@Affection44
11 Years
Scorpio woman - shy or not interested?
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She would make those little teenie moves when we watch movies at hers and I get up to turn up the volume or something, she would lay down in a way that I fall into her arms etc. Nothing too obvious though.
I have asked her on multiple occasions whether she is feeling me and she said "yes". Her actions however don't really show it, so I am confused as to should I initiate getting closer or no?
I am really and truly attracted to that girl and I want to get closer (if you know what I mean), but she keeps bringing up the fact that I have talked to the other (more aggressive) girl first and that she is "different".
I noticed that her body language responds only when I pull away. Let's say I carress her for a few minutes and then turn away. Only when I turn away she respicrocates it.
I don't want to come accross as desperate (especially since I told her that I liked her already), but I don't know what to do. Be more patient or make the first move?
Not sure whether my questions are clear, but what I wanna know is basically:
- since Scorpios "like mystery" should I just fall back and let her come at me?
- should I pay attention to her words or to her actions?
She is 25 btw, so maybe she's just young and has doubt in me anyway since she knows I'm not lesbian and she doesn't want to take it there?
I mean the way I am attracted to her and the way I think about her every day since I met her probably imply that I am at least bi.. I am not sure myself, but she can help me figure out? 😄
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Thank you for your input, TeaMint. I refuse to believe however, that lesbianism is an illness which needs treatment.
I am just happy to find out that I can really like and potentially love somebody for who they are male or female.
You should just tell her she has aroused curiosity in you.... And see what happens 🙂
I am an Aries @ Ramb
And you may be right, I think that's what it is for the most part. It makes me sad however, because I really DO like her and I think about her all the time. To the point that I compromise my own plans just to be able to spend time with her.
I have had experiences with women before and I can def be attracted to women, but she is the first one, whom I could imagine a relationship with. If that qualifies me as only "bi-curious" then that's fine, but I am getting frustrated and even mad that she does not take me serious..
I consider myself straight and I haven't had any experiences w/women. I can't say that I haven't considered however.
I have had experiences with women before and I can def be attracted to women, but she is the first one, whom I could imagine a relationship with. If that qualifies me as only "bi-curious" then that's fine, but I am getting frustrated and even mad that she does not take me serious..
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Ummm, which is it?
Thank you for your input, Ramb 🙂
She is a stud, so I am not sure about the chasing part at all tbh. She gives me clear signs that she likes me on one hand e.g. she initiates kissing, asks me to hang out etc, but she also keeps saying that she wished that I would have had actual intercourse with someone else, so that she wouldn't be my first to go all the way. She also keeps repeating how she is different and that she moves super slow when it comes to relationships.
I have opened to her about it already and said that I like her too much to just be hanging out and she just looked at me kind of shocked and said: "I thought we were just chilling?". Not sure how to interpret any of this at this point :/
can see how that sounded unclear. I have felt attracted to women before (even in my childhood) and I have done everything with them besides "going all the way". Making out, foreplay etc. but something always came in between of us having actual intercourse...
I consider myself straight and I haven't had any experiences w/women. I can't say that I haven't considered however.
I have had experiences with women before and I can def be attracted to women, but she is the first one, whom I could imagine a relationship with. If that qualifies me as only "bi-curious" then that's fine, but I am getting frustrated and even mad that she does not take me serious..
Ummm, which is it?
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an Aries too from what I can see, right? I think that it feels natural for us to take the lead sometimes that's why I kind of have been doing it when trying to let her know that what I feel is genuine, but you may be right with the "too pushy" aspect about it. I expect her to believe me and it's frustrating when she doesn't. I think however, that this energy is organic between her and me - me being an Aries and wanting to lead sometimes and her being a somewhat shy Scorpio. I am not sure whether I am not giving her space to come and pursue me however, maybe it's an idea to give it a try. Especially since she only responds to me when I pull away...
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And you may be right, I think that's what it is for the most part. It makes me sad however, because I really DO like her and I think about her all the time. To the point that I compromise my own plans just to be able to spend time with her.I have had experiences with women before and I can def be attracted to women, but she is the first one, whom I could imagine a relationship with. If that qualifies me as only "bi-curious" then that's fine, but I am getting frustrated and even mad that she does not take me serious..
OH! Then that doesn't make you bicurious anymore then!
I think you should make a move..but don't get too pushy about it.
Most important thing I feel is, you need to talk to her about this.
It is also possible that she might not be comfortable with you chasing her. (It is said that most Scorpio women don't like being chased but prefer to do the chasing - however my Scorp ex was the exception to the rule and your Scorpio probably may be too.)
I still think you need to talk to her about this. Tell her how you feel, pour your heart out to her, then see what she says.
Good luck!
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I am really and truly attracted to that girl and I want to get closer (if you know what I mean), but she keeps bringing up the fact that I have talked to the other (more aggressive) girl first and that she is "different".
... I don't know what to do. Be more patient or make the first move?
Translation: I am not going to be the type of girl that moves fast. This is me. So chill out.
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have opened to her about it already and said that I like her too much to just be hanging out and she just looked at me kind of shocked and said: "I thought we were just chilling?". Not sure how to interpret any of this at this point :/click to expand
See above.
Also, my ex Virgo use to always say: "give someone enough time and they will eventually show their ass" and I've applied that to every relationship ever since. What that means is I can like you a great deal and may want to f*ck the hell out of you, but I will wait until I get a good sense of who you are. She does not appear to be the type to want to move fast with you because she is trying to get a sense of who you are. Just chilling means that. I need to get a better sense of who you are.
I'm also thinking that she doesn't want to be your little experiment. I'm not suggesting that this is your plan, but the fact that you're so eager and she made of point of identifying to type of women you are use to and that she does not want to be your first full on sexual experience, it sounds like she's waiting for you to "show your ass". Be patient and consistent and See where that goes. Just "be" with her without all the sexual expectation. Open up on a different level and see where it goes.
PS. Just because a Scorp doesn't want to screw you on the first couple of dates does not mean she/he is "shy" or lacks interest. Contrary to popular belief Scorps are not sex gods, many have expectaions and standards and apply self control regularly.
Good luck.
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hehe yeah, I can see how that sounded unclear. I have felt attracted to women before (even in my childhood) and I have done everything with them besides "going all the way". Making out, foreplay etc. but something always came in between of us having actual intercourse...I consider myself straight and I haven't had any experiences w/women. I can't say that I haven't considered however.
I have had experiences with women before and I can def be attracted to women, but she is the first one, whom I could imagine a relationship with. If that qualifies me as only "bi-curious" then that's fine, but I am getting frustrated and even mad that she does not take me serious..
Ummm, which is it?
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Okay. Why not? *pulls up chair, pours a fresh cup of tea*
I am really and truly attracted to that girl and I want to get closer (if you know what I mean), but she keeps bringing up the fact that I have talked to the other (more aggressive) girl first and that she is "different".
... I don't know what to do. Be more patient or make the first move?
Translation: I am not going to be the type of girl that moves fast. This is me. So chill out.
Posted by Affection44
have opened to her about it already and said that I like her too much to just be hanging out and she just looked at me kind of shocked and said: "I thought we were just chilling?". Not sure how to interpret any of this at this point :/See above.
Also, my ex Virgo use to always say: "give someone enough time and they will eventually show their ass" and I've applied that to every relationship ever since. What that means is I can like you a great deal and may want to f*ck the hell out of you, but I will wait until I get a good sense of who you are. She does not appear to be the type to want to move fast with you because she is trying to get a sense of who you are. Just chilling means that. I need to get a better sense of who you are.
I'm also thinking that she doesn't want to be your little experiment. I'm not suggesting that this is your plan, but the fact that you're so eager and she made of point of identifying to type of women you are use to and that she does not want to be your first full on sexual experience, it sounds like she's waiting for you to "show your ass". Be patient and consistent and See where that goes. Just "be" with her without all the sexual expectation. Open up on a different level and see where it goes.
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This is true and a great reminder. Being impulsive, intuitive and emotional as I am to me it felt a little bit like rejection. I still have to work on my patience I guess..
As far as why IT never happened, either it was not the right time, the right place or either of us was on her period :-I
See above.
Also, my ex Virgo use to always say: "give someone enough time and they will eventually show their ass" and I've applied that to every relationship ever since. What that means is I can like you a great deal and may want to f*ck the hell out of you, but I will wait until I get a good sense of who you are. She does not appear to be the type to want to move fast with you because she is trying to get a sense of who you are. Just chilling means that. I need to get a better sense of who you are.
I'm also thinking that she doesn't want to be your little experiment. I'm not suggesting that this is your plan, but the fact that you're so eager and she made of point of identifying to type of women you are use to and that she does not want to be your first full on sexual experience, it sounds like she's waiting for you to "show your ass". Be patient and consistent and See where that goes. Just "be" with her without all the sexual expectation. Open up on a different level and see where it goes.
This is true and a great reminder. Being impulsive, intuitive and emotional as I am to me it felt a little bit like rejection. I still have to work on my patience I guess..
As far as why IT never happened, either it was not the right time, the right place or either of us was on her period :-I
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Hmph. That will be a damper on things. No doubt.
Yeah, just try to chill out and you may see some movement. When she responds to you moving away that's a "good" thing (in a sense). If she let you move away then I'd be worried.
I state good thing in a sense becasue she's clearly sensing your impatience and trying to accommodate. Be careful though. You continue to show her patience and she may tell you to bugger off. Been there, done that. As a fixed sign I'm not moving at anyone else's speed but my own. Scorps geneally need more time to open up. Be patient, but firm when needed and be clear in your communciation and consistent and you'll be rewarded.
*show her impatience.
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I'm a 27 year old woman. About a month ago I met a girl, who for some reason got my attention and now I have a very hard crush on her.
I consider myself straight and I haven't had any experiences w/women. I can't say that I haven't considered however.
Anyway when I met this girl it was at my evening job (bartending) and she was there w/a group of people. However, that night another one of her friends aggressively flirted with me and got me to give her my number.
After a while I figured out that I actually liked HER, but she was being very shy and quite and only smiled at me. She later also let me know that it didn't sit well w/her that I talked to this other girl first, which is understandable.
After a few weeks we exchanged numbers as she showed up at my job again and we hung out a few times (both quite nights and drunk club nights). We made out a few times, but when I stay at hers she barely makes any moves. I am not sure whether she is attracted to me or no. She keeps saying it and always texts me, but when we are close she doesn't take the initiative.
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