Older girl/younger guy

Hey there 🙂

I was recently introduced via email to a friend of a friend of mine. To explain exactly, I have expertise about something and my friend has a friend who needed help with something so he told his friend to contact me about it. From that, a long-distance friendship developed. Nothing more...yet.

This guy is a scorpio. I am a pisces. We both have a fire sign moon and the same exact rising sign...capricorn.

We talk every day, twice a day...sometimes by phone, sometimes by IM. We talk about everything under the sun. There is a bit of flirting too and we have slyly exchanged pics. He jokes sometimes that we should get married one day but we have never talked about being in a relationship. This friendship has gone on since January and gets more and more intense. I really like this guy but I get a bit hesistant at times.

I am 34 and he is only 24. I'm not looking for marriage/kids necessarily but I am ready for a monogamous relationship. He is so young and has his whole life ahead of him. He has limited experience romantically/sexually because he is shy but maybe he will want to sow his oats some day like all guys in their 20's want. He says he is not ready for kids either but I think he will want them someday and by the time he wants them, I will probably be too old to have them. I know this is a lot to think about for two people who are not even dating but I'm almost thinking to nip this in the bud before it becomes something more because I see it heading that way. The only reason I dont is because he is the first guy in a very long time who I have related to so well.

I actually do want to be with this guy but I feel like I'm not being fair to him somehow. I don't want to hurt him so I'm not sure what to do 😢

Age is just a number. And don't worry about babies right now....at least have coffee with him first.. 😉

"Age is just a number"...lol, that is what he says. Some of my friends say to just have fun with him but i dunno, i have a feeling that this would be alot more intense than a fling if we were to get together. Haha, i bet that would be one hell of a coffee 😛

"A cougar with a conscious" LOL!!! I am groaning at that word. I usually date older guys. This one would be my first youngin' 😛 Do i think he's after me because I am an "old lady"? Maybe initially but lol, I can deal with that. As for the "wanting kids", I really dont want them, I'm afraid that he might someday but you all are right, I am looking too far ahead in the future. I guess I should explain that I got burned by a gemini in my last relationship because of a misunderstanding on who wanted what so i'm trying to avoid that again.

"i have a feeling that this would be alot more intense than a fling if we were to get together."

LOL Well, with Pisces and Scorpio, it's usually not just a fling. You'll never forget each other, even if it ends. You might pop back into each other's lives on and off forever.

So, yeah. My best advice would be to make sure you're both on the same page before you sleep with him. Scorpios don't tend to hang onto women who sleep with them right away. And use your intuition...it's your greatest asset, particularly with a Scorpio.

Let's all wait for "Queen of all Cunts" Opinion...

Pesca....go for it.

The first time a younger guy came after me, I worried about babysitting! LOL Instead, he was a breath of fresh air. He did not have that attitude of entitlement that the older guys cling to. The one that says I'm right because I pee standing up. He thought nothing of taking care of himself and wasn't looking for a mother.

What he was looking for is a women who had her shit together. No games. No tantrums. Someone who knew who they were, not a mystery to be solved or tormented by. He brought to the relationship an unabashed awe and respect. Nope, wasn't a Scorpio. He was a Taurus.

Also, remember not all men crave children. Or dogs. Or pick up trucks. 😉

I think go for it. Happens all the time and is not a big deal or a big age difference. Be clear to him about the type of relationship you want.

sounds adorable

"Let's all wait for "Queen of all Cunts" Opinion..."

Contrary to your thoughts, I think Roxanne is a treasure trove of wisdom in this department.

Just kidding 😉

Go for it. You only live once, so you might as well enjoy it 😉

You can't pass up a Pisces + Scorp hook up, though I might be biased 😉 Ten years difference won't be too much to deal with imo, the older you both get the less it will matter.

"What do they call guys who date 10 years+ younger women— Is there a name for THAT GUY?"

sugar daddy...or just daddy if he's lucky...lol

"What do they call guys who date 10 years+ younger women— Is there a name for THAT GUY?"

Yes FS, there is....RICH. 😛

"Yes FS, there is....RICH."

LMFAO! TRUTH!

Bling, all your definitions said cougars are 35+ and just looking for a lay...this lady is 34...and she wants babies. DEEEEENIIIIIIIED. 😛

"...and she wants babies."

"I'm not looking for marriage/kids necessarily"

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If babies weren't on the mind...she wouldn't have brought it up. And I think GB had some advice for her about freezing eggs. That works!

"BUSTED !!!!"

Yes, you are. Next time, read your own cited definitions. 🙂

"As for the "wanting kids", I really dont want them"

...(these would be italicized if you could've seen the difference).

Hate to be a party pooper, but I think this is a bad idea.

The positive water connection is good. To be fair, I don't think Scorpio men think about age differences when the attraction is deep. But where I think you're fucked is here:

"He says he is not ready for kids either but I think he will want them someday and by the time he wants them, I will probably be too old to have them."

Whether you like it or not, you are on a five year window. Dude may change his mind and want kids with you, but that's a probability risk you're making. Pressuring a Scorpio man into doing anything is generally a bad idea. As others have said, don't think dis-engaging will be easy midway or halfway. Doesn't work like that.

If you go down this route, you have to prepared to take the relationship at its own pace. If he changes his mind, great. If not, you could always adopt when you're both ready.

I'm, er, fairly sure you're not senile. You're a young, healthy woman, prefectly capable of wielding a bat.

*edges away from Bling*

"He says he is not ready for kids either but I think he will want them someday and by the time he wants them, I will probably be too old to have them."

This doesn't sound like an "I never want kids" statement to me. It sounds like if he wanted them, she would have them if she could.

"I heard that you cannot freeze eggs that have not been fertilized?"

Yeah, you can. A friend of mine did and her husband had his sperm frozen too because they thought a procedure he had to have done might cause infertility.

You have to pay to have them "boarded" in the fridge, though.

LOL at some of these responses!! 😄

Ok, maybe I am in denial but I really don't consider myself a cougar. My roommate, who is female and 39, only dates men who are 25 and younger. Her current boyfriend is 28 and she feels that is too old for her. She cannot have kids at all so she is not looking for marriage, just a young guy who can match her intensity in bed and because she can't have her own children, she likes to mother her "boys" and enjoys the role of SugarMama. To me, THAT is a cougar. I am the opposite of her, I am usually attracted to older men who have their sh*t together and like to take care of me as much as I take care of them. Right now I find myself having feelings for a guy that I have been getting to know since January and he happens to be 10 years younger than me. He lives a bit of a sheltered life and as I said, he not very experienced sexually but he can hold his own in a conversation with me and even if sex is on his mind, he is not always bringing it up. We speak like two grown people who care about each other and want to know more.

I want to clear up the thing about the babies... I am aware that my clock is ticking but I don't want to bring a baby into the world just for the sake of having one before my time runs out. I life an active life and I am not ready for children. I am not opposed to having them later but by then, it maybe too late. Mr. Scorpio is an uncle to his brother's two small children. He loves them but he is happy when they go home He never said never to kids but when we have talked about it, he brings up his brother's kids as reasons why he is not eager to have them. I should ask him about this again. ...lol, i know it's going to raise an eyebrow but he'll tell me 🙂

"Were your friends eggs unfertilized?
I know sperm can be frozen. But I thought eggs had to be fertilized in order to be frozen."

Yeah, they were unfertilized (not sure why they didn't go ahead and fertilize them? Costs more, maybe?). They had to take quite a few of both because the survival rate during the freezing process is not that great for either (she did tell me the sperm fare better than eggs, because there are more of them). Turns out everything is okay, though, so they most likely won't need it.

I don't know any single women who have done this, but it's pretty cool that it's an option.

"Now where's that bat you were talking about,Yum —"

I'm holding the bat now...for the next person who calls me a cougar! 😉

Anyway still trying to keep things on ice a bit with the scorpio but they are heating up anyway. He casually mentioned to me that he was reading an article at work about love relationships between people with a huge age difference. I said "Why? Do you have a crush on someone's grandmother?" 😛
Interestingly enough, his answer was "No, just in case I need to give a girl some advice on this subject matter."

teeheehee 😄

Actually, I wouldn't mind dating a younger man 🙂

All these men who are 25 and older are damaged. I need someone without some much baggage and I want a man with a bright perspect instead of a gloomy one 🙂

Hmmm, someone younger hey —

I don't know any single women who have done this, but it's pretty cool that it's an option.

I thought about doing this in May, but I can't do it yet 😢 Having my eggs frozen seems so cool 😄 The only thing is ... they actually have to go and get them LOL!!!!! I'm not to keen on just anyone exploring in my ... chambers 🙂

Actually, we women pass a couple of eggs a month ... I wonder if the doc will take that, probably not. I wouldn't want someone thats contaminated lol

I will confess that I had a crush on this 17 year old guy 🙂 BUT BUT BUT, I know better and I kept things they way they were suppose to be. Plus, I didn't feel too bad because he will be turning 18, maybe he already has.

I was told he liked me too, and I could kind of figured it out. He was adorable but no way, he mom was have killed me LOL!!!!

He gave the best hugs 🙂

Aug 15, so he's already 18 ... maybe I should call him ...

I think you'd prefer someone who would last a little longer than...30 secs

EVAN!!!!! That's so not fair and you know 😛 18 years have to work their way up to a 25 year olds speed and that okay 🙂

He's a leo, he could do better then that 😉

He was always pulling at my hair and showing off his muscles, plus he works 😄

Hmmm .... decisions

well, you two at least have one thing in common, as frowned-upon as it may be.

Chester and Esther

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what's wrong, thetis? 😢

I just started a post on the pisces board, I have had a seriously shit night!

I dig it ... the OP that is...but only in my older years.

"I think you'd prefer someone who would last a little longer than...30 secs"

This comment brought me back to a debate that I was dragged into. A male and female co-worker were talking about a hypothetical situation in which a woman were to pay for sex. The male co-worker says that if a woman were to pay for sex, she'd certainly go for a man her age or older. He cannot believe that the female co-worker disagrees with him and says a woman would most certainly want a young, sexy stallion.

I did remind him that a man's sexual peak is supposed to be at 18 but his rebuttal...and it's a good one...at man at 18 and even into his early 20's can perform all the time but he's not necessarily GOOD at it. A man in his late 30's or older...he may only be able to go once and then fall asleep right after, but it will be a quality f...

Personally I'd like quality AND quantity but I guess a girl can't have it all. I am curious as to what magic age a guy can deliver on both 😛

what?

23 and 18 is a huge age difference, especially when the guy is younger. think about it- you're at two very different stages of life usually. plus, CS is going on 24 if i'm not mistaken.

"A man in his late 30's or older...he may only be able to go once and then fall asleep right after, but it will be a quality f...

Personally I'd like quality AND quantity but I guess a girl can't have it all. I am curious as to what magic age a guy can deliver on both"

You're dating the wrong guys, a girl can certainly have it all. You need to look where the sex addicts hang out not the football watching lazy asses.

"wow, so Siren is a COUGAR too!!"

Actually, no. I only dated a younger guy once, and was NOT impressed. I also haven't reached the "technical" cougar age bracket.

However, I completely endorse hot ladies in their thirties and forties using men as their playthings if that's what does it for them. 😛

"Actually, no. I only dated a younger guy once, and was NOT impressed. I also haven't reached the "technical" cougar age bracket. "

Exactly what IS the cougar age bracket?

To Evan_Kahn 😉

According to Blinger's oh-so-accurate googling, it's 35+.

"Personally I'd like quality AND quantity but I guess a girl can't have it all. I am curious as to what magic age a guy can deliver on both"

You could look for older men with low 2😱4D ratio. Not sure how you'd do that.

"According to Blinger's oh-so-accurate googling, it's 35+."

Wheeewww!! I have one more year to go! 😄

"You could look for older men with low 2😱4D ratio. Not sure how you'd do that."

lol...i barely look for wedding rings on hands. i guess i should start looking in that area instead of others 😛