New libra invovled scorpio

I am in a brand new realtionship with a scorpio male. What am I letting myself in for?
I feel like I already know him in many ways. My brother was Scorpio, and we were very close. I understand the secrecy, and moods.

Hi Libralady,

twinflame2 here, I am a Libra as well and was just wondering the same thing. I just started seeing a Scorpio and find him very hard to read, or understand. So far I have experienced the sunny side of his nature, but I have a sister that is a scorp. so I understand a little about how they are also.

We have been together one time only and have spoke on the phone a few times since then. I have known him casually as a friend (but not that well as he is more my sisters friend) for about a year now. He has kind of dropped out of site and stopped calling this last week. I found out that his ex is in town and my sister said she thinks that the stayed at his house one night, (or maybe more). I did see him at work one day this week but we did not talk about anything personal.

He did wink at me as I was leaving though and I dont understand that one, anyway I choose to ignore it. Theese things happen sometimes and he probably feels akward about telling me about it, or her. But it doesnt matter much I guess because its over before it had a chance to begin as far as I am concerned. I dont (and will not) be put in a situation where I become his stand in girlfriend until she comes back to town the next time. If I cant be his number one, then she can just have him, I simply wont waste my time getting tangled up on a web of three.

I thought he was a decient guy but now I am not so sure. I mean he could have let me know something instead of letting me think that I had done something wrong to cause hem to not come around or call again. That was not a very kind thing to do to me at all, and I will not forget it.

He tells me that he had a great time on our date and that I am awsome, I guess she is a little more awsome right. Then by the end of the first week he has gone from being happy to talk to me on the phone to all I can thing to describe it is indifferent. Then he stops calling at all. Since we have known each other for awhile I wrote him a short letter. And told him that I know he is spending time with her, and that we can go back to being friends, in a nice way.

She is still in town but, anyway it was four days ago and there were two days that she stayed with another friend not him. He still did not call or write back to acknowledge my letter or anything. Then like I said I saw him at work and he talked to me very nice as if nothing had happened. Then he says he will talk to me later and winks at me, it made me kind of mad at him, can anyone see why it would? I feel like maybe he is planning to try to start something up with me after she leaves and that would make me her stand in until she comes back to visit the next time.

So what do the any of you scorpios think about all this? Without hearing it from his mouth that they are involved again I cant do much, as he seems to want to keep it from me that she is even in town and around him. She has moved 300 miles from here and will not be moving back. He ownes his own sucessful mechanics shop here and cant leave as well. So they cant be together all the time if they are completely getting back together.

I just dont want to have him try to put me in the place of standin girlfriend until she returns to visit again. Its like I have said before if I am not his one and only then she can have him.

The bummer is that I just started working for him (and its a small shop) and can see something like that happening. I cant afford to quit the job but will not be walked on.

My sister said he came to visit last night but other people were around and she didnt get a chance to talk to him about any of this. What advise can any of you give me in regards to this matter. Please help! Its a difficult situation, pluss I still like the guy (you know what I mean) as in I am attracted to him. So I am kind of messed up over this a little bit. What should I do in this case? I am certainly not going to

TW2 my advice is, listen to CG advice. You can't want a scorpio, or just like a Scorpio, or think you love a Scorpio or want to be in love with a scorpio or just want to get with a scorpio....You better be straight, not with just intentions, but pure real feelings.......OMG..........

Oh I agree completely with candlegirl and your post. Its just that I have not had the opportunity to talk with him.

And I left one detail out of my post as well. I wrote him a short letter and let him know how I was feeling about him not letting me know that he was spending time with his ex again. I let him know that what ever makes him happy, is ok with me and that we can still be just friends like we were before we went out.

Its just that we do know each other and he could have let me know that it was just one of those things that happen you know, and not let me think it was something I had done to put him off, as it made me feel kind of bad. (the way he handled it I mean).

He just left me hanging with no explanation, I found out it was that his ex was back by my sisters husband (they are good friends). Anyway like I said he did wink at me when I left and that is what worries me. I dont want to get involved with anyone that is already attached just because their girlfriend is not in town at the time. That is just plain stupid, besides I have more self respect than that.

And dont worry we will get the chance to talk as I will initiate that as soon as I can after she is gone. I plan on telling him exactly where things are for me, and that is not anywhere regarding him. In simple terms I got dumped after the first date, and I am not dumb enough to step into this emotional trap.

I already put my honest emotions in the letter and got no reply, but dont worry I will speak from the heart when I talk to him again. And I have made up my mind in that I dont want to go further with this at all, and I need to make that clear to him without loosing my job if possible. I dont even know if he will try to start anything further I was just stating that it is possible that he might try after she is gone and he is feeling lonely and stuff. And I dont want any part of that at all. In short (NO RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM PERIOD)! I dont like being played, and I am to smart not to understand that he would be doing just that.

So once again my hopes for a change at happiness have been dashed, but tomorrow is another day and their are alot of fish in the sea, rigth!

TW2 It already sounds like you are caught up with your Scorpio male....Being expressive in regards to your feelings is all good. It's just don't expect to get a response. If you say that you don't want a relationship with him and you tell him that as well, the silence will continue or he may say something that you will not want to hear. You will not know how he is feeling regardless to what you say. If you are looking for closure with this man, forget it!!!! It won't happen. I suggest that you move on!!! It appears that you are already frustrated by him. If your not honest with yourself about how you really feel, then all you are doing is setting yourself up to be hit by his Stinger....Trust me it hurts...You will have to be strong enought to endure if you have your heart in it...It can take a long time before he can be open with you. One thing I can say, if you already are aware of his ex-gf, then you don't stand a chance with him right now. They don't let go of ex's as easy as some of us do. His focus is on her and will be until she moves on completely with her life and never see him again. Let it go before you start to feel like you are going crazy. There is no in between with these men. If he wants you, he let you know. Until then, you can talk until your lip falls off!! I am sorry but its the truth...I am still waiting and it be a little over 2 years and I still don't have any answer yet he will talk to me but not about US!!!!!

I think Libras and Scorpios are excellent matches. My ex of 8 years was a libra and we broke up because of timing. Just have patience and understanding as we scorpios can get quite intense at times. And don't take us nearly as seriously as we ourselves do - especially when we sting. We don't mean harm by it when we do. Libras are wonderful because they are so gentle and pleasant for scorpios. Their tact, diplomacy, and non-judgementalness is a perfect antidote to our scorpio ways.

I thought about it, but I feel an urge to date around and see what's out there. That and she's already with someone haha! All in all, I realized that I love her immensely, just not as a lover. But we still have an excellent relationship.