't heard from him since. Me and my big fat mouth! I sure can ruin a good thing.
click to expand
This is a very confusing conversation. Why did you feel the need to tell him this?
*Pls note, I am not suggesting it should or shouldn't have happened. Just curious.
Join the Conversation. Explore Yourself. Connect with Others.
Discover insights, swap stories, and find people. dxpnet is where experiences turn into understanding.
Create Your Free Account →Related Topics
;) I love us
I responded in a very scorpio way. I hysterically cried, I told him I hate him and that he's broken my heart and all I e
That explains a lot lol I think its funny how the male scorpio is always quite and the female is always loud my wife par
Does anyone think their Venus sign dictates if they're gonna stray OR take the relationship serious? I'm a Scorpio Venu
I have several Scorp friends male & female and love them to death. However I've noticed a pattern. Sometimes they won't
Leonardo - Water: Intuitive(Pisces), Leader/Father-like(Cancer), Militant(Scorpio) Raphael - Fire: Proud(Leo), Ho
The April 2013 Lunar Eclipse in Scorpio: A Pit Stop in the Evolution of Human Consciousness The starry heavens will
The April 2013 Lunar Eclipse in Scorpio: A Pit Stop in the Evolution of Human Consciousness The starry heavens will
So I was rifling through Scorpio forum and they had this Scorp-isms topic posted! Seems like fun! List your favorite is
Share your favorite.
I wrote a Sorry ive been a jerk, can we start over poem for my scorpio. He is the sweetest thing, but I was neglectful
Rapper Future (Nayvadius Wilburn) and R&B singer Ciara Harris ...(BOTH whom are SCORPIOS) recently got matching tattoo
Alright. So as most of you know I came to this board originally for my Scorpio. The infamous one I swear Ive posted
Today when I was walking past him, my friend saw him staring at me from the head to toe. She described the stare as 'rea
Did he delete? :(
Alright guys, I broke the number ONE rule with a scorpio. I lied to him, twice. Needless to say he took it to heart an
I am a scorpio sun, capricorn moon and libra in venus I consider myself extremely loyal in all of my relationships/f
I'm a venus in scorp. I get obsessive impulsive want what I can't have am emotionally intense sometimes. I get jealous
have a move in date. :)
So, I came on here in the middle of March to talk about this Scorpio boss I have. I am a Cancer. I was told to run. lo
This.