Scorpio Men .... Help Me Out Here

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Alrighty .... so I've been dating a male Scorpio on and off for 13 years (since we were 12). We were never in a full-on relationship though... Our sexual chemistry is off the charts ... we always have fun together whether we're hanging out at the house or out during a night in the city. I've watched him get into relationships with other women, and they're mediocre at best. I have no kids, I'm educated, I have a great career, definitely not a bad looking chick.... yet he dates strippers, chicks with busloads of kids, even a woman with a drug problem!

He says he loves me, but he claims he doesn't think he's ready for a serious relationship with me... I don't know if he's lying or what... I just wish I could pick his brain and get the REAL reasons as to why he's doing what he's doing. I almost questioned if there was something wrong with me... but I caught myself. Now I know it's him.

Scorpio men .... do you guys play games like this? Do ya'll run away from someone who's great in order to invest in mediocracy !??
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Honestly, he already told you what it is. He's not ready for a serious relationship. & he probably never will be with you bc you let it go on for so long without a commitment. He's gotten everything he wants from you over 13 years and he's put in nothing to get it. Getting him to commit will be close to impossible. BUT if he will ever commit, it will be bc you left him & he realized that he can't live without you, not bc you're sticking around doing what you've been doing for the past 13 years.

Also, your idea of "great" & his maybe totally different. Your education and career are great accomplishments FOR YOU, but that doesn't necessarily make you the better woman FOR HIM. Get it.

IMHO it takes no man 13 years to decide he wants to be with you. He's just not that into you.


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Posted by JBG
Honestly, he already told you what it is. He's not ready for a serious relationship. & he probably never will be with you bc you let it go on for so long without a commitment. He's gotten everything he wants from you over 13 years and he's put in nothing to get it. Getting him to commit will be close to impossible. BUT if he will ever commit, it will be bc you left him & he realized that he can't live without you, not bc you're sticking around doing what you've been doing for the past 13 years.

Also, your idea of "great" & his maybe totally different. Your education and career are great accomplishments FOR YOU, but that doesn't necessarily make you the better woman FOR HIM. Get it.

IMHO it takes no man 13 years to decide he wants to be with you. He's just not that into you.




Are you a Scorpio?

Regardless, I definitely needed to read this ! Thank you for the honesty. I've left him alone plenty of times, and he always came running back ... begging and pleading... I guess I messed up by giving up... Scorpio males are tremendously hard to resist. I know I'm too good for him... But I've gotten much better over the years.. I don't even care about him like I used to. I just wanted clarification on some things... and I wanted to hear someone else's opinion. My education and career are definitely not the only things... I didn't want to go too deep on here.. but he's even admitted that he KNOWS that the women he dates are NOT better than me ... lmao what's up with that??
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Posted by GG
I'm not a Scorpio but I always get a chuckle when people think a random person on the internet can give them insight about an individual they've never met.

I did chuckle when I read "dates a girl with a drug habit," lol...I don't know why that's funny but I laughed my ass off at that.

I do know of a similar situation in "real life." Does he have virgo rising, cap moon, sag or libra placements?



Oh no... it wasn't insight on him that I wanted... I'd go to his mother if it were that deep. I just wanted to see if others developed the same conclusion as I, and according to the previous responses, they did ! He's full of it. And yea, I cried laughing when a friend told me his current girlfriend is a druggy. I used to wonder why he'd push perfection to the left for disgusting strippers and druggies... but oh well. *shrugs*

And I'm not sure of his specific placements. But I wouldn't be surprised if he had virgo rising. It would explain a hell of a lot. He calls and texts every single day ... I ignore his communication attempts. We haven't had sex in almost two years. He wants it to bad.. lmao quite pathetic.. take the candy from the baby and watch them squirm.... he always says shxt like "I'm tired of settling for Burger King.. I want Ruth's Chris again." Basically using that metaphor to refer to me as the Ruth's Chris and his druggie/stripper girlfriends as the Burger King. I'm offended that he would actually think that I would fall for that BS. I just wish he would stop contacting me! I haven't responded since November 2013 !
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Posted by M143

PrettyQueenBee,

A Scorpio man in love will not tell you that... He will say.. Leave me alone!. lol

and I guess he is not in love with you... He is just put up the blame on himself like saying

he loves you but he cannot commit. lmao.

He keeps coming back because you're still accepting him.



You're right, I WAS still accepting him back... I cut off the sex back in 2012, and the communication towards the end of November 2013. Yet, he stills calls and texts. I don't wanna block his number... because I don't believe it should even go that far, but I may not have a choice.

I'm so done with Scorpios. That's the only sign in the entire zodiac that can get me to submit. I'm woman enough to admit that. I've more than a few encounters with them... they draw me in. I hope that my husband / wife or whoever I will marry is a Taurus. They really put up with my bull shxt. And they're so patient with me.
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Posted by M143

and oh.. Scorpio men don't like heavy make up for women. They criticize that...

Show your simple ways but still beautiful. they prefer it....



Actually, he didn't mind me wearing makeup. The men I date never have a problem with it.. I've been an artist since 17... they know what's up... and even if they prefer natal beauty ... I'd make them LOVE my cake face. lmfao
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I'm not a Scorpio but I always get a chuckle when people think a random person on the internet can give them insight about an individual they've never met.

I did chuckle when I read "dates a girl with a drug habit," lol...I don't know why that's funny but I laughed my ass off at that.

I do know of a similar situation in "real life." Does he have virgo rising, cap moon, sag or libra placements?



Oh no... it wasn't insight on him that I wanted... I'd go to his mother if it were that deep. I just wanted to see if others developed the same conclusion as I, and according to the previous responses, they did ! He's full of it. And yea, I cried laughing when a friend told me his current girlfriend is a druggy. I used to wonder why he'd push perfection to the left for disgusting strippers and druggies... but oh well. *shrugs*

And I'm not sure of his specific placements. But I wouldn't be surprised if he had virgo rising. It would explain a hell of a lot. He calls and texts every single day ... I ignore his communication attempts. We haven't had sex in almost two years. He wants it to bad.. lmao quite pathetic.. take the candy from the baby and watch them squirm.... he always says shxt like "I'm tired of settling for Burger King.. I want Ruth's Chris again." Basically using that metaphor to refer to me as the Ruth's Chris and his druggie/stripper girlfriends as the Burger King. I'm offended that he would actually think that I would fall for that BS. I just wish he would stop contacting me! I haven't responded since November 2013 !



You are hilarious! Lmfao at you referring to yourself as "perfection." You have a healthy self image thats for sure.
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Well... I am.
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Gotta love the "I am perfection, how dare he not love me?" act.

The Burger King reference cracked me up.

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I've watched him get into relationships with other women, and they're mediocre at best. I have no kids, I'm educated, I have a great career, definitely not a bad looking chick.... yet he dates strippers, chicks with busloads of kids, even a woman with a drug problem!



Mediocre by your standards. Also, by you implying that you're somehow better than another woman who has a kid..you're pathethic.

The thing that irks you is not that he dated strippers or women with drug problems, it's that he got into relationships with them, while going on and off with you for 13 years. Maybe you're way easier that all these women if you allowed it to go that long without cutting him off. Just something to ponder.
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Why does this reads like Love and Hip Hops Stevie J(Scorpio) and Mimi(Capricorn) situation?

She was also with him for 13yrs. Had a career etc, and he cheated on her with Joseline and married Joseline lol.

It does no good to think you are better than someone else. Life will always give you a hard lesson when it comes to that attitude. Also, you gotta want him to get him. If you don't want him, then leave him alone. There should be no in-between, and there has been just that for all these years.
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Posted by Damnata
Gotta love the "I am perfection, how dare he not love me?" act.

The Burger King reference cracked me up.

Posted by PrettyQueenBee
I've watched him get into relationships with other women, and they're mediocre at best. I have no kids, I'm educated, I have a great career, definitely not a bad looking chick.... yet he dates strippers, chicks with busloads of kids, even a woman with a drug problem!



Mediocre by your standards. Also, by you implying that you're somehow better than another woman who has a kid..you're pathethic.

The thing that irks you is not that he dated strippers or women with drug problems, it's that he got into relationships with them, while going on and off with you for 13 years. Maybe you're way easier that all these women if you allowed it to go that long without cutting him off. Just something to ponder.
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LMAOO ! Hmm... I've never been called pathetic before .... but this IS the internet, which means people will say whatever. Glad I'm not a weakling who gets offended over such... moving right along.

But seriously.... not only do I know they're mediocre... he knows it as well... he's even admitted to me that he knows this. Read everything.

He's also even admitted that he doesn't think he's good enough for me, and that he doesn't believe he has enough money for me.. little did he know I didn't even care about all of that. I guess he assumed I did because of my materialistic ways... I gave about 2% of the entire story. You can't sum up 13 years... well you can, but I didn't feel like it was necessary.

but you could be right... I USED to make it easy for him. Now that I've cut off all ties and communication for about 6 months, he hits me up daily. I don't and won't respond though.
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He says he loves me, but he claims he doesn't think he's ready for a serious relationship with me... I don't know if he's lying or what... I just wish I could pick his brain and get the REAL reasons as to why he's doing what he's doing.

I don't even care about him like I used to.

He calls and texts every single day ... I ignore his communication attempts.

take the candy from the baby and watch them squirm


you don't respect him and he knows this.
I just wish he would stop contacting me! I haven't responded since November 2013 !


...but yet, here you are.

Typical Cap/Scorp banter when you both choose to hide feelings and try to one up the other to protect yourself.

It never ends once one of you let it get started.
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You're exactly right !!
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Posted by IrresistableScorp
If you are too good for him, then why do you care? Just move along to someone who you aren't too good for. #problemsolved



If I cared, I wouldn't be ignoring him... And trust me, I've moved on last year. A weird text message he sent triggered this post. I went ahead and blocked him, because I know he's not going to stop contacting me until he gets a response. You would think he'd get the hint after 6 months.
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Posted by Shruikan
He probably just needs to feel more confident in himself before he can be with someone that is as confident as you. That's what it sounds like to me anyways.



Yea, I think you're right. When we were in high school he hated my confidence... but later on in life he admitted that he hated it because he was jealous of it. He said that he had issues with his confidence when we were younger..

. People used to call him ugly all of the time, but "shallow" ole me didn't give a damn ! I care more about someone's heart and character versus their looks. His looks improved over the years, but he had such an awesome personality and a magnetic energy about him... super intelligent, so his looks didn't matter to me. I would ignore my friends when they teased me for dating an "ugly" guy. He wasn't ugly to me. Which was all that matters.
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He probably just needs to feel more confident in himself before he can be with someone that is as confident as you. That's what it sounds like to me anyways.



Yea, I think you're right. When we were in high school he hated my confidence... but later on in life he admitted that he hated it because he was jealous of it. He said that he had issues with his confidence when we were younger..

. People used to call him ugly all of the time, but "shallow" ole me didn't give a damn ! I care more about someone's heart and character versus their looks. His looks improved over the years, but he had such an awesome personality and a magnetic energy about him... super intelligent, so his looks didn't matter to me. I would ignore my friends when they teased me for dating an "ugly" guy. He wasn't ugly to me. Which was all that matters.
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That's really nice. I wish more people thought like you. I was smart and fat growing up. I didn't lose the weight and come into my own till much later. I feel for the guy. Good for you though.
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Posted by lnana04
Why does this reads like Love and Hip Hops Stevie J(Scorpio) and Mimi(Capricorn) situation?

She was also with him for 13yrs. Had a career etc, and he cheated on her with Joseline and married Joseline lol.

It does no good to think you are better than someone else. Life will always give you a hard lesson when it comes to that attitude. Also, you gotta want him to get him. If you don't want him, then leave him alone. There should be no in-between, and there has been just that for all these years.



Hope ya'll don't believe everything you see on reality TV lol I doubt they're legally married in real life...

Anyway, yea I knew about them being a Scorpio/Capricorn couple. She used to be addicted to Stevie... kept taking him back.. Stevie probably could identify with Jose. In a sense that Mimi was such a priss and acted as if she had no imperfections... holding him to these impossible standards... whereas Jose had imperfections and displayed them. She didn't give a fxck. And anyone who knows a Scorpio well like I do knows which one the Scorpio would run to. Scorpios NEED to be in control.

And as far as my "attitude"... My method of thinking will always be the same. Hard lesson or not.
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I'll wear makeup until the day I die. It's 2014, and it's sad that there's still women who are anti-makeup. I've been in the makeup industry for 8 years .. I've worked for every major makeup brand you can think of. So it's a habit for me to wear it. Not to mention it's marketing tool and a way to draw in customers. It also serves as a way to express myself. People express themselves through clothes or their hair ... I choose to express myself through art..

When I meet men, it just so happens that I don't have any makeup on. MY men ... the men I date.. LOVE my #CakeFace LMFAO! ... and that's all that matters. I'm super girly... it's all a given... and besides ....

I'm not trying to impress people I don't want. 😉 haha
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Posted by PrettyQueenBee
It's deeper than the exterior for me...



Not deep enough since you only scratched surface level with the women he dated. You compared yourself to them which speaks of a self esteem issue within you that prompts you to think you are somehow above their level. Whether you are better or not..shouldn't factor in your confidence.

But you can't make him commit and for a short moment in time those women can..and you don't like it.

I love confident people, I immediately recognize one by the humbleness they carry with them in their back pocket. They also tend not to take themselves seriously and sometimes put up a fake act of arrogance for shits and giggles. You seem to take yourself way too seriously though so I'll gracefully bow out of this topic.
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It's deeper than the exterior for me...



Not deep enough since you only scratched surface level with the women he dated. You compared yourself to them which speaks of a self esteem issue within you that prompts you to think you are somehow above their level. Whether you are better or not..shouldn't factor in your confidence.

But you can't make him commit and for a short moment in time those women can..and you don't like it.

I love confident people, I immediately recognize one by the humbleness they carry with them in their back pocket. They also tend not to take themselves seriously and sometimes put up a fake act of arrogance for shits and giggles. You seem to take yourself way too seriously though so I'll gracefully bow out of this topic.
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I read this in that Charlie Brown *womp womp womp womp womp* voice. lmao
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I have so much fire in my chart...when I found this out about it a year ago, it made perfect sense. I'm definitely a Capricorn at heart.

But there's this nonchalant side of me... a side that is super sarcastic and can literally laugh at insults... walk out completely fine... not offended or anything. A lot of Capricorns I know of can't take jokes! Just like most Virgos and Taurus, they D up ! I actually love the fact that I have a lot of fire in my chart. It gives my earthy ass a lot of edge. lol
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Yes, lot's of fire is very good. I think it gives you a "I am over this" mental attitude when it comes to negative people. I have a grand fire trine and I'm usually positive person 95% of the time.

Being Gemini too helps.

It's no surprise that you're getting some of these responses. "the nail that sticks out gets hammered down."



I definitely get what you're saying. Lol especially that last sentence.. but I don't see it as getting hammered down. No one could ever take me out of my element and "hammer me down." Especially random people from the internet. Everyone has their opinions... you can tell a few people jumped the gun, but again... it's the internet. I could never allow myself to get offended by anything. It's a forum, where we're all free t say what we want. 98% of the responses made me laugh. Thank Gawd for that busload of FIRE in my chart, right? Just imagine if that fire was replaced by water.

lmao
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Nonetheless, thanks for ALL of the comments ! ALL OF THEM ! Even the failed attempts/shots at my character. lolol

But the Scorpio has been cancelled for well over 6 months... andI definitely have zero intentions of rekindling the flame. He knows what he's missing. I know this, and he's openly admitted this.

Plus my psychic said the same thing. Sometimes we HAVE to let the flame die. And I'm okay with that. I still have a nice lineup
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Nonetheless, thanks for ALL of the comments ! ALL OF THEM ! Even the failed attempts/shots at my character. lolol

But the Scorpio has been cancelled for well over 6 months... andI definitely have zero intentions of rekindling the flame. He knows what he's missing. I know this, and he's openly admitted this.

Plus my psychic said the same thing. Sometimes we HAVE to let the flame die. And I'm okay with that. I still have a nice lineup



Then why are you so concerned about the games he's playing and/or who he's fucking?
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I just love fire moons. We come in, guns blazing, then we backpedal like crazy and tell people they were insulting our character.

It's way too transparent.
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Yes, lot's of fire is very good. I think it gives you a "I am over this" mental attitude when it comes to negative people. I have a grand fire trine and I'm usually positive person 95% of the time.

Being Gemini too helps.

It's no surprise that you're getting some of these responses. "the nail that sticks out gets hammered down."



I definitely get what you're saying. Lol especially that last sentence.. but I don't see it as getting hammered down. No one could ever take me out of my element and "hammer me down." Especially random people from the internet. Everyone has their opinions... you can tell a few people jumped the gun, but again... it's the internet. I could never allow myself to get offended by anything. It's a forum, where we're all free t say what we want. 98% of the responses made me laugh. Thank Gawd for that busload of FIRE in my chart, right? Just imagine if that fire was replaced by water.

lmao



Lmao at your fire being replaced with water...You'd be a fucking emotional wreck, lol. Have you seen some of the water moon posts here? If you created a spread sheet following some of the more out spoken water people, the findings are SUPER interesting. You can even track them by the type of threads they jump into (race issues, emotional charged threads etc).
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And I don't mix well with emotions ! I hate being emotional, expressing emotions, etc. I've seen few water signs express themselves in certain threads and it was quite pathetic. LOL! Like come on ... it's the internet... no more... no less ! Take a chill pill, relax, and just agree to disagree.
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Yes, lot's of fire is very good. I think it gives you a "I am over this" mental attitude when it comes to negative people. I have a grand fire trine and I'm usually positive person 95% of the time.

Being Gemini too helps.

It's no surprise that you're getting some of these responses. "the nail that sticks out gets hammered down."



I definitely get what you're saying. Lol especially that last sentence.. but I don't see it as getting hammered down. No one could ever take me out of my element and "hammer me down." Especially random people from the internet. Everyone has their opinions... you can tell a few people jumped the gun, but again... it's the internet. I could never allow myself to get offended by anything. It's a forum, where we're all free t say what we want. 98% of the responses made me laugh. Thank Gawd for that busload of FIRE in my chart, right? Just imagine if that fire was replaced by water.

lmao



Lmao at your fire being replaced with water...You'd be a fucking emotional wreck, lol. Have you seen some of the water moon posts here? If you created a spread sheet following some of the more out spoken water people, the findings are SUPER interesting. You can even track them by the type of threads they jump into (race issues, emotional charged threads etc).
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CREEP!

lol
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Nonetheless, thanks for ALL of the comments ! ALL OF THEM ! Even the failed attempts/shots at my character. lolol

But the Scorpio has been cancelled for well over 6 months... andI definitely have zero intentions of rekindling the flame. He knows what he's missing. I know this, and he's openly admitted this.

Plus my psychic said the same thing. Sometimes we HAVE to let the flame die. And I'm okay with that. I still have a nice lineup



Then why are you so concerned about the games he's playing and/or who he's fucking?



I just love fire moons. We come in, guns blazing, then we backpedal like crazy and tell people they were insulting our character.

It's way too transparent.
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I hate to admit this Damnata, but you're absolutely right. lol
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Nonetheless, thanks for ALL of the comments ! ALL OF THEM ! Even the failed attempts/shots at my character. lolol

But the Scorpio has been cancelled for well over 6 months... andI definitely have zero intentions of rekindling the flame. He knows what he's missing. I know this, and he's openly admitted this.

Plus my psychic said the same thing. Sometimes we HAVE to let the flame die. And I'm okay with that. I still have a nice lineup



Then why are you so concerned about the games he's playing and/or who he's fucking?



I just love fire moons. We come in, guns blazing, then we backpedal like crazy and tell people they were insulting our character.

It's way too transparent.




I hate to admit this Damnata, but you're absolutely right. lol
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I know. I'm a Virgo lol.

We might not be always right but we're never wrong.
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