Is Taking The Initiative Pushy To A Taurus?

I'm a Virgo and I've hung out with a Taurus twice and quite enjoy his company. The second time we hung out together we locked lips and we've texted each other constantly since. He'd gone away for a week or two recently and now that he's back I'd like to see him again but am worried about sounding pushy. He did show interest in meeting up again and I've texted him a few times already about other things and have also hinted about meeting up. Basically... I've taken the intiative. Is that too pushy? :-P

haha, with you on that one too. I love aggressive passionate people!

Sag babe, you leaving me?!!! 😭

Haha... I take it that Taurus like a bit of aggressiveness then?

Oh freak do we need initiativeness from someone else lol!

(bumpin & grindin' up to you) 😉

Ok. So the Taurus guy and I finally went out for a meal and drinks. And after drinks we went to his place to chat more and eventually ended up doing more than chatting. :-P Question is... how do I know the Taurus is not just interested in a fling? We will be seeing each other again over the weekend before he leaves.

I forgot to mention in my previous post that I was the one who suggested if he'd like me to go over to his place. We were already locking lips in the taxi then. His reply was if I wanted to. I dunno about Taurus guys... if someone could fill me in on what they are like... would be great. LOL.

"hunny bunny cuddly wudly fudly wuddly dudly bubly lovely lubby dubby wubby wubby
just finishing something up, and man am i horny. maybe it's the snow, making me want to get real freaky deaky under the covers where it's nice and warm! but then again maybe it's the variable names i'm using--lickIn, lickLatch, lickMe, lickAnything!!!!"

I think it's the snow for me too. It's been snowing for 2 days here now. tee hee, a little pent up here too! 😉

Oh Lostsoul, taurusmen, great to make out with, make luvin with, talk to, but getting close- real close to their heart & mind may only happen when they allow. But trust me, when you have their heart, it's deep & true. Don't let him control things too much, let him long for you too. Good luck.

Haha... Taurusgoddess... I'd definitely agree on the making out part and talking to. It's good. 😉 I'd love to get closer to the Taurus guy though but as you said... this would only happen when they allow it. So how the heck do I encourage him then and make him long for me instead of him controlling things? Hehe... I definitely want him to remember me before he leaves.

Care about him, what he cares about, be loyal, be someone that he respects, respect yourself, he will see that you are worth it and never forget you.

I can't forget someone that has inspired me and proven themself as a strong person and considerate of me.

Ok... the Taurus guy when I met him last said he wanted to meet and another friend of ours one last time before he leaves. So we met up with him. But he was super late. Also he started to behave a lot more distant than his usual self. Sorry... but I'm confused now. Before he was all nice and himself the last time we met, etc. and then the last night he was like a complete royal jerk. At first he was alright and surprised me with a kiss on the lips when he met up. Then as the night went on it just went downhill from there. Great... just when I was out for a bit of fun. I finally asked if I was making him uncomfortable and he said yeah and that he didn't want to get involved in anything because he was leaving. I mean if he was uncomfortable in meeting up again, why didn't he just say so and cancel the meet? Then later as we parted, we did so cordially. I asked for one last kiss and we kissed a few times and did all the niceties of saying goodbye, etc. He then said he'd call me the next day and I told him that he didn't have to if he didn't want to... it's alright. To which he then said he wasn't that sort of guy. Well needless to say... he didn't quite fall into that category. Instead he text msged me like really, really late into the night to apologize abt the night before probably to clear his own guilty conscience. Said it was nice to see me again. Thanked me for the Xmas presents. Then added that he would chat/email me soon. I'd be surprised if that actually happens.

I dunno... is this usual Taurus guy behaviour? This is the first I'm experiencing a Taurus guy. I wish he didn't ruin the last night by being distant and jerky. Afterall, we did have loads of fun the previous time we met before. I'd rather have the memory of that than the bad night.

Lostsoul, that does really suck that it had to end off that way. How frustrating! Tough call, he might be withdrawing cuz he's leaving and is just mentally trying to prepare himself. Idiot though, for ruining the last impression. You never know what could happen down the road! I guess he doesn't want to look down the road too far. Any bull wants to protect their heart & avoid anything that will drain them too much emotionally. Just leave it as that and see what happens. Maybe he will have you stuck in his head and will contact you sooner than you think. Who knows? Maybe even contact him in little while just to see how he's doing. He might appreciate that. If you really want to get close to him you might need one thing, and you might not like to hear it - patience. Just make sure to let him go and don't think about it too much, carry on and remember the sweet memories. Time will tell the rest.

Anyway, after he sent me the text msg apology, I replied and told him that it was alright. It was nothing serious. Rather it was all just good fun and not to worry about it. Wished him well on his trip home and said to keep in touch. Just kept it light and cheery, you know. Afterall, we've only just gotten to know each other. Ball is now in his court to whether he wants to email or not as he'd mentioned.

But man, that one time when we hung out, just the two of us without anyone else. That was just great. That night he said that he wished that he'd known me a lot earlier during his stay but as it is... we've only just met towards the end of his 4-month stint here. We both lamented this fact. And that night at his place... it was like wow... he was so affectionate, lovable, passionate, sensous, cute and funny. All he did was focus on me. He didn't even really care about himself even when I asked. He said he just wanted to focus on me. And when I wanted to leave he kept asking me to stay till morning. It was funny cause I kept saying that I had to go and then he'd say to stay. It went on for awhile and eventually I just stayed. So yeah... too bad he had to leave. :-P

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww wow
Lostsoul, hang in there. Trust me, it's like TG said........patience.
My Taurus guy is very similar and we are still in constant contact. Let him give you the cues and when he does, take them! It is a slow, tortuous, wonderful, and tantalizing dance with the Taurus, but so worth it.

Well, TG, Yatta... I have patience. I only hope he remembers me. LOL. He did give me some cues earlier on, weeks before. Just that his last night... man... bad cues. LOL. And now with his last text msg... I dunno. Will see. He seemed to like the book I gave him on some local lingo. Apparently he found it hilarious.

Here's another question... is it in Taurus' nature to have flings? Just wondering.

"Here's another question... is it in Taurus' nature to have flings? Just wondering"

I'd say it's not in our nature... if I generalize.
It's in everyones natures, only to a lesser extent in Taurus without thinking of other influences in the chart.
Now add "male" + "taurus" ... well that kicks up the probability a notch... I find that males don't put any importance on flings, as in they don't see it as a wrong wrong thing...
BUT if we love someone then a fling is not happening... super loyal.

That's moi speaking for all ofcourse since I would never ever ever have a fling.

Hmmm... I guess I'm just trying to figure out if the Taurus guy was just having a fling with me. LOL. Anyway... I think the Virgo in me is over-analyzing this. :-P

Yeah, don't do that with a Taurus. They will do your head in. hehe

Yatta - Haha... I just have to stop doing that with everything! Not just with a Taurus. 😉 At least I know that... LOL.

One thing I'd say about a Taurus... they're pretty reliable most times. When they say they're going to do something, they usually would. So I just have to be patient and let the guy do things in his own time.

I won't lie, but I may not make a promise.

That's exactly right. The one I know has a completely different idea of time. I don't know if that is a Taurus thing. The best way is to expect nothing at all, and then if stuff happens, it's gravy. Very tasty gravy!

Yeah... LOL.

Bring me the gravy train... :-P

Hahaha, oh yeah!

Wooo! Got a really lengthy email from the Taurus. 😄 Hehe...

What did it say?

I just sent it to you. Not posting it on here... never know when it'll come back to bite me in the bum. :-P But what do you think of it?

Thanx for sending it to me, I read it.
He was definitely stressed out when leaving but Taurus never forgets the people they care about. That shows in him keeping in touch with you 🙂 I think you asked if you might have been a fling to him in another post but I really don't think so now, seems like he takes an interest in what you do and enjoys telling you what's going on with him. 🙂 🙂 🙂 Have you written back?

No, I haven't written back yet. 😢 I'm frightened now to write back too soon. Don't want to seem too over eager. :-P

Tauruschic - Maybe he's just being polite?

Yes he is being polite, but atleast personally I don't bother to be polite or write or give a sock about anyone who I don't care about in some way. Ofcourse I can't know if he has feelings for you or not but as far as being a fling- ? I don't think so, he doesn't mention anything naughty 😉 ha ha

"No, I haven't written back yet. 😢 I'm frightened now to write back too soon. Don't want to seem too over eager"

A day or two doesn't seem over eager. Just keep in touch in a friendly way, nothing cheesy 🙂

Wow... I wrote back and got a really lenghty reply again. Wooo. :-) Email sounds promising.

So here's an update... we're chatting online now. :-) Also said that he wants to visit again.