Winning a Scorpio male back?

I have had a wonderful but relatively short relationship with a Scorpio man. He just broke up with me. I am not buying it and am trying to win him back. The hallmark of our relationship is that he gets close and then pulls back. I can never predict when he will want to spend time except for a weekend date we always have. I just don't want to let him go. He was travelling all last week and apparently lamented over the decision the whole time. On his way home he stopped at my house and broke it off. He could barely give me reasons, and wanted to leave the scene of the crime after only 5 minutes. I know this is eating him up but he says he is adamant and will not "negotiate". Do any Scorpios have advice on how or if I can win a Scorpio male back?

He told me that he is just unahppy with dating. He wants something more -- finally -- and now he just can't do "this" anymore. While he did tell me it wasn't me he also said he just doesn't think it will go very far and felt disrespectful letting me think it was.

We don't like being pestered..so whatever you do don't get go all teary and emotional on him, it'll prolly freak him out..just give him space and then after a while ask him for the reason if you haven't already got a solid response. But as emeraldgem said, once its over its usually over..brutal honesty although harsh, is the best way..

I am surprised he wanted more and then freaked out though..how long you guys been dating etc?

I got teary and emotional when he wouldn't give me more than 5 minutes to explain. He looked miserable. I know brutal honesty is his way. And that Scorpions tend to lament and come to decisions all on their own. He says he wants more but every relationship he ever had has ended like this. We only went out for 3 months. Which is about the length of every other relationship he had.

I have always given him a ton of space and time. But then I feel like he went away and for one week was miserable on his own thinking about this. Then he came to the conclusion, and rushed to my house to tell me. It's all cliched but every one of my friends cannot believe it. There has been no indication that this was coming -- to them. To them he looked like he was crazier about me than I was with him. However, I knew he was going to do it because before he left he said he had to think about things.

The only contact I have had with him since then was to write a letter to him and dropped it off at his house. In the letter I told him that I just wanted to get out all the things I didn't have a chance to say since he left my place so quickly. I also told him I was fighting this. The real question is whether Scorpions leave the door somewhat open, even though he says he won't?

Well if this is a regular pattern with the guy then he might just be scared of commitment. Maybe he thought he was growing too close and therefore felt claustrophobic and pulled back.

I can't speak for the men on here but usually if its over, it really is over..well it is for me anyway. If I didn't want it to be over, I wouldn't end things but maybe just disappear for a while. The other thing is we do usually come to a decision quite abruptly. We have been thinking it for a while. But the fact he ended the relationship and left within 5 minutes is a bit fishy..Why didn't he hang around to explain..hmm..lets see what the men think..I am sure they will comment soon enough..

This is definitely a pattern. And he admits it and is beginning to want to get out of that pattern. 3 weeks before this he was scared that I was asking for a little more time with him. He said every other girlfriend he ever had came to this conclusion and he couldn't give more and it got ugly so he wanted to end it then -- 3 weeks ago. I talked him out of it and everything had been great again. No indication at all that he wasn't going to work things out and get more progressive. I think the 5 minutes is very fishy. Since I was successful before at talking him out of things (he actually never uttered the words "break-up") then if he gave me time again to argue he knew he might go back on it. He looked like he had been through the wringer too.

What star sign are you?. Hmm..he seems very insecure about something..maybe he doesn't want to reveal a side of him..DB and Elliot will give you a good response..I always land them two in it..lol..

A Scorpio I dated a few months back did this exact thing--ended things abruptly after only a short period of dating, surprising me and others. Being a Cancer, I was hurt and retreated into my shell and didn't contact him at all, period, and what do you know, he just reemerged, over two months later. Of course, he's playing games with my head, asking me why I ended things when we both know he did it, etc. So if you ignore him, he might come back. I do think it's a thrill of the chase thing for many of them. But do you really want that? I can't decide if I want to try again or not after the way he treated me the first time.

I am a Cancer. So I am retreating and getting my heart ripped in half. I think if I just lay low for a while there might be a chance. But I guess I need to not hold out any hope and go on assuming that it is over. Far easier said than done. I know there is still interest but I think, given the pattern, that he just doesn't have the skills to go to any next step.

Ok emeraldgem. Maybe it's me but I don't get it. Are you saying it's easy to win Scorpions back or difficult? I think I am slowly realizing that I have to move on. And maybe, just maybe, the loss of control, seeing me on my own, might want him to come back. But I know I can't count on it.

Just a thought to put out there....there may be no such thing as "winning anyone back". Someome either decides they want to be with you, or they don't.

Changing to be more like what you *think* they want? Denying who you really are? Probably a waste of time and does not bode well for the relationship.

I'm sure there are plenty of fellas out there who would be more responsive to your sensitivites.

I don't think u can win a scorpio back...they have to be ready to some back on their own and there is nothing u can do to speed up the process

It wasn't really without any warning, was it? He wanted to break up three weeks ago but you talked him out of it. Except, you didn't. 😢

Someone asked why you want to be with him if this is how he feels. That's a good question. You know, even though I have lots to learn, one thought that struck me years ago is always helpful - "If I'm not right for him, logically that means he can't be right for me." I know it doesn't FEEL that way - but if your foot doesn't fit in a shoe, the shoe isn't right for your foot. If a blouse is beautiful on the hanger but makes you look pale/fat/washed-out, then it's not right for you and you're never going to be right for that blouse... You don't fit for him? Then he isn't a match for you.

The only good news there is that there must be someone EVEN BETTER out there, who's so great you can't yet imagine him! Work on loving yourself and knowing how lucky some guy is going to be to get you. The day I realised that it really IS their loss, was the day I reached a relatively healthy place...

SAV x

Game over. Move on.

You're not what he wants. And to be fair, you deserve someone who wants you.

That's life.