Im confused and discouraged and need some advice about this Scorpio man who's been so darn hot and cold. I'm a Virgo (35) and met him (37) on a dating site, and it started off slow, actually it never sped up, but we got very close in 2 months. We'd talk 2 hours every night and text all day. He'd talk about the future and say he was looking for his wife and he could see me as her (which scared him) and he'd Say things like "I wonder what our children would look like" or "if I moved to another state, would you come with me". He'd sit next to me at restaurants, not across, he'd feed me food at the movies or wherever we went. He reciprocated my affections. He wanted to put me on his car's insurance, so I could drive it. I had things of mine at his place. He bought me a toothbrush. We went away for a beautiful weekend and he met my friends and family. We slept together once at about 1.5 months, but then decided to slow down on the physical aspect bc we were still figuring things out (His suggestion). One time after that, he said he wanted us to wait until we were married to do it again. We were smitten and used pet names. He hid his online profile. Things were moving in a positive direction for the most part (although there were a few times he pulled back and went a little cold on me). Then he told me about another woman he met online at about the same time he met me, and that they were "just friends". I had known about her but as we got closer I didn't expect him to continue hanging with her. In my opinion, he was dating her under the guise of "friendship", because he'd go out with her on a Friday night for 4-5 hours. He'd call me after, but I was just very confused if he was playing me. He'd tell me that it wouldn't continue with her if we were in a relationship, but it confused me why it was being entertained now if we were already getting so close. He tried to reassure me that he'd never cross the line with her and that I was the only one he was getting intimate with, which I believed, but I felt he still had the door open and that she wanted more with him, and that scared me and my developing feelings. And he tried to label us as "friends", so I never really trusted that term when it came to her. He told me that he's so afraid to get hurt and with me he sees real potential, so he wanted to move slow as "friends" and one day we'd just know we were more. The day I pressed him about what we were and what she was to him, was the day it fell apart. There was no yelling, but I revealed some insecurities and jealousy, and didnt trust him, I also told him "fine let's just be friends, but just friends". He shut down and I felt hurt, he didn't call after. I thought I meant a little more, but he was so willing to accept this being over, he didn't try to hold on. I want this to work, but not sure what to do to get things back to normal, or if that's even a possibility at this point. Suggestions would help... Has he pulled away for good?
