What does this Scorpio man want?

Long story cut very short!

I'm a pisces woman..he is the scorp man.

For the past two years he has been mailing me at work, bit of fliting and teasing and just ordinary chatter as well.
He compliments me a lot and looks at me a lot when I'm not looking. One of my friends once told me he was boring a hole into my back with his stare when we were out one time.

Fast forward to this summer (whilst these mails continue on and off)..he is single (he wasn't when i met him but wasn't happy in his relationship) and has bought a place of his own.

I quite often bump into him on a Friday evening when I am off to the shops for some food and he is on his way for a drink with his friends and he has asked me to go along for a drink which I have so far said no to as I was tired or busy.

He has my number and sometimes texts me evenings and weekends. We did organise to go tfor a drink this week but he forgot he had other plans. He was apologetic and work is manic for him just now.
He says hello every time he walks past my desk and finds ways to include me in a converstaion or just talk about me when I can hear.

He gave stopped to give me a lift 3 times this week and we just chat about normal things. He's not flirty like in mails or texts.
He texted again this week too saying we should go for a drink..which I'm fine with but have said I will leave it up to him as it wasn't too nice being forgotten!

He's gone quiet on me the past few days in mails and texts but I have seen and talked more with him because of lifts and work things etc.
He does get tongue tied sometimes when we talk and one time admitted to being nervous around me. he says I am the same with him too.
We have a work party coming up and we're both going.

He has got under my skin..but I don't know what he is after whether a friend or more?
Any suggestions as to what I should do if anything?

He has me baffled! Haha!

I'd say he is definitly interested from what you've said.

I'm a Pisces, seeing a scorp, and I think that we are both so shy and nervous with each other, it's hard to really be confident that he likes me. I know he does, but me being a bit insecure makes me doubt it, even though the signs are there.

I bet he went quiet because he felt bad about not following theough with plans after you mentioned it?

If I were you, I'd doll yourself up real nice for the work party and see what happens =)

I am definitely a fan of the scorp / Pisces combo. Go get it girlll

Thanks for the replies..yes..even yours Olsskool! Haha!

Hiplove and Lou..thanks. :0)

Oh! I'm fairly crazy about him..in a Pisces way....
Which means that I know exactly where he is in the office and feel the presence..big time..I know he feels this to though..no idea why but I just know. I'm shy..I think he is too.

There was a lot more I could have added to my post but..he has been flirting like a trooper..rude as well as nice..but it's on mails and texts, not face to face..which I find sweet (?) Lol!
There is no fun without flirting..in my mind.

Each time we actually talk..which is only a ride home and only 10 minutes it's usually about his house and that he has a lot going on and to do. Workwise..he is in sales and I know exactly where he is at and why the work is a killer as I do the commissions for sales. So he knows I can see anytime where he is at and it's tough out there right now in our business.

I get into the 'zone' at work and can/do look grumpy when I concentrate. He knows..to an extent and has mentioned it..but he is breaking the seal..and making me smile..only really recently though..

I like that he is just 'a guy' and isn't trying to be any different from that.
No one is perfect and neither am I.
He is forgiven for forgetting..he was very sweet and nice since and didn't do the big flirt bit..which I will mention now..he does flirt, not to the point of crude..but he flirts..and I flirt back.
In return I tease him and I am mean..in a playground kinda way..

He went quiet on me as I said in my first post....It didn't last..he was in touch again yesterday evening.
Just to ask how my weekend was going.

Friday is our Xmas party...he keeps mentioning it.
Yes..there is more to this than I posted above...and I'm still a bit stuck on whether it's just sex he is after or 'me'?

2 years seems a long time to be sweet and flirt and keep going if it's only the soft spot he is wanting??

I don't know if it's a pisces thing but I am either very shy or I just go for it..and with this guy..I think he might run if I do? I don't want him to run.

of course you know what he wants.

im starting to understand why pangel is the way she is-because of things like this

I found out tonight..just friends..no more.
I asked him.

Ar least I know now.
I've also asked him to leave me be.

aw Im sorry Suze 😢

Nasty day today..he kept staring at me.
He was texting me overnight last night and then today.
I feel like an idiot.

what do his texts say? whats he want from/with you?

In an earlier message to him I'd asked why he flirts so much if he wasn't interested.
During the night he replied to that question saying that he does it because I'm nice, fit and funny and said stop with teh serious and that I'd changed.
He went on to say he couldn't sleep and was having nightmares..probably about me I expect! Lol!

I had an appointment so went into work late yesterday so he texted twice asking where I was.
I replied to that pretty late and basically said he needn't worry and I wasn't mad at him.
He said he didn't want to go to the party anymore and laughed. I said not to be silly and we'll have a laugh and things will be just as normal. I did offer not to go but he didn't respond to that.

He went on about some other things, just normal chatter too - which is all normal between us anyway.

I feel dumb. I think he is just being nice for he sake of it.

In one way I'm annoyed that I asked..yet..he was just getting to me badly..and at least now I know.
In another sense I was so wound up with it all that I can just be me again and can relax now.

Part of me still wants something to happen..but it'll wear off..it already is wearing off.
I'd rather be his friend than not as he's fun to be around and we get on so well and make each other laugh.

Honestly babe it sounds like he is into you but is not ready/ willing/ able to get into anything deep. Scorpios are very guarded and would rather seem under-interested than over- interested if that makes sense.
Play it cool with him ... be fun and friendly when you happen to be around him, but don't respond to texts, calls, etc. Don't be a bitch, but just keep it light and hold him at a distance. Don't make after-work or weekend plans with him. Go out with your friends or other guys, put him squarely into the casual work friends category.
If he wants you, he will come get you, and there will be no mixed signals about it.

So, update on this.

I felt really awkward after that weekend so mailed him saying so and that we had the work party on Friday so lets just be normal.
He responded and we chatted on and off last week. I made a joke saying he could be my carer at the party as I'm a bit older than him.

On Thursday I asked if he would mind picking me up on his way to work as I was getting ready for the party at work and would have a small case with me.
He did. He had some shopping to get on the way so we did that.

There was a bus to take up to the party. I got on and sat down and he came and sat next to me.
Me and him being around each other at work is not the norm by the way.

The party was pretty awful. He had a drink spilled in the lap of his jeans and we had a chat after dinner and both admitted we felt a bit trapped as it was on a tiny boat.

He stayed pretty much in one place and I wandered around but went back to where he was a few times.

He gave me a serious glare when I was sitting chatting with one me the other guys there.

Later we went to a bar and one me the crowd got very drunk so I helped someone get him off home in a cab which took a while.
That was about it for the party and we went off home.

He stared texting me as soon as I got out of the cab.
Just stuff about how he thought his jeans might be wrecked.And that he hadn't had much time to be my carer.
After a bit I asked him why he was texting me, knowing I like him but him not feeling the might and I just asked nicely (there was joker in it) for him to stop flirting and treating me like a sex toy.
He said 'sex toy, my you're being sensible'
I stopped replying after that.

He text me again the next day to ask know I was. I said fine. He started saying what he was doing but I left it And didn't reply.

Today he said hello twice, to which I responded but not terribly friendly rouge mailed to ask he I was ok and was I being off with him.
I said I wasn't too happy with the late might texts. I did reply to then but I just don't much like when people do that.

Again I said I just didn't understand why he is in touch with me, we fell out a bit and then he sent me a mail which said

'you make my hair stand on end'

I just laughed and said that once again I didn't know what he was meant.

He said it was when I got angry with him.

Thing is that I've now had enough pretty much. I don't see any point to all this.
I honestly don't know why he is bothering and he it was just

Sorry for not replying Autumnal.
Well, well see I guess as I'm now going quiet.
Have done for the past couple of days pretty much. He didn't get many replies today and asked a work question too which I know he already knew the answer to.

So, I'm not at work today. . I deleted his number at the weekend. I have am app where you can see when someone was last online. He used to go on about once or twice a day from the times I looked when we were messaging.
I just went on to reply to a friend and he must have been looking to see if I went on there as 10 minutes after. . . he has just sent a message asking where I am and am I ok.

He is definitely on my case for some reason! Lol

don't be mad at him. he probably feels guilty for hurting your feelings. You can respond selectively, he's a colleague. but don't let him know anything about why you are/aren't responding. be polite and remember where he stands in your life. He could become a good friend, but just always remember and keep him in his place.

Well, I have now found out from him that he is very interested in someone else at work and they have something going on.
She is with the father of her little one.
She started working there about 6 months after he started mailing me.
I still dmmt understand why he has always initiated these mails every other week for these past two years?

He still kept coming over and mailing yesterday but I kept any chat to a minimum and door intend to reply today.
I keep asking him not to contact me.
He keeps coming back.

Posted by Suze1111
Well, I have now found out from him that he is very interested in someone else at work and they have something going on.
She is with the father of her little one.
She started working there about 6 months after he started mailing me.
I still dmmt understand why he has always initiated these mails every other week for these past two years?

He still kept coming over and mailing yesterday but I kept any chat to a minimum and door intend to reply today.
I keep asking him not to contact me.
He keeps coming back.

He can be into more than 1 person at a time, it sounds like he is still very interested in you. It definitely sounds like distancing yourself was the right thing to do ... methinks this guy likes to keep women on a string and does not like it one bit when they cut the string!

I don't know how you found out that he likes the other woman at work, but if he told you or implied it to you, he could be trying to make you jealous ... that would be a typical Scorpion reaction to someone who suddenly acts like she's just not that into him anymore.

Holy multiple postings Batman! DXP does NOT like my iPad.

Haha!

Thanks for your reply.
I really don't know.

How long can a sting go on for?
There was a night back in Jan 2010 where, I had been trying to find out why he was flirting. He was with his now ex back then and I said it wasn't fair to start something without finishing what he had.

This could be long term sting for that.
I did apologise for being mean about it but I was confused. He accepted the apology. He went quiet for a month or so and started up mails again.

So much of this is him, staring, wolf whistles when he drives past when I am outside work. He initiates 98 percent of mail and text contact.
So we all exaggerate that type of estimate so its probably 95 percent!
Recently. .maybe 92 percent.

Today he wanted help. I knew he did so I mailed to ask if he was ok or needed help.
He said he would have a go from the notes I sent yesterday.
He also asked if I had had a nice evening.
I answered the work bit and said with a smile that it should be ok from my notes but to call me over he he got stuck.
I ignored the friendly question as he knew because I said yesterday that he just becomes a normal work colleague who I am friends with.
He just said ok and thanks back.

We had a team secret Santa and I was sat on the edge of a desk facing where he is across the huge office.
I saw him turn to look at me. .directly me.
I moved so I could see properly, happened to be with my back to him.
He saw me later in the day, didn't say hello and I had glanced but didn't realise was him, when I did I said hello but he ignored me.

.He sent a mail out this afternoon to all about someone's birthday and that heir collecting tomorrow.
A bit later I got some money and went to give it to him. . . I wouldst like work life to be normal and he was coming back in from a cigarette with the woman he likes. I stopped him to give him the money.

The reason I know he likes her is he sent a text about it.
One of the lads at work said she was hot and she said 'it's complicated'

To explain and go back a bit I had said he had upset me that night. He thought it was that and he said when she said that He was sooo embarrassed

I think it is a wind up or something
Lol! Excepting am not laughing.

I don't think he thinks anything of me. Can't say I like him anymore but I am bruised.
He knows I am off work tomorrow.

I am half hoping he won't get in touch and half hoping he will.
I feel like a 12 year old!!! Haha!
In a not good way. .

I know about the 12-year-old in a bad way bit! HATE IT.

Keep up with the detachment babe, it is good for both of you. He seems a bit immature. I have a feeling things are gonna get worse with him (as in he will keep pursuing you) before they get better (as in, he will either stop and detach, himself, or he will grow up and admit to you that he likes you).

he cares for you A LOT!!!

I would never waste time with anybody if I wouldn't care for them.

AND I always offer my friendship first .. to the guy I fancy.

So him telling you he wants to be friends should be a compliment to you.

First friendship.
Second romance.
Third... it could get serious.

But you are giving him mixed messages.

I would hat thought sayiing I liked him was pretty forward.
But he says he is interested in this other girl.
This is, has been some fun along the way but also a lot of hard work is how it feels too.

I thought after my update I would be safe but clearly not as he has just text me again.

He has lost my trust.
I don't know why he won't leave me alone.
I've asked him to leave me alone so many times.
Feel like I am seriously losing the plot! :0(

He's feeling you slipping away and trying to hang on.
Ignore ignore ignore!

I can't cos he is still in my head!

So.
He text today to wish me a good day off and laughed about something I put on f b .

I ended up saying I was shocked he had text and also said that I was thinking his chatter since the time I had a in at him was to get me interested so I would make a fool me myself.
I also said that he liking this girl, well he has no need to keep me sweet as I haven't and wouldn't say anything at work.

He got offish with me and said he was just being nice but won't bother again.
I told him not to be so cold and asked him how silly he would feel he the situation were reversed.

He says the' its complicated' part which I mentioned earlier that the other girl said which he was embarrassed over is because he sits next to our MD who hates work relationships.
He also said he was worried because me that that rumours might go round which weren't true. .

He said I am not silly and he is not cold.

We've signed off on a good note and will be friends. It's easier as he is horrible when I ignore him.

I just need to get him off my mind in a more than friends way as there isn't much else I can do and have to see him everyday.

AC, I really appreciate you keeping up with how this changes all the time and my updates. Thank you! x

suze1111,he told you what you wanted to know.
take this Acquaintance for what it IS, regardless of how it started. yes, your "romantic" feelings for him tend to weaken you (happy/sad war) so just begin to manage those emotions realistically based on what he has Told you. You can learn to live with it. stop second guessing based on feelings, the facts remain. stay concious of that and You will no longer have this battle in your mind. treat him with professional customer service because you are a professional. don't remind him of past conversations about feelings and stay out of this office drama. just be cool and laugh this off. so you liked the guy and he had different feelings, scorpios are twisted as hell and like to press buttons to get a reaction. let him know you have it together and while life is a beach, you can handle the waves with a great attitude.

Thanks Pathfinder..taken on board! :0)

Managed to get through all of Christmas with no contact from him..one hour back at work and the staring started again..two days back and emails with kisses and compliments again..haha!
I'm no longer in the confused frame of mind though..not about him..'by his behaviour' a bit maybe but I haven't got time or energy to keep it in mind any more.
He asked me if I was ignoring him and checked we are still ok, offered me lifts home all this week and asked me out for a drink too.

Aside from that:

Over Christmas my ex (who I dated for 6 weeks over two and a half years ago) got in touch (yet again!. I don;t wish to have any contact with him and he knows that. I've also asked him to delete my number countless times. but he never yet has - guess what - he's a scorpio!
He's never stopped contacting me ever since I finished with him.
16 texts in the last few days..none responded to..
I refuse to change my number over one person.
All his texts now go into my new call blocking app. :0)