Its Christmas -I didnt wish him a merry christmas.

I feel sad... the way thigns are with my taurus.

I didnt wish him a merry christmas today.. long story short...

we brok eup in october.. then I went back to him and wanted to work thigns out, at first he wanted it too but then.. he didnt put effort in.. he kept bringing up past and how all was my fault,, all the faults he had he admitted but now he went back and blamed it all on me.. kept doing it whilst I wanted to work things out... I gave up and sent him a last text saying.. that maybe its best to let it be and i can udnerstand if people dont feel the same anymore. I gave up wishing him well and all the love.. i told him despite all i will always rememebr the good times and I understand the bad it was just the way it was.
no reply.

so today I felt why should i wish him merry chrissy when he cant even reply, and also wen my friend past away he never msgd me, he said we were broken up and so.. thats why, which i still feel is wrong because no matter wat its hard times so anyway... I am not like that so i feel sad that i ddint msg him a happy christmas even tho we are not tghtr. but in a way i feel why should i keep being nice now.

am i right or should i have considering the situation.

maybe he needs to realize i had enough and i wont always be the one thats doing the right thing.

what do you think?

Depends what you want or what you're hoping to achieve from it all?

I want us back but not if I have to become a doormat and be taken for granted,, and i feel thats how it became....

i feel he dont care to loose my why should I worry then

There's your answer then! He's unlikely to grasp the concept of compromise etc so if you did get back together it is likely to repeat the same patterns from both of you.

It's not been that long since Oct so things are still going to be a bit raw. I'd just leave it alone for now. Wishing him Merry Xmas or not doing so really isn't the issue here.

Time is on your side..

yes, time is on my side.. new years is comin u.. my birthday is comin in jan... i feel if there is nothing by then... then... i will know... i want a good man and i want a family i will be 35 in jan... i wish for love that is real and a family... I am ready to meet it and I am ready to work on it but not if i am taken for granted... it takes 2 to make it.. he acts like i need to put effort and not him.. he acts likea victim and i feel it just wont work like that.. so i feel thats why i gave up...

i want someone that loves me and wants good for me and feels sad if they hurt me or dont want to see me hurt... unlike him.. even when i cry he made it like nothing.. made feel small... he just has no more feeling yet he wont admit it.. which i dont get... he kept me hangin till i almost lost myself.. lucky i wok up.. but as like today i sometimes feel maybe i am worng etc.. and i doubt myself... but then i realize he never msgd me in times where he should have.. so why should i now.. even if its chrismas... like he said we werent tghtr.. well we are not tghtr now either .. right.

He doesn't sound like what you're looking for or what you want so be free to find what you do want. I'm 35 too and know where you're coming from. Spending time on or with people who just don't match with you is a waste of time. Perhaps that is just the way he is, nothing wrong with that but if it doesn't match with you then there is something wrong. Just leave the situation as it is. There's nothing to gain from pursuing or prodding for reactions especially reactions that serve no purpose.

its clear from his lack of communication hes not stressing about whether to wish you a merry xmas so why are you stressed about it?

Posted by CocoKat
its clear from his lack of communication hes not stressing about whether to wish you a merry xmas so why are you stressed about it?

Ftw.

Where's coco kat?

I see Christmas as an opportunity to mend what's broken. It only makes you feel worse when you're holding pain inside of you at this time of year. Be nice to everyone, including him. Some of it may come back to you. Just IMHO.

Let it go, let it go.

Come to confirm that this Taurus posts when made. ANDS had a different name but I forgot what it was.

I wonder what happened with op. This thread is from a few years ago.