Scorpio Remore??

So my male friend of the last 5 years, my mother and ex whom I was with for 14 years are all scorpios. I've dated a few and I'm usually in sync with the unspoken BUT

last year I was in love with this one. I wrote about him one this site incessantly. Eventually we stopped speaking in October of last year. He texted or called a few times but since I wasn't over him, I ignored them. I started dating in February/March and eventually met my last bf. A few weeks ago he called me and I actually answered. We exchanged niceities and caught up on life. I sensed he was a little down and as the goofy one between us, I cheered him up. I we in a relationship at the time so I didn't want to really violate that so I ended the conversation.

Yesterday he text me he dreamed of me and could he call me. He tells me about the dream which was about a project I have been working on he saw working out well. Then he starts to confess having feelings past and present for me. I didn't know what to say so I asked to call him back. He calls me in the middle of the night (our usual speaking time when we were together) and continues about wanting another chance. I've never seen a Scorpio this transparent or earnest. He apologized for past behavior with literal depth. Only problem is I'm still reeling from my last break up and I honestly have never taken anyone back because I don't know how to trust them again. Idk if there's some planetary movements that is motivating this or absence making the heart grow fonder. He dated and been with others. His health, finances and other issues that I felt were a part of his self esteem issues aren't there any more. I don't want to insult him if he's being honest and I don't want to be guarded enough to not be objective.

From other scorpios, have you felt something like this? Knowing I may not be clear headed due to my break up and because y'all are brutally honest.

Why did you break up with him in the pass? What's your sign? I Dated other scorps and they all tried to come back for different reasons. You talk about the scorp being open and honest I think they always like this once you leave them or give them time alone for a lenght time frame .

Posted by Reincarnation
She's a Pisces.

@livictori - Aren't you still in a relationship though?

Nope.

Posted by livictori
From other scorpios, have you felt something like this?

No.

As for the rest of the OP, he may be very sincere and coming at you as a different person. Once a Scorp truly decides to do better, he/she does. Period. There are no half measures. If you ever hear a Scorp say "I'll try" you know you're getting one that is half steppin'. With that stated, go slow, build a true friendship and watch to see if his actions match his words. Is he actively putting you first? Is he being clear and honest and still being transparent as you two

move along (if you so choose to move along with him). If he is respecting the process and where you may be given your past, he won't push too hard (an assertive Scorp can look pushy though just saying 😄).

Also be transparent. Don't do any passive aggressive bs when insecure feelings or doubt pop up for you. They will. If your fears creep up because of your history with him, simply say so (e.g. "I'm feeling unsure about starting over with you again. I am still *insert whatever feeling here*" instead of simply pulling away when you're unsure). You pull that and you're asking for piss poor behaviour in return.

Keep in mind insecurity can creep up on anyone, so he may say some things that reflect that. This is not the same as him being the same old person you once knew. The difference will show in how he handles your observations and feedback when they creep up.

Good luck.

Posted by butterfly30
Why did you break up with him in the pass? What's your sign? I Dated other scorps and they all tried to come back for different reasons. You talk about the scorp being open and honest I think they always like this once you leave them or give them time alone for a lenght time frame .

He was sick with kidney issues and financial issues. He really acted to hyper masculine and while he wanted my help, things got lopsided. I just seem so different from who he presented. Maybe he was ambivalent. Maybe he's just lonely. I was just surprised by him revealing feelings and frustration from me "giving up" and how he dreamed of me and how "I am"

Posted by Reincarnation

Posted by livictori

Posted by butterfly30
Why did you break up with him in the pass? What's your sign? I Dated other scorps and they all tried to come back for different reasons. You talk about the scorp being open and honest I think they always like this once you leave them or give them time alone for a lenght time frame .

He was sick with kidney issues and financial issues. He really acted to hyper masculine and while he wanted my help, things got lopsided. I just seem so different from who he presented. Maybe he was ambivalent. Maybe he's just lonely. I was just surprised by him revealing feelings and frustration from me "giving up" and how he dreamed of me and how "I am"

Just be careful.

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I'm in no rush. I've had my one person for this year and I'm not even in the frame of mine to devote the time and attention it takes for another actual relationship. I'm pretty guarded at this point too. Just curious by his revelation and timing.