just wondering what's going through his head

i'm not worried because what we had was always pretty casual. just curious.

i've been seeing this taurus guy (not the aqua moon) since july. we were hanging out all the time. he used to text me at least once a day as just an excuse to keep in touch. we became FWB pretty quickly and it seemed to me that he was falling for me. even though he knew the terms, because i was very up front from the beginning, for a while there he was acting like we were a steady couple.

last month i had some friends stay over at my place and i left my myspace page open while i took a shower. one of them is a prankster and posted a bulletin that read,"help me out! i need to get laid!". i didn't know about it at all. the next night taurus and i hung out with my best friend. he was acting fine and we were all enjoying ourselves at karaoke and drinking. we got back to my best friend's place and taurus and i decided to sit on the patio while my best friend engaged in a video game. all of a sudden he calls me out on this. of course i was shocked cuz i hadn't checked my page yet and didn't know. i told him the possible scenario and who i thought it might be but he seemed to be pretty upset. when we went back inside i couldn't even look at him. i didn't like that he asked me at my best friend's place and it made me uncomfortable to know how upset he was since we weren't even together. if the roles were reversed i would have just thought it was funny.

ever since then it seems as though he has distanced himself. he stopped texting me. i text him every now and then and he rarely returns them. yet when we do get together he acts more loving towards me each time. we've been out only a couple of times since that night and both times he would touch me a lot and would kiss me on the cheek. he's very non-PDA so it's weird. he looks at me with more adoration each time i see him too. i guess i'm just confused. usually when someone distances themselves they pull away emotionally too. they get colder. i'm kinda wondering if he's respecting my wishes finally. i told him before that i really like my space and he wasn't obliging in the beginning. it just doesn't explain the no texting or return texts/calls. what does a taurus have to say about this?

He probably still likes you, so when he sees you he wants to be close to you, BUT, he is also (attempting) to respect your wishes and keep this as it is - an FWB arrangement.

From what you posted it seems as if the non aqua moon taurus guy may feel for you more than you intially intended. If I were in your situation, I would verify that the two of you are on the same pageas far as your nonrelationship relationship. It doesn't seem as if he has distanced from you at all. Seems as if he is drawing closer. I don't know if all other taureans are like this, but being physically there to talk beats texting/chatting/phone everytime. I hope you figure out your issue.


BTW: I think you really are worried.

TaurusGal: If that is what you think I hope you are correct.

Posted by BellaBulleautiful
Why do you give a shit? you are the one who set the rules and don't get why he'd be bothered right? so why do you care?

basically....

ha, no, i really am not worried. seriously just curious. he was acting one way one minute then not the other. just because i don't care doesn't mean i'm not curious. worrying entails that i fear the outcome and i don't. if he decided to say whatever we have is over, i'm completely ok with that. human behavior piques my curiosity in general.

i'd normally agree with u, bella, but we do make it more complicated when it's a FWB relationship. there is a muddling of boundaries. we are not just "a lay", we are also friends. the truth is that i honestly don't care if it all falls apart. it may be a difficult concept to digest for some ppl but it's part of my philosophy. as much as i may love or care for someone, i am ready to let them go if it is in their best interest. we are not to be owned, possessed, and held on to. i enjoy the moments we share now. i know him well enough by now that we will always be on friendly terms.

so there really is no game. i think i am misunderstood mostly. it happens.

u also have to bear with me. i'm new to this dating thing so i may ask a lot of rookie questions and am feeling my way through. it takes experience. i've had plenty of older ppl in my life tell me that FWB relationships are impossible cuz someone always ends up falling. of course, i have to learn the hard way! kids... what're u gonna do?

thx for the responses btw! much appreciated!