Scorpio women wants to be single :/

Hello,

Ive been seeing this scorpio women for about 3 months now. she broke up with her ex of 5 years and I started seeing her right after. she's always said to me hey i want to be single for now to figure myself from the beginning but now 3 months later. shes still wanting to be single and now she doesnt want to be exclusive anymore either. she says she really likes me and doesnt want to lose me, but would rather be single to find herself because her previous relationship, all of last year she felt like she was living her ex's life and not her own life ( figuring out where to work, and other srtuff). We have had sex but she goes out clubbing sometimes with her friends and shes told me that shes single so....you know she can do what single girls do at clubs. but she says she would not go as far as having sex with someone else when shes with me.

I honestly do not know what to do, let her go and say when you figure yourself out and want a relationship, msg me? or what do I do im really confused because I really like her. she does also seem alittle bit selfish too sometimes and I feel like she changes her mind/behaviour like every four days...

I feel that she just came out of 5 years of relationship, it would be quite difficult for her to jump into another relationship this quickly !

I would give her some space and time to think. Scorpio doesn't like to jump into things quickly, they like their space and time.

She's a scorpio. Giving her space for about 5 more years sounds about right.

so sorry but the others are right - let her go

I've done exactly what she has done with guys. If she wanted to be tied down by you, she would have been.

Her telling you she wants more freedom, means she probably doesn't view you as someone she would ever commit to. If I am being honest.

Better you learn this now and not thirteen years into a marriage and kids like my coworkers soon to be ex husband 😩

Sounds like she just got out of something heavy, I wouldn't expect anything too serious yet and its for your own good. You can't be with someone that still has someone else in their heart, I as a scorp can't do that. I must be free of one to even think about the other. Protect your heart

Posted by nikkistar
I've done exactly what she has done with guys. If she wanted to be tied down by you, she would have been.

Her telling you she wants more freedom, means she probably doesn't view you as someone she would ever commit to. If I am being honest.

True or bad timing

Thank you! I am giving her space now and I have not messaged her for about 3 days and she just started snapchatting me. I know im not taking this serious anymore and trying to move on.

she did tell me before when we were talking that she saw her ex at the bus stop and she looked away and kept walking and I asked her what else happened? and she said nothing I wouldnt get back with him.

I think she has other stuff she needs to deal with like finding a better job ( she was telling me she wants to send like 5 job applications everyday )

or like someone else said she does not see me as someone she would commit to.

but regardless im moving on and last text she said was your special to me trust me and lets see what future has for us, I really dont want to lose the connection we have...but for now lets take it slow and see and I didnt reply and 3 days later she send me snapchats

Posted by gardy
I honestly do not know what to do, let her go and say when you figure yourself out and want a relationship, msg me? ...

Yes.

Posted by gardy
Thank you! I am giving her space now and I have not messaged her for about 3 days and she just started snapchatting me. I know im not taking this serious anymore and trying to move on.

she did tell me before when we were talking that she saw her ex at the bus stop and she looked away and kept walking and I asked her what else happened? and she said nothing I wouldnt get back with him.

I think she has other stuff she needs to deal with like finding a better job ( she was telling me she wants to send like 5 job applications everyday )

or like someone else said she does not see me as someone she would commit to.

but regardless im moving on and last text she said was your special to me trust me and lets see what future has for us, I really dont want to lose the connection we have...but for now lets take it slow and see and I didnt reply and 3 days later she send me snapchats

Scorp take a long time to get over someone. By getting over doesn't mean only romantic feelings, but it's just some ego/ hurt/ pain everything mixed that scorps don't let bygones be bygones so easily. They are super level loyal and mostly revolve their entire life around their love interest.

N that's why when it breaks, scorps mostly get a little numb for sometime. This doesn't mean she's still hung up on him. But she's just given so much that she needs time to revitalize herself and yes i agree she does like you. She likes you that's why she doesn't want you to be a rebound and keep you on hold.

Let her heal. She'll come to you when she's ready. Also, as with any other sign, she'll miss you more when you ain't around.

But yeah, please don't keep your hopes sky high. Like someone said healing process is very long and messed up for scorps and i wouldn't want you wasting your time so much.

Take care. Be genuine to her and to yourself. Good luck!

Hello,

Just wanted to give you guys an update.

after a week of not contacting her, she tried contacting me and I thought she wanted to see me so I invited her over and she basically said no lets just be friends and i said why.....

@nikkistar was dead on. She told me she doesnt want to hurt me and string me along and then one day break up with me. and she said "im a very special guy that i want in my life but as friends not as a romantic partner" .....so basically she never viewed me as someone she would ever commit to.

Very sad. but atleast she told me this now and not in a few months where I would be devastated and now I got some closure.

I told her I need some space and we shouldnt talk anymore.

Thank you everyone for there comments. I'll be okay.