How soon is too soon?

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Hi everyone Sorry I've been trying to teach myself how to post images in my topics so hopefully it works this time. I gave you guys an update about out Anniversary a couple of weeks ago and I'm posting these late I was just looking at them and decided to share. We had a great time celebrating our one year mark. Thanks everyone for all your well wishes, I am so grateful!







I also wanted to ask a question today. How soon is too soon? I am curious as to how soon would be too soon to move closer to him. I am still not sure if I actually want to live in the same household yet because I like the dynamic of still having the traditional dating phase once I am able to see him on a daily basis. Right now we have never had that, we have only experienced flights every few months and thats far from traditional. I ask this question first because he moves like a hybrid snail/turtle lol and secondly because sometimes he can be indecisive about the time frame. I have notice that with most of his decision making but when it comes to this I want to make sure I am not moving too quickly. I can work from anywhere I am blessed with a career that allows it so I'm kind've just waiting for him to give a solid gesture. Give me your opinion guys.
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You're gorgeous. Ive moved for a guy.

Talk to him about it. Bring it up or watch a movie with that storyline. See what he says.


Thank you so much.. How long did you wait before moving.. My man is so annoying he always says he wants me there and in always like when tho haha ??
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He approached me with it like 6 months into the relationship. Looking back i wish i would have waited longer but i dont regret moving.

Its been quite the journey.

I would suggest NOT living with each other in HIS apartment. People get territorial. Move into a whole new space.

Or shit, dont move in together at all.
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You're gorgeous. Ive moved for a guy.

Talk to him about it. Bring it up or watch a movie with that storyline. See what he says.


Thank you so much.. How long did you wait before moving.. My man is so annoying he always says he wants me there and in always like when tho haha ??
He approached me with it like 6 months into the relationship. Looking back i wish i would have waited longer but i dont regret moving.

Its been quite the journey.

I would suggest NOT living with each other in HIS apartment. People get territorial. Move into a whole new space.

Or shit, dont move in together at all.
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If you can afford it shop for a 2 bedroom. That way if you end up splitting you don't have to sleep in the same bed as an ex.
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You're gorgeous. Ive moved for a guy.

Talk to him about it. Bring it up or watch a movie with that storyline. See what he says.


Thank you so much.. How long did you wait before moving.. My man is so annoying he always says he wants me there and in always like when tho haha ??
He approached me with it like 6 months into the relationship. Looking back i wish i would have waited longer but i dont regret moving.

Its been quite the journey.

I would suggest NOT living with each other in HIS apartment. People get territorial. Move into a whole new space.

Or shit, dont move in together at all.
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No I agree he has a couple places where he lives but I was thinking I want my own place whenever I move there.. You are so right tho..

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Posted by Redoctober2000
Please do not move just for him...

Check out the surrounding areas first ie when you visit him, stay in a hotel etc in an area near to his and check it out. Do this for a while.. Then move...

But speak to him. You need to be happy living there in case it does not work out, you have a back up plan..

Don't let a big move like that be only on one focus... Him


Yes.. I never stay at his house when I'm there we usually stay downtime or we travel to somewhere else and have a mini vacay.

I don't really care about moving I have lived all over the place in several different states and I've always wanted to live in Florida. I almost went to college there.. But you are right I shouldn't make the move just for him..

I just don't see how a relationship can grow with so much distance eventually it will become stagnant.. He wants to have another child and I need to grow with him before that or an engagement happens.. I thought about doing Flip Keys a couple times a month to get a feel for actually living there.. He's also considering buying a condo here. Even tho he can't live here full time because his business is in Florida I would feel better that we are both compromising.
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You're gorgeous. Ive moved for a guy.

Talk to him about it. Bring it up or watch a movie with that storyline. See what he says.


Thank you so much.. How long did you wait before moving.. My man is so annoying he always says he wants me there and in always like when tho haha ??
He approached me with it like 6 months into the relationship. Looking back i wish i would have waited longer but i dont regret moving.

Its been quite the journey.

I would suggest NOT living with each other in HIS apartment. People get territorial. Move into a whole new space.

Or shit, dont move in together at all.
If you can afford it shop for a 2 bedroom. That way if you end up splitting you don't have to sleep in the same bed as an ex.

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I'm thinking about getting my own place there for sure. That way it's mine and he has his until we are atleast getting married.
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As to your question, I really don't know. I've seen couples move in together after a month and make it work and stay together for the long term, and others who wait years to try and do it the right traditional way and it fails. When it feels right. That's when you should move forward and take those leaps 🙂 It's different for everyone. But I wish you both happiness.
You are just too freaking sweet ? I've seen that myself which is why I'm conflicted.. I miss him like a crazy person and cry like a baby when I have to say goodbye.. I atleast want to be closer to him.. After that we can share a place?
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True. I remember my bull and I were dating only 3 months and he invited me to live with him. We did. Lots of difficult times along the way. We separate ways cuz lots of fight as he noticed I am not ready yet..due to his demand that I should quit my job and a full time wife. I am not typical wife staying at home and spreading my legs..so we had a big fight that leads to separate ways. He fooled around after that. Back to his country and work there. Then comeback to my country after 1 yr..inviting me to date with him I refused his invitation. He rage. I let him suffer for almost 2 yrs. Lol. We talked via email casually cuz had cap bf that time.When my cap bf and I broke up he talked to me everyday and surprised me by sending flower at the office. To make it short we are living together now since July of this year talking lots of things including marriage for good.

Will see what life ahead of us.

Congrats cancergirl. Bull are slow but not all of them.
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As to your question, I really don't know. I've seen couples move in together after a month and make it work and stay together for the long term, and others who wait years to try and do it the right traditional way and it fails. When it feels right. That's when you should move forward and take those leaps 🙂 It's different for everyone. But I wish you both happiness.
You are just too freaking sweet ? I've seen that myself which is why I'm conflicted.. I miss him like a crazy person and cry like a baby when I have to say goodbye.. I atleast want to be closer to him.. After that we can share a place?
I think you're in love 🙂 If this is the only life we get, enjoy it to the fullest ?

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Agree. After all we have nothing to add in this world. We only have time and memories to make.

The rest are just not really important.

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Posted by Redoctober2000
Please do not move just for him...

Check out the surrounding areas first ie when you visit him, stay in a hotel etc in an area near to his and check it out. Do this for a while.. Then move...

But speak to him. You need to be happy living there in case it does not work out, you have a back up plan..

Don't let a big move like that be only on one focus... Him
THIS ^^^^^

Bizzy is absolutely right-- I wish someone had told me that before I moved across the damned country.

I hated where he lived, and I went back home after 18 months.

I wouldn't have listened, but still... that second pic-- sweetie, yer a knockout.

You write your own ticket. 😏

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As to your question, I really don't know. I've seen couples move in together after a month and make it work and stay together for the long term, and others who wait years to try and do it the right traditional way and it fails. When it feels right. That's when you should move forward and take those leaps 🙂 It's different for everyone. But I wish you both happiness.
You are just too freaking sweet ? I've seen that myself which is why I'm conflicted.. I miss him like a crazy person and cry like a baby when I have to say goodbye.. I atleast want to be closer to him.. After that we can share a place?
I think you're in love 🙂 If this is the only life we get, enjoy it to the fullest ?

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I think so too.. ?
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As to your question, I really don't know. I've seen couples move in together after a month and make it work and stay together for the long term, and others who wait years to try and do it the right traditional way and it fails. When it feels right. That's when you should move forward and take those leaps 🙂 It's different for everyone. But I wish you both happiness.
You are just too freaking sweet ? I've seen that myself which is why I'm conflicted.. I miss him like a crazy person and cry like a baby when I have to say goodbye.. I atleast want to be closer to him.. After that we can share a place?
I think you're in love 🙂 If this is the only life we get, enjoy it to the fullest ?


Agree. After all we have nothing to add in this world. We only have time and memories to make.

The rest are just not really important.

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This is so true .. Thank you
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Posted by Redoctober2000
Please do not move just for him...

Check out the surrounding areas first ie when you visit him, stay in a hotel etc in an area near to his and check it out. Do this for a while.. Then move...

But speak to him. You need to be happy living there in case it does not work out, you have a back up plan..

Don't let a big move like that be only on one focus... Him
THIS ^^^^^

Bizzy is absolutely right-- I wish someone had told me that before I moved across the damned country.

I hated where he lived, and I went back home after 18 months.

I wouldn't have listened, but still... that second pic-- sweetie, yer a knockout.

You write your own ticket. 😏

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Thank you so much for the compliment I'm grateful for that.. He lives in Tampa I love it there.. No really worried about the place just wanted to make sure the timing was okay. I'm sorry your move didn't workout
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Demurely? ? Sounds like you're speaking about me as if I'm classless. I don't really care what they do in the U.K. Because I'm in the USA and my man told me all damn night how amazing i looked and he held my hand and definitely showed me off for everyone to see.. So maybe it's not that they aren't the same. Maybe it's just that you don't know as much as you think you know about a Taurus man.. I take your advise in small doses because nothing you have ever recommended has been beneficial when it comes to my relationship. Not to meantion this topic had absolutely nothing to do with my attire. But thats another conversation. I am a very sweet and respectful person but don't come for me.
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Carry on cancergirl. You are still beautiful.

Nothing in this world does matter except how you look at yourself not what others have told you to do so. Their opinion might be their principles in life and you are not slave to follow.

That is beautiful indeed celebrating anniversary with your bull.
Of course.. thanks so much for your kind words. I really appreciate them.