Scorpios dating Cancer

So I have been seeing this Scorpio guy for the past two months (I am a Cancer male). We are taking it slow as we want to get to know each other and really want to establish a relationship by seeing where this goes. We have EVERYTHING in common and I have never felt so comfortable around him. I love his strong character and he loves my sense of humor and ease with myself. I really like him and though he is a typical scorpio (hides his emotion with the most stolid mask and acts very cold and aloof!) I can tell he likes me by the way he treats me compared to others around him. Plus, he gives that LOOK that Scorpio's give that tells it all. Plus, recently we went dancing, and I caught him looking at me and each time my eyes met his, he'd turn away nervously and smirk to himself. He also tends to be a bit shy around me after a while. For example, when he asked me to meet his friends for an outing, his voice became very soft and timid. Normally he is a very dominate and confident man, but he seems to be very timid around me at times.
Mind you, we have not been intimate yet as we truly do want to establish a rapport. I know it takes a while for them to open up, but I find my Cancer sensitivity and moodiness getting the best of me. For example, one week when we text, he will respond quick and be attentive. Others he will take a million years to respond. And some he won't respond at all, such as this week when I texted him on Tuesday just to say how are you and Friday to see if he wanted to meet up this weekend. I know Scorpios do not trust AT ALL and I am the typical Cancer where I am loyal and totally dedicated. I even told him recently that even though he is busy (he has a tremendously demanding job and he was truly sincere when he told me) I still want to get to know him and see where it goes, and he was quite happy. But still, these not responding when I text him from time to time (really once a week....I don't want to appear needy and I know Scorpios need space) are just driving me mad and I find myself wondering if I misread him, sulking into insecurity and sadness. My gut says to be patient and he will come around and I am so into this guy so much that I will wait until the end of the world for him to open up, and as a stubbon Cancer, I won't give up on him (my instincts just tell me he's the one too - it's that feeling where you just KNOW. I got it from the first date). Could I have advice from any Scropios dating cancers on this?

I've never dated a Cancer, so you probably don't want to hear from me.


I will say I think you should be a little more specific about what your concerns are and what it is you want to know. It'll help others give you more relevant and perhaps useful feedback.

Hello!

Bascially the characteristics of dating a Scorpio. I have heard of the Scorpio disappearing act (not responding for weeks and suddenly rebounding) and that scorpios can be difficult when establishing a relationship with them. So what I am bascially asking for is characteristics of the Scorpio male when dating and tips for other water signs (such as Cancer, me) when dating them.

For example, I believe I am currently experiencing his "disappearing act" moment....it came after we had a very intimate slow dance and I told him that despite his busy schedule, I am still interested in getting to know him and see where this goes (which he responded to happily and postively). This week, I texted him twice...no response.

You know, when I look around the various forums, I tend to notice that for every sign, there is a so-called "disappearing act" for which the male counterparts are known.


You're going to get so much advice when it comes to relationships, ya know? My hope is that you are able to filter through and make use of the most applicable feedback. We tend to hone in on what it is we want to hear, dismissing the rest. I've done that before. More importantly, it is great that you trust your intuition. Continue to recognize and listen to it. You know what you want and need.

Some people seek restoration by isolating themselves every now and then. I am one of those people. I do not rely heavily on my cell phone. Many tell me I am hard to reach by phone/texts. I am not a "phone person", but I respect people who are and try to understand when they get frustrated with my tendencies.

I guess what I'm saying is that if you want to wait for him to come around (which you seem to want), then that's admirable because it shows that you are being understanding and respecting his needs. But, I hope that you also remember to acknowledge your own. If you are a person who needs more frequent contact and clearer communication with a potential mate, then I hope you consider this and bring it to the table, before setting down with this Scorp (or anyone for that matter).

Good luck to you!

ScorSuperior: Thank you so much for your advice! Yes, I have been listening to my gut a lot more on this one. I do like lots of communication but there is something about this one that just says "Be patient; he's worth it". I do respect his time and space because I am truly into this man and I feel something good will come out. I know now he is not being in constant communication, but I feel deep inside, that within time, he will be everything I am looking for in a relationship (he already is everything I want in a person and his good heart is what catches me).

Kadri: It's a particular look; it's hard to describe. You just know. The first time I noticed it was after our first date. We parted and when I turned to look at him, he looked back and BAM - it was that gaze and smile. On other occasions, it's just this glance or this gaze. Scorpio only gives it to someone they are interested in as they are trying to analyze you intensely. It's a look and him and I can litteraly just stare into each others eyes for several minutes and in that gaze it's all explained.

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Some people seek restoration by isolating themselves every now and then. I am one of those people. I do not rely heavily on my cell phone. Many tell me I am hard to reach by phone/texts. I am not a "phone person", but I respect people who are and try to understand when they get frustrated with my tendencies.

+1. I have been known to shut off absolutely everything that will connect me to the outside world(e.g. phone, cell, computer) just to have time to myself, especially if I am in state where I am developing intense feelings for someone and need time to sort through my thoughts/feelings.

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Some people seek restoration by isolating themselves every now and then. I am one of those people. I do not rely heavily on my cell phone. Many tell me I am hard to reach by phone/texts. I am not a "phone person", but I respect people who are and try to understand when they get frustrated with my tendencies.

I guess what I'm saying is that if you want to wait for him to come around (which you seem to want), then that's admirable because it shows that you are being understanding and respecting his needs. But, I hope that you also remember to acknowledge your own. If you are a person who needs more frequent contact and clearer communication with a potential mate, then I hope you consider this and bring it to the table, before setting down with this Scorp (or anyone for that matter).

Good luck to you!

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Great advice. And yes, good luck!

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+1. I have been known to shut off absolutely everything that will connect me to the outside world(e.g. phone, cell, computer) just to have time to myself, especially if I am in state where I am developing intense feelings for someone and need time to sort through my thoughts/feelings.

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PhoenixRising: Thank you for your comment! Yours made complete sense to me. That night we went dancing was quite intimate and where I did indicate my continued interest in him, we were very intense and he displayed lots of (hidden, in the way that is all things Scorpio) signs of his interst in me. But then there were times where he let lose and looked in my eyes, touched me in a particular way, and just became comfortable with me towards the end and became really happy when I said I still wanted to get to know him even if his work was intensly demanding. I guess I can come to the conclusion that he has intense feelings and is right now in the need to sort them out and find out what is going on.

And any other tips from other scorpios about this or scropios in a relationship with cancer would be a plus! 🙂