Scorpio Sun / Venus...getting over someone?

How do you Scorpio Sun / Venuses cope with getting over someone?

How do you react to being dumped?

How do you react to losing someone you miss?

Do you always retain feelings for them, unless they did something bad?

I personally find it very difficult to let go of someone I have attached to.

I never chase them, but will quitly stalk and pray that they will contact me again or miss me. I can sometimes jump right into a rebound relationship to replace the sense if intimacy I am missing. I find it quite hard to do anything!

Maybe this was a dumb question as no one dumps a Scorpio. Lol

Posted by LuckyLibra979
Well, I have a Venus conj. Pluto in Scorpio. I used to make a SCENE boy that shit would get ugly. Over time, I evolved. If someone wants out, I let em go and it hurts deeply, resounding and painfully. But I shift my focus because I know my love for that person will linger for a while, but I just focus that much harder on a goal. I basically throw myself completely into something constructive. Doesn't matter what as long as its not self destructive (I've been that also)

Over time, those hurricane waters subside and when my eyes are clear again, the pain is gone plus I've made progress on a new life.



So I basically used to implode, explode, self destruct and start a new. When I matured, I still have that episode but I let it go, focus on something new and throw myself into it until the pain is gone or the new life takes over which ever happens first tho they usually happen simultaneously

That's quite the transformation, how long did it take you to realize or I guess relearn how to channel that energy?

that's great self control!!

Posted by LuckyLibra979
Honestly, it did. At 27 I woke up n realized what hand I played in NY own demise with love

That's great insight at 27, I can tell you, I did not have that insight at that age, I question if I have that insight at my age now. lol 😄

Hey, don't ya just love those killer cop shows on tv?

You see that "rifle toting suspect" was a potential suicidal, with a rifle. Not a threat to anyone else. But the galaxy rangers where sure to fix him up good.

Whether he was a scorpio or not, who knows. No one ever asks the question "why did he do it" AND.... reveal the reasons when there are clues.

Potential clues:


Lost family
Lost spouse
Lost children
Lost job
Lost home
Lost friends
Lost health
Lost interest in life
Fellow citizens failed.
Government failed.
Psychiatric health failed.

People like that are erroneously judged by a weak society's ignorants
look down on them and call them "losers".
.
I'm pretty sure that if those ignorants were forced to wear the "loser"'s
shoes, they'd go down the same way, eventually.

You don't need a gun, knife, or a car or a badge to be a murderer.
Neither do you have to be guilty of every crime and sin, conceived to be a victim.
You just have to be pushed to the limit.
That's the reality for this world all around the globe, until it's all over and done with.

Posted by FrostAndBite
I actually have probably been dumped more than I did the dumping. Lol. In all truthfulness I think that's the easier pill to swallow too.

I used to flip my shit when younger. Not let things go. Be crazy. I still have the ability too now, I guess, I just try to temper and avoid that side of myself.

Now I just draw a solid boundary, the most important one to any kind of relationship in my life. If someone blatantly doesn't want me in their life, then I give em what they want.

Losing people still hurts. I still will miss them. But I will be able to let go enough to move forward.

As far as what happens to my feelings for them, over time they often fade into harmless nostalgia. Once that happens I've normally come to terms with the realities of that relationship and what it brought to my life. That can take months sometimes years though.

It's easier now than it used to be. I used to believe every connection that felt magnificent was meant to be permanent. Now I take each connection worth only what it is in that moment and try not to tarnish magic with worry, anxiety and insecurity.

Oh and Scorp Sun, Merc, Venus and Pluto

You're very similar to me, and same placements except my Merc is Sag.

It's SO hard for me to let go, even now, of people that I once loved...but I do get there eventually

How interesting...I also get over relationships much better if we stay friends.

I always thought this was because (if they ended it) I feellike they still care and value me and have not disappeared completely - but as you say it could very well also be the concept of not romanticising the absent lover into a perfect memory.

For me the very worst thing about breakups are the ones I did not see coming or are unexplained. I would seriously rather someone cheated on me and was in love with another woman so I had a clear reason; than someone just disappear without a cause that I can see.

Perhaps that is a sore point for me..as I had a "Runaway Husband"...AKA...one that I thought I was VERY happily with who quite literally disappeared and never came back.

Posted by AlaniaB
Maybe this was a dumb question as no one dumps a Scorpio. Lol

Hahaha wrong. Scorpios get dumped just like any other huamn being.

Posted by LuckyLibra979
Well, I have a Venus conj. Pluto in Scorpio. I used to make a SCENE boy that shit would get ugly. Over time, I evolved. If someone wants out, I let em go and it hurts deeply, resounding and painfully. But I shift my focus because I know my love for that person will linger for a while, but I just focus that much harder on a goal. I basically throw myself completely into something constructive. Doesn't matter what as long as its not self destructive (I've been that also)

Over time, those hurricane waters subside and when my eyes are clear again, the pain is gone plus I've made progress on a new life.



So I basically used to implode, explode, self destruct and start a new. When I matured, I still have that episode but I let it go, focus on something new and throw myself into it until the pain is gone or the new life takes over which ever happens first tho they usually happen simultaneously

Very insightful, I like your answer!

I agree that even though unlike @infinite8 I have sadly been dumped a few times (boo hoo) they have actually always missed me and found it really hard to get over.

Maybe that Scorp love is quite hard to replace because it's just so intense.

Maybe my Pisces Moon but I never give up on relationships, even if they are bad I convince myself a long time that they are good. i am not sure why...but it's part of me to try and fix. It would be better if I let go easier.