Comfort Zones

I need some more info from you guys if you wouldn't mind 🙂

been with my bull for a few years now, and we have an incredible sex life so this is in no way me complaining 😉

How long does it take for you guys to open up with the trust in your sexual activites? I know my bull is hesitant about playing with hand cuffs and blind folds and so forth. I want to play and since i know he has some issues with it, maybe from a bad expereince, how can i ease this to him? I know he trusts me, but that can still be very intense for soomeone who isn't so carefree.

Any suggestions?

Ya, I'm learning 🙂 I can't complain at all because he is experiemental and shakes things up so he isn't boring and bland. But of coarse as a gemini i love role playing and games, anything interactive... skies the limits. He also ensures that he pleases me to the point of tapping out. I believe that is always his mission. I'm hard headed so we playfully battle with that. It's a game really. lol So i'm not worried that i'll start having issues with him. I just want to try that ans see how he handles it, but not in a way that he is turned off. That wouldn't be good.

And now that you mention it, he does typically control our bedroom antics. I'm going to have to test that out and be the controlling one, i gotta see what happens with that one.

Do you guys tend to instigate? I'm usually always the one asking.. hinting... instigating things. He'll wait for me to send him a flirty text or something preparing him for the night's plan. That cracks me up too. I have never been on a sex schedule before. I didn't think i would be able to handle that honestly, since i'm all about being spontaneous. But i know he likes to have his plan for the evening and by me bringin it up, it makes his night easier cuz he knows what's in store for the evening. I do this because 1. i don't mind 2. i know he has had issues with most of his women previously tell him no. They weren't in the mood that often and so forth. So i try and make it easy for him. Is that a typical trait? or just his life's expereinces making him worry about the rejection?

i... must... refrain... from... responding!

hahahaha ninja, i kinda been waiting for you too, you always got something off the wall that makes me think. Comeon.. give it to me! 😉

Bella -

"lol,please come back and let me know how that one goes! sounds like fun"

Will do.. i'm excited!! heh

"I don't think I could be on a sex schedule either...unless it was really good and I was getting it every night....then I guess I could live with that"

That's just exactly how it goes. It's alot of fun, something to look forward to, and what it does for my mentally— yikes, he's got me sooooooo into him its rediculous. I still LUST for him and it's been a few years now. That's unheard of for me. But i guess when you get please like i'm getting please.. all your worries fade away, pressure's gone.. life is pretty good actually 😉 I did ask him to on occassion please my spontaneous side and suprise me and he listened actually and every couple months he'll come up with something out of the blue. 🙂

and i do find if i randomly tell him something i want to try or do, and how much i like it, he likes that and i'll notice him doing exactly the thing i asked. BUt i learned it was all about presentation and giving him plenty of time to put it in his schedule 😉 These men are just awesome, especially when you learn to work around and appreciate their scheduled life. for me, as a scatterbrain gemini, it's been a relief that i never thought i would enjoy. I so desperately needed that structure and i didn't know it really until i started experiencing it.

One morning, just wake up before he does, and while he's still sleeping, cuff his ass to the bedpost, and by the time he wakes up and notices what's going on it'll be too late for him to say no haha.

Sike, just playing, if anything, maybe suggest it when you two are already both worked up and in the mood, and let him know that if he goes along with it you'll let him do something that he might have been wanting to do but hasn't brought up.

Ohhhh great i dea Taurus83. I know, how his mind thinks, i might be in trouble with leaving that open for him lmao.