Been seeing taurus male for 1.5 months but he still seems to be "playing the field"

Hi all,

He is a Taurus Sun with crab moon (which I would generally stereotype to be quite faithful and not players as both very homely signs)... I am a Taurus female with aqua moon..

We met online about 1.5 months ago and he was quick to set up a date to meet, told me he'd been single for 6 months or so and had only slept with 3 people in the past.. so far so good.. he has taken me on a number of dates to cinema, shops, museums, to his hometown, pubs, etc.. for which he all kindly offered to pay for..+ flowers, choc etc. we got along fairly well, (kiss on second date by his initiation) and he always tells me he's had a good time with me and at the end of each date, he plans the next day we'd see each other..

BUT I feel things are not as "nice" as they seem as

1) He rarely texts in the days between where we don't see each other (maybe only 3 or 4 texts throughout the day) but last 2 days nothing (normally he's never really on messenger app - generally only online when he texts me but he has been actively the last 2 days about every 5-10 mins or so throughout the entire day..

2) He told me on the very first date that he wouldn't refer to any girl as "girlfriend" for the first 3-4 months (and this also did not mean that we'd have some sort of "review progress" meeting at the 4 month mark lol).. he said this on his own initiation.. I did not ask or open discussion about the girlfriend title..

3) He's still active on the online app we met (although he tells me he's a "one woman man")

4) He recently added two single girls from his area on facebook - could be coincidence but I feel they're probably girls from that app.. one is a single mum in age 20s and the other just a 20s girl and for both, he's liked their pics (both most recent and some far back even though he only friended them recently.. AND he did the exact same thing to me when we first met on the app)..

5) He's usually a gent and hasn't pressurised the physical side of things but did invite me to come around to his place (when his family are away for the weekend) some point in next few weeks at our last date a week ago... which I'm sure is for "physical intimacy" to which I kinda agreed but he's not been putting much effort in initiating contact this week but still says we're sticking with meeting for the next date at the end of next week...

We are similar age (early 20s) but I'm confused about the mixed signals.. he plans ahead to what he'd get me for my birthday in May only 2 weeks ago even and asked if I wanted to accompany him on a work trip abroad etc. yet I feel he is playing the field still..

I know most of you will say we're not exclusive etc. so he has every right to but still he states he's a one woman man.. :/ I don't want to ask as it might come across needy which I am definitely not... just don't want to be messed around..

he's dating other people, you can't expect anything from him yet.

Just keep getting to know him without expectations and let things fall into place

I think he's being very clear actually

Posted by AngieLove
He rarely texts in the days between where we don't see each other (maybe only 3 or 4 texts throughout the day)

Wow in what world is 3-4 texts per day 'rarely texting'? You tripping.

Posted by AngieLove
He told me on the very first date that he wouldn't refer to any girl as "girlfriend" for the first 3-4 months (and this also did not mean that we'd have some sort of "review progress" meeting at the 4 month mark lol).. he said this on his own initiation.. I did not ask or open discussion about the girlfriend title..

Freak out at the 4 month mark if he doesn't commit. Until then don't sleep with him.

I think his approach to dating is exceptionally clear and well thought out. It suits him for what he wants to achieve.

It’s been six weeks. He’s set out his terms at the beginning. You accepted those terms. If you don’t like it or want to stop dating him then stop dating him.

The one thing I’ll pick out which I think is the most important is that it doesn’t sound like you’re dating others.

Why not?

Call me old fashioned, but i wouldn't be with a guy at all who sees other women at the same time...either give it a go with me or bugger off

I always make it clear at the beginning of seeing someone, if you want to see other people, go ahead, but not while you are seeing me....it always seemed to work

Boundaries and clarity

Important

Posted by AngieLove
Hi all,

He is a Taurus Sun with crab moon (which I would generally stereotype to be quite faithful and not players as both very homely signs)... I am a Taurus female with aqua moon..

We met online about 1.5 months ago and he was quick to set up a date to meet, told me he'd been single for 6 months or so and had only slept with 3 people in the past.. so far so good.. he has taken me on a number of dates to cinema, shops, museums, to his hometown, pubs, etc.. for which he all kindly offered to pay for..+ flowers, choc etc. we got along fairly well, (kiss on second date by his initiation) and he always tells me he's had a good time with me and at the end of each date, he plans the next day we'd see each other..

BUT I feel things are not as "nice" as they seem as

1) He rarely texts in the days between where we don't see each other (maybe only 3 or 4 texts throughout the day) but last 2 days nothing (normally he's never really on messenger app - generally only online when he texts me but he has been actively the last 2 days about every 5-10 mins or so throughout the entire day..

2) He told me on the very first date that he wouldn't refer to any girl as "girlfriend" for the first 3-4 months (and this also did not mean that we'd have some sort of "review progress" meeting at the 4 month mark lol).. he said this on his own initiation.. I did not ask or open discussion about the girlfriend title..

3) He's still active on the online app we met (although he tells me he's a "one woman man")

4) He recently added two single girls from his area on facebook - could be coincidence but I feel they're probably girls from that app.. one is a single mum in age 20s and the other just a 20s girl and for both, he's liked their pics (both most recent and some far back even though he only friended them recently.. AND he did the exact same thing to me when we first met on the app)..

5) He's usually a gent and hasn't pressurised the physical side of things but did invite me to come around to his place (when his family are away for the weekend) some point in next few weeks at our last date a week ago... which I'm sure is for "physical intimacy" to which I kinda agreed but he's not been putting much effort in initiating contact this week but still says we're sticking with meeting for the next date at the end of next week...

We are similar age (early 20s) but I'm confused about the mixed signals.. he plans ahead to what he'd get me for my birthday in May only 2 weeks ago even and asked if I wanted to accompany him on a work trip abroad etc. yet I feel he is playing the field still..

I know most of you will say we're not exclusive etc. so he has every right to but still he states he's a one woman man.. :/ I don't want to ask as it might come across needy which I am definitely not... just don't want to be messed around..

Taurus men tend to be very careful and don't tend to commit or let themselves become emotionally involved, and vulnerable until they are absolutely sure that your the girl for him. It does sound as though he's exploring his options. While he still contacting you he must feel your possibly worth the effort. From what I know of Taurus Men. They are one woman men. That being said it doesn't sound as though your his one and only as yet. I wouldn't get physical with him while he still feels the need to get to know these other girls.Have pride in yourself, Be honest why your not going to give it up, and as to your concerns (although they may just be old school friends, perhaps ask him, calmly, not in an accusing way, he's defense's will go up). How do u actually feel about this guy? If you have strong feelings and high hopes for this relationship, Tell him so, Tell him u don't want him meeting other women as potential partners. He,s not the only one that is entitled to lay down ground rules, surely you have expectations of what u want. Taurus men need honesty, so be honest, speak from the heart, express your concerns and how they make you feel. That is what he's wanting from you, he can't read your mind, he doesn't know if ur serious, or just playing with his heart. Unless u don't mind sharing. If you don't mind, your not the girl for him. I couldnt have handled that with my Taurus Man. From our first date I wanted to be everything he could ever want in a woman, and I couldn't keep away. And I told him so within couple of days. We,re coming up to 10 years in a month. Love my Sexy Bull.

P.s.. Stop cyber stalking, that's paranoid n obsessive, talk to him, Set standards for your treatment. N 3-4msgs is plenty, don't be so needy, he is a bloke after all, if you feel he's your man trust in that, and tell him how special he is.