Scorpio girl insights

Hi all,

I wonder if any of you have any astrological insights about a scorpio girl I've been hooked for almost four months. Sorry for the long message but there was a lot to say!

I'm cancer sun, pisces ascendent, gemini moon, mars capricorn, venus and mercury leo. Born 1986. She is scorpio sun, gemini moon, mars aries, mercury scorpio, venus capricorn. Born 1973.

We've met through a common friend that was in town. I've got completely hooked the first moment I saw her. We had a great chat that night. From the next day I started to text her. Pretty much since the beginning we just made conversation, without any practical reason. Talking about insomnias, art, things we like. Since day 1 I'm the one texting first, 90% of the time. She always responds back (95% ) and usually within seconds or minutes. Although she is usually positive and initiates topics within a conversation. We saw each other two weeks after we met and spent an afternoon together. Like when we met, conservation is great, we both have a lot of interests in common and there's a 'I've known you for a long time' feeling. After that 'date' there was a long period where she was a lot of times out of town for work or holidays. We always texted, say every 3 days, and at some point she sent me pictures of her holidays. However I tried to see her again and it seemed impossible. She could never do it, and although she said that she wanted to, she would never suggest something else or another time. I felt I was getting too many mixed messages. I then texted her saying that I would really like to see her again and if she wanted the same to let me know. She replied saying 'off course yes, I'm sorry but I have been out of form and not in a very social time, but I'll let you know something soon'. We kept texting and a few weeks after we met for a dance play I had invited her. She had been bitten by a dog that week and was being treated to her leg so I wasn't expecting anything that night. She was in a good mood, and, again, great talk for hours. I honestly felt that she was completely hooked to me as well. We went home in the same bus and I left at her bus stop to change bus. She left straight away which surprised me, because even if nothing was meant to happen, I would expect her to wait for my bus to arrive. I then went against my intuition (which was telling not to do anything). I texted her from home saying 'I'm really fond of you. If this doesn't make sense it's fine. If it's make sense to you shall we see each other again soon?'. She replied 'it makes sense if you are available for a friendship'. I then sent two messages saying that I was available for that but that I was looking for something more. She didn't reply and the next I felt defeated and sent a message trying to 'clean' the air. She replied describing her day. Honestly I wasn't sure what to take from that. We texted later on the week and then I asked if she wanted to do something that weekend. She didn't reply. I started to detach after that thinking that she was only into friendship. Surprisingly however, two weeks after on a saturday I was going to an afternoon seminar on her art gallery. I wasn't expecting her to be there, but in case she was and wanted to avoid me I texted her the week before. She was very friendly in the messages but didn't said anything about the seminar. And she was there and we arrived at the same time. She invited me for coffee. At the break she came to my table and avoided her colleagues and the lecturers. We've been texting again since then (this was two weeks ago), same routine as in the beginning.

I honestly can't tell what's in her mind. I felt a great connection to her, and we are very comfortable together. I'm sure she likes me a lot, but if she is willing to go into a relationship I don't know. She hasn't been through a great time, wanting to change her career direction and do a phd from next year. Karma hasn't helped and through since I've met her she was bitten by a dog, saw a rat in her bedroom and had a strong flue. She only talks about a relationship that lasted 10 years and finished 6 years ago. Before she moved country to here. We are both from the same country and birth city btw. She knows a lot of people through her work, but talks with hurt feelings about the social life here, like if (perhaps) she missed a more intimate level. I didn't asked if she was with someone, but she clearly isn't. The common friend doesn't live here and is a lot closer to me than to her. So actually we don't anything about each other apart from the time we spent together. I have a hard time in detaching, because I do feel there's something there on her side.

And yes there's a generous age difference. But it's not felt when we are together. I don't know what she thinks about it. To me it's not an issue, until last year I was together with an aries girl of the same age.

When together we do compliment each other and also tell secrets about each other. Although against all my friends advises, my crab guts tell me to wait and be patient!

Nobody picked up on this thread but hey today I'm seeing this girl again! After a week of almost daily texting I sent her an invite to my birthday picnic. Early next morning she texted saying she would come. I'm not sure if it means anything. But it's true that just a month ago I was telling her that I felt very attracted to her and was looking for more than a friendship. She doesn't know anyone else either. I'm always afraid of deceiving myself so I'm definitely not taking anything for granted.

We were together today at my birthday picnic. We took together to get there. We chatted a lot, spoke on the phone and messaged each other at the end of the night. I don't have a doubt that she likes me a lot and that there is attraction between us. If she likes me more than a friend I don't know. My gut feeling at the moment is that she just isn't emotionally available for anything. And she might haven't realised the depth of my attraction and empathy with her. She is too focused in herself at the moment. She is taking a sabbatical leave in october, leaving a great job to think about a phd. And today she told me she had took sleeping/antidepressive pills this week.

Crimson I like your suggestion. I'm do that face to face when I see her again. In a friendly way.

lesenfantterribles I understand what you are saying, and I don't want to make a move other than in a friendship way after what she told me. What makes me still be here is that she never closes the door. She never said anything like 'just friends', she said 'available for a friendship'. And she keeps responding back to my messages, a lot of times within seconds.

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Posted by carrazeda
We were together today at my birthday picnic. We took together to get there. We chatted a lot, spoke on the phone and messaged each other at the end of the night. I don't have a doubt that she likes me a lot and that there is attraction between us. If she likes me more than a friend I don't know. My gut feeling at the moment is that she just isn't emotionally available for anything. And she might haven't realised the depth of my attraction and empathy with her. She is too focused in herself at the moment. She is taking a sabbatical leave in october, leaving a great job to think about a phd. And today she told me she had took sleeping/antidepressive pills this week.

Crimson I like your suggestion. I'm do that face to face when I see her again. In a friendly way.

lesenfantterribles I understand what you are saying, and I don't want to make a move other than in a friendship way after what she told me. What makes me still be here is that she never closes the door. She never said anything like 'just friends', she said 'available for a friendship'. And she keeps responding back to my messages, a lot of times within seconds.

"available for friendship" sounds very much like "just friends" to me... am i the only one??

i respond to my friends (male & female) texts rapidly but that doesn't mean i am in L U V with my friends. maybe her mercury is in a chatty placement?

clearly, you've stated, that y'all have a great rapport. can't it just be that?

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It can, but it's easier said than done. I honestly never felt such a strong connection so quickly with anyone my entire life. From my side it's a very string intuition. Five minutes after we've met I knew I wanted to be with her. We both have moons in gemini, so we can talk endlessly. And we are both goods listeners as well. Her mercury is in scorpio. Her venus is in capricorn (which conjuncts my mars) and her mars is in aries (which trines with my venus in leo).

She might be insecure about the age difference. Perhaps she feels there is a very small chance that a relationship could work out so she'd rather stick to friends rather than risk her heart. Friends is easier. I mean why dive into a relationship that doesn't have a chance? Maybe it's just me, but I will project a hypethetical relationship into the future in my head to examine all possible outcomes. In your situation, the age difference might seem too much like a risk not worth taking. She's 45ish and you are 31ish. There are definite long term risks involved in that age space. Like having children, 20 years down the line, etc. scorpios tend to be long term thinkers.

My advice is to just be consistent. Take the friendship seriously. Show her that you are a solid person. And if over a longer period of time, you can maintain your affections for this woman, maybe she will come around. If it was me, there would be zero chance I would dive head first into a relationship with you. You would definitely be put on my slow burner. Having said that, if sex was all I was looking for, maybe I'd dive in but I wouldn't invest my heart so quickly. So you take your chances there as well

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Posted by carrazeda
We were together today at my birthday picnic. We took together to get there. We chatted a lot, spoke on the phone and messaged each other at the end of the night. I don't have a doubt that she likes me a lot and that there is attraction between us. If she likes me more than a friend I don't know. My gut feeling at the moment is that she just isn't emotionally available for anything. And she might haven't realised the depth of my attraction and empathy with her. She is too focused in herself at the moment. She is taking a sabbatical leave in october, leaving a great job to think about a phd. And today she told me she had took sleeping/antidepressive pills this week.

Crimson I like your suggestion. I'm do that face to face when I see her again. In a friendly way.

lesenfantterribles I understand what you are saying, and I don't want to make a move other than in a friendship way after what she told me. What makes me still be here is that she never closes the door. She never said anything like 'just friends', she said 'available for a friendship'. And she keeps responding back to my messages, a lot of times within seconds.

"available for friendship" sounds very much like "just friends" to me... am i the only one??

i respond to my friends (male & female) texts rapidly but that doesn't mean i am in L U V with my friends. maybe her mercury is in a chatty placement?

clearly, you've stated, that y'all have a great rapport. can't it just be that?

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Dude, she just wants to be friends. You're trying to read into something which isn't there

Thanks for the comments everyone. It's clear to me that she isn't willing to jump into anything at least at this moment. Either because she just doesn't want, because she is too afraid/doesn't know if she can trust me, or because she is too drawn in (possible) a depression. Either case at the moment I can only be her friend. Which I'm willing to be. Friendship is just another form of love, and when I find a great connection I don't like to waste it. If I'll disappear for a bit to move on or stick around and become close friends I'm not sure. I like to conduct my close relationships with a good amount of honesty. So normally I would prefer to have a frank conversation and let her know my feelings. Which she knows from my messages and my behavior, but she never heard from me.

Bottom line: she completely messed with my mind! I've never felt so attracted to anyone.



@ScorpFemme

I understand what you are saying and though about it in the beginning. I never thought this would be easy. Until last year I was in a six years relation with an Aries of the same age. So I knew that I don't have that boundary and had spent much time thinking about age differences in relationships. I actually what it tells me of me to feel this attracted to older woman! I generally go to the intellect first, it might be it.

Update on this story:

- After my birthday I took two weeks off from talking to her. She never said anything during that time. In my mind I've decided to let things took it natural direction. Meaning, if friendship is what's available and makes sense so be it. It was a good time to think and get more relaxed with my mind.

- This week I've reconnected with her. We exchanged a couple of relaxed messages mid week. This morning she asked if I wanted to go to a bookshop and have coffee. So we went and ended up staying together longer and include lunch a big walk. As the other times, we chat really well, which teases me a lot. We talked a lot about life decisions. I'm considering doing a one year masters from next year, to which she gave some advice. She is taking a sabbatical leave from october to consider a phd from next year. But in general to consider her life and where she wants to be.

- I'm not sure what to take of all of this. Normally, if you open up with someone, and tell them you feel really attracted to them and then the other keeps coming back to you. I would think they probably have some interest. But, does she just likes my attention? Or she thinks she has been clear enough and there's nothing going on? Because I always kept pushing even after she talked to me about friendship, I never stepped back.

- I would like to think there's something on her mind. And that perhaps it's just not the best timing yet. For my own sake I put this on a slow burner. But truth to be told, she feels to me like the most amazing woman ever. Brighter than sun - I have venus is leo, this is my minimum standard!

hmm well I can tell you when a scorpio really likes you , you will know but only when she wants you to know. It's really hard reading between the lines here... Well that she replies right back and jokes with you is sure a sign of attraction but with scorpios it's a bit tricky I think. Just thinking about me and my scorpio friends we often like to flirt and play around and can come off quite interested in a way but when we notice the guy wants more we try to make it clear. I can just give an advice that you may wanna consider: Give her the time and space she needs. Scorpios are very intense and believe me or not when it comes to feelings we are too much for our own selves sometimes. Being friends is never a bad thing just like you said. The scorpios I know cherish their friends a ton and just speaking for me I think a friendship is a great base for anything further. She might just be really cautious and unsure also the age gap thing is nothing to just put aside. It might be alright for you but just like @ScorpFemme said, we are long term thinkers. Just don't let her lead you on too long ... Let her know that you need clarification at some point, otherwise you will just suffer since you do like her a lot. God sy if this confuses you .

Good luck though !

Thanks @nala

My intuition and gut feeling still tells me that there's something there worth to pursue. At this point I think that at its worst it could be a great friendship. I'm mostly water based so I never discard a good friend. But it's really up to me if I manage my feelings.

She does move slowly, that's clear to me. And she is undecided in many things in her life. If I understand her well, she certainly sees a lot of interest in me. Worth to be keep me around her. But not necessarily to move a step forward for a relationship. She might be undecided or simply not wanting it.

Our level of empathy and how we listen to each other is really amazing. When we walk together we are so immersed in the conversation that we often get off track. We both remember things that the other said three months ago. She does pay a lot of attention to my professional ambitions and asks me a lot of things on it (she is venus cap btw).

If it keeps going like this, and I think it will, I'll have to ask for a clarification. She knows I feel very attracted to her (I was very clear with this) so it won't came as a surprise.

Yesterday super warm. Today silence. I sent her a one line message late morning, teasing her with the book club she was having today. No response. I know I'm overthinking it, but I don't get it. If we are playing friendship, don't you respond to your friends? The message was funny, innocent and was following yesterday's conversation. Or is she digesting yesterday's (intense) day and needing time to think? Or is it just me trying to read too much like @teena said?

Jesus Christ OP, stop being so selfish and only thinking of yourself. Typical Cancerian man ?

Have you thought about it all from her point of view? No I didn't think so.

She told you she's looking for friendship with you. You know this. Yet you keep pushing for more because YOU think you should have more from her. Why? Why do you feel so entitled to have more from her?

You know she is currently unavailable. Emotionally unavailable too. She's going through a huge period of change regarding career and studies. She's told you she's having a think about what to do with her life. Yet you keep on about pursuing her which means you're completely ignoring what she's actually told you just because YOU feel you should be together.

You say the huge 13 year age gap doesn't make any difference but it does. She seems more mature and knows when she should and should not get involved with someone. You, on the other hand, are not mature enough to see beyond yourself and accept she's being honest with you and is only looking for friendship right now. You want to keep pushing and questioning her. Why?

Yes, she probably does like you. Probably a lot. If she didn't then she wouldn't waste her time with you. However, she's stated she does not have many friends/social life there, therefore, that's possibly why she's very happy to offer you friendship.

You need to decide if you can accept a genuine friendship or walk away from her to find someone else for a relationship.

You were with someone for six years but have been single for only one year. That's not long at all. Are you even ready for another relationship? Do you want to get married to someone? Have kids? Would she want the same? You seem to have forgotten the practicalities because you're placing too much on chemistry that only you feel.

If you accept friendship then you really need to stop thinking with your dick constantly. Just enjoy your time together without reading in to every message, looking for things that are not there, constantly asking her where you stand, pushing to put your dick in to consummate a relationship that she ain't even offering to you.

Who knows, Scorps can be slow burners as someone else stated, I'm not saying to hold out for months or years in the hope she might want to have a relationship with you, I'm just saying you're putting her far too high up on a pedestal so you might miss out on other great women out there who might actually be available for a relationship. If you pin all hope on her to come around but then she doesn't or in six months she pitches up with her new boyfriend, you know you're going to be disappointed and hurt so keep yourself in perspective and check because when you get hurt you'll blame her, not yourself, and no one wants to hear a cancer whinge.

@AgentP911

You're right in many things but you missed some and I think misunderstood my position here. Honestly my fault because I mostly came here to unload without putting much effort in reviewing what I'm writing.

Since she mentioned friendship that I haven't been actively pushing her. Yes we did talk since then and yes most of the times it's me initiating a conversation. But every time I do that I think what I would be saying if she was any other friend. I haven't been playing this in my head all alone. She was the one sending me picture of her holidays in the beginning. A month and half after we met initially I told her "I'm not in a rush for anything but I would really like to see you again". I think that's a clear hint from someone you just met by chance recently. She did responded positively. And she did came to my birthday and invited my for coffee even though she knows that I feel very attracted her. I have no doubt that she likes me a lot. But yes she might not emotionally available at all or simply not wanting anything other than a friendship with me. I get that and I am respectful of it.

I didn't meant to say that the age gap doesn't make a difference. It does of course and for many people it can be a deal breaker. But I've been through it before and I also have other friends in similar cultural/social circuits that have or are in a relationships with a generous age gap. It's not easy but it's not a tabu. Also she does know that a lot of my friends including best friends are in their 40s and 50s.

I cherish my friends and the love that I have for them it's indistinguishable from a love that I have for a partner. Because I value the connection we have I would always be willing to build a friendship with her. I'm trying to do what I told her: I'm available for a friendship, I can't deny the attraction that I feel for you but I'll make sure that won't be a problem. After this she was the one coming to my birthday or inviting me for a coffee (that turnout to be a four hour coffee, long walk and lunch). I'm not saying that this means anything beyond friendship, I'm just saying that it's not just me pushing her. I have been dating again in the last month. With all this infatuation for her I'm not really available to jump into a relationship with anyone, but I do needed to look at other people and distract myself. I don't want to pin all my hopes in her and face a major disappointment. But if in face of that I'll blame myself actually. Or I'll blame my pluto conjunct to her sun and mercury. Or her pluto square to my sun and trine to my moon.

I do put her in a pedestal but that's how I see her. And yes I'm guilty of not looking to all the practicalities in a relationship. I don't want to marry but I want to settle with a person. I'm a long term relationships person. Kids? If with the right person and it makes sense. I don't want my choices to be governed by it. I tend to move on quickly after a relationship because it takes me a while to finish one. Yes I do put a lot on chemistry. I'm an idealistic. But no, I'm not here thinking with my dick. You don't know me, but I'm not an emotionally immature 31 year old guy just trying to put his dick in an older woman. Very far from that.

Posted by carrazeda
Yesterday super warm. Today silence. I sent her a one line message late morning, teasing her with the book club she was having today. No response. I know I'm overthinking it, but I don't get it. If we are playing friendship, don't you respond to your friends? The message was funny, innocent and was following yesterday's conversation. Or is she digesting yesterday's (intense) day and needing time to think? Or is it just me trying to read too much like @teena said?

I'm definitely not consistent with texting with my friends. I take my own time though I'm not busy. I should just feel like it. Tbh, I actually am consistent only with new friends or people I'm still being formal with. Don't think about it so much. Let her take her time.

So like I said in the last month I've been going on a few dates. Not really expecting anything because my head is with the scorpio crush. But just trying to see other people, relax my mind, etc. Tonight I had on with a really interesting girl although not really a fit with me. I was actually about to cancel because I had talked too much during the day with a close friend about the scorpio crush. Went anyway.

So we're having dinner and who is in the restaurant? My scorpio crush. She was with three colleagues from work and at some point came to say hi. Wtf. We leave in London, there's nine million people here. And a week after she invited me for coffee for the first time and when I was trying to do something with her this weekend. And btw the date girl also turned out to be a scorpio. Such a karma.

Scorpio dxp girls, what would you think if this happened to you?

I'm guilty of most of what you wrote. But you have to give me some credit. I was stepping back when she invited me for coffee. She was also the one crossing the city to come to my birthday where she didn't knew anyone. All of this right after I had told her that I felt very attracted and was looking for more than a friendship. Tbh, most people in my case would question her intentions. I'm not saying that I think she wants more than a friendship, just that it's normal to question.

Regarding tonight, it's a coincidence. If anyone could be stalking it would be her not me: she knew that I was going to be in that area. I had told her a week ago that I was going to see an art performance there.

Regarding text messages, she does respond to almost all and usually straight away. But even if I think that she doesn't respond to some to avoid misleading me, that wouldn't be coherent with what I wrote in the first paragraph right?

I know that I'm obsessed! That's why I started therapy two months ago. I understand why I like her this much, she is just my type in every single small thing). But I don't understand why I can't deal with it rationally.

But give me the credit. I wasn't the one sending holiday pictures to a stranger I had met a month before.

Scorpio female with Gemini moon here( as the girl you are into).. take it slow with her. I always fall more deep for those who are not pushovers and make me guessing. My curiosity makes me move faster. I respect honest and straightforward behavior a lot as well but there should be some mystery to make me move faster in a relationship. Don't chase her too much, if she likes you she will have no problem to show you that. Probably she is making up her mind and knows you are available and are there for her anytime she wants.

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@AgentP911

You're right in many things but you missed some and I think misunderstood my position here. Honestly my fault because I mostly came here to unload without putting much effort in reviewing what I'm writing.

Since she mentioned friendship that I haven't been actively pushing her. Yes we did talk since then and yes most of the times it's me initiating a conversation. But every time I do that I think what I would be saying if she was any other friend. I haven't been playing this in my head all alone. She was the one sending me picture of her holidays in the beginning. A month and half after we met initially I told her "I'm not in a rush for anything but I would really like to see you again". I think that's a clear hint from someone you just met by chance recently. She did responded positively. And she did came to my birthday and invited my for coffee even though she knows that I feel very attracted her. I have no doubt that she likes me a lot. But yes she might not emotionally available at all or simply not wanting anything other than a friendship with me. I get that and I am respectful of it.

I didn't meant to say that the age gap doesn't make a difference. It does of course and for many people it can be a deal breaker. But I've been through it before and I also have other friends in similar cultural/social circuits that have or are in a relationships with a generous age gap. It's not easy but it's not a tabu. Also she does know that a lot of my friends including best friends are in their 40s and 50s.

I cherish my friends and the love that I have for them it's indistinguishable from a love that I have for a partner. Because I value the connection we have I would always be willing to build a friendship with her. I'm trying to do what I told her: I'm available for a friendship, I can't deny the attraction that I feel for you but I'll make sure that won't be a problem. After this she was the one coming to my birthday or inviting me for a coffee (that turnout to be a four hour coffee, long walk and lunch). I'm not saying that this means anything beyond friendship, I'm just saying that it's not just me pushing her. I have been dating again in the last month. With all this infatuation for her I'm not really available to jump into a relationship with anyone, but I do needed to look at other people and distract myself. I don't want to pin all my hopes in her and face a major disappointment. But if in face of that I'll blame myself actually. Or I'll blame my pluto conjunct to her sun and mercury. Or her pluto square to my sun and trine to my moon.

I do put her in a pedestal but that's how I see her. And yes I'm guilty of not looking to all the practicalities in a relationship. I don't want to marry but I want to settle with a person. I'm a long term relationships person. Kids? If with the right person and it makes sense. I don't want my choices to be governed by it. I tend to move on quickly after a relationship because it takes me a while to finish one. Yes I do put a lot on chemistry. I'm an idealistic. But no, I'm not here thinking with my dick. You don't know me, but I'm not an emotionally immature 31 year old guy just trying to put his dick in an older woman. Very far from that.

The few questions were for both of you. Not just you. You may know what you want and how you want your future to be but does it match hers? Does she want a relationship? Is she available? Does she want marriage? Does she want kids? For example, you may not want to marry but she does. It's not a match. You may want kids but she doesn't. It's not a match. You want a relationship but she doesn't. It's not a match. It is not all about you.

You started therapy two months ago because of this situation with this lady?

Oh dear. Get a backbone and find your balls. I thought you said you were not an emotionally immature 31 year old. Your obsession is in your head. I'll tell you that for free. You want what you can't have.

You are still looking for things that are not there. So what if she was at the same restaurant as you. Let's say she did that deliberately. Now what? What exactly are you going to do with that? Nothing. It's hardly a coincidence when you told her your plan and what you were doing. You then justify it by saying it's a coincidence and London has 9m people in it (it probably does if you count the illegals in it) yet you mentioned your plan. Perhaps next time don't mention anything, go outside of London, and let's see if she turns up. Now that would be a coincidence!

Good for you for dating others. I think you need distance from this lady who is only offering you friendship.

What's your chart? Where's your Venus and Pluto and where are her's? You might have a connection here considering the age gap.

@AgentP911

Therapy was not just because of her truth to be told. She provided the last push but there were other things. And it's not about the emotions: I know why I like her so much, I just whish that I could control better in my head. I.e. less obsessed yes. Re therapy the first reason was career, decisions that I postponing for two years, family conflicts back at home and off course been out of a long term relationship not long ago. There was a moment when everything was conflicting and it's difficult in london to step back and think clear. There's always too much going on.

Our charts seem to have a good number of interesting aspects. Including double pluto-sun square and conjunction, double venus-mars conjunction and trine and moons in conjunction.

Me

Sun Cancer in house 5

Moon Gemini in house 4

Mercury Leo in house 6

Venus Leo in house 6

Mars Capricorn house 11

Jupiter Pisces in house 1

Saturn Sagittarius in house 9

Uranus Sagittarius in house 10

Neptune Capricorn in house 10

Pluto Scorpio in house 8

True Node Aries in house 2

Her (I don't know the hour but none of the planets were changing in that day)

Sun Scorpio

Moon Gemini

Mercury Scorpio

Venus Capricorn

Mars Aries

Jupiter Aquarius

Saturn Cancer

Uranus Libra

Neptune Sagittarius

Pluto Libra

True Node Sagittarius

Posted by Foreign_flower
Scorpio female with Gemini moon here( as the girl you are into).. take it slow with her. I always fall more deep for those who are not pushovers and make me guessing. My curiosity makes me move faster. I respect honest and straightforward behavior a lot as well but there should be some mystery to make me move faster in a relationship. Don't chase her too much, if she likes you she will have no problem to show you that. Probably she is making up her mind and knows you are available and are there for her anytime she wants.

I think in all of this the problem is that my mind was made too quickly too soon. She did gave me a few hints in the beginning that reading from now they should have slowed me down. Not hints blocking anything between us, but always suggesting a slow pace.

Hi, I'm also a Scorpio sun Gemini moon. And based on my life stories, there's very less chance for you to get your Scorpio woman. I can tell that she's interested in you but if she said that she wants you to think of this relationship as friendship, definitely she senses that there's something wrong between you two, and that something will make the relationship not work out in the end.

Firstly, when a man initially talks to me and I feel that he has a romatic intention, I will flirt with him a bit and make him feel like I'm interested in talking with him. However, if after a while I sense that the relationship will not work out, I will give him signal and tell him directly that I just want us to be friends.

Secondly, if that man still doesn't give up, and if he's not so agressive, and if I feel like him as a FRIEND, I will keep him around. If someday I find out he was seeing other girls, at first I will feel irriated (because I assume that he likes me) and try to get back his attention for me. But later on, when I calm down and realize that I am too selfish, I will push him away so that he can go after the other girl.

So my advice for you is to give up this case. Scorpios are stubborn, once there's something set in their mind, there's no wat for you to change it. Sometimes Scorpios act selfishly but you cannot blame us. It's you who choose to stay although we have said very clearly from the beginning what we want (friendship).

So try to move on, it's better for you 🙂

Posted by carrazeda
Hi all,

I wonder if any of you have any astrological insights about a scorpio girl I've been hooked for almost four months. Sorry for the long message but there was a lot to say!

I'm cancer sun, pisces ascendent, gemini moon, mars capricorn, venus and mercury leo. Born 1986. She is scorpio sun, gemini moon, mars aries, mercury scorpio, venus capricorn. Born 1973.

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Scorpio woman.

Cancer male.

Dude, run away. This relationship is like being in prison: you're the prisoner, she's the prison officer... and it's the best thing ever. If she tells you it's a life sentence, you'll beg for a triple life sentence. It's so messed up. And yet so good. And yet so bad. We cancer men like to be in control of our lives to feel secure, and yeah that's not happening with a Scorp woman. I've lead Aquarius, Leo, and Sag by the hand, but with a Scorp she pretty much got me by the dog collar hahaha

So congrats pal you dodged a bullet.... that you really wanted to get shot by :lol:

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Posted by Foreign_flower
Scorpio female with Gemini moon here( as the girl you are into).. take it slow with her. I always fall more deep for those who are not pushovers and make me guessing. My curiosity makes me move faster. I respect honest and straightforward behavior a lot as well but there should be some mystery to make me move faster in a relationship. Don't chase her too much, if she likes you she will have no problem to show you that. Probably she is making up her mind and knows you are available and are there for her anytime she wants.

I think in all of this the problem is that my mind was made too quickly too soon. She did gave me a few hints in the beginning that reading from now they should have slowed me down. Not hints blocking anything between us, but always suggesting a slow pace.

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However it's too much water in your charts haha Gemini moon helps to not get super emotional I bet. I am also pieces rising like you and Scorpio sun like her. Thanks, God, I have a lot of Capricorn positioned planets and Scorpio so that doesn't make an emotional wreck. But I blame my pieces rising on making my heart too soft when I need to be strong. What I mean is that this will be very emotional relationship between you two.. I bet the sex will be mind blowing too haha

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Posted by Foreign_flower
Scorpio female with Gemini moon here( as the girl you are into).. take it slow with her. I always fall more deep for those who are not pushovers and make me guessing. My curiosity makes me move faster. I respect honest and straightforward behavior a lot as well but there should be some mystery to make me move faster in a relationship. Don't chase her too much, if she likes you she will have no problem to show you that. Probably she is making up her mind and knows you are available and are there for her anytime she wants.

I think in all of this the problem is that my mind was made too quickly too soon. She did gave me a few hints in the beginning that reading from now they should have slowed me down. Not hints blocking anything between us, but always suggesting a slow pace.

However it's too much water in your charts haha Gemini moon helps to not get super emotional I bet. I am also pieces rising like you and Scorpio sun like her. Thanks, God, I have a lot of Capricorn positioned planets and Scorpio so that doesn't make an emotional wreck. But I blame my pieces rising on making my heart too soft when I need to be strong. What I mean is that this will be very emotional relationship between you two.. I bet the sex will be mind blowing too haha

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A lot of water yes, although cap is the second dominant planet for both us (scorpio her and pisces me). What has been disturbing for me with this girl is that it is one first times where I can't seem to control my feelings. Normally, the way my mind works, I would wait for a feeling to settle and only then accept it. Ie if you make me angry I'm not necessarily going to act on it. I guess the gemini moon working. In a relationship I'm actually really plain - a typical complaint from previous gfs. I always thought that the cap mars had a strong influence on me. With this girl, it's been nearly five months and I'm still here like a teenager in love for the first time. It's makes my head all butter!

Posted by scorpioruby
Hi, I'm also a Scorpio sun Gemini moon. And based on my life stories, there's very less chance for you to get your Scorpio woman. I can tell that she's interested in you but if she said that she wants you to think of this relationship as friendship, definitely she senses that there's something wrong between you two, and that something will make the relationship not work out in the end.

Firstly, when a man initially talks to me and I feel that he has a romatic intention, I will flirt with him a bit and make him feel like I'm interested in talking with him. However, if after a while I sense that the relationship will not work out, I will give him signal and tell him directly that I just want us to be friends.

Secondly, if that man still doesn't give up, and if he's not so agressive, and if I feel like him as a FRIEND, I will keep him around. If someday I find out he was seeing other girls, at first I will feel irriated (because I assume that he likes me) and try to get back his attention for me. But later on, when I calm down and realize that I am too selfish, I will push him away so that he can go after the other girl.

So my advice for you is to give up this case. Scorpios are stubborn, once there's something set in their mind, there's no wat for you to change it. Sometimes Scorpios act selfishly but you cannot blame us. It's you who choose to stay although we have said very clearly from the beginning what we want (friendship).

So try to move on, it's better for you 🙂

Thanks, that makes a lot of sense with this girl!

The last thing that happen and upset me: wednesday night I asked if wanted to do lunch and exhibition over the weekend. She replied maybe sunday, I'll let you know. I said ok, sunday is good. Friday night when we saw each other I asked her about that. She said I have to be somewhere at 5 but I'll text you. She didn't said anything throughout saturday. I didn't want to say anything, but it annoyed me that she left me hanging. So I text her in the evening saying, I need to go to this place (close to us, we live quite close) do you want to do lunch in this place (a cafe/restaurant that both of us like). No response so far (sunday morning here). I know that this was a text too much but she was the one leaving me hanging. And it's not like I have been pressing her with anything, she was the one inviting me out last weekend.

I am pretty sure that not only she is interested but also she likes me a lot even. She notices every single thing that I do or say. She asks about things that I said three months before, she asks about my friends (the ones she met or others that I might refer to). She goes to art shows that I mention. She recommends me books. She knows everything single that I wrote even though she might not have messaged back about it. We get lost when walking together because we are so absorbed in our conversation. Honestly it's ridiculous. If she wasn't so hot and cold and she hasn't mentioned friendship to me I wouldn't hesitate that this a couple falling in love. But those are two big ifs!

After nearly five months of this it is time to move on and let it go, for my sanity. I might text her to clarify what I think about her.

Update:

She texted me this morning shortly after my post. She said "I'm going to swim now and then see a friend. I'll give you a call after". I texted around 1pm saying "I'll be in the area from 2pm. Let me know if you'll come". She texted at 2.30pm saying "Sorry but I've stayed with my friend (insert female name) and then I have a meeting at 4.30pm".

This is all very normal between friends. Things run over. But we are still acquaintances and this was an invitation that I had sent wednesday and to which she had said "yes, maybe, I'll text you". Off course I saw that this lunch wasn't happening, but why wait to the very last minute to cancel? She had plenty of time to organise herself and confirm or cancel. I'm off.