How to proceed with my taurus girl friend?

I've just joined today and as I read other topics I found much helpful incite but not really the answer I need. I've been a good friend to my Taurus for about 5 years now. Originally I was drawn to her as a love interest but our live took opposite turn and I was forced to keep our friendship and let go the hope of being more. She got married to a man she barely knew about 2.5 years ago and now their marriage is ended and our friendship has resumed full bloom and grow to the place it has no further to go unless it evolves into a relationship. I certainly don't have any problem with a relationship, in fact it's been my hope since we met. I'm a scorpio and I'm a pretty good one at that. I'm not exactly typical for a scorpio in that I've resigned most of the contents of my bag of tricks for a more moral and genuine approach, I'm tired of the games we scorions tend to play and I'm just ready to be in love with a woman forever. She's the woman I've decided on and I've been by her side and at her back whenever she needs me. I've given advise when asked (and sometimes when I feels the question is implied) and given 100% support even if our views don't mesh on her decision and I've always been honest and genuine in everything. I'm now she's aware of this as we've talked about everything without reservation (though at times I have to wait til she's ready to tell me,especially if she feels I might be stung by the truth). We've discussed a relationship and her answer was that she isn't ready after her recent heartbreak. She's also mentioned that she doesn't want to loose our friendship if a "we" situation doesn't work out. I've seen the jealousy pointed at me even though we're only friends by her choice. She's told me I have "dibs" when she's done destroying her ex (and has invited me to help in assorted schemes against him as well, which I gladly participated in). As a scorpio though, she has all of me she needs to destroy me as well and that's something I afford to only a VERY few people. Recently after a night out drinking she opened the door to intimacy (but was too drunk for my new morality to take advantage of). We passed second base by a ways but never got all the way to the end. How do I proceed though? Is she truly interested or am I a fool? How can I tell?

Just the reply I was wishing I'd see and so terrified I wouldn't. I knew deep down everything you included in your reply but I've already put everything I am at her disposal and that kind of vulnerability for a scorpion is feared above all else. That vulnerability I think is my problem and not her at all. I knew she was hurting deep in her soul and I also know the time it can take for that hurt to mend, even if we have a lot of support through it. I know all too well the insecurity and fear she must feel at having what she thought was forever being laid out before her as only a passing wave. I'm here for her and she knows it, not only by my words but also my actions. I know that had if we had gotten together when we first met as I intended it would have been a quick hello/goodbye relationship. We both had to have time to know each other whatever our relationship was going to be. Both fixed signs and prone to owning and controlling all we have would have been a real game breaker if we hadn't first learned how to function together as we are. As a water sign I've found that my own jealous and possessive nature can be trained to flow with hers instead of against it and had I not the proper time to learn this it would surely have destroyed us both. We've grown well beyond the best friendship I could ever have imagined and I can't see it ever reaching a peak. Thanks for the reply, it was just EXACTLY the assurance I needed about something I already knew!

Good luck Scorpion. 🙂

Thanks bunches!

And.... We're back to waiting while she makes up her mind again.... Her hubby gave her the ol' "I miss you baby" and she's stuck on that shit again. She relayed a text conversation they had and it's all too obvious that he's playin' games... Still, she's come a long way and learned a lot about seeing through all that b.s.(She's been the student of a scorpio and we can both run and spot a game quick fast and in a hurry) so this time she doesn't have those pesky "love blinders" on. She didn't expect that they'd really work it out even before she asked my opinion and that's progress too. Still she took the vows and not lightly so she's givin' it one more go before she lets it die. I read the texts though and was very plain about just what he meant by them, having the mind of a man and having been one of the most ruthless players there ever was (before my evolution) it was pretty clear that he's playin' the "keep her on the hook" game. I was worried that she would shun my advise simply because she knows how I feel about her but she assured me that she's knows that I wouldn't lie to her to promote my own desires. It kinda stung when she told me that she was gonna try it again but she was honest and I did ask for that above all else. I am very glad we talked about it though because I had the chance to outline a plan that I'd thought of earlier and not to brag or anything but it's nothing short of genius. She'll get either her husband back and know that he's all in or she'll get her closure and that's that. I built the plan around the mandatory "waiting period" of an uncontested divorce so that he knows he can't wait forever (and perhaps show his hand early and just bail), it also gives her a head start if he doesn't want to work it out and yes, it also is designed to either push me back to "friends" or give me another shot at more than that. We'll see how it all goes but I'd believe it'll all pay off eventually and we'll be back in each others arms, both free of all doubt, tempered and unbreakable!!