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Re: WHY SCORPIO CAN'T LET GO
Okay. This is what I think. Of course, this is just my opinion, but hopefully you'll see what I'm saying.
I feel that you and he need to sit down and have a very long talk--and it doesn't have to be a calm one, either. You *both* need to get your true and honest feelings out in the open. That means that he needs to verbally vent as much as he needs to about what happened, and you need to tell him how his un-ending suspiciousness makes you feel. Maybe he is so caught up in his own anger and inability to completely forgive you, that he hasn't even stopped to consider that he is only further damaging your relationship by constantly persecuting you. The thought of how *you* feel, might never have crossed his mind. And how you feel DOES matter--it has been quite a while since the cheating happened, and if he chose to stay with you after the fact, then he needs to accept what happened and your apology and continue the relationship, or he needs to admit that he can't or never will accept what happened. In order for your relationship to grow, you guys NEED to have this discussion.
Now, in my personal opinion, if the two of you get all of these negative feelings out into the open, and he continues to throw it in your face and peer at you under a furrowed brow (so to speak) with no evidence to support him doing so, then if I were you I would tell him, "Look, what's past has passed and it's time that you at least start trying to trust me. Otherwise, this relationship is going to stagnate and never move forward".
Even if you guys have talked about it before, I guarantee you that it needs to happen again. Scorpios can harbor resentment for a lifetime, if what caused that resentment doesn't get resolved. It's not fair or right for either one of you to go on the way you are now. Something needs to change, and if he refuses to improve his behavior, it might be time to tell him to hit the road. Do not let your life pass you by while waiting and waiting for this guy to magically grow up all of a sudden!
Like I said, I am giving this advice based on what I would do, which you may not agree with. However, I see no possible harm that could result from saying to him, "Let's talk more about this, so our relationship can actually move forward". Now if he refuses to talk about it, then he's got larger issues than just unfounded suspicion!
Hope this helps in some way; let me know what you decide to do.
phoenix_rising
I feel that you and he need to sit down and have a very long talk--and it doesn't have to be a calm one, either. You *both* need to get your true and honest feelings out in the open. That means that he needs to verbally vent as much as he needs to about what happened, and you need to tell him how his un-ending suspiciousness makes you feel. Maybe he is so caught up in his own anger and inability to completely forgive you, that he hasn't even stopped to consider that he is only further damaging your relationship by constantly persecuting you. The thought of how *you* feel, might never have crossed his mind. And how you feel DOES matter--it has been quite a while since the cheating happened, and if he chose to stay with you after the fact, then he needs to accept what happened and your apology and continue the relationship, or he needs to admit that he can't or never will accept what happened. In order for your relationship to grow, you guys NEED to have this discussion.
Now, in my personal opinion, if the two of you get all of these negative feelings out into the open, and he continues to throw it in your face and peer at you under a furrowed brow (so to speak) with no evidence to support him doing so, then if I were you I would tell him, "Look, what's past has passed and it's time that you at least start trying to trust me. Otherwise, this relationship is going to stagnate and never move forward".
Even if you guys have talked about it before, I guarantee you that it needs to happen again. Scorpios can harbor resentment for a lifetime, if what caused that resentment doesn't get resolved. It's not fair or right for either one of you to go on the way you are now. Something needs to change, and if he refuses to improve his behavior, it might be time to tell him to hit the road. Do not let your life pass you by while waiting and waiting for this guy to magically grow up all of a sudden!
Like I said, I am giving this advice based on what I would do, which you may not agree with. However, I see no possible harm that could result from saying to him, "Let's talk more about this, so our relationship can actually move forward". Now if he refuses to talk about it, then he's got larger issues than just unfounded suspicion!
Hope this helps in some way; let me know what you decide to do.
phoenix_rising
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I feel that you and he need to sit down and have a very long talk--and it doesn't have to be a calm one, either. You *both* need to get your true and honest feelings out in the open. That means that he needs to verbally vent as much as he needs to about what happened, and you need to tell him how his un-ending suspiciousness makes you feel. Maybe he is so caught up in his own anger and inability to completely forgive you, that he hasn't even stopped to consider that he is only further damaging your relationship by constantly persecuting you. The thought of how *you* feel, might never have crossed his mind. And how you feel DOES matter--it has been quite a while since the cheating happened, and if he chose to stay with you after the fact, then he needs to accept what happened and your apology and continue the relationship, or he needs to admit that he can't or never will accept what happened. In order for your relationship to grow, you guys NEED to have this discussion.
Now, in my personal opinion, if the two of you get all of these negative feelings out into the open, and he continues to throw it in your face and peer at you under a furrowed brow (so to speak) with no evidence to support him doing so, then if I were you I would tell him, "Look, what's past has passed and it's time that you at least start trying to trust me. Otherwise, this relationship is going to stagnate and never move forward".
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