@NZAqua
17 Years500+ PostsAquarius
Confusing, argumentative, jealous, possessive (Page 2)
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Okay, thanks to all who have posted with useful stuff 🙂
Here's what I'm doing:
Taurus man needs safety. He's trying to get it using guilt trips and pushing to be in my space every five minutes.
I've agreed to spend time with him as long as it's quality time where we're both calmer about this safety thing.
In order to do that he's agreed to tone it down with the questions re my integrity - which were pissing me off badly since I'd done naff all to warrant them.
I've agreed to listen to his emotional speeches a little more closely instead of turning out to them.
Hopefully he can feel a little safer and i can stop getting my back up over the possessive stuff that's going on.
I'll start there and give it a go because I can see, aside from this safety issue, that he's a pretty decent guy.
If we don't compromise we'll be banging heads together and I'll walk because I can't stand the turmoil.
*sigh*.
Fingers crossed 🙂
Posted by KingPisces
Hi CowtitsHi, minnow nuggets. 🙂
I'm cranky and have a headache.
how are you?
Posted by KingPisces
Hi CowtitsHi, minnow nuggets. 🙂
I'm cranky and have a headache.
how are you?LMAO minnow nuggets...Hehe, that sounds cute 🙂
Just trying to recover. I have been sick for the past few weeks with bronchitis and I also sprained my ankle 😢
Awwwww...Don't be cranky Bullette. Don't have a cow 😄
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Aww that sucks. 😢 hope you recover fast.
Posted by KingPisces
Hi CowtitsHi, minnow nuggets. 🙂
I'm cranky and have a headache.
how are you?LMAO minnow nuggets...Hehe, that sounds cute 🙂
Just trying to recover. I have been sick for the past few weeks with bronchitis and I also sprained my ankle 😢
Awwwww...Don't be cranky Bullette. Don't have a cow 😄
Aww that sucks. 😢 hope you recover fast.
VB made me Cajun chicken soup so I'm on my way to recovery 🙂
I start Indoor Soccer this coming week and back to Judo once I stop limping 😄
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chicken soup 😛
being limp is never good,especially when balls are in motion.🙂
Katie,is that you in that pic? if so,you are beautiful.
lol 🙂
Awwww, I made soup.
Posted by KingPisces
You're in no position to complain, you're an Aqua.God, that's such a fucking retarded thing to say.
Not as retarded as your demeanor as a "grown" individual.
You're 36 and still dating and you haven't learned anything from your former mistakes.
If you don't like positive criticism then perhaps you shouldn't open yourself to such situations...
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I'd love "positive criticism". But you don't seem to know what it is. And for your information I was married 13 years, learned a lot from my mistakes - which is why I'm looking at solving this situation, and, like everyone else on this forum can see, there is an understanding that not every single person is the same, hence new situations come up with every person you meet.As a grown individual I seek to understand and overcome these situations instead of classing everyone as unsuitable... unlike in your life where you have one bad experience and can't get past it. Fucking knob-jockey.
Do me a favour, if you're that hateful toward someone simply because they have a particular sun sigh, seek therapy. It's totally retarded. I'd like to see your point of view on everything else but i can't get my head that far up MY ass.
NZAqua,
I am a Taurus Woman who was involved with an Aqua guy for a year, I may be able to shed some light on the insecurity. I am not generally insecure on relationships, which I put down to my Gemini ascendant and Venus, lol. However this Aqua man made me so insecure that my friends didn't recognise me and said they had never seen me that way.
Part of the problem was his inability to express himself, I like the odd compliment, it makes me feel appreciated. However, it took 8 months and us splitting up a couple of times before he was able to tell me he missed me and that I was gorgeous. I still remember the way those words made me feel, sure would have helped if he had said them earlier.
Another big thing for me was his insistence on keeping his Facebook status as single. Now I know all about Aqua's need not to be possessed and for privacy, but to me it felt like he was keeping his options open. He knew how this bothered me but wouldn't budge. For me it wasn't about wanting to possess him, but feeling that he accepted me into his life.
However, what probably did it for me in the end, was his telling me that he had never been faithful in a relationship, tho he swore he had been faithful to me. Aqua's are famed for their honesty but sometimes honesty is not the best policy. By my reasoning, if he had been unable to be faithful in the past, why should he be any different with me.
Not sure if any of this will help, as you are right at the beginning whereas all my insecurity came later on.
If you are anything like we were, you will clash heads, it is inevitable with two such strong charactors. I couldn't take it anymore in the end.
Good luck
Posted by NZAqua
Okay, thanks to all who have posted with useful stuff 🙂Here's what I'm doing:
Taurus man needs safety. He's trying to get it using guilt trips and pushing to be in my space every five minutes.
I've agreed to spend time with him as long as it's quality time where we're both calmer about this safety thing. **You should know this will not be resolved until you address his concerns.**In order to do that he's agreed to tone it down with the questions re my integrity - which were pissing me off badly since I'd done naff all to warrant them.
I've agreed to listen to his emotional speeches a little more closely instead of turning out to them.Hopefully he can feel a little safer and i can stop getting my back up over the possessive stuff that's going on.**Listening is fine but will you DO? It won't be enough to just listen as that is irritating to you as well**
I'll start there and give it a go because I can see, aside from this safety issue, that he's a pretty decent guy.**I take it you are not in love with him. Ok, that's understandable. Maybe that's what you should say, I'm not ready for a commitment.**
If we don't compromise we'll be banging heads together and I'll walk because I can't stand the turmoil.
*sigh*.
Fingers crossed 🙂
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God, that's such a fucking retarded thing to say.