Scorpios and Love

why bail at all? just hang out and annoy the person till they flee from you in horror. 40% of the time it works every time.

Love completely sucks for us...its hard..we try to give, but its all complicated mess...it messes with our head..we go from one passionate affair to another, never really satisfying our needs..partly because we can't actually EVER be satisfied...

**sigh**

Scorp-in-Law..but guaranteed once your virgo figures out your needs and emotions and you finally feel that you've reached the place you've wanted to with him..you'll yearn for another experience..the challenge has been met..and now you need a new one..you'll feel bored...well actually don't know about you, you seem quite level headed..but I guess we're all the same when it comes to emotions..Its just a never ending story..

At times it really sucks!

I often get told "you expect waaaaaaay too much from someone"

I can't help it..I am actually really cruel emotionally to the people I love..I don't know whether thats testing..or its just naturally in me to do so..But then on the flipside, I can love with fierce abandon..Hmmmm

Scorpenez ...Where therez EVIL ....therez no LOVE.

Ladydane: "Is 'never an emotional dull moment' a blessing or a curse."

I think its both..Although we are emotional folk, its a blessing in that we are strong enough to handle our emotions, if we WANT to..We can do anything if we WANT to..that Desire thing again isn't it...I DESIRE, THEREFORE I GET..

Curse because when we do GET..we don't WANT..

We're just fkn crazy

Scorp - In- Law: "Once we decide to leave, especially if the person had great importance in our lives, we still feel this strange sense of responsibility (or protection) toward them. "

And u decide to leave without a trace. I dont know how this feeling of "protection" helps heal the scars. Or maybe U guys think that itz a noble gesture which shall further elevate U.

Scorp - In- Law: "Ending an important relationship requires us to walk through that fire alone"

I dont understand this ....U guys are hypnotic, having microscopic vision, logical, investigative , the best-in-class...And yet U manage to get into relationships in which U have to first work hard on ur partner's weaknesses and then eventually desert ?

Impressive Drama !

Guru: Wheres theres EVIL, theres too much love..too much for even us folks to comprehend..

Guru: "And yet U manage to get into relationships in which U have to first work hard on ur partner's weaknesses and then eventually desert?"

You sum us up quite well...LOL..

Transformers.....Robots in disguise

Thats the slogan for us Scorps..or should be.

"Transformers.....Robots in disguise
"

No it shud go like this -

Soldiers of Darkness....Losers in disguise 😉

Oh dear...you've got it bad...

**strokes Gurus hands**

It'll be ok...

Thanks Mizzy ....That did help ...U guys are just fab 😉...What do U charge for that BTW ?

The charge is your soul.

Thanks and peace out

"sometimes I wonder, MM if you are not really a gem in disguise"

SHOCK HORROR, SLAPPPPPPP

How dare you!

😉

Yes, I hear you. I have felt something similar with Scorp..but at that time we were young and also never got to really complete the relationship..

You sound pretty stable and happy with this Virgo guy..wishing you all the best..

"I get bored when I feel intellectually stagnant or when I have to do tasks that require repetition of mindless detail. I have an insatiable thirst for relevant knowledge and mastering new skills."

I too suffer from this and as a result, everything else becomes mundane around me too..

Does this affect your relationship in anyway though?

EG: "what is it that holds YOU back from finding satisfaction and fulfillment with your partners?"

I wish I knew..Its sooooooo difficult to describe..and put into words..

"Or maybe the kind of intimacy I am seeking doesn't even exist..."

Hence the reason most people say that I expect "waaaaaaaaaay too much" from a partner..

I hear you.

Its all about the mind...Power of the mind...oooh what a wonderful thing that is...It drives me potty...but I LOVE IT

SIL - it's that 5% that'll keep things fun and interesting in the long run....so let him keep that mystery 😛

Showing possessiveness and saying you love somebody so early are signs of immaturity...trust me!...beware..

Don't mean to burst your bubble or anything..

Dy: "My Rising Sign is Scorp - makes me intensely anal-retentive - I mean, detail-oriented - dammit!!"

Me too...

:S

LOL

Scorp-In-Law...that query was aimed at provoking thought and not justification.
Anyways however ideal U may sound ...But it may be true aft all.
And U r rt wen U speak of my specific situation.

If a relationship "fails" ...Yes normally u contribute 50 % to that. In fact even when it is snapped ...therez a lot which u cud do... but u didn't.

The idea of working/negotiating hard is appealing..yeah. It just shudn't go against the grain frequently though.

I can comprehend the underpinnings when U speak abt "impulses" and "negative behavior". My view is that certain amount of "negativity" creeps in irrespective of what u may have gone thru.It just wont disappear...goez for anyone and anything.

I think itz part of the "hard work" to confront and iron out the issues...externally if ur mate is equally receptive and internally if he/she aint.

SIL- "I've never known anyone to flee a relationship 'because' they were madly in love"

Acknowledging the implicit, even I have never known such species.

But I have known one to flee a relationship "when" they actually were madly in love.

Don't know whether Uve got the right direction ...But the song indeed sounds funny.

yes yes yes!!!! I am the best at seeing clearly through things, my middle name even means , to think clear. Yet when it comes to relationships, tunnel vision! lol I wear my heart on my sleeves forreal. I always feel unappreciated towards the middle and or end, and it seems like guys usually take me for granted once they have my attention. i don't like every guy that comes around, in fact, I am very picky, yet I pick the wrong ones.LOL. ANd most men i have dated admired me from a close and or a far before darting me , so once they have my attention , they go balistic. I hate that!! Realtionships just aren't MY SPECIALITY, I hate to say THIS BUT, I am thee best lover, heart warmer, soul stealer, but I have yet to meet my match , or did I? I believe that I have energy that causes men to want to go back in their past and fix broken pieces. solve, unresolved issues. I have had men think they wanted a break and date other women, I have had men say , they needed to heal from the past. YET THEY ALWAYS COME BACK TO ME , BECAUSE I AM THE TRUTH. The most recent guy I am dating , just messed up. We have been getting close, and he , might I add, has had a crush on me for years, I mean years now. He says, he wishes that he met me before he went over seas, which is when he was dating his ex girlfriend. He says he would dream about me. He comes on hella strong, takes me out, spends his dough on me, took me to dinner , movies, and ice cream and got me a gift bag full of chocolate indvidual candies, and a card , saying how fabulous I was, for my birthday. He drove 150 miles just to surprise me for my birthday. The brotha is into something. We talk all the time. Well he told me that we were evolving , and I had just introduced him to my sweet kisses and what not. So after he said that, I asked him were we going to see other people or just each other, I asked for clarification purposes. I am not ready to be committed to him yet, i have to continue to observe, I wanted to know to see where he is coming from, so that I CAN KNOW HOW I SHOULD HANDLE HIM AND OR DEAL WITH HIM... girls! why did he say it's all about him right now, he doesn't know what he wants to do, he just got out of a relationship 6 months ago, and what not. so I SAID TO HIM, i asked you from the start , were you over your break up and you said yes!, I also aked him was he over the situation , was he over her, and he said , yes!. I addressed this when he was telling me this stuff, then he goes on with, well i th

well i thought i was getting over it, but I'm not! and there are still memories left, and a lot of time was invested in that relationship. I was laying there with my beautiful azz like, what? so then i ask him, are you over it or not? he says , not really. so then he says I don't want to talk about it. So of course me, I forced him to talk, and he gets a little frustrated because he hates when I do that. I was like do you still have feelings or not, he goes yeah a little, with a huge , I'ma teach your ass a lesson dialect. I know he's confused , well it was said that he has been gggggggenuine about his feelings but he became very confused once I asked him to become exclusive. I mean the day before my b-day. well I flew my little ass home, to Los Angeles for my birthday and I left him a note , telling him how i felt and telling him , that he must not know who I am. I also told him I wouldn't had gotten involved if i knew he was confused about his feelings for someone in his past. I told him that I hope he was aware of what he had expressed to me. Mind you, I asked him theses questions when he was half sleep, and late at night, best time to get information from men , hint+ girls.lol.. anyhow i just got back in town from celbrating the whole weekend, oh yeah my b-day was on the 12th ya'll.!!! He called me and left me a message on my b-day. I didn't call him the whole time I was home in LA, I HAD TO CELEBRATE MY LIFE AND NO ONE , NO MAN COMES IN BETWEEN ME AND BIRTH-DATE.!! ANYHOW JUST GETTING BACK IN TOWN YESTURDAY, I CALLED AND LEFT HIM MESSAGE WHEN I WAS ON THE PLANE TUESDAY MORNING. I TOLD HIM ABOUT MY BIRTHDAY WEEKEND, AND I TOLD HIM THAT, I HOPE HE WAS TAKING HEED TO THE NOTE I LEFT HIM, AND THAT THE STUFF I WROTE NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED AND THAT HE WAS GOING TO HAVE TO COME TO ME AND ADDRESS THE ISSUE.! I HAVEN'T TALKED TO HIM AND I DON'T PLAN ON CALLING, I FEEL SO HURT AND LET DOWN! I GUESS HE NEEDS TO REALIZE THAT, I AM HELL OF A WOMAN, THEE BEST THING THAT HAPPENED TO HIM. I GUESS THAT'S WHERE THAT WHOLE , LIKE AND LEAVE THEM THING COMES IN. KNOWING WE NEED TO WALK AWAY, BUT NOT WALKING, AND OR WEARING OUR HEARTS ON OUR SLEEVE. I MEAN DANG IT , I GUESS WE MOVED TO DAMN FAST. I PUT SO MUCH ENErGY AND LOVE IN EVERYTHING I DO , DANG IT... I WISH MEN WOULD JUST SEE... TELL ME GIRLS , WHAT;S YOUR INSIGHT, SINCE MY LOVE INSIGHT IS TUNNEL VISION..

With a load of hurt and shock at realising she wasn't who she thought and not as safe as she had imagined.

Poor girl. 😢

Do Scorps ALWAYS walk away though? The guy I briefly went out with seems to be closer to me than ever now. It's been two months, so we're not talking 'push-pull' - just, we seem to now have a friendship where he shares deep stuff, thoughts, fears, etc with me. And flirts more than ever, but I know that means nothing!

I'm glad it has become a friendship - perhaps if I'd tried hating him he'd have had enough drama out of it to continue, eh? lol

Oh he's a flirt... but really, just with me. Double entendres, references to shared history, etc... I was confused for a while, wondering if it was the 'confusing double signals' stuff but it obviously isn't real 'interest' (as in romantic) because it's two months since we finished so I think even the slowest-moving Scorpio would have perhaps done the 'want you back' performance by now.

No, I think he must just be happy being friends. He flirts when we're together (we meet at night classes) but he doesn't go out of his way to contact me at other times. I don't even think I'm his ego boost, I think he genuinely values my friendship. He's having a tough time personally right now for various reasons.

Damn, I got into that Friend Zone again!

Are YOU a flirt, Sagigoat? Perhaps your style is different with different people and you bring out the serious side of Scorps? Not necessarily a bad thing, I wouldn't have thought.

They look like Carrie Bradshaw, which I guess is why you hate SATC so much!! (I love it but it took me years to get round Carrie's ridiculous flirting).

It seriously annoys me when I see women doing that and it seems to be working, but I do flirt in other ways (wordplays, etc). That eyelid-batting, body-twisting stuff just irritates the hell out of me - perhaps cos I know I simply wouldn't 'lower myself' to do it, yet men seem to like it.

Eeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!

I WAS going to post and tell Sagigoat not to bother flirting with me, but I'm hoping her remark was addressed to men! lol

***When Scorps are serious about love, we employ every one of our senses to investigate, research, understand, and connect with that special person. Because our strongest intuitions about people are seldom wrong, we hang on, looking for ways to bring out the best in them. We continue to try and draw out what we know is there, even when they don't yet know it themselves. It makes throwing in the towel hard, when we still see the potential.

Once we decide to leave, especially if the person had great importance in our lives, we still feel this strange sense of responsibility (or protection) toward them. They stay in our thoughts, and we still contemplate ways of offering help and assistance?even when we know it isn't practical. That constant conflict causes incredible pain.****

This couldn't have been said any clearer and more accurate. This goes for scorpio males and females.