confused and sad... is not only about Taurus but he definetly helped...

Good night everyone... I am in the dark right now and don't only metaphorically..

I am a scorpio I met this guy months ago.. I didn't get if he was interested

we had 2 kind of date (I wasn't sure about that)

I introduced myself I used to be the one who texted and for a while I thought he just saw me as a friend which is fine..

we were living in a city far from home.. he moved after I moved and it happen that we were home at the same time so

we schedule to meet and the shocking experience happen.. we kissed we spent hours cuddling

I was freaking out but inside my head of course he definitely realize how much I was going crazy... he had to move back after two days and I am still here..

He text me the day later.. I keep to write after that .. gentleman polite nice but cold.. I started to feel rejected and I don t feel to be sweet with him anymore so yesterday after a salty line from me he wrote me a kind text about that he knows the fact that is not cool that he doesn't even answer back sometimes but in this moment sadly it doesn't makes sense to keep in touch frequently.. I answer back that it's frustrating the fact he isn't chance really even if I felt the was something behind the surface between us.. (and he said he was sad to leave and the time we had was too short, and he was singing and be sweet (I hate him))

Now I was trying to delete him from my mind and let it go definitely but .. I thought luckily I just get the chance to have a free reading of tarot and even if I wanted to ask for something different I end up asking about the guy "it going to be more like a closure".. It makes me realize how bad I feel about the idea to shut that door..

But it's unhealthy for me and I don't know how to behave properly at this point, and even what he's thinking really... or worst doing at this point... I mean can you feel something and nothing at the same time... any council or a hug?

I know it sounds like a teenager story.. I don't think he is not interested for his behavior when he's with me and how nice he text me but about the rest I would agree that he's not

Posted by Redoctober2000
You are a Scorpio - amputate. The guy is not interested. Just try and let it go. Try and get out of yourself and meet other people. He is not the only guy on the planet.

Widen your social circle. Keep your "saltiness" to yourself. We all have choices. Rejection is a part of life. You can't get "salty" just because things don't work out the way you want them too.

You sound really young. You have the whole world ahead of you to explore...... Go and explore it.

"M143, OP. She is another one who thinks that Taurus men are somehow only attracted to Scorps and no one else. She only got her man back after he went MIA for two years fucking around with other women and then returned to her!! ? ? ?

I personally feel that fire sign women are better than water signs.

So if the Taurus sees you as a future wife, the chances are that it is more than likely to happen. Fire signs are admirable. Most Sag women hold themselves up with grace and dignity and hold out for what they want whereas it seems the majority of earth women sell themselves cheaply as "fwbs" and the water ones manipulate too much!! "

I would prefer a suggestion from somebody more mature than you..

somebody who doesn't feel that needs to "win" something and to compare people or judge like you do... and I don't want to go down with what I am thinking about how you share your thoughts...

Posted by tiziani

Posted by AneemA

Posted by Redoctober2000
Never chase or initiate contact with a man or will br doing this for life and always seeking Affirmation from him. If a man wants you he will make it known.. Never fall into a man's lap with no effort on his part....

But this is hard for us scorps! We are so used to initiating contacts, not because we're sad or anything, its just coz we will get whatever or whoever it is we want and we'll freakin do it. We don't sit well sitting at home and wait for a guy's phonecalls, that's freakin bullshit.

Certainly we suck at playing "cool" when we want someone. We can appear cool but its usually when we are about ourselves.

I know i'm generalizing scorps here and I know what you say is actually the best to be done but we have probs applying the advice.

There's nothing wrong with initiating what you want.

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I hope so...

and I don't want to live with stupid ideas like a "man has to be" a "woman have to"... I am educating myself to see everybody as people and that's it...

by the way he kissed me, he express a sweet side talking (for once) it's not like I am doing everything on my own with a doll...

but I also need to be in balance and even if I understand that we moved far away from each other so we don't have the way to cultivate the sensation that we felt I can't be sure that he feel something as I perceive... that make me insicure and it's all out of my control so I need to be detached live what I feel without ask myself what he feels... be friendly but nothing more.. it's scary.. don't want to burn myself

by the way I know him since January so it's not exactly short time so the patience could be less that it would be if we didn't actually had time to get to know each other..

how I am supposed to rebalance the situation and be cool now?

I need some practical council.. should I disappear for a week or two or just wait and see if he contact me on his own at some point..dunnow

Wow two dates and you talk as if he's destroyed you.

Why are you pinning all of your hopes and dreams on a dude you've only hung out with twice?

It's a long distance relationship. He tells you that it's not going to work, it doesn't make sense to continue. He stops answering your texts and starts distancing himself.

A passionate kiss means nothing if the intentions behind it don't match. If your content with the crumbs he'll throw you then by all means continue. Each time he comes to town you can be his booty call and keep him company until he goes home to his real relationships.

If you don't want that then move onto the next. And don't put all your eggs in one basket. Two dates and your much more emotionally involved then you should be.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Wow two dates and you talk as if he's destroyed you.

Why are you pinning all of your hopes and dreams on a dude you've only hung out with twice?

he didn't destroy me .. I have many things going on so it's easy to make question about the choices that I am making

8 months of texting and 3/4 "dates" I don't even know if those were dates..

interests goals and principles in common plus physical connection over what I used to feel so I am sorry if I give it some value..

Posted by LadyNeptune
It's a long distance relationship. He tells you that it's not going to work, it doesn't make sense to continue. He stops answering your texts and starts distancing himself.

A passionate kiss means nothing if the intentions behind it don't match. If your content with the crumbs he'll throw you then by all means continue. Each time he comes to town you can be his booty call and keep him company until he goes home to his real relationships.

If you don't want that then move onto the next. And don't put all your eggs in one basket. Two dates and your much more emotionally involved then you should be.

oh my gosh what happen to people why you have to see everything like it's about sex and used each other..

I know distract himself and myself makes sense but actually somebody need to have something more then someone to feel company or to fill the ego so maybe it's no like be single or better be alone in a no choice.. even for guys..

Posted by AliceFromNeverland

Posted by LadyNeptune
Wow two dates and you talk as if he's destroyed you.

Why are you pinning all of your hopes and dreams on a dude you've only hung out with twice?

he didn't destroy me .. I have many things going on so it's easy to make question about the choices that I am making

8 months of texting and 3/4 "dates" I don't even know if those were dates..

interests goals and principles in common plus physical connection over what I used to feel so I am sorry if I give it some value..

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Too much value.

He's not your boyfriend your not his gf. 3/4 dates in 8 months should have indicated his level of interest and dampened yours.

Wow. How bitter. How stupid. That RedOctober cant get even with me. Your 007 did not deliver your car yet.? You are still wanted to fight with me ugly fat lady? Really? I mean seriously? You sounds jealous how I made him suffer after 2 yrs of winning me back. I dont need to explain. Let alone his proposals speaks. And oh Im on vacation with him again. How sad Red your bull did not treat you right. This is why you kept on lashing out on me. Hahaha. Move on fatbullete.

Posted by M143
Wow. How bitter. How stupid. That RedOctober cant get even with me. Your 007 did not deliver your car yet.? You are still wanted to fight with me ugly fat lady? Really? I mean seriously? You sounds jealous how I made him suffer after 2 yrs of winning me back. I dont need to explain. Let alone his proposals speaks. And oh Im on vacation with him again. How sad Red your bull did not treat you right. This is why you kept on lashing out on me. Hahaha. Move on fatbullete.

She has moved on. She deleted.

Posted by AliceFromNeverland

Posted by LadyNeptune
It's a long distance relationship. He tells you that it's not going to work, it doesn't make sense to continue. He stops answering your texts and starts distancing himself.

A passionate kiss means nothing if the intentions behind it don't match. If your content with the crumbs he'll throw you then by all means continue. Each time he comes to town you can be his booty call and keep him company until he goes home to his real relationships.

If you don't want that then move onto the next. And don't put all your eggs in one basket. Two dates and your much more emotionally involved then you should be.

oh my gosh what happen to people why you have to see everything like it's about sex and used each other..

I know distract himself and myself makes sense but actually somebody need to have something more then someone to feel company or to fill the ego so maybe it's no like be single or better be alone in a no choice.. even for guys..

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Romantic relationships are, at their core, sexual. Your question was how can he be so sweet and loving to you in person and so distant and cold when he's not...

I didn't quite understand that second part. Elaborate please.

Posted by QueenT
Well, Sags aren't really what you think they are... heard Plenty of stories about them. Tauruses, yes, we would rather have a fwbs type situation before getting into a relationship with the wrong person. Scorps are okay but can be pretty irritating once they're mad. She probably doesn't care for you all that much because it would show if she did.

I was writing a lot about sag.. I have more two big friends and my aut sag they really love me I am the best maid and the favorite niece and I love them but I am really disappointed about their way to live relationship.. even more love relationships. As friend I wouldn't trust them blind.. if I really need help I know sadly I can't ask them for help they will help me if I ask but only if they don't have to put much effort on it, both my friends are in relationships no for love but for match their plans..

if you love someone it's deeply disappointed to see that they can't understand you

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by AliceFromNeverland

Posted by LadyNeptune
It's a long distance relationship. He tells you that it's not going to work, it doesn't make sense to continue. He stops answering your texts and starts distancing himself.

A passionate kiss means nothing if the intentions behind it don't match. If your content with the crumbs he'll throw you then by all means continue. Each time he comes to town you can be his booty call and keep him company until he goes home to his real relationships.

If you don't want that then move onto the next. And don't put all your eggs in one basket. Two dates and your much more emotionally involved then you should be.

oh my gosh what happen to people why you have to see everything like it's about sex and used each other..

I know distract himself and myself makes sense but actually somebody need to have something more then someone to feel company or to fill the ego so maybe it's no like be single or better be alone in a no choice.. even for guys..

Romantic relationships are, at their core, sexual. Your question was how can he be so sweet and loving to you in person and so distant and cold when he's not...

I didn't quite understand that second part. Elaborate please.

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it depend's what is the idea of sexual in your mind.. if I think sex I think about all the phycological things around it and it's not like and equation for me.. I think sex can totally be used somebody and I think romantic it's the opposite to use somebody..

The second part I mean to say that I know we are far away and it's a new thing so it totally makes sense to distract himself/myself and possibly cut it now when is fresh and easier

but if you feel like that could become more like a partner than a boyfriend

I find it's quite hard to choose to just be rational and move on

I don't think it's easy to anybody find someone who has different sides that can match with your sides..

It's quite easy find physical attraction but it's not easy find somebody to share about even stupid things, who push you to become who you want to be etc Am I wrong

Posted by AliceFromNeverland
if you love someone it's deeply disappointed to see that they can't understand you

You can't choose family but you can choose who you fall in love with.

Don't hand your heart to someone who doesn't understand what their holding.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by AliceFromNeverland

Posted by tiziani

Posted by AneemA

Posted by Redoctober2000
Never chase or initiate contact with a man or will br doing this for life and always seeking Affirmation from him. If a man wants you he will make it known.. Never fall into a man's lap with no effort on his part....

But this is hard for us scorps! We are so used to initiating contacts, not because we're sad or anything, its just coz we will get whatever or whoever it is we want and we'll freakin do it. We don't sit well sitting at home and wait for a guy's phonecalls, that's freakin bullshit.

Certainly we suck at playing "cool" when we want someone. We can appear cool but its usually when we are about ourselves.

I know i'm generalizing scorps here and I know what you say is actually the best to be done but we have probs applying the advice.

There's nothing wrong with initiating what you want.

I hope so...

and I don't want to live with stupid ideas like a "man has to be" a "woman have to"... I am educating myself to see everybody as people and that's it...

by the way he kissed me, he express a sweet side talking (for once) it's not like I am doing everything on my own with a doll...

how I am supposed to rebalance the situation and be cool now?

I need some practical council.. should I disappear for a week or two or just wait and see if he contact me on his own at some point..dunnow

My only practical advice on this one is never base your decisions on a man (or woman's) attention. Disappearing for a week or two and waiting to see if that brings a reaction is the same nature as "waiting for a man to initiate". It is deferring responsibility for your emotions to another person, when you are responsible for how you feel and living up to what you want. In this case, it seems he wants to remain out of touch and nothing more, since he outright told you "it doesn't make sense to keep in touch". There is not much you can do with him other than respect that, and focus on what you want regardless in your own time.

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actually he didn't said "it doesn't make sense to keep in touch"

I am translating it

I said that we shouldn't hear each other very regularly

exactly more like:

-sadly it's doesn't seems to have much sense to hear each other very regularly, for many reasons-

it's slightly different ...

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by AliceFromNeverland
if you love someone it's deeply disappointed to see that they can't understand you

You can't choose family but you can choose who you fall in love with.

Don't hand your heart to someone who doesn't understand what their holding.

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I know but we have our own morals.. for someone our morals can be wrong..

they are friend and family love someone it's also accept that they are different from us.. isn't?

However in a relationship it's deeply important to share the morals... I think

Posted by AliceFromNeverland

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by AliceFromNeverland
if you love someone it's deeply disappointed to see that they can't understand you

You can't choose family but you can choose who you fall in love with.

Don't hand your heart to someone who doesn't understand what their holding.

I know but we have our own morals.. for someone our morals can be wrong..

they are friend and family love someone it's also accept that they are different from us.. isn't?

However in a relationship it's deeply important to share the morals... I think

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in a romantic one is essential

Posted by QueenT
I'm not sure about their relationship ordeal personally because I've never been in a relationship with one. Why would u be disappointed at the way someone else decides to live? And that's not your friend if you can't trust them. You sound like you're desperate. Why ask someone for help who doesn't want to help lmao— That's backwards, you can't find anymore friends? Anybody can be in a relationship for any reason, that's their choice.

It's not about now but you know when you really need somebody to be there for you for example if you are really sick..

you know how many marred people end up dying alone of cancer? they probably didn't even thought about it when they were fine but some people just are not "there for you" it doesn't mean that they are not your friends or they don't really love you it's about how far they can go..

I know if I need some big help they wouldn't be the person I can ask for..

I have other friends really different from me but even if we don't share many way to think about life I know if I am in trouble even if we talk once in a while they would be there..

Posted by EnochtheWise

Posted by tiziani
In this case, it seems he wants to remain out of touch and nothing more, since he outright told you "it doesn't make sense to keep in touch".

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I'm hypnotized by Spock.

and I really like the life theory of Tiziani

Posted by tiziani

Posted by PeanutButterandElly


Also make this decision wholly on you. Thinking completely about yourself, you desires, your limitations and your feelings. what decision make the best sense and give you a feeling of harmony? Sometimes women take the other party's feeling too much into consideration and neglect our own. Probably some social bullshit conditioning or something lol.

Said it better than I could.

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Thank you for share the PeanutButterandElly post , I would have missed it

It's really inspiring

I will read what you write and what she writes again

it a good way to live -emotionally honest-

Posted by QueenT
Some friends stay connected more than others... that's Life. You can expect someone who knows almost nothing about you to be there for you when you're going through something they know nothing about. I just treat people how they treat me and tend not to concern myself with people I know don't want to help. What's the point? You have to think about yourself first and how you feel, as stated. Why bother with a "friend" who really isn't a friend? Makes no sense, am I wrong?

I want to try to live life following first my principles

those are not usually easy to live with after that

I want to respect myself and my emotions

I don't think I should give what others gives me.. I should give what I feel to give without aspect a return.. and it's f**g hard..

I think I am quite good to do it in material things, I love give nice gifts or cook for others or be there if they need a little help or a council but it's hard when it's about feelings

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by AliceFromNeverland

Posted by LadyNeptune
It's a long distance relationship. He tells you that it's not going to work, it doesn't make sense to continue. He stops answering your texts and starts distancing himself.

A passionate kiss means nothing if the intentions behind it don't match. If your content with the crumbs he'll throw you then by all means continue. Each time he comes to town you can be his booty call and keep him company until he goes home to his real relationships.

If you don't want that then move onto the next. And don't put all your eggs in one basket. Two dates and your much more emotionally involved then you should be.

oh my gosh what happen to people why you have to see everything like it's about sex and used each other..

I know distract himself and myself makes sense but actually somebody need to have something more then someone to feel company or to fill the ego so maybe it's no like be single or better be alone in a no choice.. even for guys..

Romantic relationships are, at their core, sexual. Your question was how can he be so sweet and loving to you in person and so distant and cold when he's not...

I didn't quite understand that second part. Elaborate please.

it depend's what is the idea of sexual in your mind.. if I think sex I think about all the phycological things around it and it's not like and equation for me.. I think sex can totally be used somebody and I think romantic it's the opposite to use somebody..

The second part I mean to say that I know we are far away and it's a new thing so it totally makes sense to distract himself/myself and possibly cut it now when is fresh and easier

but if you feel like that could become more like a partner than a boyfriend

I find it's quite hard to choose to just be rational and move on

I don't think it's easy to anybody find someone who has different sides that can match with your sides..

It's quite easy find physical attraction but it's not easy find somebody to share about even stupid things, who push you to become who you want to be etc Am I wrong

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Acknowledging you have a problem is the first step to recovery.

Posted by QueenT
I think you should ALWAYS treat people how they treat you unless you're at work.... as in, your career. And it's really not hard when it's about feelings. We KNOW how we feel. We don't like hurting people's feelings so we try to stay out of the way. We may flirt but we don't want to be loved by someone we don't love. If we like someone and they don't like us back, we move to the next. If we were with someone and think about them but don't hit them up then we probably aren't ready to go down that road again or just don't want to continue reaching out to dead ends. Everything is so simple with us but a lot think it's more than what it is lol

by we you mean that's the way a taurus love in your opinion?

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Posted by AliceFromNeverland

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by AliceFromNeverland

Posted by LadyNeptune
It's a long distance relationship. He tells you that it's not going to work, it doesn't make sense to continue. He stops answering your texts and starts distancing himself.

A passionate kiss means nothing if the intentions behind it don't match. If your content with the crumbs he'll throw you then by all means continue. Each time he comes to town you can be his booty call and keep him company until he goes home to his real relationships.

If you don't want that then move onto the next. And don't put all your eggs in one basket. Two dates and your much more emotionally involved then you should be.

oh my gosh what happen to people why you have to see everything like it's about sex and used each other..

I know distract himself and myself makes sense but actually somebody need to have something more then someone to feel company or to fill the ego so maybe it's no like be single or better be alone in a no choice.. even for guys..

Romantic relationships are, at their core, sexual. Your question was how can he be so sweet and loving to you in person and so distant and cold when he's not...

I didn't quite understand that second part. Elaborate please.

it depend's what is the idea of sexual in your mind.. if I think sex I think about all the phycological things around it and it's not like and equation for me.. I think sex can totally be used somebody and I think romantic it's the opposite to use somebody..

The second part I mean to say that I know we are far away and it's a new thing so it totally makes sense to distract himself/myself and possibly cut it now when is fresh and easier

but if you feel like that could become more like a partner than a boyfriend

I find it's quite hard to choose to just be rational and move on

I don't think it's easy to anybody find someone who has different sides that can match with your sides..

It's quite easy find physical attraction but it's not easy find somebody to share about even stupid things, who push you to become who you want to be etc Am I wrong

Acknowledging you have a problem is the first step to recovery.

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I don't think you get the point...

people think to be "rational"

rationality came from a way to think about something based on our previous experiences or "rules" so it could be right or wrong because it's disappointed but they way you behave have always a consequence many time it isn't predictable.. other way the concept of faith wouldn't exist

but "be rational" just to cover a feeling I am not sure it's healthy ..

I like the way Tiziani think that's a challenge to grow

Posted by QueenT
Of course. This Taurus and a few others I know... can't really speak for All.

I see.. but how can you be happy in a long term relationship I mean everyone after 30 years of marriage has somenthings to complain about... if you behave like romans with the law of retaliation "Oculum pro oculo dentem pro dente"

he loves you less so you love him less he doesn't treat you well as he used to so you do the same he doesn't even take care of how I feel so you do the same etc etc... he takes a knife you do the same.... lol

Posted by QueenT
You have to be rational in order for history not to repeat itself. I was in a circle for almost two years because I wasn't being rational. You should always have FAITH but never be stupid. If you get with a person who treats you horrible for a few years, no matter how many times you've tried to be cordial, how do you think a relationship or friendship with this person would be after those few years? Being rational wouldn't let you daydream into thinking that any kind of situation with that person will be peaches and cream. It'll throw a big red flag.... your mind and heart will come together and say "remember the last few years, think about it." Your mind and heart rarely agrees unless it's almost certain of something. Kind of hard for slaves to want to love their masters after years of mistreatment... not saying we're slaves but you get my point.

that's makes sense.. I wonder where is the balance between that and the "Tiziani rules"

Posted by QueenT
Her rules are her rules, my rules are mines. Just as yours are yours. Now, if I was interested in getting to know about Tiziani and becoming closer and they were interested in me - I would try to find the common ground in her rules. BUT, since I do not know her and live by the motto "everyone has an opinion - because hey, we all handle things differently" then her way works for her and my way works for me. Everybody's happy.

what?

communication sometimes it's a problem because we give different meanings to things and word ..

X)

Posted by QueenT
That's why I reach out and go personally talk to ppl when I feel like communicating with them. Any other way, text or web, just something to do

I know I hate texting.... but in this case I don't have choice since I should take a plane to see him...

in general I text rarely and briefly with some exception.. my friends don't have any problem if I disappear sometimes because they know me... wish our society didn't need to use phone so often...