Aries female and Taurus Male.

I've dated a lot of Taurus men--none of which lasted long enough to form a relationship because I got bored. However, I've never not attracted one. Furthermore, I am actually dating one now, living together, etc. Everything was extremely exciting in the beginning--different than any relationship I have had. However, I've noticed that I get rewarded more for bad behavior than for good--to put it in dog terms, because I make sense of the world better this way. So--when I'm more loving, he retreats--when I'm cold--he opens up. I'm naturally aloof and I've never been a compassionate/affectionate woman, but with him I am. I find myself having to restrain the urges at times. He does express me to me all the time that he loves the things I do and also dislikes the things I don't do. I asked him what I can do to show him I love and care for him, and he says "Be kind." As as Aries, we all think we are kind, and we are--in our 'own' ways, of course. I told him to break this down, because it is too broad for comprehension. He said, "If you ever are at a loss to show me you love me, cook me food (with my tastes in mind) and any sexual activity will definitely get the point across."

I mean, really--that's all?

I'm a crazy-crazy, if you guys know what I mean. I feel like we got further apart now that we live together--this is mainly my fault, I will single-handedly admit.

What can I do to get him back without feeling like I'm over-extending myself and without feeling like I'm giving more than I'm getting?

Any help is appreciated!

Errrr cook for him (with his tastes in mind) and keep him happy in the bedroom.

Like he told you too.

It's not that complicated. He's a bloke!

Posted by jdugan

What can I do to get him back without feeling like I'm over-extending myself and without feeling like I'm giving more than I'm getting?

Any help is appreciated!

Giving should be done freely and because you want to give, not because you are trying to get something in return.