Inexplicably drawn to Taurus men -.-

Why you, goddammit?? Is there a frigging reason I'm only attracted to Taurus men? Gosh, it's frustrating! If it helps at all, I'm a Libra/Scorpio cusper (Oct 22...right in between -.-)

Sorry. I guess this is a kinda rant. Grrr. The thing is, everytime it starts out quick and exciting and exhilarating- the intensity is magnetic and I love it. Eventually...I don't know, the intensity just...fizzles out and we're both left standing there awkwardly, and then the inevitable split.

Woulda thought I'd have learnt by now, but apparently not...

Taurus men. You leave me at a loss for words (which is not something that happens very often to me).And you leave me frustrated. Very, very frustrated. Gah.

It makes sense. Both Venus ruled AND your opposite sign - the attractor. Perhaps a cusp, Taur/Gem would better suit. Air to continue to hold your fancy, and the Tau to satisfy solidarity and romance.

Hm, okay I understand the intense attraction. But as a...Librio, if you will, aren't I supposed to be attracted to other signs as well?

What really baffles me is that I seem to be ONLY drawn to Taurus men. When I meet a bunch of guys, if one of them's a Taurus, 8/10 I'll zero in on them and get romantically or otherwise involved, and I'll only find out that they're a Taurus AFTER we acquaint ourselves with each other better.

Explanation? Sorry I'm just a curious, kinda peeved girl here...

Unsure if I can demystify things for you. I'm a cusp as well. Aries/Taurus. I've always been attracted to Taurus men. Whether it's because values and appetites line up well, or who knows? Something about 'em just vibes with how I'm wired together. Recognition I think plays a big part. Me with a kickstand. Two sides of the same coin if you will. Something comforting about that.
In any case, you know you're what I call 'afflicted'. Hahaha, I use this term for anyone that claims to only be attracted to one or two signs. The rest are either ignored intentionally ( even despite catastrophic relationship interaction..they'll keep crowing to the hilltops that that's 'the ONE' for them ) or truly because it does nothing for them. Big flat line reaction.
Why be irritated at the fact that you dig Bulls? Just dig 'em. You've got loads of time to mingle and see what best suits you. If that's Taurus..let it be Taurus. You might find in time that you respond well to someone of a different sign with heavy Tau placement. Moon, or Venus perhaps. It's certainly nothing to be ruffled over, it just simply IS. 🙂
I think..and feel free to correct me if I'm wrong..you get swept away by the initial attraction before you take time to truly get to know someone. When you do find out Mr. Sexy and Exhilarating likes to kick back and relax; when he gets comfortable and settles in, you grow bored of things. Despite the Scorp wanting complete surrender, the Libra kicks and needs a bit more pampering..the Scorps natural inclination for reassurance feeds into that and round we go. Air also requires more freedom and play within the confines of relationship.."Keep me entertained on some level, or begone." LOL Most Tau men will say: 'Entertain yourself, there's something that needs done.'

Posted by venusianbull

I think..and feel free to correct me if I'm wrong..you get swept away by the initial attraction before you take time to truly get to know someone. When you do find out Mr. Sexy and Exhilarating likes to kick back and relax; when he gets comfortable and settles in, you grow bored of things...

Also, Mr. Sexy and Exhilarating often needs to take a PTO (personal time off) occasionally to refresh, regroup, and recharge. Don't think he is ignoring you just...at lunch, will be back at 1pm.

In full swing. 🙂

I've noticed that Libra & Taurus REALLY get along. . I think it's because of the laid back nature of the two & the fact that you guys favor,the fancy "finer" classier things in life.I'm guessing here. . .it seems like a good duo.I don't know if it would stay interesting tho,Taurus gets even more laid back after they have you.

Spot on, DUNCE...

Maybe I AM 'afflicted', but...I'm drawn to Mr. Tall, Dark and Handsome, and generally Taurean men (I find) fit that stereotype. Especially the Tall and Handsome bit. 😛

Yeah I dont know, I'm slightly frustrated because its a pattern now- the losing interest bit. Yes, I admit, I'm a selfish and vain creature who loves her comforts. So I really need to be comforted in the form of repeated reassurance- don't know why. Its a kind of insecurity. Jeez...

'Afflicted' is not necessarily a bad thing, it's knowing oneself in a way. Like you knowing you need constant pats and reaffirmation. An Earthy baby will do this on some level, but after a time it gets wearisome. Yes "I care about you." Yes, "You look beautiful tonight." but on a constant basis it becomes hollow. Something you do by rote. The feeling is there and shown. I will be completely honest and say after a time it even becomes abhorrent on some level. You think..'Why do I have to keep saying it over and over and OVER again. I've said this many times." It comes off as emotionally needy on a crazy scale. You can sense small doors closing..the lock snicking shut. One by one.
A Taurus loves to pamper and take care, but on the other side of the mirror is requiring presence of mind, strength, enough security in self that such flutterings are not always present.
A little reassurance is a very human thing. We all as women want to be told we're lovely. We all want reassurances on occasion. A man will take more of a stance that 'I am here, busting my balls to make sure all is taken care of and well. How much more do you require?" In effect showing you daily and around the clock that he is genuine. Giving of his time, his sweat, his mental state, everything he is he's giving. And he still manages to arrive home and swoop you off to make you see stars.
NOW, once a Bull settles in, it should be with complete confidence that partner isn't going anywhere. That's the cool relax. Hopefully all is sorted and settled and life together is to be embarked on. We trust fully that our S/O isn't going to take a powder. That is the ideal. We hold, we keep, we own. When you've something in your hands it should be yours for the rest of your life. There is so much stress and *other* going on that THAT part of your life shouldn't be a concern at all. If it is..well we got some issues that need addressed, pronto. If it continues ( dependent upon patience level of le Bull in question ) we will unplug, slowly and over time. Usually we do not revisit once this occurs.
I present this to you, in spirit of thoughtfulness. Some things to hold up to the light and internalize.

wonderfully said VB.

fierymuse, my one experience with a Libra was an immediate, intense, and passionate attraction, on many levels. That person was able to temporarily fill intellectual, physical needs, and most importantly provide an emotional harbor that we bulls secretly need. So, a slice of my life...I am of a fire/earth cusp nature, so I am strongly aware of my own independence and isolation to others; an overwhelmingly sensitivity that no one can feel what I feel. So having that rare chance to have confidence in another with my emotional security is of a high value to me. And as VB stated so eloquently, "we hold, we keep, we own" it. However, the drawback to my experiment with the Libra didn't turn out as solid as I had hoped and her personal downward spiral was too much for me to handle. Ended up spending a lot of energy trying to help solve her problem, even protect her from herself. But then started the deception, then gravitated toward mistrust, eventually I felt my genuine efforts betrayed. I held on as long as I could but ultimately I had to leave the situation and once a bull decides to leave, that person is no longer in as high esteem. So...yes, I still think it can be a good pairing but can be volatile in a negative way as well. It's magnetic but makes sure the poles don't repel eh?

Thank you. 🙂 I do try but it is always nice to have it bolstered by a mans opinion and perspective. We are definitely not for the faint of heart.

Faint of heart is not something I tend to include in my self-description...😛

Personal downward spiral? Clarification, please? :S Just so I might be able to figure out what goes wrong all the time...

Also, I'm not sure I agree entirely with the bit about Taurean men leaving and not holding the person they left in high esteem anymore. Well that or the bull I'm dealing with isnt as....bullish as I expected. We have an intense, extremely magnetic attraction for each other, but somehow, finding solid ground on which to base the relationship is difficult. Its like his earthiness draws my airy self and brings my dreamy self down to Earth, and its great, and its fantastic. But there's nothing to anchor me down, or to float him to the skies with me, so we part often for ridiculous reasons. And none of us want to apologize first, him being bullheaded and my Scorpio coming out when that happens. But one of us eventually comes and apologizes...and then the cycle goes on. Its been like this for almost 7 months now...we had a ridiculous argument about some trivial matter a week or so ago, and he apologized last night.

I don't know what to do to keep it from repeating, and worst thing is I know half the time our inevitable 'splits' are my fault.

This is a real mess, isn't it. Gosh. I don't know what it is that keeps me from walking away from him, and him walking away from me.

Meh! Sorry for being a pain, yeah guys? I'm at a loss right now.

LOL I imagine it is not. I was thinking more directly of Aries/Taurus cusp. We are a straight up hand full. Whoohoo!

He's a first decan Taurus- 27th April. Brr. Maybe other placements make him less Taurean than I expected. 🙂

Definitely, you need to back up and look at his entire chart. 🙂

The tauruses I met outside always block my way. I take it as a sign of control. They like to control. And it's usually their way or no way at all.. no exceptions. Whenever a Taurus is a bit higher above me, I know that my creativity flow will be blocked.. there's no way they will bend for you.

Spica,

'Higher above'? Whaddya mean?

I find Tauruses great 🙂 My big brother's a Taurus, and I've never found problems with him stifling my creativity in any way. 🙂 Tauruses are awesome. I mean, I merge with them well. Maybe not in relationships (as you may have discerned) but they make great friends for me 🙂

Posted by fierymuse
Faint of heart is not something I tend to include in my self-description...😛

Personal downward spiral? Clarification, please? :S Just so I might be able to figure out what goes wrong all the time...

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This is a real mess, isn't it. Gosh. I don't know what it is that keeps me from walking away from him, and him walking away from me.

Meh! Sorry for being a pain, yeah guys? I'm at a loss right now.

Personal downward spiral as in substance abuse with a manipulative personality. You can do the math. Chaos. Also, the lack of emotional accountability and rational stability turned me away. Yeah the intense attraction was great, but I need something tactile, instead of grasping at straws, just not worth it. That was a pretty extreme case. My fire aspects impart a lot of independence and spontaneity, so that wasn't what closed me off.

The Libra can't carry the Taur up to the clouds and vice versa, the Taur isn't able to hold those airy wings down....

Posted by 1urbanicblue
i have to add:

I notice a lot of prejudice against libra/taurus pairings even though in reality this is one of the biggest pairings in real life.

it's so odd.

Not prejudiced per se, it was an extreme case. I honestly think the "non ideal" synastry pairings are successful most of the time. It's more about good open communication, timing, and if working through issues as a couple is important enough. Selection based on sign compatibility probably can help with a higher chance of success, less disappointment?

I can honestly say I prefer to keep Libra in a tidy little 'friends only' box. With a big bow on it. No offense to every successful pairing of the two signs, just definitely not for this Cow.

In my case the attraction is certainly there. The conversation sparkling, etc. But when it is time for something truly serious, Libra disappears. In the first instance a Libra I was dating couldn't possibly any more because "You're just not as fun." ( his words ) after my daughter passed on. In the second I thought things were going swimmingly, apparently not. Again with the *poof*. So one draws upon the old adage.."Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."
For someone that requires security, that is simply too much.

Posted by fierymuse
Spica,

'Higher above'? Whaddya mean?

I find Tauruses great 🙂 My big brother's a Taurus, and I've never found problems with him stifling my creativity in any way. 🙂 Tauruses are awesome. I mean, I merge with them well. Maybe not in relationships (as you may have discerned) but they make great friends for me 🙂

Higher above meaning bosses or superiors and women, not men.
For relationships, Taurus men are simply unsuitable for Libra women, nevermind the venus connection. The Taurus is the quintessential "Man", and if you want a very very conventional relationship then try this. It's not very fortuitous for Libra woman's growth and psyche to join forces with Taurus because they're simply not on the same wavelength. And Libra has to bend most of the way.

Posted by venusianbull
In my case the attraction is certainly there. The conversation sparkling, etc. But when it is time for something truly serious, Libra disappears. In the first instance a Libra I was dating couldn't possibly any more because "You're just not as fun." ( his words ) after my daughter passed on. In the second I thought things were going swimmingly, apparently not. Again with the *poof*. So one draws upon the old adage.."Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."
For someone that requires security, that is simply too much.

He wasn't serious about you yet, and wasn't yet willing to take on any responsibilities.

Obviously. Nor after several months we he like to be that way. No matter how you slice it, that was poorly done.

Glad you found out early.

Actually so am I. It's a learning process.

Right on. PFFFFFT ALL O'ER DAT!

Maybe Taurus/Libra doesnt work out. Maybe it does. Either way, I'm currently fine with being drawn to them. Because they're delicious 😛