WHY DO WE CLASH SO MUCH?

So there is this libra girl in our big group of friends..

we were sortof friends for a while but i feel like we are both secretly jealous of eachother sometimes and both want the spotlight on us. I'm a scorpio so i'll be the first to admitt - i love attention and the spotlight! i cant help it. Things happened in the past between me and her and now we both just dislike eachother. Anyway, after looking at both of our charts i noticed a couple of the same placings as one another, im wondering why cant we get along? i feel like we clash, also i was never really that comfortable to be myself around her which is unusual for me..

my chart:

Sun Scorpio
Moon Capricorn
Mercury Scorpio
Venus Libra
Mars Gemini
Jupiter Leo
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Sagittarius

her chart:

Sun Libra
Moon Leo
Mercury Libra
Venus Libra
Mars Gemini
Jupiter Leo
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Sagittarius