Help understanding this Taurus girl.

Please help me figure out what is up with this young Taurus girl I know.

Here is the story:

She is 19 years old. She got knocked up by her long-term boyfriend (a capricorn). Their relationship has always been iffy because he is like 6 years older then her and has been dating her since she was 14 or something like that. Her mom is a cop and has always hated her boyfriend, even threatening to press charges if he didn't stay away, etc, etc.

Well he knocked her up while she was visiting him over seas where he is currently stationed in the miltiary. After finding out about the pregnancy he proposed to her and they got married. He's still stationed over seas. She brought the baby home from the hospital about a month ago.

Now let me introduce how I know her. I am her husband's brothers girlfriend. I'm actually "homeless" and his parents took me in, so I am really close with his family and care about them a lot.

All me and his husbands family have ever done is try to support her and the baby. We got her all sorts of stuff for the baby shower, we visited her constantly in the hospital (the baby was born prematurely and has been in the hospital for months), but she seems to hate us. I say "seems" because we don't really know.

She doesn't talk to us.

I've spent hours with this girl but she has never said a word. She'll answer questions and quickly as possible but that's it.

Now my boyfriends parents wouldn't care, but she won't let them see their grand baby. Since she brought him home from the hospital, she's only let them see it twice, and hold in once for about two minutes, before grabbing it back for some reason or another.

I added her as a friend on facebook while she was in the hospital. I did this because my boyfriends parents wanted to see the pictures and updates she was making about the baby on facebook, because otherwise, they don't get anything from her.

So I used to leave my facebook open on their computer. Well a couple of days ago she made a snide remark about her "in-laws" on there, and they saw the post. Bewildered, they texted her and asked if they have ever done anything to offend her.

She said that she hates how they ask to come see the baby all the time, because they have to clean the house before they can come over. They said well just pick a night of the week when you clean the house so we can come over more regularly, we don't want to be a burden, etc, etc. She hasn't responded.

...to be continued...

She has sense deleted me as a friend on facebook and blocked me. Then she stopped communicating with the family entirely.

I'm so confused as to why she did this. I sent her a message with my business facebook account, letting her know why they saw the post (that I hadn't dileraberatly started drama and they saw it on their own) and apologizing for anything I might have done to offend her. I said I'd really like to be good friends with her.

She never responded and it's been several days.

Well I was up all night last night with my boyfriends mom who was crying because she can't see her grandchild and her son is over seas in the military can't be of any assistance. (They rarely get to talk to him)

I'm just trying to see if any of you can shed some light on her bizarre actions and help us learn how to communicate with her..

Definitely what Bling said. I was a mother at 19 ( 2 months before my birthday ). You are so overwhelmed with everything. There is this young being who is solely dependent upon you. I would definitely imagine she is on high alert at all times. Very feasibly she could have lost the child, is fearful of it now. That is plainly exhibited in her nervousness about anyone else holding the infant. Wanting it back in mothers embrace.
As to her isolation, I can only guess at. She probably feels very alone with her husband gone. He is not there to help with anything at this time. That would kick an "I can and WILL do this by myself". It is a way to control the environment around you.
Something about the support to her feels like it's overstepping boundaries. Even though it is well intended and coming from a genuine place of wanting to be a part of a loved ones life. It doesn't feel like she's using the child as a bargaining chip even though it may seem that way. She's in beast mode for some reason. Perhaps she has perspective ( even if unfounded ) via the son as her husband. One thing I have never done; of course the family wants to gush over baby and kiss its cheeks smooth.
The Grands in addition to wanting to love on the lil' noodle of course want to see their son in the child. A way to touch a part of him that is not present.
What everyone is seeing as reaching out, she is seeing as an intrusion. I'm not sure what is at the base of it though.
Sure you're tuckered out, but it's not hard to shift a few pillows and toss the dishes in the dishwasher for company. I'd fret over a bit of clutter, but it wouldn't stop me from letting family over for baby cuddling.

So she got back the apology I sent her on facebook. She said her facebook blocked a lot of people and it wasn't done intentionally (but I'm not sure if this is true or if she just felt bad after reading my apology)

She went onto say that my bf's mother has always not liked her. That she encouraged her husband not to go out with her since they started dating.

This is true, but it's only because when they started dating she was 16 and her husband was 21. He could have gotten in a lot of legal trouble due to this and that was the only reason she discouraged the relationship.

She took this personally like my bf's mom doesn't like her; but my bf's mom hardly knows her so this isn't the case (as far as I know).

Then she went onto say that she doesn't like it how my bf's mother constantly makes comments and makes her feel like she is inadequate at caring for the baby (she said she's not and that's why it bothers her).

After your reading your posts here I could see better how she is easily offended by pretty much anything you say about the baby lol I don't hold this against her or anything.

I don't want to get into the drama anymore then I already have because it really isn't my place. So I haven't showed my bf's mother the message (the Taurus asked me not too)

I don't think there is anything else I can do to help the situation so I'm just going to stay out of it from now on.. unless there is anything you suggest I do? I'd like to try and explain this better to my boyfriend's mom but I can't think of way too without having to explain astrology or the message the Taurus sent me.

Okay this shit is getting a little annoying. A week ago my boyfriends parents planned with the taurus to have great grandma and great grandpa to come visit with them. She agreed to it.

They had a date and a time set. They texted her about a half hour before to make sure they could come over. She said she was doing an errand with her mom and it was taking longer then expected. My boyfriends parents then sat around for three hours before she finally texted them and said it wasn't going to work out that night. Everyone was really mad but didn't say anything (they wasted an entire night and are still yet to meet their great grand son.)

If she didn't want them to visit, why couldn't she just say so?

So then they asked her if she could bring the baby over sometime. Most of their side of the family haven't even seen the baby outside of the hospital (he's been out almost two months now). She says maybe but doesn't text anyone back. She ignores all phone calls and texts for a week. Finally my boyfriends mom calls her with her work phone and she answers. All she says is she doesn't want to visit, doesn't explain why. Quick phone call. She says very little.

Ten minutes later she writes this huge Facebook post about how she isn't going to apologize for being protective and she doesn't want the baby to get sick and she doesn't want to visit with a group of people who might get the baby sick. And it's totally ridiculous to even ask yadda yadda yadda.

Well she didn't even say that's why she doesn't want them to visit. She didn't say shit. Does she expect them to read her mind?? Of course they wouldn't push to see the baby if they knew she was worried he would get sick. But she constantly takes the baby out into public, to visit HER side of the family (driving him four hours away to go to the beach, etc).. how are they supposed to know she's "just being protective" when she doesn't even say so or act that way with anyone else!

Is this really for a decent reason or is she just a bitch? I'm not saying all taurus's are bitches, but this chick is fucking annoying as hell. She has no idea how much emotional damage she is doing to these people.

Thanks that does help make more sense in the situation.. it's just really hard to be patient with someone who treats you like shit when you haven't done anything but been nice to them.