Too emotional Scorpio..bzzz

Hi guys im scorpio woman have a little bit problem with myself (cos being too emotional, intense, low self esteem) and also with a special friend cancer guy.
so, i had a relationship with my cancer man back a year ago. it was an awful relationship, i dont know if i should call it relationship cos he never ever treat me as i supposed to be. so we break up, last year cos he has (until now) too MUCH GFS. but i have no idea why he keeps coming back no matter what happen, no matter how often we arguing. he always coming back to contact me. i dont know why he keeps coming, if matter of sex all his girls will be much better, not sure if he has feelings for me or not, but he easily get angry or jealous.

back at that time, after being cheated. i totally change, i become real scorpio perhaps lol , eally cold blooded girl lol, i no longer trust anyone and i have to admit i shut people out (afraid of being hurt again). when my ex contact me, sometimes i do ignore him cos im upset and the bad things of what he did comes again in my head, but after like 2 weeks or max a month. i tend to fight with my own feeling, logically i say ure stupid why u keep in touch with him after what he did even he himself say ure big stupid, why u need to response even tho u know wht i did, but heart say i really do miss him a lot. i want to points out, i may be such arrogant girl, i never ever send him a text first after he cheated on me.

this year on april, he try to help me organised things in my new apart and we end up having sex. and to be honest that feeling, longing of his touch makes me something. i know i should not do it but i do miss him, (just notes one night stand booty call not my thing but i did with him cos he used to be someone for me). so guys what should i do best for myself and with him? i leave alone, study abroad, and just a couple of friends. my friend call me weird, cos i do spend my time alone too much i'll turn 22 this year. i did everything alone, go to cinema alone, having dinner or lunch alone. i try to be strong and keep myself as busy as possible but still man! i want a company as well, im just human. when guys come to me, my heart has not been pumping for long time as i met him 2 years ago. like havent someone whos better than him. any advice guys? should i still be friends with him? and what's best things i should do for myself whos to emotional and longing for a company?i would be appreciated thanks

You already know the answer to your own question. You are hold on to dead weight because you became loyal to this guy. You are getting over him but it does take us Scorpio women along time to be completely free from the person we invested our heart into. Keep staying busy and do what makes you happy like hobbies and career path. It is a slow process since you are in the healing stage but it will get better. You do have to cut him off completely and become icy for a year or more to get rid of the feelings for him completely.

You are not weird I'm 23 and I do many things alone as you described and I've been doing that since I was 16 yrs old. Until you find the connection you need you don't mind being alone and nothing is wrong with being self aware at s young age. It saves you a lot of drama in dealing with people bc of your selective nature.

Why don't you meet new people ? The world is full of people, even if you're a foreigner. I see no excuse to why you can't set up new dates, talk to new people .. I know I know us scorpios never take the first step. But once we get used to being more open and social, we no longer need to cling to our meaningless obsessions from the past anymore.

I know you have voices in your head ' noone will be like him..' and holding onto your intimate moments with him but the truth is he is sleeping around. He kept chasing you because you let him.. You see for men, it's all animal instinct. He sleeps with all the girls, he is the king of the jungle. He had more than enough time to come back to you if it was meant to be something special. You are being very dreamy and romantic here, not taking realistic steps, not open to change. You are making yourself miserable when there's no need for that.

You don't need to look for 'something special' only in relationships. You feel vulnerable because in order to find a suitable mate, you need to build other parts of your life first. Get more social, get hobbies, it's a lot easier to get social nowadays since we have internet. If you like photography, find other like minded people on instagram, or cooking a cooking class, or skateboarding.. If not, meet other foreigners in the area using couchsurfing.org

Meet new people, get invited to parties, throw parties, make lots and lots of friends..At least a few 🙂 That's the key to your problem. Because then you will feel happy, confident and suddenly find yourself surrounded by potential mates. Get in touch with reality and love yourself. There is a world and crazy people and beautiful memories waiting for you out there !!

'You do have to cut him off completely and become icy for a year or more to get rid of the feelings for him completely. ' It will feel good. We've been there, trust us 😉

Thank you so much guys for the advice, so the conclusion is i need to cut him off completely which is things that i have tried from many months ago since i known he cheated, but still so hard for me. but i will try as best as i can. hahah in terms of icy, i think i pretty much did that already, that's why he asked u have changed because i no longer act as he wants me to act and as i used to be. i didnt realize till my family, and him say i changed after this breakup and also living abroad. i become cold, even gender haters (sorry), really calm and quiet person, more realistic and more sensitive but before i was like the lady in the video.

@strawberrylemon thanks for the videos i enjoy it so far, i would say my ex is the horny hypnotists lol , he's really gooood with that puppy brown eyes lol. i did more social, at least i try, i visit international students meeting groups, just to make friends. i did join gym as well so pretty much i try my best to make myself busy so i no longer think of lovey dowey things. but again, from what you said, its not that easy for me to really make friends, even go to a party. i consider myself as nerdy type of girl, private person and a bit selective. the reason for that is, i used to be very sociable but this is big but, i realized after living abroad not all people wanna make friends with me and i have been rejected, which creates me to be antisocial maybe haha. so as time goes by, im at a stage where i enjoy every moment when im alone. and about party things, i think that its no point for me to stay if i didnt enjoy the party itself, trust me lol im someone who will go back to home because its way too crowded in a festival lol. im that person who needs my 'alone time' but yeah

there comes a time where im in the middle of the crowd even in cinema where everyone with their families, friends, couple. and me try to act cool and put my resting bitch face say i dont care lol. but when i go home, theres a feeling say i want that to. there even comes in my mind the only answer to my problem is i should have a pet haha. unfortunately im too busy. but anyway, thanks guys! all the best! cheers 😉

mojo, you sound lovely 🙂 Of course don't have to change or try too hard to be social 😛 Focus on your work, that's what's important. Your love life will be more fun and rich once you get further in your career and you have more money to spend haha Being an adult is hard work and demands sacrifice, but once you get there, and have full control of your own life, nothing will compare to that.

I agree, stay realistic. I fell in love too just 1.5 years ago but the guy was a dxouchebag just like your guy. He kept calling me for a year and I let him torture me like that for a whole year. I said 'no' every time he apologized and wanted to spend time again because I knew he wasn't as attracted to me in a romantic and sexual way as I was to him. I thought I'd be rude and exaggerating the situation if I cut all communication with him. I also kept thinking 'what if..' because I still loved or wanted him.. But once I blocked him and stopped stalking him altogether, I started to feel great again, slowly.

Guess what ? There is no half way to meet when you think he is super hot but he is like ' I want her but I want other girls too, I'm the king of the jungle..' Cut your losses. Of course you're hot, and he likes you. But this kind of relationship is only going to make you miserable. You can feel like the queen of the jungle once you let those go completely who don't treat you like the queen you are. It works different for girls. I see that you are acting like one already, independent and caring about your body too. All you have to do is get rid of that jerk. Happiness = being treated like a queen. Miserable = Agreeing to a guy's wishes who wants the harem, not the queen... You have to love yourself the most and not give in to your weaknesses. Or else this miserable cycle will continue.This started sounding really silly, but to the point 🙂 cheers !