Scorp and Virgo - doesn't this sound typical?

Hi everyone. I've been reading threads on this site for a while now. There are a lot of posts to do with relationships on this board and I would greatly appreciate the insight of others in regards to my current dilemma.
I am a Scorpio and the 'relationship' that I am describing is with a Virgo. This person and I have been in business together for a few years and became friends. Over the past couple of years, both our marriages have broken down due to un-related events.
Unfortunately while providing support to this person, I fell deeply for him and was unable to disguise my feelings. Apparently (so he said) he felt for me also, but did not want to involve himself in a relationship at the time. Now he has recently told me that he cannot be involved with me as he does not believe in relationships where he knew the person previously. He says he wants me to get a boyfriend so things can be easier.
I am finding it difficult to maintain our friendship and business relationship now. He also seems to 'need' for me to be his friend still and wants to spend time together. I am definitely a Scorp and would prefer to have closure and move on from this. I suspect from all that I have read that this Virgo will want to maintain this 'relationship' on his terms.
Unfortunately because of the business thing I can't just walk away. Any insights? Will things ever change? I am posting this on both the Virgo and Scorpio boards in the hope of getting feedback from either side.

Further to the above post - there is a longer thread in response on the Virgo board. Any other thoughts?

I had a long marriage to a Virgo. They are self centered and cookiemonstery. Aries are attracted to them.....leading psychologist and astrologist know this. I guess it is true..opposites attrack and then attack.

Anyhow, being a scorpio, it would seem that the reason that you may be attracted to him is because he put you off and you like the challenge...it is a signature of your sign. You will get bored. Move on to a Pisces or a Cancer or a Capricorn perhaps.

Hi Tinkerbell

Hmm - 'cookiemonstery' - I like that :^). I have to agree with you about the self-centered part too.

Honestly, I don't think I'm so much attracted to the challenge as I find the rejection hard to deal with. That might be a Scorp thing too.

I'll pass on the Pisces, just had a very long marriage to a cold fish... (sorry to all the Pisces - I don't mean to generalize but I couldn't resist the comment).