I was told I was a brute...

when saying things. I had a conversation with a friend today to clear a misunderstanding that happened this last saturday at a party ( she flirted with a collegue/friend and it turned out that the guy asked her for my phone number).

We discussed about it she said she got mad, she questioned my loyalty and started telling me more than I expected from our conversation. Like I produce in her negative feelings, that I overshadow her, that I criticize her too much and that she feels negative energy everytime I'm with her, as we got different personalities, she said I kinda consume her energy, I pulled her down.


I told her I never meant to hurt her, that I recognize I tent to be direct, that I was sorry if she took my comments the other way around or too harsh but my intentions were no others than to help her out. Why? because She's got a huge problem with her body, self esteem ( just take the picture, I'm feminine she isn't, she's like a tomboy). so all I did was to bring that feminine side of her out by taking her shopping for more lady clothes , make up and giving her tips to be a WOMAN as She always complains Men don't put their eyes on her because she's a bit fatty and blah blah. Me and one of our other friend have told her she's beautiful the way she is and that she has to accept her body just like that..... but today she said she's sick of all! that me and my friend put some preassure on her and that she feels cannot satisfied MY expectations (?). I was like WHAT—————? SHE KEPT ON TALKING AND TALKING and I was like: god I understand you, I've told you before not to change your esence , all I wanted was to help you to look cuter, to look more beautiful than you already are and stop wearing sporty clothes as you complained all the time about YOU feeling unattractive, not sexy etc etc.

end of the story I feel a bit sad 😢. Why the hell did I receive all that crap saying I'm the one who carry all the negative energy? , in other words, I'm an energy sucking vampire??. wth??

Now, I feel the need to distant myself. I don't want to have this friendship If I'm gonna feel this way 😢 and if the other person feels I generate negative feeling on her.

She's Leo , her moon is in cancer and I'm taurus and my moon is in Leo.

opinions?

When people ramble there are times when you just need to close your ears. I dont even need to touch on shiny egos.

Some people like to wallow in themselves for their own benefit. They like hearing their own voice, and they like 'poor you'. If she wants an end to the shopping trips and tips. Then stop them. As to her comments regarding you? Flip it in reverse and let it roll off you like water on a ducks back. Gobbledygook to bring up a guilt response from you. Out of her guilt for getting caught with her paw in the cookie jar about the dude. Not to mention if she truly feels this way, you don't require her presence in your sphere.
I'll bet you a dozen glazed she'll be back though...sounds to me like she is a bit of an attention 'ho.

Can you take a quiet moment to reflect on if any of what she has said is valid? She may not have said it inthe nicest way but its important to do an inner-inventory of ourselves to see if we have some negative character traits.

Of course, I Thought about it! About our conversation and yes she tried to make me feel guilty for receiving the guy's attention.
I feel better today though. I know I tried to be there for her and this was what I got.

I'd be better off without her.

'Once bitten twice shy' —?

Have a hice day ladies!

The day I give advice and be looked at as a woman is the day I commit suicide. -.- Good day random person.

-Waves-

She has low self esteem and is jealous of you. Ignore her - she'll eventually realise that she just projected all her negative self views onto you which is unfair and untrue.

She's been self absorbed and childish, ignore her and you'll force her to look inwards at her own actions, don't excuse her behaviour too easily or you'll become a regular focus for her own self loathing.

Me - Leo sun, aries moon, cancer venus.

I agree with sadlioness except before you ignore her, you need to put your foot down. Say what needs to be said in a factual, firm way. With a Leo this is a must. Leo wants to dominate and Cancer will emotionally manipulate. No raised voices. Be blunt. You have to show that you're a force to be reckoned with but don't go about it in their dramatic style . They're masters at that.

That's why I have such a thing for the earth signs. They are so not amused. 🙂

Posted by ninjamu
I agree with sadlioness except before you ignore her, you need to put your foot down. Say what needs to be said in a factual, firm way. With a Leo this is a must. Leo wants to dominate and Cancer will emotionally manipulate. No raised voices. Be blunt. You have to show that you're a force to be reckoned with but don't go about it in their dramatic style . They're masters at that.

That's why I have such a thing for the earth signs. They are so not amused. 🙂

Yep, my ex husband was a Cap and my boyfriend is a taurus, they definitely do not put up with our sh1t 🙂