Scorpio Insight?

Maybe this is more of a venting post - I posted my story a few weeks back in the Astrology/Relationships forum...Dating a Scorpio guy (11/3) Merc: Scorpio, Mars: Sagittarius, Venus: Libra) I'm a Cancer (7/7) Merc: Cancer, Venus: Cancer, Mars: Virgo). Done my reading on Scorpios and find him to be very similar to his characteristics, and I am very similar to my own. The chemistry between us is staggering. There seems to be an unspoken bond, or understanding between us. We have awesome talks, tons of affection, and even though we both struggle with stress and day to day sensitivity to emotion, we are at peace when we are together. I am highly sensitive to all emotion, and he is too, but you'll NEVER see it. I have to talk things to death (I know, annoying) He has had a really bad few years, lots of physical and emotional pain and he's basically starting his life over right now. I of course want to help him through the rough patches and nurture him. I've known him for 3 months but we both feel like it's been forever. When we are together, I see the pain leave his eyes and I feel him relax. He doesn't smother me with romantic banter. When he does choose to let me in, or to be expressive, it knocks me off my feet. There is no boredom here - but I can't help but feel like he doesn't quite trust me yet. I read that Scorpios are like that, mysterious, sometimes secretive, but that their actions speak louder than their words. Is this true? I feel like there are deep feelings for me, but there aren't always words - whereas, I'm all about expressing what is on my mind, being sappy and making sure my feelings are known right when it's there in my mind/heart. The actions I'm seeing the actions, in the affection, the gazes, the tones of voice,the amount of time we spend together, our deep but sometimes cryptic converstations. The past 3 weeks we've spent much more time together and I feel like we are more of a partnership than ever. I guess I'm just sensitive to the times he gets quiet. He went on an unexpected snowmobiling trip with his brother this weekend. I know he's struggling with a lot in his life right now, and I WANT to be there for him for it. When he needs space, I want to give it to him. He's battling with his feelings for me right now, a fear of losing control of his emotions, I know it and I see it. How is the best way to handle him?

Just cruising through, and thought I would give you a little heads up to break your story down into paragraphs. It's quite the pet peeve of people to read, as some will say "a wall of text"...makes it easier to read, and the odds of people reading it are way greater. And you won't get the response "whats with the wall of text. not reading" 🙂

Thanks Ocean - I will do that - I know space is limited and I have the tendency to ramble - and believe it or not, I hate that too. I should have noticed. 🙂 Exo - you're right too - looking for reassurance and guidance. I'm one of those that sees a wounded soul and wants to help.

Hi CC, nice to see you here and asking questions. You sound like you've got quite a nice guy there. you got good advice, keep us updated and enjoy him!

Just make sure that you understand your feelings. People ...(usually women) (especially water women) .... tend to misinterpret how they really, really feel, and end up screwing up the possibility of a good relationship.

In your "wall of text" you made the insinutation several times that he is in need, and you want to fix those needs .. not in those words, of course .. but, that is what you meant.

In your case, and in any case, for all women in here ... make sure you completely understand how you feel about this other person.

Because I got the impression that you might want to rescue him.

Thanks P-Angel. I don't want to fix him or cure him, etc. But in many of our conversations he's conveyed that he needs a woman to be there for him, just to talk him through things. He's been terribly lonely, and didn't let himself feel or be attached to any woman for many years.

He was in a terrible car accident in which he saw his best childhood friend die - and that severely damaged his body and spirit as well. He's spent many years dealing with that pain - in the wrong ways. Now he's starting new and he's weak at times. He has slowly opened up to me, and IF I can help, if he NEEDS me, I want to be there. He in turn, makes me laugh, encourages me in everything, and holds me on my bad days as well. We are still learning about each other, but he's the tougher nut to crack, not only because he's a guy, and a Scorpio maybe, but he's been let down himself, many many times.

He tells me all the time to be patient with him. If he's chosen me to finally open up to, then I want to be patient, it's the least I can do for the way he makes me feel. I just feel awful when he pulls away, gets moody, needs his space. I feel like maybe I said something wrong, or he's second guessing his feelings for me. 😢

"I just feel awful when he pulls away, gets moody, needs his space. I feel like maybe I said something wrong, or he's second guessing his feelings for me."


This is *you* internalizing his feelings/behaviors as being about *you*. In codependent world we call that having the "me-me's". Making everything about me me me me. Which, is is a sign of neediness. What, you say, Cancers are needy— 😉

I am a venus in Cancer, I CAN say this, lol. You need to be ok with *him* NOT being ok..at times. Or quiet, or moody..cus that is just how scorpios can be. Acceptance of his traits and not take unrightful ownership of his feelings.

Thanks for the head check BGP! This is why I know I can come here to vent. I am just a little taken aback by the connection and passion between us. It's never happened to me before, so I'm reaching out to him to let him know I'm here for him, but I am fearful of losing this great connection at the same time. Yes, I AM needy in this situation, because of how he makes me feel. I haven't been this happy in a long time, and there are times I'm so exhilarated by these feelings that it's scary and I want to run and hide in my shell...I keep waiting for something bad to happen on his part, because of his past. So instead of questioning him directly, I am swallowing that panic and trying to trust him. And venting here. You all are so great, thanks. 🙂

LOL - Ouch DominOo, but I appreciate the advice. Trust me, I'm more cognizant of sentence structure in my business and personal correspondence, but when I'm feeling emotional, I ramble. Thanks!

Thanks LIB - as always! I need patience, and I need to stop thinking that other people will and should handle stress and confusion as I do. That's a major weakness of mine. When I feel confused or stressed about an issue, I surround myself with dear friends and virtual strangers (ie, DXP) for advice of all sorts. It's never served me well to hide out and ponder. I have to remember that and respect the difference. 🙂