Met a taurus men, now he is not over his ex

HI,

I met a taurus guy in August, and I finally started to believe that there are also normal guys in this world.

I had 2-years relationship before him, just ended in May. My gemini ex was my first love, the first men I opened myself to...but it was all crazy, explosiv up and down thing (Im pisces, ascedent scorpio).

Anyways, I met this taurus guy and he made me feel so secure like I didnt feel ever before. He told me, he has broken up with his first girl after 3 years and they still best friends.
Now they are not in the same country and she came to visit. He was confused but after weekend they spent together, he said they are just friends and we continued to see each other.

One thing was clear to me, he doesnt open himself as he should but I ignored that because I wasnt sure about my own feelings too.

Finally, last week, he wasnt very close to me and I just asked him, whats going on. Obviously, he still feels something for her, and I understand that. But he wanted to move on (they broke up last Oktober), and being in touch with each other every week is not going to help it. he said he is afraid to get hurt and he should probably stay alone, cause he knows he didnt let me in. He said he knows we have a good thing together and it is hard to find somebody to trust. But he is probably not ready yet be there for somebody every minute- my question is, how can you open up for somebody, if you still didnt really close the old thing, I mean closed in your head...—

Anyways, he said he has definitely feelings for me.

I think he is a great guy and we are good together but I dont wanna wait again.

Could anybody help me?? Should I give him 2-3 weeks and if he is not clear just let it go— Thats what I think...


Please, maybe you Taurus outside have any suggestion, I feel like you guys are very carefull people, looking for security, am I right—


M

Hi
Ironically enough I am not a Taurus, but I have the same story you just mentioned with the Taurus man. I have been with him for 3 years and am trying to break up with him. I wonder what city you are coming from? Because the one I was/am with is still trying to get back with me. I really do think once they fall in love they stay there and have the hardest time getting over it (if they have to). I'm not sure if they are just too afraid to get out there and make changes (very hard for taurus) or if they just can't get over it. My guess would be a little of both and depending on the person and age, it does take them a very long time. I would suggest that you be honest and very gentle with him in regards to his space. Like the old saying goes, If you love someone set them free, and if they come back to you they are yours.
I've had many experiences with taurus men and women in my life and this is what I know of them. Good luck to you -I hope this helps.

P.S. very special, sensitive people they are - also have another side to them that can be very scary. (temper, dishonesty, don't mess with them if they get mad (bull).

Hi out there,

thank you very much but your responce scared me a little, hope you are not the ex!!!— Wow, that would be just crazy!!!! I have just one question, are you in europe?? Did you say you have the same story, does that mean, you came to visit your ex and spent some time with him—

Oh, well, you know my gemini ex just met somebody else, and it hurts, therefore I understand this new Taurus guy, its not easy to get over the first love,

me

Hi,

It's me again, no I'm not from Europe Phew (hee). It's just a very ironic thing I guess that is happening in a taurus's life. Amazing isn't it.

Carry on.

Me

I think I dont exactly understand, what is ironic— I didnt mean if you were born in Europe I ment if you are in E. right now...

Anyways, I think I like what you wrote about the taurus, and I think it perfectly fits this guy. Thats why I like him...

m

What I mean by it being ironic is the emotional state some of these taureans are in.....

Good luck to you, you might need it??

Thanx, maybe I need some luck but you know I really dont think I should waste my time with those things even if the guy is great...if he likes me, he can call me and give us a chance.

take care,

monika

Hi,
I'm a Tuarus man, nand it's true what the other reply said about us 'having trouble getting over' the last love. Very true. Takes a long time, and I know I don't want to let it go until I feel I almost hate the person, or their actions. It;s a terrible way to be! This man sounds like he might come around though, so go easy, and just make sure he tells you everything you need to know! Everyone has baggage of some sort, and ending a relationship is hell for most people, but more drawn out for we Taureans, sorry to say!

Thanks, you know at least all this teaches me to be patient and dont push, to give space and dont try to control things like I always do (have a scorpio ascendent...)
I talked to him this weekend and we will get together for a drink...we definitely should stay friends and I feel good about it...
I have to get over my first love too, I mean like really over without compare everybody new with my ex. Plus, me and the taurus guy are both very busy, so to be alone and concentrate on our projects is the best think right now thought...

Anyways, I dont know how to best handle it yet, as you said, i wanna him be honest with me, especially about his ex. I mean like be able to talk about things...Guess, its all takes time...

take care, M

PS: I am very tempered person and I also got a feeling he is little scared of it...do taurus men like girls like that, or better gentle, quiet ones—

Hi again,

I think Taureans do appreciate a woman who is strong, there is no doubt about that. But someone with temper tantrums could cause problems. Just from my experience - because I am very strong and independant (maybe too much). Also had two relationships with taurus men.

Good luck!!🙂)))))))))))))))))))))))))

Oh well, it doesnt sound good to me cause I am very strong and independent person, for most of the men, too much. But thats the way I am...
I just dont want him to be scared of me.


We are suppose to go for drink this week, so will see. I honestly am completely confused about the relationships in general.

Why didnt your taurus guys work out??
Were they similar?

M

Yes, I believe they were in some aspects, we are all very different people re: charts, etc. But they did have some resemblance. I am still seeing one taurus, but trying to end the relationship because I feel he has too much of a temper. Believe me when he gets mad no one can come near him. I believe it is important to let all aspects of our personalities out whether negative or positive, but this one is too strong (temper). He hasn't beaten me or anything but there is a limit to temper. On the other hand, where I did mention they were similar, was they can be the most giving people, materialistically or emotionally. A lot of passion when they love. I am a sign that is supposed to get along well with this one. There you go.

Be good!

And what sign are you — I dont think my taurus has a lot of temper, its me who is highly emotional and very tempered.
I met him this weekend, he visited me and it was nice. Just to be friends. He seemed to be little nervous and he wants to call me again this week to get together.

I am trying to be good!!!

I'm a Cancer.

Hi, I had been in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with a Taurean for 3 months and then we broke up because he said he needed some space. He is going through a divorce and has considered himself as being single, so that's why I decided to give it a try. He is a great guy and I still love him very much. I also knew I had to respect his wishes if I ever wanted to have a chance with him again. It's been 2 months since we broke up and we still see each other now and then. For a while it was really weird, but now we both have accepted it and think that when either of us is ready to settle down, we might hook up again. I just want to let you know it may be more than 2-3 weeks that you need to give him space. You need to get out and do what you want, get your life the way you want it, and make sure he is doing the same thing. Maybe once that is all out of the way, things could work out.
Best of luck,
CEB

Hi CEB,

thanks for your advice, I already understood its not a question of one or two weeks to get over your first love. I also have to get over my first boyfriend therefore it was the right thing to do, to stop seeing this taurus guy.

me

Be nice, but tell him you're looking for someone whose heart has healed.

OK. Time for a taurus guy's opinion.

Don't think too much about him being over his ex. What do his actions say? Is he pining away, talking about her, visiting her?

Where or with who does he spend most of his time?

As a taurus male, I am very cautious. I do not open up to people until I am absolutely sure I can trust them and then I occasionally hold back. Call it shy or what you will. If the guy is 'courting' you and wanting to spend time with you - he is interested in you. Over time, maybe a long time, he will open up and you'll know everything you want to know.

If you want to gain more of his trust, let him in on some of the control. Don't be too independent. It shows you might be too unpredictable and thats scary to a taurus, at least to me. He needs to feel like your equal in the relationship and he will start opening up - but it will be slowly.

Why would you want to know about the Taurus mans ex's anyways?
It has nothing to do with you, you are trying to start a new relationship.. finding out about his past love life isn't going to help you in anyway.. the only thing it may do is make you both live that life he lived with his ex.

Just be you, and love him with all you got. don't matter what happened in the past, thats none of your business.
Aquarius Female in love with Taurus man

hey somewicked taurus man. Tell me more! I want so much more.
I find that my taurus man is sooo quiet. but yet, giving, he comes up with surprizes when I least exspect them..and just floors me.

what makes you tick?
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