Sex on the second date?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by Shagattarius on Thursday, October 20, 2011 and has 29 replies.

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@Shagattarius
14 Years

When is it ok to sleep with a man?? Im just a
s eager as this scorpio with mars in taurus but dont want to ruin the potential of a relationship. How long should I male him wait?

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@Shagattarius
14 Years

Ive been treetrunking him in my mind for the past 7 months. Had our first date a week ago. A little worried how it will come across if I give it up on the second date but my venus in scorpio makes me want to do crazy things. haha

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Posted by PunkyBruiser

Whenever you feel like it... If you are comfortable to do so, then do so. The time you wait to have sex (or not for that matter) wont determine whether or not theres potential for a relationship, chemistry will do that for you.

** puts finger on nose and points to PB **

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@nimbue
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Shagattarius
When is it ok to sleep with a man?? Im just a
s eager as this scorpio with mars in taurus but dont want to ruin the potential of a relationship. How long should I male him wait?

your sn is 'shagattarius' and you're talking about making him wait?

it doesn't make much difference and i don't know who told women it does. i dunno just comes off calculating. potentially you could fuck him and he'd scram. or you hold out, (whilst he gets some elsewhere) you fuck him then he scrams.

if you trust him/like him enough to sleep with him then go with that. power struggles don't work

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@scorpdiva
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Also I think once your pass 25years old you should't put a timeline on when you have sex, if it happens on that first date so be it as long we protect our selves.

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@nimbue
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by tryandguess
I would wait for like 6 months at least. I mean you haven't even seen how this guy treats his mom.

i don't think that has anything to do with anything, i know how some of these nutters can put on excellent facades so it doesn't really tell you much.

go with your gut. if it fucks up, it fucks up. it's not the end of the world

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@TheLadySagittarius
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Posted by nimbue
Posted by tryandguess
I would wait for like 6 months at least. I mean you haven't even seen how this guy treats his mom.

i don't think that has anything to do with anything, i know how some of these nutters can put on excellent facades so it doesn't really tell you much.

go with your gut. if it fucks up, it fucks up. it's not the end of the world

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I agree Nimbue! I have been in serious long- term relationships (one marriage) with men I slept with early on. And totally bombed on a relationship that we didnt have sex early on, so it doesnt always matter. One guy, damn if it wasnt love at first sight and passion all night long... still gets me hot thinking about it.

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@Candeh15
16 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo

IMO, you should go with your gut. Don't allow societal norms or others to tell you to choose what you should do in your own relationship (or with the guy you like). If you feel like you want to jump him and he's on the same page, do it. A guy's respect for you doesn't equal to how fast you give up the kitty. If he's going to be a dick, he's going to be a dick from day one. If you feel like you aren't ready to have sex with him, then wait. Don't allow anyone to pressure you.

Sex isn't an end all/be all unless you make it that way; and if he decides that you're easy after sleeping with him, then that's his issue. Just be honest with him about what you want in the relationship.

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@scorpdiva
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by DMV
Posted by scorpdiva
The scorp I dated had that placement he was a sun scorp and mars in taurus
he was good in bed at first but then he got boring to me.

bummer

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When I think about it, maybe it was the size he wasn't very big I think that is what bored me At first he made up for it with his tongue but that can only go so far.

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@Shagattarius
14 Years

Posted by scorpdiva
Posted by DMV
Posted by scorpdiva
The scorp I dated had that placement he was a sun scorp and mars in taurus
he was good in bed at first but then he got boring to me.

bummer

When I think about it, maybe it was the size he wasn't very big I think that is what bored me At first he made up for it with his tongue but that can only go so far.

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This guy was quite well endowed! I actually complimented him on it because he's not a tall dude. Maybe 5'7ish, my height pretty much. But he was surely packin!! 🙂

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@nimbue
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by TheLadySagittarius
Posted by nimbue
Posted by tryandguess
I would wait for like 6 months at least. I mean you haven't even seen how this guy treats his mom.

i don't think that has anything to do with anything, i know how some of these nutters can put on excellent facades so it doesn't really tell you much.

go with your gut. if it fucks up, it fucks up. it's not the end of the world

I agree Nimbue! I have been in serious long- term relationships (one marriage) with men I slept with early on. And totally bombed on a relationship that we didnt have sex early on, so it doesnt always matter. One guy, damn if it wasnt love at first sight and passion all night long... still gets me hot thinking about it.

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hey lady sag! no, it doesn't always matter, at all. i don't usually, and that isn't because i think it's wrong. it's because i have to trust someone to sleep with them. it's a control thing. i did have sex on the first date some months ago, and it's been my best relationship so far 😄

seriously, why pan it out over weeks and months if that's not what you really want? you might find, after you've met mumsie, bonded with his friends and all that jazz that he just ain't doing it for you in the bedroom 😢 what's the point in that?!

i wish women wouldn't see their snatch as some exclusive prize. you don't have sex purely for the guys enjoyment, you get something out of it too. unless he's just really shit 😛

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@Shagattarius
14 Years

Posted by nimbue
Posted by TheLadySagittarius
Posted by nimbue
Posted by tryandguess
I would wait for like 6 months at least. I mean you haven't even seen how this guy treats his mom.

i don't think that has anything to do with anything, i know how some of these nutters can put on excellent facades so it doesn't really tell you much.

go with your gut. if it fucks up, it fucks up. it's not the end of the world

I agree Nimbue! I have been in serious long- term relationships (one marriage) with men I slept with early on. And totally bombed on a relationship that we didnt have sex early on, so it doesnt always matter. One guy, damn if it wasnt love at first sight and passion all night long... still gets me hot thinking about it.

hey lady sag! no, it doesn't always matter, at all. i don't usually, and that isn't because i think it's wrong. it's because i have to trust someone to sleep with them. it's a control thing. i did have sex on the first date some months ago, and it's been my best relationship so far 😄

seriously, why pan it out over weeks and months if that's not what you really want? you might find, after you've met mumsie, bonded with his friends and all that jazz that he just ain't doing it for you in the bedroom 😢 what's the point in that?!

i wish women wouldn't see their snatch as some exclusive prize. you don't have sex purely for the guys enjoyment, you get something out of it too. unless he's just really shit 😛

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Thanks! Read my follow up post "is it too late". I can't sleep with people I'm really interested in right away because I get too emotional.