HELP ME WITH MY TAURUS EX PLEASE.

Sorry if this going to be a little long. I'm going to try to keep it short. So i'm sorry if i wasted your time.

But hi! I have a question about my Taurus ex. We broke up like 2 months ago and i can't get him out of my head. I'm an Aries by the way 🙂

We met on Social media.The first time i talked to him i really liked how manly and a little 'quiet' an calm he was, that was how i fell in love with him. He was very sweet and i could just tell by the way he was saying things that he was looking for a serious relationship. The first time we met he was very sweet and nervous, i wasn't nervous i basically talk A LOT and im very playful and just like fun and adventure. I noticed he was a little more laid back. After that date we started talking everyday, and he said he loved my eyes blabla just a lot of sweet things. He was just very sweet and serious since day one. We went on a couple more dates. At the third date he basically said he loved me and is in love with me. We kissed, and thats when we started dating.

He always told me that loyalty was the most important thing to him because his ex cheated on him. He said he doesn't care about her anymore at all, but that he doesn't trust girls easily anymore in his life. He has also been through a lot and has a negative way of looking at his life and this world. So at first he had a hard time trusting me. He always wanted to know where i was, what is was wearing etc. I liked that kind of attention and never did anything wrong and never talked to another guy or anything since i fell in love with him. So i really did gain his trust. He wasn't nervous anymore next to me, and really showed more of his personality by time.

But im also a very jealous type. I have big trust issues. I was always scared that he talked to other girls on snapchat because he didn't show his snapchat to me. He doesn't have any other social media. He always got really mad when i was suspicious and not trusting him. I never catched him with another girl or anything. But in the back of my head i was just always scared for him to cheat on me. Even though he always said that loyalty means everything to him and that he would never even look to other girls. He also always was scared that i was playing him, and not being 'serious' with him. He takes his time with everything and just moves super slow, i'm not patient at all. He is also way more calm and quiet and i'm just a little more playful and active. Or he would call it 'Childish'.

Anyways i changed a lot for him. But i loved him so much and was so scared to lose him. When he wasn't texting me or was just busy I immediately thought something was wrong/ or that he was cheating on me. So almost every week i accused him of cheating/ Talking to other girls/ Just being mad cause he always was responding late and things like that. He told me that he really had enough of me always accusing him of bullshit and not trusting him but i couldn't help it..

The last week. I accused him again in real life, he got mad, but we had a deep long conversation. He told me he loved me a lot and that he only cares for me. But that i have to stop with acting like he was a cheater and all. I told him okay. But 1 week later i just couldn't help it again. He started responding different and late again and thats just what drives me crazy. So i immediately started accusing him of talking to other girls. He got REALLY mad and basically just told me to shut the fuck up. I gave him a little space but he ignored me for a couple of days. I started texting him A LOT. I asked him to just talk in real life. We went to sit somewhere to talk and i basically apologized 10000 times, and begged him to not fight anymore. But he didn't even talk and didn't let me touch him. He was still very mad. I just got really frustrated and said i didn't understand his character at all! he is just so difficult. And he was like yea, you still don't get how my character works. I said that it was just very hard cause he is generally really introvert and he knows that. After that day it was 'done' for him. My pathetic ass begged for like a week and texted him everyday cause i still had hope. But when he told me he was done i said okay and deleted his number.

SORRY such a long background story..... I swear im getting to my point now. So it has been two months. And on snapchat he didn't delete me. I just see him enjoying life. A lot of times he puts sad music lyrics, but i just don't know if that means anything. In the beginning i posted very sad songs and quotes in the hope he would see it and just feel sorry and guilty for me. He watched the stories but never responded. Now in the last month i started posting more of my regular stuff like cooking/Being with friends/Going out. And he responded to my stories three times. Like 'omygod i want to eat that too' or 'Hey are you still at ... (name of restaurant)' things like that. That made me really happy off course. I literally LITerally cried every fucking day. For two months straight.

But i don't want to get my hopes up. I just can't get him out of my head and its getting unhealthy. Im dead serious. Like he is the only thing i think about. He is my first love and relationship. We are both in our twenties. I just want him back i truly believe he is my soulmate and that where meant to be. It was love at first sight for me...

The last snapchat - conversation ended by him ignoring me. But i just don't know if it means anything that he responded to my snaps and also started private snapping me a couple times. Like.. its just snapchat he could be doing that to anybody basically.

Would a Taurus do that? What do you guys think? Do you think it means anything? Do you think i can get him back?

By the way we didn't date for a long time, probably 3/4 months.

I don't know i'm just losing my mind. Im so sorry that its so long. Sorry if i wasted your time.

Kind regards,

Hopeless Aries!

From my experience with a Taurus yes they’d do that. I think he wants to have a connection with you but maybe shy. Kind of keeping a door open if he wants to come back. It’s possible to get him back. But I think if you cut off contact with him he’ll see how it feels to be ignored. My Taurus ex lied so much 🙄 so I left him, but from my experience he’ll continue to reach out when he wants.

Posted by Kaivin

From my experience with a Taurus yes they’d do that. I think he wants to have a connection with you but maybe shy. Kind of keeping a door open if he wants to come back. It’s possible to get him back. But I think if you cut off contact with him he’ll see how it feels to be ignored. My Taurus ex lied so much 🙄 so I left him, but from my experience he’ll continue to reach out when he wants.

Thanks you so much for your respond! But do you think him reaching out means something..? Like do you think he misses me too? Or am i just overthinking..?

Taurus here..when I reach out it’s not for nothing. It means something. But what that something means is debatable. I just know that we don’t do things just because. Always a reason. If that makes sense?

You’re welcome and possibly he reaches out because he misses you and wants to know you’re still there. I don’t think you’re overthinking it. My forum I posted is probably overthinking lol. I have a situation similar to yours but more complicated smh.

Posted by Kaivin

You’re welcome and possibly he reaches out because he misses you and wants to know you’re still there. I don’t think you’re overthinking it. My forum I posted is probably overthinking lol. I have a situation similar to yours but more complicated smh.

Im going to read yours!

Posted by Ellelalala

Taurus here..when I reach out it’s not for nothing. It means something. But what that something means is debatable. I just know that we don’t do things just because. Always a reason. If that makes sense?

Wow thanksss. I hope so, i hope it means something good. Thank you! 🙂

it sounds like an unhealthy relationship for you. getting back together won't solve your issues. you'd be back to fighting every week and accusing him of cheating. it's going to make for an unhappy relationship for the both of you.

you sound very insecure and afraid of bad stuff happening to you. you can't control bad things from happening in life. it may be a case of you gaining some more life experience and building up your confidence to be able to deal with having a partner you can't control 24 hours a day.

You put him through all of that insecure ish within a 3-4 month time span? Exhausting. I don't think he'll take you back. What's the advantage? I can never understand how people sabotage a relationship they desire yet cry about it later, begging and pleading 🤔

You need to get a grip on your insecurities or you will push him away forever. Quit accusing him. You sabotaged yourself, not him. Maybe you need to not be connected to him on social media, for your own mental health. I don't know if he's coming back or not, but whether he is or not, heal yourself. He's not responsible for making you feel secure.

Posted by sweetpea2977

You put him through all of that insecure ish within a 3-4 month time span? Exhausting. I don't think he'll take you back. What's the advantage? I can never understand how people sabotage a relationship they desire yet cry about it later, begging and pleading 🤔

Hey. You guys are absolutely right. I know my actions. Our relationship wasnt healthy, especially for me i am aware of that. I’m dealing with my own trust issues.

I regret my behavior a lot. But i have to say i also did a lot of good things for him. I always wanted the best for him. My own insecurity just messes with my head all the time. I’m usually not that insecure. But i’m just very scared to lose him.. and he is just very handsome and flirty. Thats what makes me scared he will talk to other girls. He is very unpredictable. In my relationsships before him i was never insecure!

I know he might not come back. But i’m just wondering what him messaging me means.. he messaged me again today. Responding to my cooking. Like is he just checking in and playing games with me. Or do you guys think he misses me/ wants to build contact again.

Even if we get back together. I would try to work on my insecurities and stop accusing him. I would do it different than before. But thanks for the feedback! X