Sympathy or empathy from a Scorpio??......

Had a very embarrassing morning today in front of a Scorpio I really like. I was made to feel inferior to him. My blood was boiling but there was nothing I could do or say about it. Since he is a Scorpio I guess he would have picked up on that and it must have been a boost to his ego.

My question is can Scorpios sympathise/empathise or are they just ruthless??

I could not read his feelings and had no opportunity to see him later in the day to get some idea of his thoughts.

A red-faced enamoured Taurean.

did he say something to make you feel that way or were you in a group and someone else said something to make you feel that way? this is a common trait among men...trying to make women feel inferior. also, i find that with a scorp you must not show insecurities...they will play right off of them. i think you should just laugh it off. if you know in your own mind that you are not inferior to him or anyone, then that was just an opinion about you at the moment by someone else. who are they, anyway. stand up, be counted. be strong. his opinion of you shouldn't matter either. you must love yourself first and foremost. this world is not for the weak.

Hey Walk,

When I met my Scorpio I did not like him one bit because of his superiority and just plan blow-hard like discussions, as if I was just a 'little girl' and he was almighty. That was the last time I saw him for over a year. Though he called several times for a date after that, I figured I didn't need anyone in my life to make me feel inferior, even though I am strong and independant.

About a year later we saw each other again and clicked. He admitted to me that I scared him. And Pato is correct that Scorpio's like strong independant people. He also admitted that he felt insecure on the first meeting that was why he was trying to impress me, although it backfired. The story has a happy ending. We will be married three years this St. Patricks Day. And yes I remain independant.

Linda

Thanks Pato and Candle Girl for your posts!

Pato:

Your views echo someone I was speaking to today.

I know sometimes I should just lighten up and be myself but every so often I put up a wall between myself and the person I am speaking to. Maybe it's a form of self-defense but I can come across as a cold and distant bull. A combination of things that have happened to me recently haven't helped and I have been taking life a little too seriously lately.

Candle Girl:

Happy Anniversary! So there is still hope for me then! 🙂

I have known this Scorpio for almost 2 years now but wouldn't dare make a move (think Ferdinand the bull). Although he seems to be very popular with the ladies I have been the opposite and have ignored him on many occasions. In fact I think I might have been too cold and distant and scared him off completely!

Any thoughts as to how to 'warm' him up a little now springtime is approaching??......

Walk

I think we Scorps are made out to be a lot more ruthless than we really are. Now, if it's a situation where I don't care for the other person, and they show insecuries or embarrass themselves, then I don't feel sorry for them, no. But if it's someone I care for, then I do have compassion for them. Unless they don't deserve it, as in, they brought the situation on themselves through conciously making a stupid decision or a morally wrong decision - and then even if I care for them, I look at it as a learning lesson for them.

How to warm him up: just talk to him about everday things at first. Don't ignore him, or he will eventually either despise you for ignoring him, or he'll feel you're too cold. Once you've established the foundation of a friendship, the possiblilities are limitless. I'd show him that you trust him (otherwise he'll think he can't trust you) and you could do that by sharing little details about yourself that you wouldn't usually share with others. He'll definitely sense that you're opening up to him, and he'll be intrigued and probably will want to get to know you better. The most important thing with Scorpios, I think, is that you're honest with us. Never fake anything, if you have an opinion that contradicts his, say it. If you like him, good, but don't gush all over him or he'll think it's phony. Don't ask him too many personal questions, and you'll be suprised how much he'll end up sharing with you, by seeing that you trust him enough to open up to him.