Help me understand this Taurus man

Hi guys. I'm a sag and met this 35 year old Taurus. Since the moment he saw me he liked me from the start. He invited me to dinner and movies and we had a great time. He told me he liked me and wasn't looking for a friend. I however had just gotten out of a relationship and wasn't ready to jump into something so soon. So we stopped talking. A few weeks go by and he reaches out to me. After texting back and forth for hours he envites me to an event and I accepted. Keep in mind this event isn't schedule to occur a few weeks from now. We continue to keep in touch and the day finally comes for us to hand out and he forgets. I confronted him about it over txt and he apologies saying he completely forgot and he had already made plans with friend. I felt like his apology wasn't sincere and like he didn't care so I went off on him and we no longer spoke to each other. An entire month goes by and he finally reaches out to me. He told me to let him make it up and so I agreed. He shows up to my place with flowers, a card, takes me to dinner and night out for drinks. I had such an amazing time with him that by the end of the night Iets just say we took it back to his place. I didn't know what his intentions were with me so I kept my distance even though I really liked him. I always accepted his invitations and responded to his texts but he felt like I wasn't interested in him because he was always having to do the chasing. I'm old school and my theory is, if a guy really likes me enough he will pursue. So after he brought this to my attention I made the efforts to reach out to him. Things were finally going well. Constant texting, we went from seeing each other to once a month, to twice, to three times to several times a week.

This is where sh*t goes down hill. During that one month break where him and j were mad at each other I scheduled a trip out of town. I have a guy friend who lives there and he offered to show me around town. I book my flight, hotel and rental. As soon as me and my Taurus guys reconnected I told him about my scheduled trip. He asked who I was going with and I told him by myself but my friend who stays up there is going to show me around town. I had nothing to hide and this guy friend is truly just a friend. We leave it at that and continue on. As the day for my trip continues to get closer he finally tells me he's worries and doesn't like the idea of me leaving to go see this guy friend. He tells me what he needs to tell me and later on tells me his no longer mad at me. A few days before my departure him and I began to get really close. I spent the night with him for 3 days in a row which I had never done. To ease his mind, while on vacation I was txt him every single day. I made the mistake of not txt him that Saturday. I didn't txt because I figured he was probably out with friends and I didn't want to bother him.

That was a big mistake. I txt him Sunday and he relied with a short answer then ignored me. I txt him Monday to tell him I missed him and he ignored it. I figured he was still upset and I'd give him space. So I txt him again on Wednesday. Although he was responsive he was really short and I knew he was still upset. A week went by and he finally decides to talk about this. He blows up and starts telling me some really ugly and hurtful stuff. I had never seen this side of him. The next day he reaches out to me. He seems a little more calm but is obviously confused and hurt. My Taurus guy really thinks I did something that Saturday night and I'm over here trying to convince him that, that I did nothing with this guy. The next day he reaches out to me but this time he is a lot more calm. He finally tells that this issue is mostly his and he can't help it he's jealous, insecure and has a lot of trust issues. Due to his past relationships and being hurt, trusting isn't easy. And although he recognizes that it isn't fair, he can't help but to think that I'm like the rest of the women who did him wrong. He tells me he cares way too much about me and he would rather remove himself from the equation because if not, he will continue to be a jerk with me. He told me I'm no longer his girl and he would rather let me be. Had I know all this before hand, I would have approached the situation very differently. I finally understood where he was coming from and told him if he thinks this is the best decision then I could do nothing more than to respect his decision. I said my goodbyes, told him that I really cared about him, that I was going to miss him tons, that I had strong feelings and that he truly made me happy. I told him I was hurt and sad to have to end things this way and he said the feeling was mutual on everything I had said.

I'm thinking he's no longer going to contact me but to my surprised he txt me the next day. It was short and casual but why txt me if you want nothing to do with me anymore? Is he really done with me?

This guy may have his flaws but he's everything a woman could want. He's financially well off, caring, sweet, funny, fun and more. He makes me feel so special and I think about him all the time. If he could only see that their is nothing to be insecure about.

Should I move on or just take it day by day? Should I txt him every so often or give him space? Please help this confused and heart broken sag.

once a Taurus makes up in their mind, there is no changing it. The thing about a Taurus is we don't like when a routine breaks. You made it routine to txt him every night. By not doing it for one night; you broke routine so we think that something MUST of happened. Once you break our trust it's broken and we might hold on to you until we find somebody better so I would say just move on

how old r u

Yeah just go with the flow, and be friends if you want to.

And even though you have known him a short time he showed he can be possessive over a new friend he likes. He probably has had many friends and was interested in getting to know you.

You said you weren't ready but he was. So you did text him while with a guy friend except that one day you probably proved you were single and not ready for anything serious with Taurus.

He got over a few flags for him and proved okay work it out.

You should just keep it as friends. Or fwb. Because too much wishy washy and perhaps no longer worth while in the long run.

Just take it day by day..time will tell. It sounds like underneath all the hurt feelings something there. Good luck.

He sounds like a controlling arsehole. He's not done with you.

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Posted by Librajean
Just take it day by day..time will tell. It sounds like underneath all the hurt feelings something there. Good luck.

Would you be okay with your potential to let them stay with woman friends and not trip? Not even one day forgot to excuses. Don't lie your thought would be all over the place.

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Are you talking about when she went to visit her guy friend? Your response is all over the place. She said there isn't anything going on between them..he has to trust her. She was honest with him regarding who she was staying with. New relationships can be difficult when there isn't any trust. He doesn't own her, as long as she was being honest she did nothing wrong.

She is supposed to check in every night? So he doesn't think she is with someone else?? This guy needs to chill out, grow up and learn how to trust or he isn't going to have healthy relationships.

I think the OP is being sincere. She has no reason to lie to us.

Just my opinion..

And, he did a lot of game playing with her in the beginning so she is taking a big chance with a man at this maturity level. But I think there is something there. If they are both willing to work through the trust issues.

I went through this exact same thing with a Taurus man about 6-7 months ago.

We were on and off for about 2 years...

Then he finally broke up with me because he had trust issues and insecurities.

I blamed myself for the entire break up for months, then I finally woke up and smelled the coffee.

I realized that the problem wasn't me, it was him.

Don't go back because if you do, you will be walking on egg shells and

babysitting this man and his insecurities, take it from me because I did that.

Any wrong move you make (that he feels is wrong which could be anything)

he will go running away like a little boy again.

Tauruses are possessive people, even in break up mode he will still feel like he "owns" you.

He has to let go and forgive whoever/whatever happened in his past because if he doesn't

this cycle will just repeat itself, not just with you but with every woman he chooses to date.

I know this is hard, but if I were you I would let him go. When he gets himself together, he will probably be back to you.

Thank you for your feedback guys. I'm 27 years old. Never been married and no kids. And yes I would be ok with it. I'm not a jealous persons and having my fair of relationships, I've learned to understand if someone is going to cheat on you, they are going to do it whether you are all up on them or not. Second, if he was upfront about it (like I was) then clearly he has nothing to hide. I'm not liar and I thought by me being honest he would understand. However, I feel like me being honest just causes him to doubt me.

I know there is something there. But I guess time will only tell.

I'm 27 years old.

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Posted by Librajean
Just take it day by day..time will tell. It sounds like underneath all the hurt feelings something there. Good luck.

Would you be okay with your potential to let them stay with woman friends and not trip? Not even one day forgot to excuses. Don't lie your thought would be all over the place.

Are you talking about when she went to visit her guy friend? Your response is all over the place. She said there isn't anything going on between them..he has to trust her. She was honest with him regarding who she was staying with. New relationships can be difficult when there isn't any trust. He doesn't own her, as long as she was being honest she did nothing wrong.

She is supposed to check in every night? So he doesn't think she is with someone else?? This guy needs to chill out, grow up and learn how to trust or he isn't going to have healthy relationships.

I think the OP is being sincere. She has no reason to lie to us.

Just my opinion..

And, he did a lot of game playing with her in the beginning so she is taking a big chance with a man at this maturity level. But I think there is something there. If they are both willing to work through the trust issues.

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Meh mercury retrograde.

Posted by KittyKnitter
he has been badly hurt and doesn't want to be hurt again

when i met my guy he told me that it would take time for him to trust

i told him i knew who i was and that i could be trusted

and that he could either accept that and take the chance of getting to really know me

or he could just walk. but this is about trusting himself to be ok no matter what. he just might not be ready.

if someone has not healed from hurts, they are not strong enough to handle the next hurt and though you might never betray him. until or unless he is willing to take the risk, there is little you can do. you can minimize the risk with friendship first. that doesn't mean friends with benefits either. it appears he has feeling for you. his feelings about himself can cause conflict. in times of doubt i have told my guy i am not going anywhere and will be his friend no matter what so long as he is respectful.

I'm willing to be friends. And not with benefits either. At this point, I myself just have way too many feelings to do that. And I don't think he wants to be friends with benefits either. He has been texting me every day, but they aren't like the usual text (flirtatious, sexual and funny). They are to see see how I've been, hope I had a good day, and things within those lines.

I'm just confused because the last time we stopped talking he completely blocked me even though it was clearly his fault. I know because he told me (not that I even bothered to reach out to him). So I'm very surprised he didn't just cut me out of his life and is still reaching out to me even though I can feel he is being a little distant.

Sheba,

My advice will be based on what exactly are you trying to accomplish with this Taurus man.

Dating?

Relationship?



If you're not looking for a serious relationship right now because you just came out of one, then make a graceful exit from this Bull and call it a day.

However,

If you ARE looking for a relationship with this man, you will have to understand the mental psyche of his relationship expectations and his past experiences with other women.

I am someone you would consider a VERY stereotypical Bull in regards to relationships.

I can be quite possessive. No apologies there.

I don't have random male friends, just BEST friends.

What is the difference?

My man knows all my best friends. He's MET all my male best friends.

Random friends who refuse to meet your SO is just trying to get in the panties.

Unless he's gay.

The respect is also given when I choose not do anything with my male friends where my man is not included.

The same goes with my male best friends, if their wife or girlfriends are not present, then guess what, we're not hanging out!

Many people may disagree with me on this topic.

They may see possession as a sign of insecurity.

When it's really about respect and boundaries.

FYI,

Take this advice.

This is with any man regardless of zodiac sign.

Learn to keep anything that is done with the opposite sex to yourself.

Any man, if he is REALLY interested will inquire about any male competition he sees as a threat.

Posted by RicherCap
Sounds like a lot of drama

So what is understanding him going to achieve exactly?

You might want to understand why this sort of drama filled turbulent interaction with a guy is so appealing to you instead.

It's not the drama that's appealing to me. When him and I are together, everything is great. However, its usually when we are apart when the misunderstandings occur.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
Sheba,

My advice will be based on what exactly are you trying to accomplish with this Taurus man.

Dating?

Relationship?



If you're not looking for a serious relationship right now because you just came out of one, then make a graceful exit from this Bull and call it a day.

However,

If you ARE looking for a relationship with this man, you will have to understand the mental psyche of his relationship expectations and his past experiences with other women.

I am someone you would consider a VERY stereotypical Bull in regards to relationships.

I can be quite possessive. No apologies there.

I don't have random male friends, just BEST friends.

What is the difference?

My man knows all my best friends. He's MET all my male best friends.

Random friends who refuse to meet your SO is just trying to get in the panties.

Unless he's gay.

The respect is also given when I choose not do anything with my male friends where my man is not included.

The same goes with my male best friends, if their wife or girlfriends are not present, then guess what, we're not hanging out!

Many people may disagree with me on this topic.

They may see possession as a sign of insecurity.

When it's really about respect and boundaries.

FYI,

Take this advice.

This is with any man regardless of zodiac sign.

Learn to keep anything that is done with the opposite sex to yourself.

Any man, if he is REALLY interested will inquire about any male competition he sees as a threat.

I'm no one to rush into things. That being said, just because him and I did not have a label , doesn't mean that I was out there dating other people. I was monogamous and wasn't and haven't been talking to anyone but him. I know that at the beginning things were a bit rocky, but I think that had a lot to do with both of us holding back. It's been 9 months since my last relationship and at this point, I was finally ready to open up since things were finally going well. Without realizing it, I began to like this guy a lot. The way he makes me feel when I'm with him is really something. The chemistry is there and I'm not just talking about sexually.

I understand where you are coming from. But there was plenty of times he went out with girl friends (whom I never met) without my presence. He's never given me a reason to doubt him, so I fully trust him.

I'm just a bit confused as to why he is still texting me and seeing how I'm doing. The first time we stopped talking (during that 1 month him and I were mad) he completely blocked me. But this time, even though he's extremely upset, he's still keeping in touch. He isn't the type to want to keep it as friends. Its too late for that. We both have feelings for each other.