exploding!!

well. i'm going through a lot of poop. i met my taurus the day before i found out i had cancer. and of course disappeared from seeing him for awhile as i was dealing with my own problems. he assured me he'd be there to hang out when i was ready. so we eventually started hanging out like twice a week for the last month. everytime we'd be together he'd compliment me in some way like " you're amazing" or he'd never want to get up when we were cuddling. just super affectionate with me although i'd always have to make the first move (ughn!) so anyway.. i had surgery on monday and have been stuck in bed all week, i've had nothing to do but be on the internet and piss around. i saw a comment on his myspace about a girl asking him to hold her hand when she got something pierced.. and gave him her number.. and called him a hot piece.. he responded back with im def down! So upon reading that being stuck in bed a wave of helplessness and anger came over me. He doesnt have a car available to come see me.. but here i am bed ridden and he has not visited me once ( have a friend drive, bus! duh).

the day that i read that comment.. he sent me a text as he usually does everyday and i responded back like... hey you this might be coming out of nowhere.. but are u dating anyone else?? and he wrote no.. im not.. why do you ask and can i pose the same question for you?

I told him i wasn't, and that i said i dunno, i just dont want to get wrapped up in anything or waste time when i have no idea where you stand.

and he wrote its so refreshing to hear how straight forward you are.. i feel the same way..good to see we're on the same page.

what is he agreeing he feels the same way about? i felt like nothing was said.. he never told me where he stood but just said he wasn't dating other people.

anyway i really wanna trust him.. but seeing that shit online.. and he didn't contact me once yesterday.. the day said event was to happen.. so im just infuriated.

you'd have to be evil to dick me around in the condition im in. i'd hope he wouldn't lead me on.

This much I know about taurus men (the ones I know are like my best friends.)
...still trying to figure out the women though. LOL
They make great friends, possibly the best friends you can have.
Myspace sometimes makes people feel jealous when they're interested in someone. Words can easily be taken the wrong way, with expressions of the face and tones of voice absent. Your taurus guy probably agreed to do it as a friendly gesture (they like to look out for friends.) That doesn't go to say that she's not interested in him though.

"I told him i wasn't, and that i said i dunno, i just dont want to get wrapped up in anything or waste time when i have no idea where you stand.

and he wrote its so refreshing to hear how straight forward you are.. i feel the same way..good to see we're on the same page."

...same page? He doesn't want to waste your time or his, and he is not seeing anyone, from what I can tell.
Not to be condescending, but from the experiences I've had with Aries, sometimes you can be so wrapped up in yourself that some things tend to go right over your head. Taking astrology completely out of the picture, things tend to flow alot smoother if you just say how you feel and what's on your mind. Honesty hurts sometimes... but sometimes that pain is worth the reality of a situation.

And yes, to 'dick you around' in your current condition would be EVIL.

"Right now I will not comment on your guy, but i will say that I wish you all the best on your speedy recovery!!! my best wishes to you."
...and yeah, what she said!

"Not to be condescending, but from the experiences I've had with Aries, sometimes you can be so wrapped up in yourself that some things tend to go right over your head. Taking astrology completely out of the picture, things tend to flow alot smoother if you just say how you feel and what's on your mind. Honesty hurts sometimes... but sometimes that pain is worth the reality of a situation."

i've seen this with fellow aries, i dont think of myself as wrapped up in myself at all really. maybe its my pisces moon that neutralizes this. and i mean.. i was upfront with him- i was just confused by the answer. and i dont want to come off all insane like YEAH.. was lookin at your myspace... i dunno that just creeps people out i think...i guess what it is i always have sorta learned to expect the worse, so if someone is saying something nice to me or letting me know i can trust them, it still kinda goes over my head and i make a mountain out of a molehill.. maybe i'm just vigilant i dunno.



and thanks for your wishes 🙂

wow.. what a dick.. im sorry about your situation.. even if he wasn't happy in the relationship thats not a right way to handle such a touch situation. i couldn't envision my taurus acting like that because he is pretty nice to me.. he just you know.. feeds into girls hitting on him on myspace makes plans with them and hasn't called me or visited me yet this weekend. kinda ticked!

These comments aren't about Taureans, they're about relationship problems.

i don't think i got any objective feedback except broken shell CMON PICK IT UP...

i will comment on the taurus guy,,i dated one for about 10mths..long ago realized he was totally opposite of me,,,,he was a cheater and a very dishonest about his actions....i would say be very careful with him,,and yes he was affectionate and all of that....my opinion is he will go thru all of the women he can until he is really ready to settle down..maybe around 40ish.. and feel he has found the one....just my opinion on taurus males.....ps good luck with everything!!!!

so im getting the jist that tauruses are cheaters or something.

"any sign, anywhere can be a cheater"

better yet "anyone can be a cheater"...(male/female of any sign)

I think for the most part, Taurus keep their options open until they have actually committed to you.

They are very particular about what they let come out of their mouth especially when it has to do with relationships/feelings....

Are you guys committed? it didn't sound like it. This might sound bad, but if he doesn't feel committed, why would it be wrong to go with someone to watch them have something pierced? If there isn't something set where you both say, we are monogomous.. then i don't see where he did anything wrong? if it was understood by both that you guys are seriously dating then ya it's horrible.

I just know my taurus and how always helps his friends and whatnot.. i learned real quick that he is all about takin care of people close to him. So, even if he did go with this chick to the shop, he was spending time with you, and until you guys are a Couple.. i don't see any wrong done.

It hurts to say this, but I am soooo feeling what baby-grl414 just said.

And

'These comments aren't about Taureans, they're about relationship problems.'

TRUE TRUE!

Basically what it breaks down to, is learning how to deal with someone else's feelings.
Is it worth your time... is learning this person's feelings worth the effort you are willing to put forth? Aries love to be first... (astrologically, they are)

Hypothetically speaking:
could you handle it if he puts you first, but his friends (and I mean FRIENDS M/F) require alot of his time individually... if he's the one all the people, in his circle, confide in...
but you (as an individual) get most of his time, but don't feel that he puts you first because he spends so much time being the friend everyone in his circle is used to...
Would you eventually tire of that kind of behavior?

How long have you known him? Do you know if this is a new friend, or someone he has known longer than you? Does he act this way with anyone that flirts with him?
...all rhetorical questions, but...
You should ask yourself those kind of questions about what's important to you... and when you look for answers, be honest with yourself... because its not about what makes me happy, this is about what makes YOU happy.

well no we're not committed..so you're right i have no reason to be mad at him. but it still puts me off, and makes me step back. And i dont know if thats a good idea, for me and my situation not to get hurt, or bad because i might be missing out on a genuinely good person.( I do really like him)

but it was kinda obvious the girl was coming on to him, she was just giving him her number so i dont think they were good friends or anything...and shes asking him to hold her hand and go out for drinks calling him a hot.

so the day i saw that i sent him the text that i talked about in the first post.. and he put me under the impression he wasn't dating anyone and appreciated my straight forwardness. it just kinda bothers me because when im dating someone i'm all about them, and i thought he might be the same cuz he told me hes into me and i heard tauruses are loyal, but i guess you need the RELATIONSHIP TALK first..

AND yea, i like to be first, because i put that person first too. And i would settle for the time being spread out, i am not ultra clingy, as long as i know i would be first.

in all honesty i really didn't expect for him to be into me after the big C word. so i'm perplexed why he'd be all affectionate in the first place and wanting to hang out n stuff.. i mean he comes off to me as something positive that came out of this hard time in my life when im trying to keep positive and happy. i hope he understand i really dont want him fucking that up lol.

But hes slacking still cuz i had surgery last monday, and he still hasn't found a ride out here to visit me.. he told me he'd come sometime this week, its already been a week !! hes getting bad marks. these may be warning signs that he is pushing me out or not taking me seriously, so maybe i should just protect myself and not get wrapped up in him.

sorry my thoughts jump around a lot.

Taureans are known as the most loyal sign of the zodiac, so no, they are not cheaters. Sounds like you've just landed yourself a bad egg, and you can get that with any sign.

Ok, what am getting from your first post is he is acting as a really good friend - are you saying you guys are more than friends?

"these may be warning signs"

That is how i live my life. while you're dating someone, you need to look out fo rthese signs that cause you to have to evaluate someone. I definitely don't think you should put much into this yet since he isn't playing his role that he is talking. it sounds like he might have good intentions and most likely means it, but is still leaving himself with options. If that isn't what you look for in dating, then doesn't sound like he is your dating type. Or you need to just let him know that is your dating style and be blunt and honest with him since he liked that. If you really like him, i'd bring it up to him.

well im not sure what we are.. when i sent him the text asking him if he was dating people, he asked why, and i said i dont want to waste energy or get wrapped up in someone when i have no idea where they stand

and he responded, its so refreshing how upfront you are about this, i feel the same way and glad we're on the same page... but does that mean.. we're exclusively dating now?? or what?

and we always acted more than friends from the get go, we have been building friendship and being affectionate with eachother since we met month ago.

oh let me add he said he wasn't dating anyone and asked if i was which i said no. then said the refreshing thing.. so wtf i dunno

I hated these moments the most in dating. Especially when you really like someone... It's just gonna boil down to what you want and expect from him.

He didn't drop by the hosp to visit you??

hey joe stickler and whoever else.. im ariessunscorprise, my pw was always set in my firefox and somehow it got messed up and i changed my email so heres my new account...


AND no joe stickler, he has not visited me. nor called, he sends me text messages. everday. text messages. he is trying to visit me this week HE HOPES!