What makes you feel the most loved??

My Scorpio BF asked me this question on one of our first dates.

What makes you feel the most love and how do you like love to be shown to you?

A. Do you like to be touched a lot and have lots of affection?

B. Do you like to be verbally told all the time?
Or

C. Do you like it when someone buys you things and spends money on you.

Of course I said all 3, but he asked if I could only have one what would it be.

I'm curious to hear some of your answers before I tell you what I picked and why I picked it.

I would choose A.

B, I can intuit that. I always knows when someone loves me way before they say it.
C, I can buy myself anything I would want. Presents are certainly nice....but only when they come from the heart, not because someone feels they have to.

Why Keva??

I would pick none of the above .... they are all on the surface to pacify the ego .. verbal reassurance, gifts, tactile


I would make my own option .....


😱 Understanding the intentions of my heart to embrace, whether the hearts expression is agreeable or not. A person who makes me feel loved doesn't HAVE to agree, they only HAVE to understand that when my heart speaks to them, it's my true uniqueness that defines my personal essence of feelings.

I would say doing something sweet and thoughtful without me knowing, or without expecting recognition or praise. Also, I had one ex who would watch me sleep sometimes. I never knew it until he told me the next day, sometimes he would kiss me in my sleep(on the forehead or cheek) then he would ask "did you feel me kiss you last night...I never knew.

Hmmm....interesting question!! I think A lead to B leads to C!! I agree with SS, if you get A, then you already know B. C is a token thing. I'm not impressed with any attempts at being bought but at the same time, I really like getting what I want when I want it, hate having to wait or God forbid, the word NO, so immediate gratification is a plus.

Typical Libra answer!! LOL My choiec is A. I'm touchy feely if I love you, so definately A.

C...all that other stuff should come naturally. right? but if the question is if i could only have ONE, it would be A.

Intersting that no one picked the one that I did.

I chose B that I want to be verbally told.

I didn't pick A because to me all men can be touchy feely and affectionate without being in love. So that alone does not make me feel secure that I'm loved.

I didn't pick C because In my experience I have found that people who spend a lot of money on you do so because because they have trouble showing their love in other ways and I also feel like sometimes they are doing it either out of guilt or out of trying to gain control.

If someone is always talking and telling me their feelings I think that is the best way to know that you are loved. Just to be able to talk about your feelings shows that someone not only really loves you, but that they completely trust you.

The funny thing is though that after I told him that, I started thinking about how I show that I love someone. I am most comfortable showing love by being affectionate and touchy feely. Verbally expressing love makes me feel too vulnerable, but it would be amazing to me to find someone that I could freely just say whatever was on my mind and talk about my feelings and my insecurities and know that I would never be judged or feel rejected. To me that would be real love. The few times that I really allowed myself to do this it always seems to come back and bite me in the ass. People will use something you said against you later on in a fight and make you wish that you had never said anything. LOL!!

But U guys always believed that actions speak louder than the words.

Given the limited choices would choose A.

But D would be "just let me be me, and love me anyway as I you, unconditionally."

"But U guys always believed that actions speak louder than the words."

Hmmm!! Good point. That's why I really do think it's not possible to just have one of those things to feel loved. I have been in all 3 of these scenarios and I never really felt completely loved because I would complain about the things that are missing.

I have been in a realtionship where he was very good at saying the right thing, but he never followed through with the actions

I have had realtionships where they seem to have everything else, but they were such a lazy cheap ass that I just couldn't stand it.

I have been in a relationship where he buys my affection but I found him to be so very emotionally unavailable and he worked way too much.

I think what I really want is a healthy balanced combination of all 3. I don't think that just one of those things would ever be enough.

Girls can easily detect lack of warmth - and the truth is that every male has to get back realities of life aft some time - itz not necessarily a cut-back on emotions though.

Well Elena, You might be right because at least if you pick C then I guess you can at least be sure to have some security for when A and B doesn't work out and the relationship ends then at least you got something in the divorce for all of your pain and suffering. LOL!!!

"practicality has never been my forte'. but then again, i'm an aries.."

Or maybe it's because you're not a superficial gold-digger and don't need to depend on a man to take care of you. 😉

That's why I could give a rat's ass about C.

"that's the kind of shit that gets to me. everytime. jewelry and costly gifts, don't mean squat to me. it's all about the thought and effort."

Me too, am, and that story was beyond sweet. It doesn't take much forethought to go to a store and ask the salesgirl what piece of jewelry you should get for your woman. Doesn't take much time either. Honestly, whenever I get an expensive gift..it immediately makes me suspicious. Like...what do YOU feel guilty about, eh? 😛