Scorpio and Forgiveness

A lot of people believe that Scorpios do not forgive other people for hurting them in the past. I disagree. Even though I believe my cancer moon helped me greatly to forgive people that have done me wrong, I believe that all Scorpios with different placements (in due time) can forgive.

I will never forget, but I can forgive and decide if I want you in my life or not. It just takes time for me to heal from the fresh wounds. For example, I already forgave one of my family members for not treating me like she should have when I was a little kid. But its still taking me a while to heal (but I'm showing great progress!) from a guy that played with my emotions not too long ago (its been about four years) I haven't contacted or spoken to him since that incident. But hopefully in due time (maybe in a few more years lol) I will remember the positive moments rather than continue on thinking of the negative.

Thoughts? I'm curious to know how other Scorpios (or other signs) feel about this.

I don't forget either. I can take that person out of my life according to what they did/said.

But I don't blame people for how they act. We are like some complex machines but what you give is what you get. And we are living in an f-ed up world. Then there are all sorts of genes.. Who knows what led them to this behaviour.

It's just unfortunate really when someone is rude/inconsiderate because a beautiful relationship/friendship might go to waste.

Let's don't forget the times I acted in rude manners to people I love, jeapordizing it all...

I think to me it depends....... I can forgive but I will always have that lack of trust that was broken from the act. I have missed people a ton and reached out again to forgive but then I always get that feeling that I cannot trust them not to hurt again. That unfortunately never goes away for me. Once my trust is gone it pretty much stays gone..... I'm really trying to think back if I ever forgave or developed trust again years down the road..... I just can't think of any.... :-/

Posted by MidnightRises
A lot of people believe that Scorpios do not forgive other people for hurting them in the past. I disagree. Even though I believe my cancer moon helped me greatly to forgive people that have done me wrong, I believe that all Scorpios with different placements (in due time) can forgive.

I will never forget, but I can forgive and decide if I want you in my life or not. It just takes time for me to heal from the fresh wounds. For example, I already forgave one of my family members for not treating me like she should have when I was a little kid. But its still taking me a while to heal (but I'm showing great progress!) from a guy that played with my emotions not too long ago (its been about four years) I haven't contacted or spoken to him since that incident. But hopefully in due time (maybe in a few more years lol) I will remember the positive moments rather than continue on thinking of the negative.

Thoughts? I'm curious to know how other Scorpios (or other signs) feel about this.

Small and unintentional hurts are forgivable after it's on the table and hashed out.
Intentional, dysfunctional, toxic and just down right nasty hurts? The person is put into non-existence and forgiven by being put into non-existence and completely forgotten about. 😉

Posted by VanillaShake
I think to me it depends....... I can forgive but I will always have that lack of trust that was broken from the act. I have missed people a ton and reached out again to forgive but then I always get that feeling that I cannot trust them not to hurt again. That unfortunately never goes away for me. Once my trust is gone it pretty much stays gone..... I'm really trying to think back if I ever forgave or developed trust again years down the road..... I just can't think of any.... :-/

^^^^exactly, too much energy, hence why I put them into non-existence. Much more peaceful that way.

A lot of times I simply do not care..

Being fucked over by someone you deeply care about is the worst by far.
Unforgivable and unforgettable

It depends. I can forgive yet never forget like you've described. I can forgive and completely forget. And there's also those painfully intense moments where I can't forgive or forget; it's been over 15 years, and I still haven't completely forgiven someone.

In the end, the extent of my hatred seems correlated to the extent of how much I loved a person. If I can completely forgive and forget something someone did, they shouldn't be surprised if I just forget them in general.

I have no problems with my intensity. It took me awhile to come to terms with the fact that other people will be nothing like this; they will completely forget and not even need to forgive, because they already moved on (I grew up with tons of Geminis as a kid- Always thought they were too callous and fickle).

I completely understand everyone's point of view. Even when I do forgive that person, its going to be extremely rare occasions that I let them back into my life, especially if they didn't changed.

One of the main reasons why I forgive people because I know I'm not a perfect human being. I did some things in the past that I'm not proud of. Karma got me of course. It made realize that being human is not just a 'black' or 'white' thing. Its more complex than that. We are not perfect. One way or another, we will cause each other some type of hurt. Hopefully we can learn from it. It annoys me when someone wrongs me. However, I need to realize instead of bringing hate and negativity towards them and myself, I need to reflect on the past action that I did, forgive, and walk away.

Pfft you Scorpios never forgive sorry to say your so pompous thinking your better than everybody else in the end you stand their alone looking around and you have nobody.

Stihl46 - I am sorry you feel this way..... it's not pompous it's self defense mechanisms..... we feel EXTREME pain when we are hurt.. We feel everything intensely and if someone is capable of hurting us to the point we have to distance ourselves and realize that they can do it over and over because they did it once... that's not pompous that's just protecting ourselves from continued hurt... we aren't masochists. Some scorpios (not all) and just like other fixed signs can get a chip on their shoulder and allow themselves to become inflated with a big ego... and usually it's built up by other people..... we aren't all like this or better yet some of us have realized we are good people without having to think we are better than others.

Posted by VanillaShake
Stihl46 - I am sorry you feel this way..... it's not pompous it's self defense mechanisms..... we feel EXTREME pain when we are hurt.. We feel everything intensely and if someone is capable of hurting us to the point we have to distance ourselves and realize that they can do it over and over because they did it once... that's not pompous that's just protecting ourselves from continued hurt... we aren't masochists. Some scorpios (not all) and just like other fixed signs can get a chip on their shoulder and allow themselves to become inflated with a big ego... and usually it's built up by other people..... we aren't all like this or better yet some of us have realized we are good people without having to think we are better than others.

Oh I know what happens when you are hurt, common sense goes out the window and you stop thinking then anger takes over. I'm a Cancer man sure I have feelings, I never let my emotions override common sense. You Scorpios have the thinnest skin you get offended so easily, you hide it when the person that offended you isn't close to you. When the person is close to you its a totally different story you start to sulk and give the silent treatment.

Posted by VanillaShake
Stihl46 - I am sorry you feel this way..... it's not pompous it's self defense mechanisms..... we feel EXTREME pain when we are hurt.. We feel everything intensely and if someone is capable of hurting us to the point we have to distance ourselves and realize that they can do it over and over because they did it once... that's not pompous that's just protecting ourselves from continued hurt... we aren't masochists. Some scorpios (not all) and just like other fixed signs can get a chip on their shoulder and allow themselves to become inflated with a big ego... and usually it's built up by other people..... we aren't all like this or better yet some of us have realized we are good people without having to think we are better than others.

Don't try to convince him of anything. He's basing this off of an imaginary Scorpio girl he knows.

The times I blast off without control is usually those 10 fun days before menstruation haha..... my family knows how I can get..... and it can be scary... I challenge just as any fix sign might if my toes are stepped on or if something I believe is my right to do or think or say is challenged... just as I believe Aquas do as well. If I get in a mood so does my aqua in a challenge..... that or he shuts down.

but to be honest my worst is right before my period... my mom thinks I need pills or something to balance my crazy hormones LOL. Honestly if I get like that almost immediately after I calm down I feel EXTREMELY bad.... I always apologize ..... heaven knows I don't want to hurt people I care about ......

and depending on planets in the chart some of us can pick up other people's emotions and end up in a bad mood if someone close to us is too...... sorry :-/

Flowing water - you and your scorpio are such good friends cause both of our fixed signs are extremely loyal to each other and value quality friendship....... we might have our big differences but you make us awesome and we make you awesome..... it's a good gig :-)