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Mental Asylum of Utter Madness- 24/7 Stinger Home! (Page 63)
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Posted by Ellygant
Elly: *phone rings *CAP/GEMINI WORK* Hey what's up.
Cap: Not much. What are you doing?
Elly: Nothing really. Everything ok at work?
Cap: Not at work.
Elly: Oh. Do you need me to work for you tomorrow?
Cap: I don't work tomorrow.
Elly: oh ok. What can I do then? Whatcha need?
Cap: nothing. Just checking on you. You've been quiet the past few days.
Elly: *stunned silence* oh. My. Thank. You. ...
Cap: You're welcome.
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Posted by PhoenixRisingPR, your prediction has set in, she knows and is already rushing for him to purchase plane tickets for their destination wedding to make everything as concrete as possible (despite the wedding being held in April, he made multiple calls in the middle of a work session, loud enough for it to almost be a speaker phone call).Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Hah, it was not my responsibility.
Quite frankly PR, I was more than happy to leave him to it and be rather distant. Initially, for most of it I was being my 'silent until when spoken to or required'. However, on conversing with my Virgent, he encouraged me to try to be a bit more empathetic and supportive towards him.
What he did not realise is I know myself well enough, once that dam breaks, I find it much harder to reel it back in hence why I simply keep most at an arm's length.
Yes, he seems to have an inability to separate the personal from work. I noticed this early on, but again as I turned to my Virgent. For one reason or another, he felt bad for the Water - Bearer, because he knows how detached, intimidating, and supposedly cold I could be when I see it merely as keeping it professional with boundaries.
I'm not surprised by your Virgo's advice. They can't help themselves when it comes to someone they feel are in need. Very good hearts. I suppose it's about balancing the advice you were given, with what you know (about yourself and your limits) and what you see in front of you. I suspect at some point (given his Fish's demands, expectations) you will either:
a) be hidden from her as you are his last "friend" he can confide in given he's been force to cut off all the others;
b) be suddenly removed from the friend list once he tell her about you.
Which ever it is (a or b) she will find out at some point. When that happens, as many Aquas do, he will become detached, distant, seemingly cold. It will have a "you are no longer needed" feel to it, and it's not to be taken too personal (good luck with that fellow Scorpie 😄). He will react this way not because he doesn't care, simply Aquas have the ability to turn (their display of emotions) off like a light switch. They care, simply refuse to show it. I will say this is a trait we have in common. Problem is, it may trigger an emotional response in you despite knowing why he's doing it. I say this based on (what I observe) of how invested you've become thus far.
End result....well, work becomes a less then pleasant place to be.
PS, forgive the bluntness of my reply earlier. My mood was.....well see the kitty gif lol.click to expand
That pissed me off, because it was distracting everyone in the room and it also meant he was not doing the tasks we had set for him to complete. It was disrespectful. He was looking up and purchasing flight tickets in the middle of a project session, oblivious to everyone else. It was unprofessional, and a blatant lack of consideration for others. I might push for him to be fired, rather than have his contract be diminished.
He tried to get me to listen to him babbling about his SO and their troubles, whether they were so bad or not, although he loves her. He was talking about his friends calling off weddings, trying to discuss the mentality behind that, and discuss the mentality of jealousy in relationships. Constantly attempting to bring up a discussion of their relationship, which I am not having it anymore. Now I am beginning to see it as a game play, he is missing and craving attraction from other women because he is missing something from his own relationship. I am his 'type', so he keeps declaring so, well good luck with that. If he pushes me more, I would tell him that he should focus his attention back on his fiancée and start getting his mess together at work.
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted. Time to untangle myself from all of this.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
PR, your prediction has set in, she knows and is already rushing for him to purchase plane tickets for their destination wedding to make everything as concrete as possible (despite the wedding being held in April, he made multiple calls in the middle of a work session, loud enough for it to almost be a speaker phone call).
Lol!!
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted. Time to untangle myself from all of this.
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Well lesson learned. There is a reason very few Scorps utilize the old phrase "fool me once shame on you; fool me twice shame on me" because it's rare if ever you'll get the opportunity to fool one again to be able to finish that statement.
Posted by PhoenixRisingThe Water - Bearer evidently is not liking it because it does not give him the attention he craves. Also his ego no longer has anyone to inflate it, with no one giving him the time of day.Posted by TheLadyScorpio
PR, your prediction has set in, she knows and is already rushing for him to purchase plane tickets for their destination wedding to make everything as concrete as possible (despite the wedding being held in April, he made multiple calls in the middle of a work session, loud enough for it to almost be a speaker phone call).
Lol!!Posted by TheLadyScorpio
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted. Time to untangle myself from all of this.
Well lesson learned. There is a reason very few Scorps utilize the old phrase "fool me once shame on you; fool me twice shame on me" because it's rare if ever you'll get the opportunity to fool one again to be able to finish that statement.click to expand
Ah well, he is already getting a taste of the 'you mean nothing to me but someone I work with' aspect of a Stinger. He is a leech, any sign of remote friendliness and he will pounce. That is what I have learned.
Also having shared everything with my Virgent about the updated situation has cleared up the fog in my head immensely. What a relief to finally turn to him and share everything that I was struggling with. His utter trust, faith, and belief in me, that I would make the wisest choice reminds me of the reason why I adore him so. Even my Virgent noticed that his trait of always seeing the good in others, such as the Water - Bearer may not be to our best interest. He agrees that the Water - Bearer had dodgy intents, it was far too intimate and flirtatous in ways. Whatever they may be, it is now unimportant, what I choose to do next, will. If I keep the Water - Bearer around, it could affect my projects. It could potentially cause a scrape in my career that would not be needed.
As cruel as it may be knowing he is paying and planning for his wedding, he is of no use to me professionally and we will not keep a useless individual on pay. Time to push for his dismissal as soon as possible.
Okay, my 5th attempt at reading these post in the Asylum......
Posted by GetMisted
Not happy right now.. with anything. Angry and kinda just want to run away.
Feeling any better?
Posted by PhoenixRisingI adore that Twin Moon of yours, PR. 😆
Okay, my 5th attempt at reading these post in the Asylum......
Posted by ellesbelles
Cap - Wanna have sex?
Scorp - I feel like an omellete.
lol
This sounds kinky.....or it's just my bizarre mind lol
Posted by Andalusia
Long story short, because I feel lied to and taken for granted. But I've switched jobs a lot in my adult life and I don't want to develop a habit/reputation of running from problems or not sticking things out.
Long story version: I was hired in at an hourly rate that was about $ 8,000 less annually than what I had been making at my previous salaried job. They addressed this during my interview, but stressed that over-time would make up for the difference in pay. And it did.
Then earlier this year they said there was no more over-time (or over time pay) without preapproval from your manager. But there was a shit ton of work to do so it was always approved.
Then they came back and said they would be moving us to salary - at our current hourly rate. At this point i'd been there for about 9 months so I asked if I could set up a performance review and/or raise schedule. They discussed and said that would happen closer to the year mark. A month later I found out what my raise would be.
It's still $ 5,000 less than my previous job. And $ 2,000- $ 3,000 less than the salary they start the brokers at. And the brokers get commission on top of their salary. Even though we do the majority of the work for them.
I had previously asked in January and February about moving over to the brokerage side. They told me they weren't hiring at the moment but would "keep me in mind". Over the summer, they then moved 2 other people from my department over the brokerage.
Person 1 is a female (who I adore). She evidently had asked earlier this year as well and then followed up ("pestered" is the word they used) every two weeks until they said yes.
Person 2 is a male. He off handedly expressed interest once and they moved him over shortly after.
I understand tenacity and persistence pays off.. But recognition and acknowledgment also go a long way. And i dont feel recognized or appreciated by the company.
Hmph a little late, but I'll add this anyway.... this^^^ isn't running from your problems. You have specific financial/career needs that you have tried to address as best you can/could and your employer doesn't seem to be working with you. I mean Virgos are problem solvers and all, but you can only do so much.
Perhaps be a bit more patient, but set a deadline for yourself in the upcoming months where you expect to see changes in the environment, one way or another (aka improvements with the current place or a new job elsewhere).
Alright, another distraction.....
Posted by Ellygant
I decided on seeing the ex Scorp anyways. Figured it was a good way to confirm my current place in life.
It was actually easier and nicer than I expected. We laughed a lot, reminisced a little bit, talked about dating and family. It was sweet. And I didn't feel weird or feelingsy like I have in the past with us. It reminded me of a lighter and less burdened version of myself, which is encouraging given I'm aiming for a more improved, authentic version of that for my life right now.
And I did make a point to clarify my interest and where I stood with my feelings. I know it wasn't what he wanted to hear. He did admit that should I ever change my mind, he'd be there. Also said he knew the likelihood of that was next to impossible and he realized that our time had passed. I told him I'd want him to be happy and find someone new. He looked a little sad but smiled and took it all with dignity. 'Well that's my concern and my feelings to worry about, now isn't it?' And then smiled.
There are such good Scorpio men out there. ? I do adore the man. And if the feelings were there still, it'd make my life a lot easier because I could immediately settle down, be stabilized and have the next phase of life I really want in an instant. But they just aren't there anymore. It was nice to see him be a man about it. Especially having the years of dating I have lol. I do hope with everything that the woman for him comes along and soon. I'd really like to see him happy like that again.
In summary, much better than expected. 🙂 and I feel a lot more at peace.
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Posted by MysteriousDreamer
Sigh...I feel really bad for people and always want to help. I guess that can be a good quality and yet a horrible habit of mine at the same time.
I just got back home from the Leo's place. Spent the last couple of nights with him...trying to encourage him to stop the drinking for good. He missed work all last week because he was too drunk and passed out. He's been so sick. He already suffers with liver problems because of it. He's just slowly killing himself. He has people calling him worried as hell that he's lying dead somewhere. When I called him Thursday his neighbor answered because he was too intoxicated. His neighbor is very worried that he isn't taking proper care of his new dog. His buddy from the military called him Friday night telling him he needs to straighten up.
I don't understand how someone who has accomplished so much in life, has a great job and two wonderful young kids who love him dearly can just throw it all away with drinking. He's done really good so far though. I searched his place to make sure he wasn't hiding any alcohol. He's gone almost 39 hours without drinking. Been going through a lot of withdrawal symptoms though. He's a completely different person sober. More responsible and pleasant to be around. He said this has been a wake up call for him. Said he's done. When I left him this morning he said he was going to an aa meeting. I really hope he can keep this up. He seemed sincere and like he really meant it. I just know he's been down this road before. There are temptations everywhere. I am hopeful and have faith in him, and yet I have my doubts too.
I know it's not my job to try and help him. I know he has to WANT to help himself. Maybe I'm being naive in thinking he will get a grip over his life. I don't know. I just really hate seeing people in this situation. He grew up with an abusive alcoholic father. Some of the stories he told me from his childhood just made me sad. It reminded me of my grandfather who also had a problem with alcohol. It ended up killing him. I don't want to see the Leo in that position. He's been quite depressed, but this weekend he seemed to be in better spirits. I just genuinely care about him and I'm not doing this because I'm hoping he'll fall in love with me. That ship has sailed. I do know though that if he starts to drink again I'm done...
You might as well take your leave now, cause he will drink again. An addiction is an ongoing fight and there are moments when they slip.
Posted by Ellygant
....
Thank for asking! He is doing well. We were supposed to have our appointment to either confirm remission or go ahead another round last week. But it was on the day of the hurricane so there's that lol. But seems to be doing well.
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Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by PhoenixRisingThe Water - Bearer evidently is not liking it because it does not give him the attention he craves. Also his ego no longer has anyone to inflate it, with no one giving him the time of day.Posted by TheLadyScorpio
PR, your prediction has set in, she knows and is already rushing for him to purchase plane tickets for their destination wedding to make everything as concrete as possible (despite the wedding being held in April, he made multiple calls in the middle of a work session, loud enough for it to almost be a speaker phone call).
Lol!!Posted by TheLadyScorpio
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted. Time to untangle myself from all of this.
Well lesson learned. There is a reason very few Scorps utilize the old phrase "fool me once shame on you; fool me twice shame on me" because it's rare if ever you'll get the opportunity to fool one again to be able to finish that statement.
Ah well, he is already getting a taste of the 'you mean nothing to me but someone I work with' aspect of a Stinger. He is a leech, any sign of remote friendliness and he will pounce. That is what I have learned.
Also having shared everything with my Virgent about the updated situation has cleared up the fog in my head immensely. What a relief to finally turn to him and share everything that I was struggling with. His utter trust, faith, and belief in me, that I would make the wisest choice reminds me of the reason why I adore him so. Even my Virgent noticed that his trait of always seeing the good in others, such as the Water - Bearer may not be to our best interest. He agrees that the Water - Bearer had dodgy intents, it was far too intimate and flirtatous in ways. Whatever they may be, it is now unimportant, what I choose to do next, will. If I keep the Water - Bearer around, it could affect my projects. It could potentially cause a scrape in my career that would not be needed.
As cruel as it may be knowing he is paying and planning for his wedding, he is of no use to me professionally and we will not keep a useless individual on pay. Time to push for his dismissal as soon as possible.
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Hmph.......what am I missing? This seems, dare I say it a bit of a strong reaction dear Lady.
He's "multitasking" aka neglecting work---but this is not new information because he's been doing it all along. He's planning a wedding....also not new information. Okay, it's been bumped up a few months. That's his headache, not yours.....He's talking about his fiancée while attempting to engage you....in a "friendly" way....again none of this is new information. He has shown you who he was all along. Same play; just a different stage of the game. So what happened to set you into DEFCON 10 mode?
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by PhoenixRisingI adore that Twin Moon of yours, PR. 😆
Okay, my 5th attempt at reading these post in the Asylum......click to expand
😄
Posted by Unwording
I wish there was a way to set this as an auto response.
To everything.
*love*
I'm off again....an interesting article caught my attention.
Posted by EllygantPosted by MysteriousDreamerAll this tells me is that Doris is finally getting some, Larry might be getting some and two church ladies aren't.
So I'm at my doctors appointment today and these two chatty old women come in and sit next to me in the waiting area. I'm just sitting there listening to their conversation. Ah the drama...
Old lady #1: You know I called Doris the other day.
Old lady #2: Oh really?
Old lady #1: Yeah, I haven't talked to her in about a month now.
Old lady #2: Yeah, I haven't seen her at church in awhile. How is she?
Old lady #1: Well she's been running around with that man. It's no wonder her husband finally left her.
Old lady #2: I'll tell you one thing, she will never find another man as good as Larry. He was a saint to put up with her all these years. He was well off too.
Old lady #1: Yeah, something is wrong with that girl. She has some serious issues I tell you that!
Is that too Scorpio of me?click to expand
Nope.
Posted by PhoenixRisingHmm PR, you are missing the piece of information where the partners and I had actually discussed his dismissal for a while now. Half of them, want him gone, the other half, would like to give him a chance, and it was up to me to see which side I would be swayed to.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by PhoenixRisingThe Water - Bearer evidently is not liking it because it does not give him the attention he craves. Also his ego no longer has anyone to inflate it, with no one giving him the time of day.Posted by TheLadyScorpio
PR, your prediction has set in, she knows and is already rushing for him to purchase plane tickets for their destination wedding to make everything as concrete as possible (despite the wedding being held in April, he made multiple calls in the middle of a work session, loud enough for it to almost be a speaker phone call).
Lol!!Posted by TheLadyScorpio
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted. Time to untangle myself from all of this.
Well lesson learned. There is a reason very few Scorps utilize the old phrase "fool me once shame on you; fool me twice shame on me" because it's rare if ever you'll get the opportunity to fool one again to be able to finish that statement.
Ah well, he is already getting a taste of the 'you mean nothing to me but someone I work with' aspect of a Stinger. He is a leech, any sign of remote friendliness and he will pounce. That is what I have learned.
Also having shared everything with my Virgent about the updated situation has cleared up the fog in my head immensely. What a relief to finally turn to him and share everything that I was struggling with. His utter trust, faith, and belief in me, that I would make the wisest choice reminds me of the reason why I adore him so. Even my Virgent noticed that his trait of always seeing the good in others, such as the Water - Bearer may not be to our best interest. He agrees that the Water - Bearer had dodgy intents, it was far too intimate and flirtatous in ways. Whatever they may be, it is now unimportant, what I choose to do next, will. If I keep the Water - Bearer around, it could affect my projects. It could potentially cause a scrape in my career that would not be needed.
As cruel as it may be knowing he is paying and planning for his wedding, he is of no use to me professionally and we will not keep a useless individual on pay. Time to push for his dismissal as soon as possible.
Hmph.......what am I missing? This seems, dare I say it a bit of a strong reaction dear Lady.
He's "multitasking" aka neglecting work---but this is not new information because he's been doing it all along. He's planning a wedding....also not new information. Okay, it's been bumps up a few months. That's his headache, not yours.....He's talking about his fiancée while attempting to engage you....in a "friendly" way....again none of this is new information. He has shown you who he was all along. Same play; just a different stage of the game. So what happened to set you into DEFCON 10 mode?click to expand
It was always a toss up between utterly dismissing him, or to diminish his contract.
Initially, I said, give him a few more months to see if he would improve his situation, given a change of projects and team members. However, he has shown no new progress, any improvement has been marginal and still under expectations. His role is now no longer an asset to us, rather a cost, an expensive one at that.
Therefore I am not in revenge mode, more so that, he has yet again proven his lack of worth. We cannot afford to keep an incapable individual around, a useless one at that when we could look for a replacement. Even though finding a replacement may take a while.
God damn cancers. Deleting their topics bc someone triggered them and then throwing shade saying someone 'made them' pull their bullshit stunts.
Bitch - know thyself and own thine own actions. No one can make you do shit.
Swear to Jesus Mary and Joseph, they are probably the most infuriating sign for me to deal with.
Probably bc we have a lot of similarities. Only I recognize it and they remain oblivious, side stepping cry baby bitches.
Bitch - know thyself and own thine own actions. No one can make you do shit.
Swear to Jesus Mary and Joseph, they are probably the most infuriating sign for me to deal with.
Probably bc we have a lot of similarities. Only I recognize it and they remain oblivious, side stepping cry baby bitches.
Posted by EllygantFalse. Cancers are the main offenders, ime.Posted by AndalusiaYour Virgo/Cancer combo went into savage mode for this post and I lurve it.
God damn cancers. Deleting their topics bc someone triggered them and then throwing shade saying someone 'made them' pull their bullshit stunts.
Bitch - know thyself and own thine own actions. No one can make you do shit.
Swear to Jesus Mary and Joseph, they are probably the most infuriating sign for me to deal with.
Probably bc we have a lot of similarities. Only I recognize it and they remain oblivious, side stepping cry baby bitches.
TBH any water sign that's still deflecting and blaming is infuriating. We're bad at that.click to expand
Immature scorpios might pull some fucked up bullshit. But when asked, they'll probably spout off a variation of:
"You drove me to it."
"When you did x, I interpreted as y, and it pissed me off causing zzzzzz - as in - GOOD NIGHT MOTHER FUCKER! YOU DEAD!"... which oddly feeds my latent sense of ego.
Like, we both know they're being manipulative.. No one can 'make' you do anything. They did that shit to prove a point and because they wanted to. But they at least give me a David Copperfield illusionist show/sense of control. Which is nice.
Pisces - idk. No one understands what they're talking about most of the time. Whatever I did to them in this life probably won't affect me until my next one anyways. They're that slippery and metaphysical.
Cancers though.....
... Cancers, though.....
@ellesbelles
I just realized I misspelled your meme! I left off the e at the end! And you were too polite to correct me! ?
I just realized I misspelled your meme! I left off the e at the end! And you were too polite to correct me! ?
Posted by ellesbellesNow I'm having an existential crisis:Posted by Andalusialol....not too polite...I just don't have any Virgo in my chart so I didn't notice 😄
@ellesbelles
I just realized I misspelled your meme! I left off the e at the end! And you were too polite to correct me! ?
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Should I remake the meme to make it an accurate spelling of your user name?
Or should I leave it be because there are actual bells in the picture and it's literal the way it is?
.... even though it's spelled wrong.
Posted by ellesbellesYou're right.Posted by AndalusiaLet's leave it cuz the bells...Just don't stare at it or it will bug the hell put of you....lolPosted by ellesbellesNow I'm having an existential crisis:Posted by Andalusialol....not too polite...I just don't have any Virgo in my chart so I didn't notice 😄
@ellesbelles
I just realized I misspelled your meme! I left off the e at the end! And you were too polite to correct me! ?
Should I remake the meme to make it an accurate spelling of your user name?
Or should I leave it be because there are actual bells in the picture and it's literal the way it is?
.... even though it's spelled wrong.click to expand
I shall concentrate on the substance and wisdom of your posts instead of my faux pas in the corner 😛
Posted by ellesbellesReading that back, I realize it might have sounded insincere.Posted by AndalusiaLOLPosted by ellesbellesYou're right.Posted by AndalusiaLet's leave it cuz the bells...Just don't stare at it or it will bug the hell put of you....lolPosted by ellesbellesNow I'm having an existential crisis:Posted by Andalusialol....not too polite...I just don't have any Virgo in my chart so I didn't notice 😄
@ellesbelles
I just realized I misspelled your meme! I left off the e at the end! And you were too polite to correct me! ?
Should I remake the meme to make it an accurate spelling of your user name?
Or should I leave it be because there are actual bells in the picture and it's literal the way it is?
.... even though it's spelled wrong.
I shall concentrate on the substance and wisdom of your posts instead of my faux pas in the corner 😛click to expand
But I really meant it!
Posted by EllygantNote to self: learn how to cook.Posted by AndalusiaLol @ slippery and metaphysical hahaha.Posted by EllygantFalse. Cancers are the main offenders, ime.Posted by AndalusiaYour Virgo/Cancer combo went into savage mode for this post and I lurve it.
God damn cancers. Deleting their topics bc someone triggered them and then throwing shade saying someone 'made them' pull their bullshit stunts.
Bitch - know thyself and own thine own actions. No one can make you do shit.
Swear to Jesus Mary and Joseph, they are probably the most infuriating sign for me to deal with.
Probably bc we have a lot of similarities. Only I recognize it and they remain oblivious, side stepping cry baby bitches.
TBH any water sign that's still deflecting and blaming is infuriating. We're bad at that.
Immature scorpios might pull some fucked up bullshit. But when asked, they'll probably spout off a variation of:
"You drove me to it."
"When you did x, I interpreted as y, and it pissed me off causing zzzzzz - as in - GOOD NIGHT MOTHER FUCKER! YOU DEAD!"... which oddly feeds my latent sense of ego.
Like, we both know they're being manipulative.. No one can 'make' you do anything. They did that shit to prove a point and because they wanted to. But they at least give me a David Copperfield illusionist show/sense of control. Which is nice.
Pisces - idk. No one understands what they're talking about most of the time. Whatever I did to them in this life probably won't affect me until my next one anyways. They're that slippery and metaphysical.
Cancers though.....
... Cancers, though.....
Idk. I always found Cancers the easiest to deal with in those situations. But maybe it's my truckloads of Scorpio. There were a few times where a crab goes to argue and I just look at em and say
Elly: Ok. I mean you were clear in some ways. But you weren't at the same time.'
Crab:*tries to mount a mouthy and fast talking defense*
Elly: it's cool. You don't have to defend yourself. No worse than anything I've done. I'm just saying, you did it.
Crab: *silent wide eyed mortified look on face*
Elly: anyways, what do you want for dinner?click to expand
😛
Posted by ellesbelles?Posted by Andalusialol....awe ❤Posted by ellesbellesReading that back, I realize it might have sounded insincere.Posted by AndalusiaLOLPosted by ellesbellesYou're right.Posted by AndalusiaLet's leave it cuz the bells...Just don't stare at it or it will bug the hell put of you....lolPosted by ellesbellesNow I'm having an existential crisis:Posted by Andalusialol....not too polite...I just don't have any Virgo in my chart so I didn't notice 😄
@ellesbelles
I just realized I misspelled your meme! I left off the e at the end! And you were too polite to correct me! ?
Should I remake the meme to make it an accurate spelling of your user name?
Or should I leave it be because there are actual bells in the picture and it's literal the way it is?
.... even though it's spelled wrong.
I shall concentrate on the substance and wisdom of your posts instead of my faux pas in the corner 😛
But I really meant it!
Thanks!click to expand
Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by PhoenixRisingHmm PR, you are missing the piece of information where the partners and I had actually discussed his dismissal for a while now. Half of them, want him gone, the other half, would like to give him a chance, and it was up to me to see which side I would be swayed to.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by PhoenixRisingThe Water - Bearer evidently is not liking it because it does not give him the attention he craves. Also his ego no longer has anyone to inflate it, with no one giving him the time of day.Posted by TheLadyScorpio
PR, your prediction has set in, she knows and is already rushing for him to purchase plane tickets for their destination wedding to make everything as concrete as possible (despite the wedding being held in April, he made multiple calls in the middle of a work session, loud enough for it to almost be a speaker phone call).
Lol!!Posted by TheLadyScorpio
My first mistake was to take heed of my dear Virgents advice knowing my own limits (not of his fault at all, he is too kind, trusting, and well meaning). My second mistake is to have even cared at all, a Stinger's heart is too kind in wanting to heal / help others until we realise we get ourselves stuck in something unwanted. Time to untangle myself from all of this.
Well lesson learned. There is a reason very few Scorps utilize the old phrase "fool me once shame on you; fool me twice shame on me" because it's rare if ever you'll get the opportunity to fool one again to be able to finish that statement.
Ah well, he is already getting a taste of the 'you mean nothing to me but someone I work with' aspect of a Stinger. He is a leech, any sign of remote friendliness and he will pounce. That is what I have learned.
Also having shared everything with my Virgent about the updated situation has cleared up the fog in my head immensely. What a relief to finally turn to him and share everything that I was struggling with. His utter trust, faith, and belief in me, that I would make the wisest choice reminds me of the reason why I adore him so. Even my Virgent noticed that his trait of always seeing the good in others, such as the Water - Bearer may not be to our best interest. He agrees that the Water - Bearer had dodgy intents, it was far too intimate and flirtatous in ways. Whatever they may be, it is now unimportant, what I choose to do next, will. If I keep the Water - Bearer around, it could affect my projects. It could potentially cause a scrape in my career that would not be needed.
As cruel as it may be knowing he is paying and planning for his wedding, he is of no use to me professionally and we will not keep a useless individual on pay. Time to push for his dismissal as soon as possible.
Hmph.......what am I missing? This seems, dare I say it a bit of a strong reaction dear Lady.
He's "multitasking" aka neglecting work---but this is not new information because he's been doing it all along. He's planning a wedding....also not new information. Okay, it's been bumps up a few months. That's his headache, not yours.....He's talking about his fiancée while attempting to engage you....in a "friendly" way....again none of this is new information. He has shown you who he was all along. Same play; just a different stage of the game. So what happened to set you into DEFCON 10 mode?
It was always a toss up between utterly dismissing him, or to diminish his contract.
Initially, I said, give him a few more months to see if he would improve his situation, given a change of projects and team members. However, he has shown no new progress, any improvement has been marginal and still under expectations. His role is now no longer an asset to us, rather a cost, an expensive one at that.
Therefore I am not in revenge mode, more so that, he has yet again proven his lack of worth. We cannot afford to keep an incapable individual around, a useless one at that when we could look for a replacement. Even though finding a replacement may take a while.click to expand
Fair enough.
Posted by ellesbelles
Him - What if your boss is some sun sign you don't like? *giggles*
Hehe, because that would have been the one reason you would stay.
Can't blame him for trying 🙂.
My limit seems to be 2 posts per day before my mind/mood begins to wanders off.....*non verbal mode*
Posted by Ellygant
...I'm excited to spend my favorite season, fall, in the city with my new little puppy love. Morning walks through the park behind my new house. Coffee and a blanket on the front porch while I read and mediate with Mila at my feet on the brisk morning.
I wanna start writing. Short stories. More poems. Maybe larger pieces.
Work on photography more. I've started some already.
I'm so excited. 🙂
*love*
Flaunting my nakedness, bare and bold. 😏
I took the job offer. Turned in a three week notice with my company. They only let me work one of them. Last Thursday was my last day there.
Then, last Friday, they laid off 9 other employees.. about 1/4th of their staff.. due to money reasons. Two of the employees They let go had just been hired only about two weeks before.
Fucking idiots.
Then, last Friday, they laid off 9 other employees.. about 1/4th of their staff.. due to money reasons. Two of the employees They let go had just been hired only about two weeks before.
Fucking idiots.
Posted by AndalusiaOne door closes and another opens. As cliché as that may sound, it honestly is true. I have been there myself.
I took the job offer. Turned in a three week notice with my company. They only let me work one of them. Last Thursday was my last day there.
Then, last Friday, they laid off 9 other employees.. about 1/4th of their staff.. due to money reasons. Two of the employees They let go had just been hired only about two weeks before.
Fucking idiots.
New adventures ahead, I am utter happy for you dear Virgal !
(((hugs)))
Posted by Oak*there is a heart emoji here but dxp won't show it in the preview*Posted by EllygantPosted by Oak
so there's this pisces dude ...
@thebigmanwholivesinthesky
I honestly don't know what I'm doing, but i'm going for it anyway!
From completely different backgrounds in terms of faith and culture (i blame ma sag rising for this sh1t). Things have been moving quite quickly on his end. What can i say? my mars appreciates getting complimented and being romanced. Not sure how things will go in the future, but i'm enjoying the now.
Need to somehow get the time of his birth! but this is his chart without knowing:click to expand
Posted by MysteriousDreamerMaybe there is an opportunity to stand up and say "NO", to break past patterns
It's odd because last night when I was listening to the Leo belittle me, I felt things I haven't felt in a long time. I was instantly transported back in time to my childhood...to that scared little girl being scolded by my verbally abusing mother. It triggered all these feelings of inadequacy that have been lying dormant inside of me all this time. Feelings that I thought were in my past and that I had overcome, but truth is I haven't overcome them. I'm still a mess...
Could be a healing time for you and to rid yourself of the demons of the past and present
Posted by MysteriousDreamerDo you have children with him ?Posted by MyStarsShineI think you could be right. I don't want to go through that again. I'm tired of walking on eggshells around people...never knowing what will set them off. Always wondering if today I'll be good enough. That's why I'm letting the Leo go from my life. I can no longer be there to support him while he throws his life away to alcohol. I have tried, but I'm not helping him at all apparently and I refuse to listen to him cut me down and make me feel small...make me feel inferior. I don't want that negativity weighing me down in my life anymore.Posted by MysteriousDreamerMaybe there is an opportunity to stand up and say "NO", to break past patterns
It's odd because last night when I was listening to the Leo belittle me, I felt things I haven't felt in a long time. I was instantly transported back in time to my childhood...to that scared little girl being scolded by my verbally abusing mother. It triggered all these feelings of inadequacy that have been lying dormant inside of me all this time. Feelings that I thought were in my past and that I had overcome, but truth is I haven't overcome them. I'm still a mess...
Could be a healing time for you and to rid yourself of the demons of the past and present
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Awwww, he is gorgeous Elle....so sweet...thanks for sharing 🙂
Posted by ellesbellesYou are very blessedPosted by MyStarsShineHe's my heart. He has a 12th stellium too. Sweetest child I have ever seen in my life.
Awwww, he is gorgeous Elle....so sweet...thanks for sharing 🙂click to expand
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Posted by MysteriousDreamerWell thank God for thatPosted by MyStarsShineNo children. This isn't a man I've been with long term or anything. Just someone I fell too hard and too fast for.Posted by MysteriousDreamerDo you have children with him ?Posted by MyStarsShineI think you could be right. I don't want to go through that again. I'm tired of walking on eggshells around people...never knowing what will set them off. Always wondering if today I'll be good enough. That's why I'm letting the Leo go from my life. I can no longer be there to support him while he throws his life away to alcohol. I have tried, but I'm not helping him at all apparently and I refuse to listen to him cut me down and make me feel small...make me feel inferior. I don't want that negativity weighing me down in my life anymore.Posted by MysteriousDreamerMaybe there is an opportunity to stand up and say "NO", to break past patterns
It's odd because last night when I was listening to the Leo belittle me, I felt things I haven't felt in a long time. I was instantly transported back in time to my childhood...to that scared little girl being scolded by my verbally abusing mother. It triggered all these feelings of inadequacy that have been lying dormant inside of me all this time. Feelings that I thought were in my past and that I had overcome, but truth is I haven't overcome them. I'm still a mess...
Could be a healing time for you and to rid yourself of the demons of the past and present
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Clean break....don't look back. He has chosen booze over a healthy and loving rship with you. Keep reminding yourself of that every day
Wishing you lots of luck, peace and happiness from now on
🙂
Posted by MysteriousDreamer
I want a do-over on life. If only I had known then what I know now....oh the different choices I would make...the different paths I'd choose...
If only life were that simple...
I have felt this way a lot this year in particular after realizing things and fixing my life that I wished I would have done 5 years ago. Everyone kept telling me, it happens at the right time. You are on time. It was eating at me so bad for a while. Then you come to accept it. Life happens to you and you realize things when you need to. There is a sequence to everyone's life and as you go on you start to realize why things had to happen a certain way. Just be easy on yourself and know you are on time, they key is to learn and move forward.
Posted by Ellygant...... this Leo..
*leo wanders over to where I'm sitting starts telling me story about woman who was just hitting on him*
Elly: Oh? Did she leave her number?
Leo: Idk. Haven't checked yet.
Elly: Isn't she married? You're the type huh? *raises eyebrow and cocks head*
Leo: *shifts nervously and awkward laughs* Ha. No. Husbands and stuff. Drama. Plus my mom would be disappointed in me.
Elly: *laughs loudly* that's adorable Leo.
Leo: *broadens shoulders and looks at me sideways* Well, I mean, that aside, if I got that number... I mean... she could just text me and be like 'hey, come over' *pauses and stares*
Elly: hm? *keeps eating pretending to pay half attention*
Leo: and I'd come over. You know. Just a text. All it would take. *pauses* And I'd be there. *pauses* Yup. I'd just show up, wherever I'd have to drive to... and be like *pauses* hello. Wassup wit ya.
Elly: *chuckles and then cap bestie pulls up to cut off conversation*
The triple threat combo of his Taurus Moon, Cancer Mercury and Virgo Venus tho. So indirect.
His charm is awkward and insidious tho. His choosiness despite his wealth of options is intriguing. And his selectively shared intellect and sensitivity is a little heart warming.
I think my icy post crab bits are slowly melting to the idea for real...
I've been around Elly, just been in a non verbal mood of late....slaying dragons has me a bit mentally and emotionally exhausted.
Posted by ellesbellesWhat!!!! You're in the twin cities—?!!!
Minneapolis/St Paul is very big.....lol
It's like if Buffalo and Chicago were next to each other.
I love my new career.
It has been a little overwhelming but I like overwhelming.
If you go to Paisley Park (and idk why you wouldn't 😛 ) please tell me all about it!
Posted by ellesbellesPRINCES CHEF IS GONNA MAKE YOU PANCAKES!!!!!!!!!!!!Posted by AndalusiaHoly crap. That didn't even cross my mind.Posted by ellesbellesWhat!!!! You're in the twin cities—?!!!
Minneapolis/St Paul is very big.....lol
It's like if Buffalo and Chicago were next to each other.
I love my new career.
It has been a little overwhelming but I like overwhelming.
If you go to Paisley Park (and idk why you wouldn't 😛 ) please tell me all about it!
I just googled....I am 20 minutes away.....LOL
I looked up their tours and Sunday includes brunch.....I AM SO GOING THERE ON SUNDAY!
I will tell you everything and maybe sneak a picture (I know I am not allowed but I wasn't allowed to take a picture of the monet exhibit in Paris either)click to expand
Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRising
I've been around Elly, just been in a non verbal mood of late....slaying dragons has me a bit mentally and emotionally exhausted.
*sends mental hugs, delivered with a white chamomile and anise tea*click to expand
*like*
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