I've upset my Taurus man and he's ignoring me (Page 2)

Ugh I hate when I have typoes. Lol

Posted by Magenta_Azure


im not defensive at all.

LOL, if you really think that then you have very little understanding of your self. I'm a person who actually LOVES disagreement. I love to argue with people, annoyingly so, as you can see. LOL. So I'm the last person who would be trying to stop you from sharing your opinion. You set em up, I knock em down! LOL. But you reacted very defensively to that, feeling the need to assert your freedom, your right to disagree, accusing me of policing you, etc. Accusing *me* of hating when people disagree with me, etc. etc. So much irony in this thread...Anyway, you're a fighter and this will never end so I have to be out. Time to go nap.

Oh also Magenta, you probably hate me too much to answer, but I'm wondering where is your Mercury? Mine is in Aries so partly explains why I enjoy being so argumentative.

Posted by imss1

When I came home last week, I messaged him to say I was back and he seemed a little bit cold, but said work was really busy for him and asked when he was going to see me. We then didn't speak for a couple of days, which is really unusual for us. We made plans for Thursday night, which he then cancelled because he said he got stuck at work. This turned into a fight because I didn't believe him as he made no attempt to reschedule and is now ignoring my texts.

Oh,
And to make the assumption that he's being cold because you didn't return his calls would be presumptious and arrogant.

A more accurate case would be seeing right through your deliberate intentions and being turned off by your juvenile behavior.

Look I am a Taurus female and one thing I asked is when I am busy, let me take care of it by myself and when I am ready I will come to you. If you don't have the patience, tolerance, and/or freedom to let me do this I will ignore you for along time. And then I will pop up again to see if you have changed or not. If you are the same, I will leave again. If you are different I will continue talking to you on a daily basis. Now if I am not busy and just sitting on my lazy ass please call me, text me, come over, and let's hang out. If you send a text 100% I'll will read it and then I won't reply because I get so caught up in the moment and thinking alot about what I need to do or want in life. I have lost friends over this. I am truly sorry.

Oh I have Mercury and Mars in Taurus and don't start tripping. I have my own shit to trip on without you nagging or complaining. Remember Taurus wants to build a stable life and we work hard for it. Not unsteady..

I will even blow up without realizing it, but that only happens when it's consistent. I just keep my mouth shut 95% of the time to avoid hurt feelings or fighting.. Then I will cool down and then maybe we will talk it out. It depends on the shit I want to deal with at the time. Since I am a fixed Taurus with a fixed Aquarius moon sign. A. It's hard to let go of someone. B. I will take alot of crap before I just can't take it no more. C. I give ample chances.

You have to make it up to me somehow because I don't like stressing and if I do... I do a thing called snowballing. If it gets out of control.. I will ponder what it is I want. Once I make my mind it's over. Given the circumstances I always forgive and forget..I will come back and forget what we were fighting over or whatever.

Do me a favor don't be dependent on a Taurus. I will be there for you solid as a rock. Do not get butt hurt if we just worked alot of overtime or extra shift and do not want to see you. Most likely on my off day I will spend time with you. There is so much I am replying to you about. Take a deep breath and apologize and next time you see him cook for him, and give him a sexy strip tease show in his favorite colored lingerie set..lol

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by Magenta_Azure

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Posted by Magenta_Azure
but if pulling conclusions out of your ass helps you rationalize my opinion, by all means continue.

You're projecting again. You claim that "she reached out to him and made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship." This clearly came straLIU Pight from in between your ass cheeks. You are so heavily biased that you are filling in the blanks of the story with imaginary dialogue that puts her in a better light. Where did you get this shit from if not your ass?!!

3RD paragraph 1st sentence. Reading is fundamental 🙂

Oh, Lordy! That sentence reads "When I came home last week, I messaged him to say I was back and he seemed a little bit cold, but said work was really busy for him and asked when he was going to see me."

HOW IN THE WORLD DO YOU GET THAT SHE "made it clear that she still cared for him and was fully invested in their relationship" from THAT SENTENCE—? She merely CONTACTED HIM and said she was back!!!! There isn't a hint of anything about HER CLARIFYING HERH FEELINGS OR BEING FULLY INVESTED in their relationship! Do you really think you can slip out of that? LOL!

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Sorry to interrupt guys, but it IS correct that I reached out to say I couldn't wait to see him, that I had missed him and that I had loads to tell him. He is the one who has been distant in spite of this.

Posted by imss1

Sorry to interrupt guys, but it IS correct that I reached out to say I couldn't wait to see him, that I had missed him and that I had loads to tell him. He is the one who has been distant in spite of this.

Problem though is - did you reconcile with him? What I'm not hearing is that you apologized and explained yourself thoroughly. THAT would be "clarifying". THAT would be a step towards showing you are actually invested in the relationship, as Magenta assumed. When you took off for 3 weeks, no contact, I'm sure, assuming he is not THAT busy, and had some actual time to really ponder everything - then at first he probably felt hurt, distrustful, suspicious, all that. But I'm sure by the end of it, he felt blatantly disregarded, disrespected, and naturally a little angry. That gamut of extreme negative emotions could've all been avoided if you'd just made a minimal effort to at least keep contact. Coming back and saying "I miss you"? That doesn't do it. Of course you miss him, you're not off having fun forgetting about him now. Do you really thin saying you have loads to tell him, unless it is a story about how you lost your phone, or got kidnapped or something - is going to be anything he wants to hear about?

Your initial actions, and failure to see the DEEP need for *thorough* reconciliation with a partner, after such a breach, speak to me of someone who is just out of touch with how other's feel. You acted oblivious and you seem oblivious. With a Taurus who is protective and possessive by nature, those 3 weeks could have been torture for him. Its important to be good at apologizing in any relationship, but that requires empathy. A person who has been hurt needs to know you really UNDERSTAND how they felt, and what you did, not just "I'm back and I miss you now, and I want things like they were again!". This is a big mess up, and early on. Do you see yourself as someone who maybe has a difficult time apologizing, empathizing, etc.?

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by imss1

Sorry to interrupt guys, but it IS correct that I reached out to say I couldn't wait to see him, that I had missed him and that I had loads to tell him. He is the one who has been distant in spite of this.

Problem though is - did you reconcile with him? What I'm not hearing is that you apologized and explained yourself thoroughly. THAT would be "clarifying". THAT would be a step towards showing you are actually invested in the relationship, as Magenta assumed. When you took off for 3 weeks, no contact, I'm sure, assuming he is not THAT busy, and had some actual time to really ponder everything - then at first he probably felt hurt, distrustful, suspicious, all that. But I'm sure by the end of it, he felt blatantly disregarded, disrespected, and naturally a little angry. That gamut of extreme negative emotions could've all been avoided if you'd just made a minimal effort to at least keep contact. Coming back and saying "I miss you"? That doesn't do it. Of course you miss him, you're not off having fun forgetting about him now. Do you really thin saying you have loads to tell him, unless it is a story about how you lost your phone, or got kidnapped or something - is going to be anything he wants to hear about?

Your initial actions, and failure to see the DEEP need for *thorough* reconciliation with a partner, after such a breach, speak to me of someone who is just out of touch with how other's feel. You acted oblivious and you seem oblivious. With a Taurus who is protective and possessive by nature, those 3 weeks could have been torture for him. Its important to be good at apologizing in any relationship, but that requires empathy. A person who has been hurt needs to know you really UNDERSTAND how they felt, and what you did, not just "I'm back and I miss you now, and I want things like they were again!". This is a big mess up, and early on. Do you see yourself as someone who maybe has a difficult time apologizing, empathizing, etc.?

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I should clarify that while I mistakenly put 3 weeks in my original post, that was the total time I was away for. I was initially in touch with him while I was away and then left the country for the next leg of my journey (into a country in Asia which doesn't have constant electricity). This wa

I should clarify that while I mistakenly put 3 weeks in my original post, that was the total time I was away for. I was initially in touch with him while I was away and then left the country for the next leg of my journey (into a country in Asia which doesn't have constant electricity). This was for about 11 days. During this time we weren't in contact. He knows which country I was in and that I also didn't have a phone while I was there. I messaged him as soon as I got wifi at the more developed country's airport. So this isn't as bad as initially made out.

The story has no completely changed. You originally wrote: "I didn't get in touch with my guy for a few weeks, and didn't reply to his attempts to contact me until later."

3 weeks of ignoring his attempts to contact because you were busying having fun, has now turned to you only falling out of contact for 11 days because you had no phone, and he understood this. In one version, you're intentionally inconsiderate. In the new version, you're not at fault at all.

I see why you two have communication problems.

Good luck.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
The story has no completely changed. You originally wrote: "I didn't get in touch with my guy for a few weeks, and didn't reply to his attempts to contact me until later."

3 weeks of ignoring his attempts to contact because you were busying having fun, has now turned to you only falling out of contact for 11 days because you had no phone, and he understood this. In one version, you're intentionally inconsiderate. In the new version, you're not at fault at all.

I see why you two have communication problems.

Good luck.

Bwhahaha. Truth.

TLS makes a lot of sense.

I feel bad for your guy.

hahaha. yes tls is right and reveal the taurus *stubborness*

tls, I am back now. I miss you... hahaha - joke.

Does Taurus ever punish their partner for hurting them? Mine has started talking to me again, has told me he misses me and asked when he's going to see me. Except now he's being incredibly difficult to actually make plans with and I feel like he's making me feel unimportant because I made him feel that way