so what makes you listen?

I feel like i'm at wits end. Scorp threatens to leave, he is mad at me all the time for no reason, and brings up things that i did wrong, but ignores the things that he did wrong.

How do I help scorp to listen, to work on things, move forward, not rub up against the past petty things.

He seems so frustrated at the world, and I'm the victim. Sure, I'm not perfect, but I don't deserve this mental abuse.

He used to be sooooooooooo d@mn loving.

LOL..

I agree with DB..until and if we care enough to..

Its just that we need to come to terms with it ourselves first and then we'll listen to reason or whatever the other person has to say..but until then, the other person can blither on as much as they like..it will just go through one ear and out the other..

Writing is an alternative to getting your words out without being interrupted or sidetracked.

I believe this is true for many signs- we blurt things out in conversation and they may not exactly be what we meant- but like in When Harry Met Sally "It's already out there", so we can't take it back. Writing can be changed while you're writing it; can be edited and re-read before you send it off, so it is exactly what you wanted to say....

But DB is right, you have to change your strategy...

But DB is right, you have to change your strategy...

Too True MM 🙂

you need to do that in person...

But sometimes everything comes out, which may be irrational and not at all what you really wanted to say....

"hate scorps..."

LOL..no you don't 😛

Being eye to eye is most definately more mature and hitting the point right on....however, sometimes the things that come out of your head or heart only make sense to you until you've had a chance to think about them and put them in logical order...

But neither of us were willing to be vulnerable to each other.

Important for a married relationship in particular

LOL @ PM..that didn't take long..

How do you approach the arguments TG? When he's going into one, throwing all kinds of mental abuse, how do you look at him? Do you argue back? Do you shout? When he puts you down, do you go one further?

"We could talk, debate, recite, admire, elevate, and inspire each other with our words. But neither of us were willing to be vulnerable to each other."

This could also be the destruction of them! Some1 has to back down at some point, but both Taurus and Scorp can be headstrong!

Wow, you guys really know me!!! 🙂 ...and my relationship. I'm going to print this ALL out & read it & write a letter, maybe read it to him. I try working, he won't work, he tries & I'm too hurt. I give him space, he feels deserted. I just don't seem to do anything right, and my natural thing is to leave. I don't want to do that anymore. I just want to do things right & wish he could too.

"Mirror mirror on the wall who is the stubborness of them all...

Mirror: That would be you, scorp-i.."

Or how about having a real scorp there to do the mirroring for you..then you really see yourself for who you are!..LOL..

You know TG..you really need to start thinking about something other than this Scorp..He's going to drive you to an early grave if you two carry on like this. You have to get a fresh perspective on the situation..and a break will allow you to achieve this..A break doesn't mean you've deserted him..regardless of how he sees it..

"Definite understatement. I'd ventue to say Taurus and Scorp (both the men and women)are two signs equally matched with it comes to "locking horns and tails".

Now that's was an adrenaline Rush!"

SIL, I can only imagine how the makings-up were afterwards! Woooooweeeee! I can feel it from here! 😛

Scorp-In-Law-

Yes, all these swell platitudes and lessons for living look great on paper. However, few of us ever really learn to do this. It takes tremendous time, work, and commitment.

I agree with you wholeheartedly- no argument there whatsoever....

LOL @ M&Ms conversation..

That sounds highly irritating and would piss me off even more..I would see it as patronising and retaliate doublefold..

LOL @ Pluto..I was thinking the same..
I haven't ever heard a Sorp say that..maybe when he's taking the piss..Gosh if I ever get like that..Shoot me in the head will you Pluto..

SIL: I once had a Taurian doctor guy after me, extremely hot..he chased for about 2 months..I knew that even if we got together for a brief date we would end up shoving glasses bottles in each other by the end of the evening..How flippin arrogant was he..Grrrrrrrrrrr..And sooooooooooooo persistent..he made my blood boil...so never would I consider a relationship with a Taurus..

A break is tough when u live together. I thot the weekend would help. I went 4 hours away to Vancouver to hang out with my sister (the same year & 3 days born b4 my bf)

But when I came back, he was like needing me & angry at the same time. It's f'ed.
Almost like arms reaching out & when I come he slaps me in the face.

GOD DAMN SCORPIOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! heheehe JP!

"A break is tough when u live together. I thot the weekend would help. I went 4 hours away to Vancouver to hang out with my sister"

It is tough but it can work..you need to give him time to miss you and need you desperatly that he won't think of abusing you mentally..I would smack him one in the mouth..who does he think he is!..

Sorry rant over..he really sounds pretty childish considering what you've gone through to be with him..inconsiderate sod

Rant over..take 2

"Almost like arms reaching out & when I come he slaps me in the face."

I find this so bad. He loves you too much, that is for sure...so he felt tooo hurt that you left him for a day to be with your sister. Okay fine.

Why don't you try your famous Taurus "patience" and give him loads of demonstrative affection ? Hug him, kiss him, have lots of sex etc... reassuring him that he is your topmost priority...above any other thing.

and please do not be pulled into any arguement even if you are right.

Even after this for about a week or so, if he still is bashing you..then it is time to chew and ruminate on the future of your relationship and have an open discussion with him "forcing" him to listen and then DECIDE whaT to do...

This is what I feel. I sincerely do not like what I am hearing..It is upto you to decide

TW: "I find this so bad. He loves you too much, that is for sure..."

::sigh::

This is the problem sometimes..when we do love someone so much, we find it hard to express..and it comes out completely wrong..

YES, VERY jealous. He's apologized over & over for it, he just can't help it.

Just don't fight back or argue. -We talkin' to a bull?!!!!!!!!!!!!! ahhhhhhhhhhh LOL!
...though ur probally right.

Be supportive even when he's a pain in the ass. Equal rights man! Women who stand by their a-hole guys, should get the same back 😉

Damn! The strongest women out there must be the lovers of the scorpio. 😉

...and I said I wanted passsion?

ps. u guys are really funny at the strangest times!!!

oh what a feeling.

"I once had a Taurian doctor guy after me, extremely hot..he chased for about 2 months..I knew that even if we got together for a brief date we would end up shoving glasses bottles in each other by the end of the evening"

ooo, kinky.

"How flippin arrogant was he..Grrrrrrrrrrr..And sooooooooooooo persistent..he made my blood boil...so never would I consider a relationship with a Taurus"

someone's stubborn 😛

Yeah, single-minded. The resentment that can build in reverse is infuriating!