Can anyone shed any light on this?

So my bull told me we would be great together. He’s attracted to me, knows we will have a great sex life and I’m close to his family etc but can’t see himself with me for 10-15 years but about 4...huh? So he will just wake up in Year 4 and walk out? It makes no sense to me. Maybe some fellow bulls can make sense of this. We were discussing our current situation. He said a lot that didn’t make much sense but was clear on how he felt for me and how much he cared. What on earth is going on?!

Sounds to me like hed like for you to be his FWBs for the next 4 years. If you'd like to be more than a FWB to him then it's probably best that you walk away now 🤷

who even says that?

"i can see myself with you for maybe 4 years and we'll see"

that's some cuckoo type fuccboi

Run

Posted by 2LoV3

So my bull told me we would be great together. He’s attracted to me, knows we will have a great sex life and I’m close to his family etc but can’t see himself with me for 10-15 years but about 4...huh? So he will just wake up in Year 4 and walk out? It makes no sense to me. Maybe some fellow bulls can make sense of this. We were discussing our current situation. He said a lot that didn’t make much sense but was clear on how he felt for me and how much he cared. What on earth is going on?!

He may think that you won't be hot as you are 4 years from now. Just a guess

Posted by Berzerker

@virgoOPPP cuckoo? With cuckoo has to do with this? Do you even know the definition?

weird thing to say is all

Four....why not five?

Lol

With all due respect, he's talking out of his arse

was it a joke?

Posted by Koni

Why would someone even say that? That is just weird.

Ask him what he’s going to do after four years. Call people out on the dumb things they say.

see? someone gets it.

wack. mad. strange. weird.

i can see myself with you until April 10 2023.

shit gives me anxiety.

really odd thing to say, but even more odd that you didn't try to get him to clarify....Ask what concerns he has and address them. That's usually my angle when I say weird shit during courtship. I know a lot of bulls are hesitant to commit bc we know we're locked in for the long haul once we do, and are averse to risk, so maybe its related to that. If you like him, maybe sign up for the 4 yrs. That's a decent LTR these days. Chances are he'll probably be way too comfortable and fat by the end of the term to think about leaving, espec. if you can cook lol....

Posted by Koni

Why would someone even say that? That is just weird.

Ask him what he’s going to do after four years. Call people out on the dumb things they say.

You don’t believe that he can come out with perfectly logical explanation?

👀😂🤣

Posted by virgoOPPP

i can see myself with you until April 10 2023.

shit gives me anxiety.

That’s why I always have Xanax handy...🙌

Thank you everyone for making me laugh so much!! 🤣🤣 I no longer feel like I need to seek help!

A quick backstory we dated for four years in 2005. I broke it off, we continued talking after. We are now both single again and I spoke to him to find out exactly what we were doing at this point.

@gemitatti @metatron @clairdelune The conversation went a little like this:

Him: I’m just not feeling ‘it’

Me: ok cool so you’re just not that interested in me

Him: no i am, I am you are definitely someone I would be with

Me: err ok you just don’t care enough

Him: no I do, I do I REALLY care about you,

I find you really attractive, I know the sex would be good and you get on with my family which is important. We are perfect but I could only see myself with you for 4 yrs....

Me: 🤨🤔🤯

This continued for about an hour and a half. He spent most of the conversation looking at the floor at which point I didn’t think I would get sense out of him and I had to leave !

@jeane I wish it was a joke!! Ha!

Whats the rest of his chart?

Posted by 2LoV3

Thank you everyone for making me laugh so much!! 🤣🤣 I no longer feel like I need to seek help!

A quick backstory we dated for four years in 2005. I broke it off, we continued talking after. We are now both single again and I spoke to him to find out exactly what we were doing at this point.

@gemitatti @metatron @clairdelune The conversation went a little like this:

Him: I’m just not feeling ‘it’

Me: ok cool so you’re just not that interested in me

Him: no i am, I am you are definitely someone I would be with

Me: err ok you just don’t care enough

Him: no I do, I do I REALLY care about you,

I find you really attractive, I know the sex would be good and you get on with my family which is important. We are perfect but I could only see myself with you for 4 yrs....

Me: 🤨🤔🤯

This continued for about an hour and a half. He spent most of the conversation looking at the floor at which point I didn’t think I would get sense out of him and I had to leave !

@jeane I wish it was a joke!! Ha!

Maybe just his way of telling you that he's afraid you'll get tired of him after 4 yrs again lol...I have no idea. Sounds like really poor communication between you two. I couldn't handle it....

Maybe he just doesn't see long term potential with you for some reason so he's hesitent to commit. There must be something that is spooking him. What is happening for him or you in four years then??

I dont know im not buying any of ot.

Dont waste your time.

Find someone who wanta to be with you and *knows he wants yo be with you in the long run.

Taurus are afraid of hurt or making a bad decision, but they can committ and they can give 100% when they are certain.

Dont try to convince him or "try it out for 4 years".

Idk how old you are but ice been there and ita a waste of time. It hurts and its so much harder when you know there maybe an expiration date.

Posted by AgentP911

Maybe he just doesn't see long term potential with you for some reason so he's hesitent to commit. There must be something that is spooking him. What is happening for him or you in four years then??

He was kind of rambling so to be honest, I think he plucked it out of mid air. Since then he said never say never and he may feel differently later on...that’s when I exited!

Posted by 2LoV3

Thank you everyone for making me laugh so much!! 🤣🤣 I no longer feel like I need to seek help!

A quick backstory we dated for four years in 2005. I broke it off, we continued talking after. We are now both single again and I spoke to him to find out exactly what we were doing at this point.

@gemitatti @metatron @clairdelune The conversation went a little like this:

Him: I’m just not feeling ‘it’

Me: ok cool so you’re just not that interested in me

Him: no i am, I am you are definitely someone I would be with

Me: err ok you just don’t care enough

Him: no I do, I do I REALLY care about you,

I find you really attractive, I know the sex would be good and you get on with my family which is important. We are perfect but I could only see myself with you for 4 yrs....

Me: 🤨🤔🤯

This continued for about an hour and a half. He spent most of the conversation looking at the floor at which point I didn’t think I would get sense out of him and I had to leave !

@jeane I wish it was a joke!! Ha!

Is he mental? You might be unaware...

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Posted by 2LoV3

Thank you everyone for making me laugh so much!! 🤣🤣 I no longer feel like I need to seek help!

A quick backstory we dated for four years in 2005. I broke it off, we continued talking after. We are now both single again and I spoke to him to find out exactly what we were doing at this point.

@gemitatti @metatron @clairdelune The conversation went a little like this:

Him: I’m just not feeling ‘it’

Me: ok cool so you’re just not that interested in me

Him: no i am, I am you are definitely someone I would be with

Me: err ok you just don’t care enough

Him: no I do, I do I REALLY care about you,

I find you really attractive, I know the sex would be good and you get on with my family which is important. We are perfect but I could only see myself with you for 4 yrs....

Me: 🤨🤔🤯

This continued for about an hour and a half. He spent most of the conversation looking at the floor at which point I didn’t think I would get sense out of him and I had to leave !

@jeane I wish it was a joke!! Ha!

Is he mental? You might be unaware...

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This sounds like the only logical explanation!

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Posted by 2LoV3

Thank you everyone for making me laugh so much!! 🤣🤣 I no longer feel like I need to seek help!

A quick backstory we dated for four years in 2005. I broke it off, we continued talking after. We are now both single again and I spoke to him to find out exactly what we were doing at this point.

@gemitatti @metatron @clairdelune The conversation went a little like this:

Him: I’m just not feeling ‘it’

Me: ok cool so you’re just not that interested in me

Him: no i am, I am you are definitely someone I would be with

Me: err ok you just don’t care enough

Him: no I do, I do I REALLY care about you,

I find you really attractive, I know the sex would be good and you get on with my family which is important. We are perfect but I could only see myself with you for 4 yrs....

Me: 🤨🤔🤯

This continued for about an hour and a half. He spent most of the conversation looking at the floor at which point I didn’t think I would get sense out of him and I had to leave !

@jeane I wish it was a joke!! Ha!

Is he mental? You might be unaware...

This sounds like the only logical explanation!

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I think when nothing makes sense it’s because they have mind that regular person can’t comprehend and it’s mental.

Did you tell him no?

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Posted by 2LoV3

Thank you everyone for making me laugh so much!! 🤣🤣 I no longer feel like I need to seek help!

A quick backstory we dated for four years in 2005. I broke it off, we continued talking after. We are now both single again and I spoke to him to find out exactly what we were doing at this point.

@gemitatti @metatron @clairdelune The conversation went a little like this:

Him: I’m just not feeling ‘it’

Me: ok cool so you’re just not that interested in me

Him: no i am, I am you are definitely someone I would be with

Me: err ok you just don’t care enough

Him: no I do, I do I REALLY care about you,

I find you really attractive, I know the sex would be good and you get on with my family which is important. We are perfect but I could only see myself with you for 4 yrs....

Me: 🤨🤔🤯

This continued for about an hour and a half. He spent most of the conversation looking at the floor at which point I didn’t think I would get sense out of him and I had to leave !

@jeane I wish it was a joke!! Ha!

Is he mental? You might be unaware...

This sounds like the only logical explanation!

I think when nothing makes sense it’s because they have mind that regular person can’t comprehend and it’s mental.

Did you tell him no?

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I didn’t say anything! I think he needs to go away and think about what he actually wants to do then maybe we should talk!

he's spooked about the previous 4 years when you walked

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Posted by 2LoV3

Thank you everyone for making me laugh so much!! 🤣🤣 I no longer feel like I need to seek help!

A quick backstory we dated for four years in 2005. I broke it off, we continued talking after. We are now both single again and I spoke to him to find out exactly what we were doing at this point.

@gemitatti @metatron @clairdelune The conversation went a little like this:

Him: I’m just not feeling ‘it’

Me: ok cool so you’re just not that interested in me

Him: no i am, I am you are definitely someone I would be with

Me: err ok you just don’t care enough

Him: no I do, I do I REALLY care about you,

I find you really attractive, I know the sex would be good and you get on with my family which is important. We are perfect but I could only see myself with you for 4 yrs....

Me: 🤨🤔🤯

This continued for about an hour and a half. He spent most of the conversation looking at the floor at which point I didn’t think I would get sense out of him and I had to leave !

@jeane I wish it was a joke!! Ha!

Is he mental? You might be unaware...

This sounds like the only logical explanation!

I think when nothing makes sense it’s because they have mind that regular person can’t comprehend and it’s mental.

Did you tell him no?

I didn’t say anything! I think he needs to go away and think about what he actually wants to do then maybe we should talk!

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Look for someone else in a mean time. Good luck!

Posted by tctaap

he's spooked about the previous 4 years when you walked

That could well be why he wasn’t making much sense otherwise because I know he wouldn’t have come out and said that. Good point!! It must just be stuck in his head.

Posted by Hapis

Sounds like he likes you, just isnt confident that it's enough for the long run. Doesnt want it to be a waste of time.

Ah, you broke up with him after 4 years of dating.. probably a passive aggressive way of saying he doesnt really want to spend another 4 years and end up in the same spot. He's looking for reassurance from you.

Who initiated the current discussion of getting back together? Him or you?

I initiated the discussion. We had been acting sometimes like we were a couple and other times not and I decided we should figure things out.

Sounds like he was hurt in your past relationship of 4 years...l myself have said a similar thing to my wife...l said after 10 years l'll see if we continue or not...l realise it's a nasty, horrible thing to say...but l felt just so pressured after years of the relationship..and the 11 year mark came and she said oh l forgot, you wanted to do your little evaluation...so embarassing....l said l want you for life... I don't know what l was thinking...ugh 😢

Posted by bricklemark

Sounds like he was hurt in your past relationship of 4 years...l myself have said a similar thing to my wife...l said after 10 years l'll see if we continue or not...l realise it's a nasty, horrible thing to say...but l felt just so pressured after years of the relationship..and the 11 year mark came and she said oh l forgot, you wanted to do your little evaluation...so embarassing....l said l want you for life... I don't know what l was thinking...ugh 😢

Really, wow! Yes, I can understand the hurt and having the same time frame in your head because of it. Needs more reassurance I guess