How a pisces man can get his taurus ex-gf back

Hi, I'm a Pisces man of 31 years old and I was in a relationship with a Taurus woman of 32 years old. A little bit of how we end up together; we've met, went on 3 dates and I asked her to be my girlfriend on the third date. She only had 2 relationships before this one, the first one lasted 10 years and ended when her bf cheated on her, the second one started right after this one and lasted 1 year until her bf told her he didn't love her anymore and moved on. I had some relationships but this was the first one where I felt like I was scoring the "perfect package", someone with whom I could imagine my whole life with, having my heart and brain heading in the same direction. I've loved her the best I could while we were together, trying to provide her everything she needed, also time and space for her to be with her friends, never being jealous or anything. After 4 months she told me that sometimes she was feeling like there was a lack of intensity, like she wasn't always sure she was feeling in love with me, even knowing I was everything she always wanted. She asked us to take a break to see if she gets her feelings together. We were back together one week later.

Things looked to be going well until 3 months later she asked again for a break, again for the same reasons "You're doing everything in the right way, you're everything I've always dreamed of but sometimes I just don't know how I feel about you. It's like I have you but it's not want I wanted. I can't commit myself entirely, I don't even know why, I just wanted to love more". We were in this situation for 3 weeks before she asked us to finally break up for real. I still totally love her and I'm so sure about how we could make things work, even our friends supported our relationship the entire time, I just cannot understand what's "blocking" her. Since we've broke up I'm being more reactive then active, letting her initiate contact. But I have a feeling she already likes someone else because she didn't seem to go through a hard time with the break up and she's always "online" on whatsApp (don't want to be a stalker, but she was rarely online there).

Is it possible to get her back? Any help on how to achieve it is very welcome.

Thanks

I've always felt she was generally insecure, not only about us but also in everything in her life. Still I never asked her to give more than what she was already giving, because I could love her that way and I was truly happy. I thought that if she could commit herself, things would fall into space and she could feel in love.
She never told about us to her mother but her friends and other family members knew about us. I understood this as her just wanting to tell her mom only when she was sure.

My natal chart:
Sun Pisces 28.53
Moon Libra 25.21
Mercury Aries 9.08
Venus Pisces 5.55
Mars Scorpio 26.40
Jupiter Capricorn 10.24
Saturn Scorpio 15.55 R
Uranus Sagittarius 13.34 R
Neptune Capricorn 1.23
Pluto Scorpio 1.36 R
Lilith Pisces 10.59
Asc node Gemini 9.33

Her natal chart:
Sun Taurus 2.33
Moon Virgo 10.39
Mercury Taurus 22.15
Venus Gemini 11.28
Mars Taurus 13.02
Jupiter Sagittarius 9.52 R
Saturn Scorpio 1.01 R
Uranus Sagittarius 8.28 R
Neptune Sagittarius 29.07 R
Pluto Libra 28.01 R
Lilith Aquarius 4.06
Asc node Gemini 26.32

She texts me once in a while, asking how am I doing. Should I be light and funny in the messages or should I be direct and short, maybe taking some time before texting her back? I'm not sure if I should play games to make her miss me or just being stable, constant and being there for her.

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Posted by N00Ki3
She texts me once in a while, asking how am I doing. Should I be light and funny in the messages or should I be direct and short, maybe taking some time before texting her back? I'm not sure if I should play games to make her miss me or just being stable, constant and being there for her.

It doesn't matter,it won't change. You arrived at a point where you start asking yourself how to respond to a text of hers.

Keep the distance as much as you can,she's breaking your heart and you don't even know it. The only way to get her back is to stop talking to her,can you do that?

She's been on and off with you for some while now,if you take her back and accept everything that she wants to do with you and with this relationship you'll never have a stable relationship.

Tell her that you can't put up with this no more,you've been together,it's not like you just started dating.
Let her see how it is out there without you,let her be alone,alone as in NO CONTACT.

You'll have two outcomes:
1.She'll come back to stay.
2.She won't come back no more.

You need to give her a push or she'll do this over and over again. This time no one cheated on her and no one told her that she's not loved no more. This time a man who's been good to her is telling her to step up or leave,if she loves you,this will be the time when she'll realize it.

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We'll meet sometime soon (in 1 or 2 days) because I still have some of her stuff at my place and she still have my house keys. Should I start the NO CONTACT after this? Should I tell her or just do it?

She said after the breakup that we could still be friends and at that time I said it was ok. Isn't strange if I do NO CONTACT after agreeing on this?

Hello Nooki3,

Gosh. Come on man. Be clear all your intentions - if that is still friends after break up or you want to move

on. After break up - we cannot be friends with an ex. it will causes us another Expectation.

If I were you - after she move out all her stuff then do the *no contact* thing. Just listen to her without

agreeing her. I did that many times to an ex taurguy - believe me. They kept coming back once you do it

in a right away. Again, don't agree. Just listen. Let her know if that is what she wants then give it to her.

Goodluck and see the bright side of life there are hundreds of beautiful taurus ladies roaming around.

I am not sure but since you will start the no contact after receiving your keys. You should delete, block, or change your number.. It is better for the both. Nothing wrong with being friends. That's all that matter is being there for friends, keeping tabs on you sorta. But just that support and someone to talk to. Not flirting, no sex, and can go on other dates now, NSA...you both will be able to honestly move on.

It's her Venus in Gemini. I'm a Taurus female with a Venus in Gemini too (my least favorite part of my chart btw, makes relationships hard!!) She's bored & she's second guessing herself, she's too much in her head. I think she really does want a relationship with a guy like you because you're stable & that's what Taurus seeks BUT that Gemini Venus wants some excitement. It's like having an angel & a devil on each shoulder. They want completely opposite things. You are too nice.

"never being jealous or anything. After 4 months she told me that sometimes she was feeling like there was a lack of intensity"

This might sound dysfunctional but she doesn't feel any intensity because you aren't jealous or possessive at all. No excitement, too boring, too safe.

Posted by Impulsv
Some people aren't ready for the too good to be true. They are not used to being treated right, things going smoothly, perhaps a healthy relationship. Some people really do need drama

+1 !!!

some people, do not recognize what true love really is because they have never been truly loved before. prime example, her being cheated on in the first relationship and then left in the second one. I see her being confused because she loves you but shes not used to being loved the RIGHT way, therefore she, being a typical taurus, needs time to think and figure things out on her own. unfortunately, this may take some time... maybe weeks, months, maybe a year.

that happened with me and my old pisces best friend. we were very close for about a year and half and then suddenly i was going through something and started taking my anger out of her, blah blah blah... we stopped talking. i made effort to reconnect, but she didnt. so i left it at that. two years pass and i still think about her and i realize NOW that i made a huge mistake by letting her go and i miss her terribly.

something you really DONT know what you have until what you have is gone. its a really harsh lesson, but overall my advice to you is to give her some time to miss you. a few weeks is good enough time.

and then when a few weeks pass, just send her a text checking in on her, make sure shes alright and stuff and then take it from there, maybe ask to meet up and discuss where the relationship is going, ya know

you really love her? when you think about the future, do you see her in it?

Posted by mysteriousTaurus
you really love her? when you think about the future, do you see her in it?

I really love her, with all my heart. I see her in my future, making plans with her, experience things with her, growing old with her by my side, I can see us together going through it all.

Do you have your venus in gemini? That seems to be one of the problems with her from what other people told me, being hard for her to commit to a relationship, something that I did since we've started. Sometimes we were together and I was so sure we've belong together, other times she seemed more distant, and she told me that she has this struggle within not always being sure that she was in love with me. I've always thought that she needed something coming from her that made her sure about us, but honestly, if she doesn't commit it will be hard to be sure. You won't feel it all if you don't open your heart for it.

She started to have dance lessons a couple of months ago, and we had a fight once about our relationship where she said something like "My life would be boring if it wasn't for the dancing lessons!". And I asked "Do you think I'm boring?". She said "No, it's not that..." It's like she got bored because I didn't challenge her, it was too easy and I was fast in giving her everything she wanted.

I'll be with her today to give her stuff and get back my keys, then I'll start the No Contact to see how she react and if it makes her miss us.

Busyeyes hit the nail on the head. I'm telling you OP, I'm a Taurus female with a Gemini Venus & when I read your 1st few posts, I could relate to your ex. Any more advice I could give you, Busyeyes has already said. Also what Eva said about standing up for yourself & what you want. You don't want to be her friend. If you say "That's fine, we can be friends" once again you are giving her what you think she wants. You're being passive. A passive man is one of my biggest turn offs. I need a "manly" man. If I meet a man who kinda lets me walk all over him, it's over. Have some self respect, stand up for yourself, put her in her place about how you expect to be treated. THAT is a turn on. If you go no contact it's not going to be the silence or giving her the opportunity to see what she's missing that gets her back. It's going to be that you stood up for yourself that turns her back on.

Sounds like her mind and heart are out of sync.

Logically, to her you're everything she's ever looked for, as she said herself. Don't think she lied about that, after all, she's only been in 2 official relationships in her 30-something years of lifetime so obviously she liked you a lot and hoped for something serious. But what we need is not always what we deep down want. So it seems she never fell in love with you. As someone already said, maybe she's not used to being treated well (look at her past relationships - at the end of the day you attract what you radiate). Maybe she needed more passion and excitement to fall in love. She probably doesn't even know herself. I would recommend a bit of "push and pull". Not ignoring her, but some indifference from your side wouldn't hurt. See how she acts and know it might take a while to see a reaction.

Posted by busyeyes88
OP. Taurus is independent. In your head you think because you do stuff for her that you are giving her 'everything' she wants but it seems as though what you are giving her is not what she wants!! She wants your brian!! Physical stuff she can get for herself... Ie taurus women work so she can support herself with her own material needs with the odd occasional help if need be..

She is doing dance clases. And even I, yesterday made enquiries for belly dancing classes and salsa (I used to do these dances in my youth!!). What are you doing? What new things are you doing that can enrich your relationship with her?!!

When I was with her, I used to invite her for different stuff (going to new places, trying new restaurants, watching movies, going to music concerts, we were talking about travelling when she had the chance). I'll try to keep myself interesting and try new stuff, focus more on myself and try some push & pull play to see how she reacts.

She's not very likely and energetic. To be honest, she always seemed very apathetic with life itself (event outside the relationship). She was trying to delay our meeting that was set for today, for her to get her stuff and for me to get the keys. I'm standing my position and defending that we should do it today. Should I be more flexible?

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I've made it happen today.
She also told me that she was seeing someone from her dancing lessons and that she's starting to fall for him, but that it only happen after we weren't together no more. I've thanked her honesty.

After I left she sent me a message "I know that you've loved me so much and you still do. I'd be a happy and complete woman with you if I'd commit. I don't think life will be easier or better with you. With you I'd have a life with love, with someone by my side who would admire me with my defects and qualities. But I cannot give a step in your direction for some time. And it doesn't matter if there's someone else or not. What matters in our story it's us and what we fell. You're a great guy"

I'm sick of being the "great guy". I don't know if it's time for No Contact forever or to learn some voodoo and doom that guy! What do you think? 😄

Good luck

I'm doing great. I've already suffered what I had to. Today was just a confirmation.
I'll send her a last message, telling her that she knows how I feel about us, but I don't want to keep friends with her. Then going on No Contact and focus on myself and try to meet some new girls, improve myself. I'll try to control my pisces willing to give everything.

I really appreciate everything you guys told me. I believe that someday we might have a second chance, if we don't, well, it's because at that time we'll be with someone better 🙂

Posted by evalani290
That means that you should not answer her no more,texts or calls. Trust me on this,do it right or don't do it.

@Eva, so I should not send her a message that I don't want to keep friends with her? I just enter in NO CONTACT like this?

ps: going to music show tonight with my friends, I've got to appreciate my newly single life 🙂

great! I've sent the last message before your reply. I'll send her the message and enter in NO CONTACT

I didn't send it! So it's on! I'll tell you when I've got some news.

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Posted by N00Ki3
I've made it happen today.
She also told me that she was seeing someone from her dancing lessons and that she's starting to fall for him, but that it only happen after we weren't together no more. I've thanked her honesty.

After I left she sent me a message "I know that you've loved me so much and you still do. I'd be a happy and complete woman with you if I'd commit. I don't think life will be easier or better with you. With you I'd have a life with love, with someone by my side who would admire me with my defects and qualities. But I cannot give a step in your direction for some time. And it doesn't matter if there's someone else or not. What matters in our story it's us and what we fell. You're a great guy"

I'm sick of being the "great guy". I don't know if it's time for No Contact forever or to learn some voodoo and doom that guy! What do you think? 😄

Please Tellll me you did not reply back!!!!!!
And find yourself a good woman who can adore you and move on.

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@88aka I did answer to this one! I told her that I knew her decision had nothing to do with other people, that she decided by herself and that I was sure things would go extremely well if she was sure about us. When I've said I didn't send her a message was the one telling her I was going NO CONTACT.

Do you think I should have said anything else? To get some power?

oh my god!!!!! I am taurus woman and i've been with pisces man in relationship and same freaking things were happening! while i was reading your story i had feeling like i read my own story the only difference is that he blocked me on every social media that exist after i told him that i can't be with him again and i'm still not sure does he hate me now or just wanna get over me but what i will tell you i told my man same things she did to you and some of our charts are pretty similar, best part when i freaked out was when you wrote that she probably likes someone else, i went into relationship with my pisces while i still had some feelings for guy before... me and my pisces broke up 2 times, we had such an amazing relationship he was everything i needed it's true you pisces man really do know how to satisfy taurus woman, you are really everything one taurus need but the problem is when we get everything on plate we get bored and that happened to me, when we broke up first time i acted like i don't care at all but after 2 weeks i started missing him like crazy and he acted like i didn't exist at all, i called him to say i'm sorry and he was like: no i don't wanna talk to you, bye. And it made me want him even more and i didn't gave up, he gave me one more chance

and everything was like it used to be, and then we started to fight again, you pisces sometimes want too much of us taurus, we love our space, we love to be with our friends, what really went on my nerves about him is that he always wanted to be with me, i was before his friends he ignored them like they don't even exist, i know when you are in love there is nothing else only person you love, but sometimes it's too much for one taurus. We love harmony, social life, and love for it self and if you can get all three in one you got it. It's been 2 months since i broke up with my pisces and first 2 weeks i didn't really missed him, and like 2 weeks ago from this moment i started to think about him a lot, and i started missing him again, it's like when you ignore us we want you, it's taurus thing they will never confirm. Just ignore her, best thing that can happened to you is that you act like she doesn't exist and after all feelings and expressions calm down (2-3 weeks)you should try to get in touch with her again, best solution would be if you go on same places out to accidentally show up when she least expected and ignore her, you are there she will see you don't worry you will be checked very often, we are pro in that without making you notice it, so be there and act like she doesn't exist it will light 100 flames inside her wishing she never did it.

we our really heavy as person it's taurus thing, just be patient she will come first only if you play on clever card and remember when you are with taurus never give 100% of yourself because when we get all we don't find it that much interesting anymore, and since youre pisces i really miss mine now, what do you thing after he blocked me and we didn't spoke for almost 2 months is there any more chance? i mean you know youre nature the best. This is so similar to my situation, he said same things to me that you wrote here about your taurus girl, he never chased girls it was always opposite.. oh my still can't believe what i just read

Posted by 88aka
No sweetheart, the silence is better, even if you are tempted to call her, text her, use some strong will power, do not answer any more texts as well. Don't allow yourself to fall deeper in the friend zone stage.

It is easier for me to say, I know. My scorp moon helps with the will power, but you can learn to have it too even if you don't have a moon like mine. 🙂

The best way in life is to be a good person and you are a very nice man who deserves to be loved and appreciated but unfortunately it does not work that way. It has happened to the best of us and we learn from experience to be a little more selfish and do less for others so they can invest in us in return to appreciate us as well.

There are many links and books that can give you more insight. Just google why nice men and nice women are not loved back. It will help you find knowledge and balance. It may take you back to tons of memories with her, but you have to be strong and just let it go.

The more time you waste and invest in thinking of someone who is not doing anything or investing anything to deserve your kindness and love, the more you will look back in the future and regret time lost. you may not regret loving her but you are wasting precious time, there are many good women out there looking for a good man like you, but you have to learn a few things so she can invest in earning your love.

Thank you, I'll search for that 🙂

Posted by TaurusSparkle
we our really heavy as person it's taurus thing, just be patient she will come first only if you play on clever card and remember when you are with taurus never give 100% of yourself because when we get all we don't find it that much interesting anymore, and since youre pisces i really miss mine now, what do you thing after he blocked me and we didn't spoke for almost 2 months is there any more chance? i mean you know youre nature the best. This is so similar to my situation, he said same things to me that you wrote here about your taurus girl, he never chased girls it was always opposite.. oh my still can't believe what i just read

Thank you for your words. I've always gave her space and time to do anything she wanted by herself, because I know how important it is to have that balance in our life. But in other hand I should keep myself more occupied with other stuff beside her, that's a problem in pisces, they give too much of themselves and sometimes it's like they just disappear inside the relationship. I don't believe that I did disappear THAT much, but I know I could have been more interesting if I confronted her more times, or when she didn't want to do anything I should just stand and do it by myself, or if I had dedicated more time to my friends. I'm sure that if I have another chance, I can improve that.

I'm afraid she won't miss me like you do with your pisces (I really hope that I'm wrong) because she's seeing someone new and if that guy can keep her interested, I might just be a memory for her. They're sharing the dancing lessons, I really hope they get sick of each other or that she makes some jealousy scenes when he's dancing with other girls and he just gives up on her! 😄 It shouldn't be difficult to run into her by "accident" in some weeks, I know some places where she goes and I can keep checking FB to see her next events. That's how I find out who was the other guy (kind of stalker, I know).

Well, we're not together as a couple for 6 weeks and I still deeply love her. When we love, it's for life, even if is not in a relationship, I'm sure he still has a special place in his heart for you. If he blocked you, it was a protection for him, he needed to focus in himself, he wasn't over you. So if he didn't find any other girl I might believe that you're still have a good chance!

So after 5 days after we've last talked, I've just got a message on WhatsApp asking "are you ok?"
So I guess the No Contact officially starts now.

Honestly, I don't even think she misses me or that she is trying to reconnect. It seems more a pity question.

ok, I've got a second message "aren't you going to answer me?"
I'm just putting things here so you see if I should be doing things differently.

Ok, I've got a third message from her : "I'm going to respect the distance that you seem to want. But, if you want distance, you could at least tell me that instead of just not replying back"

Meanwhile she changed her picture in facebook and she got the first like of her new bf.

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. Just Continue to ignore her and carry on with your life. Also why are you still looking at her FB page? Thats not good for the soul. You need to fully focus on yourself. I don't keep in contact with exes or follow them on FB or any kind of social media. You need to face the facts that your relationship is over and she chose it to be that way. Move completely on...

Honestly I wasn't looking at her FB page, it appeared at the top of news feed. I don't feel the urge to reply her back when she texts me. I just ignore and keep doing whatever I'm doing.
Today I had a friend of her contacting me, almost apologizing for her behavior! Telling that after her first relationship she became a person that no longer knows what she wants, that seems lost, and that she's ashamed of what she became.

I understand what you're saying. I'm moving on, meeting new people, living my life, but I have to be truly honest with you. If she admits she made an error and she's willing to change her behavior and fight for us, if at that time I'm single and still sure of what I feel, I'll admit another shot. Of course giving less of what I was giving before and hoping she gives more.

For example, she just called me twice right now, and I didn't answer. She sent a message telling me that she needs to speak with me. I didn't answer.
I won't until she shows some kind of regret.

Then why she keeps calling me? She called me three times in a row. Now she's sending messages like "i need to talk with you, please pick the phone. that's not the way to deal with this. if you want to keep me way maybe you should remove me from whatsapp and facebook".

If she has a boyfriend and moved on, why is she doing this?

No dont delete her. Just unfollow her. It will fuck her all up, even if she asked you to delete. DO NOT DO IT. just ignore.

#scorpmoon

I don't think she's not good with the new guy. But the thing is she just keeps thinking she's the center of the world and she's having a hard time understand me. Like the fact that I don't answer her back is because I want her out of my life! It's all about her!! She cannot stop for a minute and think about anyone but herself.

I've got a date tomorrow and another Thursday. She won't get me at home 😉

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Then why she keeps calling me? She called me three times in a row. Now she's sending messages like "i need to talk with you, please pick the phone. that's not the way to deal with this. if you want to keep me way maybe you should remove me from whatsapp and facebook".

If she has a boyfriend and moved on, why is she doing this?

lol, she is uncertain. Let me change my mind on what I said about blocking her on FB. leave her there, and just use your self control. It is getting to her that she is not seeing the reaction of you falling apart and drooling over her new picture......

And don't listen to that moron Taurus woman - saying Pisces are weak. She has no idea when an ocean is awaken that her little stubborn bull just be floating wanting to breath desperately.

@88AKA... but what is the end goal here? She doesn't seem to be interested in who the REAL OP is - right now it's working because he is acting like something he is not. Let's say this whole game actually works. It will work BUT for how long? At some point OP will go back to his real personality and she will once again get bored and look elsewhere.

And OP admitted... he wants to do this with the hope of getting her back! He doesn't want to cut ties. He is not upset at her. He is still very much in love. 😢

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Nope, I wouldn't get her back right now, this is not the moment! I won't until she's really into me and I'm aware that it might never happen and I'm good with it, for real!
If that happens sometime in the future, I'll follow some of the good feedback I've got on here about how much I was giving, how I should stimulate her brain, reading some stuff about how good guys finish last. And I'll use all that info with her or anyone I get in a relationship with in the future.

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I don't think she's not good with the new guy. But the thing is she just keeps thinking she's the center of the world and she's having a hard time understand me. Like the fact that I don't answer her back is because I want her out of my life! It's all about her!! She cannot stop for a minute and think about anyone but herself.

I've got a date tomorrow and another Thursday. She won't get me at home 😉

Double negative - so, you think she's doing well with her boyfriend?

I say this with all respect, but I have noticed that some Taurus and Caps are takers. If they can take advantage... THEY WILL. So, this is how it works with these two signs - they will try to take advantage, and it is up to you to defend yourself. Only then, will they stop and learn to respect you.

Enjoy your dates! But, seriously... enjoy them. Be present and don't allow thoughts of her enter your mind.

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Yes, I think she's doing well with her boyfriend.

That's what I'm doing, defend myself and respect myself, by not answering her back. She's not taking advantage of me anymore.

I'm going to this dates for myself, not to make her jealous. She doesn't know about them and I wouldn't go on a date to make her jealous.

Nookie just like I said if you do it right, that taurus keep coming back. If you give her a chance it's up to you.

but at the end you will be the one to walk away just like I did with an ex bull. Keep it light. listen to yourself - and use it for your own benefit.