Mind games or really being played?

How do I get a Scorpio man back after I told him that I don’t think he can give me what I want (a committed relationship)?

We’ve been seeing each other for three months (with no label - taking it slow) and it hasn’t been crystal clear that he likes me. He isn’t straight up with what he's feeling / what he wants but he's has been dropping subtle hints that he does like me. He would post certain songs / specific lyrics that show that he wants a relationship with me - usually posts stuff like that after we hang out as his snapchat story.

I know that Scorpios do test potential partners and I think I’ve passed one of them which was giving him space when he disappeared for three weeks without seeing me. I didn’t bug or chase him and just went on with my own life. He would still contact me and see what I’m up to but say “I’m just really busy right now.” When he came back, he came back 10fold and it was nice and passionate!

BUT, here’s where things went downhill. One day he sent me an ambiguous text by accident. I’m taking it as him flirting with another girl. Right after, he sent another message saying, “whoops, wrong person.” Even though we haven’t established being exclusive, I’m not seeing anyone else and I believe in putting in effort in one person at a time even though it’s technically fair game since we didn’t have ‘the talk.’ When I received that message it made me feel insecure so I just cut things off right away. I can take giving him space (which is hard because I constantly need attention), but I don't want to fight for his attention. And at times it would seem he's jealous and he'd constantly bug me if he knows I'm hanging out with male coworkers.
I’m starting to think that that was a test because whenever we hang out, we both leave our phones faced up and full texts show up on the screen. I’ve got nothing to hide, and it seemed like he had nothing to hide either…

I’m regretting my decision but I’m also hoping that it showed him that I’m not the type to deal with bullshit.
I do want him back and I know that Scoripos are unforgiving if they’ve been hurt. He doesn’t talk to me anymore and has become passive aggressive with snapchats privately sent to me. Should I be transparent with him and tell him straight up that I like him or is it too late?

Me: Gem Sun, Cancer Moon, Venus Leo, Mars Leo
Him: Scorpio Sun, Taurus Moon, Venus Libra, Mars Aries

OP, I dont know exactly, why would you want him back.......

1. He disapperad on you for 3 weeks
2. He sent you a text which he intended for another person (even if it was a test, very cheop one then)
3. You told him, he can not give you what you want (a committed relationhip)

So, what has changed? Do you think now, he can give you a committed relationship?

And you are thinking that he is hurt........ Why would he be hurt? what did you do exactly to hurt him to the extent to beeing unforgivable?

You should be hurt and leave this marker alone........ you dodged a bullet

Walk away and stay away. He doesn't like you only physically attracted to you and it doesn't matter why he doesn't like you. He will play games if he can get away with it. Move on for the sake of your sanity and elevate your standards, he's an ass.

Posted by thinktoomuch
You just become his real life sex doll. Easy.

No, she's not.

@OP- Why would you consider him now after all that. Damn that's too much. But why really. What attracts you to him?

A Gemini person can detach so easily. Why would you tolerate it. Oh I see your moon and rising could be the culprit. Sorry my dear. He is scum off your shoes. Heal from this, it takes time. But you have to do this.

With scorp man juz enjoy the ride. If you lov the sex go for it, no need to feel being used. If you lov him truly youll understand why you wnna keep him.
When he's away juz get busy, relax, trust me there are really some faithful scorp guy.
They juz flirty, n hangs wit lot of girls. Some perhaps gettin close. But its juz a distraction for them.
I trust myscorp thou Ive seen him chasing and adding sluts on socmeds..
Its juz a verbal. Temporary passion while theyre lost/roaming.
Youll get your part when it comes truly you are he's one.
Let him roam.
Thats what I do.
I dont get jealous easy wit scorp, I dunno why 🙂
Its bcos I know scorp its actually a lot like me, aries.
I dont cheat. I juz easy get ppl gathered for me.
I want myspare a lot too.
Yes he's needy. A lot of attention n caring do good.
Dont text, go talks.
He'll love it.
Dont harsh, youll get the pay, he'll summon its all..
He's like a tutor for me.
Thou I know he's less mature than me.
Easy ride. Youll get there.
If not. Youll be okay, it wont be that hurt.
Ive been wit 2scorps.

Can i just suggest that instead of reading up on astrology, you do a bit of reading on "Attachment Theory".
It sounds like you are a preoccupied attacher and he is a dismissive avoidant.
do the test here: http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

If you come back as preoccupied, you need to work through the issues within you to have a happy and stable relationship.

Leave now and never look back . Been there done that.

Thanks everyone for the comments! You're right, I do deserve better.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@OP- Why would you consider him now after all that. Damn that's too much. But why really. What attracts you to him?

It's honestly how he treated me when we were dating for three months. I'm not one to be open about my private life with people who I barely know - always keeping things light with a positive attitude. I have quite a few problems but hide it well. For one, I have bad anxiety but have mastered my poker face. During dinner one night, I was more quiet than usual and my excuse was that I was tired from work. He didn't buy it and just said, "You're doing great." I literally was taken aback.
Another thing that really baffles me is that he figured out that I have an eating disorder. Which is weird because every single time we'd eat together, I'd finish my food. Whenever we are apart, he'd message me constantly reminding me to make sure I eat something.
Plus, 50/50 % of the time after a date, we don't have sex. He was very patient and kind during the times we spent together.

Hence the reason why I feel like I slightly overreacted to that text. Ah, guess I avoided being hurt later down the road.
Plus Mercury retrograde... am I right? lol.

Thanks for the input guys! Really appreciate it 🙂

Posted by tothelast
How do I get a Scorpio man back after I told him that I don’t think he can give me what I want (a committed relationship)?

We’ve been seeing each other for three months (with no label - taking it slow)

BUT, here’s where things went downhill. One day he sent me an ambiguous text by accident. I’m taking it as him flirting with another girl. Right after, he sent another message saying, “whoops, wrong person.” Even though we haven’t established being exclusive, I’m not seeing anyone else

This one is simple.. just because you aren't seeing anyone too, doesn't mean he can't. You aren't exclusive and he's made that clear.

Usually most people when they say to another "I don't think you can give me what I want"...move on. They don't stick around for a reaction unless of course they are playing games.

Posted by LetltB

Posted by tothelast
How do I get a Scorpio man back after I told him that I don’t think he can give me what I want (a committed relationship)?

We’ve been seeing each other for three months (with no label - taking it slow)

BUT, here’s where things went downhill. One day he sent me an ambiguous text by accident. I’m taking it as him flirting with another girl. Right after, he sent another message saying, “whoops, wrong person.” Even though we haven’t established being exclusive, I’m not seeing anyone else

This one is simple.. just because you aren't seeing anyone too, doesn't mean he can't. You aren't exclusive and he's made that clear.

Usually most people when they say to another "I don't think you can give me what I want"...move on. They don't stick around for a reaction unless of course they are playing games.

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Oh, I know. That's why I said that I'm kicking myself for overreacting to the text when I shouldn't have been so insecure. Everything's fair game when you aren't exclusive.

Funny thing is, now he's sending me really passive aggressive snapchats which I never reply to. Why is he being an ass if he really doesn't care? -.-