@PhoenixRising
14 Years10,000+ Posts
Taurus female Scorpio male~ going crazy
eeeeesh
I can't talk from a scorp male's perspective, but here's the low down with a scorp friend.
If we make progress on anything emotional, an emotional exchange of some sort, or if he gets heavy...he goes into hiding. Every.single.time.
Talk wine, sex, cars, the environment, and he is there, no problem.
Don't know why he does it, but I get the feeling he gets embarrassed and is uncomfortable exchanging feelings. He even stated his discomfort at expressing feelings once.
Maybe scorp was fine when it was just him expressing, but now both your feelings are in the picture, he's gone away to process it?
Any males want to chime in? 🙂
Hahah! Okay I suppose that is the issue. Sorry for how oddly I expressed it? I am.. upset? No I want every bit of him to exist, he has never been this way with me before, so I fear I gave in? And once giving in I am nothing. Th scorp female I was with.. I rejected her over time and she treetunked my dad. As most of my ladies do, but why?
WTF? Your dad must be pretty hot, or are these girls much older? Or both? Never mind
And this:
...I gave this Scorpio my love because I thought he was the only creature who could understand! I denied the world, only for him to win me so easily!
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I swear this is pure Shakespearean
Not poking fun. I think your quite cute...a little obsessive, but cute.
Posted by PhoenixRising
blockquote>My question though is... UGH I'm dying. I wouldn't tell him I loved him for so so long and then I did and he is gone. For so long...
I suppose my question is, once I admitted I truly cared for him, loved him, all that fluff.... he would be gone? I'm obsessed now, I am doing my best not to hit him up constantly. I had vowed to myself I would never love again yet here he comes, so easily infecting my brain talking to me everyday, yet the one time I finally choose to tell him something I told myself I would never tell another again, he's gone...I should have kept myself so far away.
click to expandSo long? It's been 3 freakiin' days! I guess compared to everyday dialogue that would seem like an eternity . Whether you've been with women or men the same principles apply:
1) Calm the hell down. Your obsession is driving you crazy.
2) Take some space to figure out if you are ready to be and give to a relationship.
3) Stop playing mind games.You seem like you're not really ready to be with anyone because you are too terrified of being in a realtionship. All this fear of telling him how you feel (which I'm a little sketchy on, but who am I to question young love), assuming he's abandoned you after the mere mention that you love him, "vowing" to yourself to never fall in love again, all screams you need some time to heal from whatever happened to you to put you in this state of fear. It also sounds like you need time self reflect on what you want and can give to a relationship. And the mind games? If you feel something for him then go with it, why are you testing his love with statements like "I bet you say that to all the girls". I'm guessing you didn't like his answer right? It's because he knew what you were doing and threw you a curve ball to see if you could ACTUALLY play the game you started.
Posted by ellessque
Like MadamCrab said...we can dish it out but not take it in as easily. LOL 😛
*rubs eyes and blinks*
Posted by PhoenixRising
blockquote>I can only assume one of these, He has been arrested(he is political and a trouble maker,) He's dead :b, He doesn't wish to even be online because I am too much? I am so reserved though!
click to expandAnd this? I don't even know what to do with this. That sounds like obsessive chatter, sorry. Relax luv. Hit him up and say "hello" let it flow from there.
Elle....hope I didn't blab 😉
Taurus, i agree with Elle. You need to focus on healing yourself from any past relationships, especially if they didn't end well, or like my Taurus friend just stated this morning (married to a scorp) she had to leave everything behind, or she would have soiled her new relationship with it. Her previous scorp was bad news.
If you are worried about him being AWOL for 3 days, you NEED to go keep yourself busy.
Talking from experience, my early days I dug myself in a black hole because he would be heavy then disappear and the result is like drug withdrawals. It's a bastard (sorry scorps!)
Now it's like, meh. When he's ready.
I go out with friends, cook up a storm, geez I scrub the bathroom like a crazy woman to keep my mind off him if I have to.
I tainted my early days of what was meant to be a fun connection, with the panic of, OMG is this the end? It has a way of feeling like that sometimes.
When I told him this, he goes, but I'm still here!
I could do this for as long as he is in my life, so I won't do it anymore.
Posted by PhoenixRising
blockquote>My question though is... UGH I'm dying. I wouldn't tell him I loved him for so so long and then I did and he is gone. For so long...
I suppose my question is, once I admitted I truly cared for him, loved him, all that fluff.... he would be gone? I'm obsessed now, I am doing my best not to hit him up constantly. I had vowed to myself I would never love again yet here he comes, so easily infecting my brain talking to me everyday, yet the one time I finally choose to tell him something I told myself I would never tell another again, he's gone...I should have kept myself so far away.
So long? It's been 3 freakiin' days! I guess compared to everyday dialogue that would seem like an eternity . Whether you've been with women or men the same principles apply:
1) Calm the hell down. Your obsession is driving you crazy.
2) Take some space to figure out if you are ready to be and give to a relationship.
3) Stop playing mind games.You seem like you're not really ready to be with anyone because you are too terrified of being in a realtionship. All this fear of telling him how you feel (which I'm a little sketchy on, but who am I to question young love), assuming he's abandoned you after the mere mention that you love him, "vowing" to yourself to never fall in love again, all screams you need some time to heal from whatever happened to you to put you in this state of fear. It also sounds like you need time self reflect on what you want and can give to a relationship. And the mind games? If you feel something for him then go with it, why are you testing his love with statements like "I bet you say that to all the girls". I'm guessing you didn't like his answer right? It's because he knew what you were doing and threw you a curve ball to see if you could ACTUALLY play the game you started.
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Miss Genius here to rescue you. Watch this, elleque will step all over this since it's her scorp forum and I'm in the wrong place, lol! Anyway girl here is what you have going on.
Dude didn't know you enough to say he loves you. Simple. That part IS a game. He was playing with your emotions to get you going, and as soon as you said it in return, he has another think coming! Now the lad is in reclusive wondering what he got himself into and how he'll get himself out. Simple. Is he coming back or is he truthful? He may come back but he's never been truthful. He would've played the game right to get to know you, not playing the "i love you" card on your vulnerabilities. Come on Scorps, wake up and stop messing with the poor Taurus, we know ya'll love a run for your entertainment, but this is ridiculous. Obsessions is what they are after. And they freaking suck at it!
Scorp moon here so yes I do know what I'm talking about. 😉 We like to play on other's emotions when it benefits us. When we get what we were actually gunning for, we wonder why it was so easy to win you over. Simple.
Dudes got screws loose, don't play that crap. Find a real man. 🙂
No I didn't read your readers digest of the tabloid. I tend to skip over alot of what you people have to say. You should say it straight forth to begin with GENIUS. You actually kill me with your mod...ya know what I mean..
I was just about to comment on the fuck head in jail. Why would you want an asshole who spends time in the slammer? Maybe you should do a crime and join him next time and you both can wear stripped shirts together. Now that's love. 😉
Nah that was sarcasm for the know it all above me, but seriously, dude's an idiot. Drop him and...run!
sorry but if it's online....it ain't love....might feel like it but it's not.
Posted by DazedScorp
Okay...OKAY but update, I'm dying with joy now. He just called me. :} He was arrested! haha! UGH too cute too cute.
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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
sorry but if it's online....it ain't love....might feel like it but it's not.they should put that on dollar bills.
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Okay, so you know what to expect then. Just sayin'....
I'm just wondering if there was an actual question or did you need space to purge all of that? Genuine question because I'm trying to figure out how to reply based on what you shared here.