Just thinking ... maybe a little too much lol

Taurus sun Virgo ascendant Venus Taurus

So , my whole life I preach about not being a "WEAK" woman . But it finally hit me today that maybe I am Weak ... as soon a guy makes me mad I'm willing to shut the door for good and not look back ..out of fear of even getting close to someone .... it just so much easier not to love and not to care knowing I want those things ... so does that make me weak because I'm incapable of staying around to genuinely get to know someone when things get tough ?

I have a huge problem with showing vulnerability ... I just see other people's situation and see other people's pain and it just scares me to be that person

No. There is nothing wrong with you. Be strong until you find someone who values your strength so much that he's willing to be patient and give you time to feel safe with him. He will always treat you kindly and care for you. He will see the queen in you and your strength won't be harsh to him, it will make you the perfect teammate to him. Be vulnerable with THAT man.

Fear of vulnerability isn't a weakness, it's only detrimental when the guards are being held up for the right individual.

It takes patience, conviction and dedication to fight the 'good fight.'

If we want someone for the long haul, we have to put in the same time, work, and effort as the other individual. We can't ask the universe for certain traits in prospective partners, that we, ourselves are lacking in reciprocation.

I read Capriunicorn's post (sorry Cappy, I didn't mean to 'out' you), and I am highly disappointed in other Bulls sometimes (not all the time, but sometimes).

The dilemma: Shutting the right people out.

Being upset isn't a bad thing, We're Bulls! We're upset. We charge. It's in us.

But we also possess the gift of practicality, serenity, and understanding.

If he's worth it, check the temper, rationalize your feelings, and then communicate that to him.

It takes someone who's so damn special to break down our walls. Life experience taught us to keep those walls as high as possible to prevent us from feeling broken and so forth. And sometimes, when we finally do allow someone in, not only does our walls collapse, but we become vulnerable and that alone is a major risk. When we get played, we will tend to shut out any potential person just because we would rather be alone than to be "lied" to again. Not saying all Tauruses are like this but most will be and there's nothing wrong with that. We are not obligated to allow everyone in. We have a right to pick and choose who we allow into our lives.

However, we will meet someone again who could possibly show us that it is ok to be vulnerable again, and that person will be patient enough to be by your side and make you feel stability and love again. Took me a while to allow someone in my life again. Yeah I've dated around as you may have noticed in my past threads but that's just dating around for a year and a half, never taken off the market till recent. And I let him know from time to time that I'm not the best at expressing myself or trusting people or even being vulnerable, and he understands that and is patient AF.

So point blank, ain't NOTHING wrong with you. Once you find the right person, you'll slowly see yourself opening up more and it'll be great 🙂

thanks ! For all the opinions ... I don't really talk to my friends about my life so I honestly have to come on here

What you described isn't being weak, it's being smart.

You will know when to stick around and when not to.