Scorpio's Lend me your wisdom! what does he want?

I have this good friend, who is also an ex.. we tried dating (i'm a cancer, he's a scorpio) but it never worked out, we were both extremely shy and it was filled with awkwardness and never really progressed. We went to highschool together but were never really that close, We started dating through friends.. but were never really that comfortable around each other. When he asked me out i felt alot of pressure, because he informed me i'd been a long time crush for him and i had no idea. Regardless, we didnt speak for awhile and are both seeing new people. Recentley i sent him a message because there wasnt really any closure and i felt bad about how things went, because overall there was alot of chemestry. He accepted what i had to say and we shared some things with one another, that we couldnt before and it was nice. We agreed on being friends and have been texting and were supposed to meet up for a coffee, but he vanished on me. So when i sent him a message asking what happened, he made up some excuse.. so i was like alright, then he asked me if there was hope for another chance with us randomly and i said lets focus on being friends and now he's poofed again. so whats wrong? does he really want to be friends.. or am i just someone that got away?

1. I agree with Dazed's 1st statement

2. You're both seeing new people; he may not feel too comfortable with being emotionally open to 2 people at a given time. It's just a coffee meeting but it's still talking with an ex about somewhat personal stuff. Just going by my male Scorpion friends but it isn't something easy for them to do.

And by 'them' I'm meaning my male Scorpio friends. Just to clarify for your purposes 😛

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& i added him to my bbm for easy communication.. but then i was deleted. So i asked why and he told me that it randomly does that sometimes, so i gave it to him again and he didnt add me back until 2 days later. And when we were supposed to go for coffee, i was deleted again right before. He hasnt tried to contact me back and now im sensing a pattern so i dont want to ask him again.. I'm just getting confused. /:

When we first started talking again i was really excited because he is a pretty awesome person and has been there for me when it called for it, now im just discouraged. He initiated the coffee idea, and i was left hanging without a clue.. it does not feel very good.

Posted by DazedScorp
I sense that something is holding him back.

And I think the fact that you're with somebody may have a lot to do with it...

But there is limited information you're giving us, so I don't have much to work with.

Both of them are dating others. I'm sure you noted that but I can't help but feel it's not just because she's with somebody else, you know?

The beginning- We went on a few dates with some friends to get to know eachother better like bowling, then moved on to the movies coffee's, going to each others house etc. When he asked me out he told me he had liked me for years, and i had no idea.. i was shocked and felt pressured because we were still getting to know each other, and i had just gotten out of a bad relationship. So i was looking for something more breezy and that honestly scared me off to hear that right away. It was very awkward because we didnt know how to be around each other, we argued TONS stupid things but it felt almost siblingish. when we went to the movies long awkward pauses, i even remember putting my hand out on the arm chair wide open hoping he got the hint, he didnt. lol and our first kiss didnt even connect (embarassing) so thats only a FEW examples... it definitly wasnt a physical relationship...ha ha. it ended with us breaking alot of dates and i travel a fair bit to visit my family creating even more space so it just fizzled out..

at the time i just turned 18 literally (he asked me out on my birthday, that was pretty sweet) and he was 19. Now he's 21

Ohh darn, i just had to go and make ammends! lol. that is probably the right direction for this, i just had hopes on salvaging a good friendship. But i definitley dont want to open up another can of worms, or that makes my original intentions pointless.

Posted by Crabbiepatty22
Ohh darn, i just had to go and make ammends! lol. that is probably the right direction for this, i just had hopes on salvaging a good friendship. But i definitley dont want to open up another can of worms, or that makes my original intentions pointless.

Very logical and commendable. I hope you follow through with those words honestly and fully.

May I ask if you had thought your current partner would have been okay with this? I'm curious, and it will one day kill this cat. 😛

Well you've just got to love kitty's for that exact trait ;p (i'm on the cusp, so i have an inner kitty too & boy does it get you into trouble!) But as i like to say, "curiousity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back!"
My current boyfriend (aqua) is aware that i was talking to the scorp, and got a little beefy about it but i never hid any of that from him. i told and shared whatever he needed. He was happy that i wanted to make things right. He was a little suspicious at first but after he saw how excited i was that everything was okay & he didnt mind. But as ive come to conclude i think it was a little mislead..

Posted by DazedScorp
First... You're absolutely beautiful.

Second... What was the excuse he used when he canceled on the coffee date?

Dazed you dirty bastard leave the girl alone lol just joking.

Ahhhh - he definitely sounds Aquarian!!! Lmao.

That's an interesting pairing to me, since Aquarian men and Leo females are supposed to get along really well in relationships. To be fair, I don't know specifically about Cancers, but from knowing my Cancer friend.. she definitely loves Aquarian men! He sounds like a good guy, and you two have open communication of sorts. 🙂

Posted by sheathedclaws
Ahhhh - he definitely sounds Aquarian!!! Lmao.

That's an interesting pairing to me, since Aquarian men and Leo females are supposed to get along really well in relationships. To be fair, I don't know specifically about Cancers, but from knowing my Cancer friend.. she definitely loves Aquarian men! He sounds like a good guy, and you two have open communication of sorts. 🙂

Lol. It is an interesting pairing, but it works fairly well, because i have alot of Leo and an Aries moon in my chart, while Aqua has 6 Capricorn placements and an aries moon also... So i'd say he keeps me fairly grounded 🙂. But it is a first for me, usually i got got shot down by most aqua's! they used to stare at me like i was from another planet Haha so strictly friend basis, if that.. Also communication is probably thee most IMPORTANT thing to me in a surviving relationship, i have nothing to be secretive about besides im too impulsive and expressive to even try at that! 😛 I'd either be busted instantly, or driving myself up the wall not saying anything.