Friend Breakup Worse Than Relationship Break

I know it's been a while since I posted on this, but there has been an update on a Taurus. It's pretty childish, but I'm legitimately confused and hurt.

The Taurus I wrestled with for months eventually stopped talking to me, but maintained a cordial attitude when we met monthly. She was my Facebook friend and liked my Instagram posts. We even planned to meet at a convention, and did!

I thought we had maintained a friendship, even after our relationship just sort of dissolved in February because she "wasn't ready for a relationship". We didn't fight about it, so I assumed we were at least cool on a friend level.

I realized yesterday that I hadn't seen much from her socially in a while, and I happened to see a tagged post from a mutual friend. I hovered over her name, and lo and behold she had unfriended me. On top of that, she was listed as in a relationship and has been for a month now.

My initial reaction was that I was happy for her, but then I wondered why she bothered removing me. I thought we were friends? Apparently not for at least a month. Meanwhile she will occasionally message me and invite me to her birthday party. Why step back and not let me know what's going on? Friends congratulate one another, but if I hadn't seen it, I'd never know she was happily in a relationship. I'm meanwhile supposed to play dumb when we talk, unaware that anything is different from when we were together. I just don't get the behavior of keeping me around but effectively cutting me out. It actually feels worse than losing her the first time, because I feel like I'm not really her friend anymore.

In addition, I'm now with someone else, and have been tagged in pictures by my girlfriend. The Taurus has asked twice through text about us and our relationship. Why can you care about my life, but why am I not allowed to care about yours?

Is this a Taurus behavior? Or is she just a little immature? I can't decode this, and have a hard time being "friends" with someone acting this way. It's very childish I guess, but it definitely doesn't feel good either way.

She's being immature and taking some preventive measures with her new boyfriend. You're probably not the only one who was unfriended. Take control and sever all ties with her.

You still have feelings for her more than friendship

This is so weird. A taurus friend of mine did exactly that to an ex two days ago. She got a new boyfriend and they agreed to unfriend all their exes, so they sat down and did that together. I thought it was pretty lame, but she said she would text the guys(two) an explanation.

So I agree with the above that that may be the reason.

I literally delete and unfollow friends all the time lol. It's not that were childish, we just don't give a damn about ur life and we want to get over you

What are her other placements?
Well,she still might still have feelings for you but not as much to be in a relationship, she likes him more Ofcourse and can't have someone she does like alongside while having a relationship.She contacts you sometimes because she likes talking to you maybe.I may have done this but that maybe because of my Venus in Gemini.
The 'unfriending your exes' reason also seems legit except why would she contact you otherwise?

Why do people get back with exes—.. could it be family pressured, could it be you're insecured and your SO gets you better than anyone else so you settle, then you lose great opportunities furthermore with someone new..
I will always remember what the shit I went through. I forgive but never forget the damage control
I went through.. I will never settle for less but I will give you a chance or two before I give up and move on... I left and moved on after I had a chance to. I wanted to leave long time ago. But I stayed because this is my shit why leave. So I changed the locks but he kept popping up afterwards fianlly grew some balls and moved in with my mom to go to school 45 minutes far away....... I tried talking and communicating. I just shut down emotionally..

It is not ok to drunk test an ex on a social media either, it is not ok to text an ex when you are with someone else..Some people can be friends with exes.. Some people can not for many reasons but still hang on..

My ex told me right before I kicked him out for good.. "You will never find another person like me" ..I told him I am going bisexual because of your ass.....haha I am still single but never go back..

I am happy for them too. More power to you.

Posted by tiziani
I just see that times change, people appreciate one another better. The past is the past. As long as you don't go back into it and keep moving forward, it can be with old or new faces.

Anyway I wasn't really approaching it from a philosophical view, really just commenting that I've seen people make it work with exes. I never really understood why people hold this view of never going back to exes at all cost when truly often there are cases where that's exactly what they need and want.

Of course if people are happy being single or going onto meet new people and happy with that, I'm happy for them too.

+1

Posted by tiziani
So if you meet one another down the line in a different time, different place.... same people but different relationship this time around.

+1 🙂